Heartbreak is a universal experience that can be destructive or healing, depending on how you approach it. Today on the Aligned Love Podcast, we are delving into how Lauren is navigating the end of her relationship, moving across the country, and grieving the life she imagined she’d have. In this episode, we are joined by Jess Bonini to help Lauren unpack the changes and transitions she has recently experienced. We discuss how human connection can help you move out of ‘freeze’ and ‘wallow’ mode when going through a breakup before Lauren tells us how her definition of an aligned relationship has changed since her breakup. Finally, we touch on the differences between growth and healing and why healing is a life-long process. You do not want to miss this incredibly enlightening episode so be sure to tune in now!

Key Points From This Episode:

• Welcoming Jess Bonini to discuss navigating heartbreak. 
• The intention for today: create a sense of curiosity about the growth cycles of relationships.
• Lauren’s huge life transition.
• The importance of being who you truly are and being accepted for that in relationships. 
• How Lauren is rebuilding her connection with herself.
• How her definition of an aligned relationship has changed since the end of her last one. 
• Why growth and healing are two different things. 

Quotes:

“Not all relationships are meant to last forever.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:04:02]

“If I get really honest with myself. Truly, deeply honest. I lost myself in this relationship.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:10:13]

“If you’re navigating heartbreak, you have to lean into your support system [and] you have to choose that you’re going to heal because in every relationship ending, there’s a part of you that needs support and love and healing.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:19:32]

“Human connection is why we’re all here!” — @LaurenZoeller [0:32:57]

“An aligned relationship to me is a relationship where – both partners are committed to healing.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:35:24]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Jess Bonini on Instagram

Lauren Zoeller

Lauren Zoeller on LinkedIn

Lauren Zoeller on Instagram

Lauren Zoeller on X

Lauren Zoeller on TikTok

Lauren Zoeller on Facebook

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The Aligned Love Podcast

Today on The Aligned Love Podcast, I had the pleasure of chatting with Mimi Bouchard, the brilliant mind behind the Superhuman App. We explore the art of balancing the many facets of life - work, love, and personal growth. Mimi generously shares her journey towards achieving harmony in these areas and introduces her unconventional approach to meditation, which she terms "activation". This unique practice offers the flexibility to enact positive shifts within ourselves, while aligning with what we deeply desire.

Key Points From the Episode:

• Mimi shares the journey and purpose behind her app, Superhuman
• How to balance feminine and masculine energy when performing at a high level
• The importance of communication in a relationship
• Mimi shares her unconventional way of visualization and meditation 

Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:

Mimi Bouchard
The MIMI Podcast
Superhuman App
Mimi Bouchard on IG

Lauren Zoeller
Lauren Zoeller on IG
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The Aligned Love Podcast

In today's episode, we delve into the world of fashion and confidence with our special guest, Jessica Papineau. Jessica is a renowned coach and stylist who helps women feel as good on the outside as they do on the inside to elevate their career, relationships and life.  Jessica shares her journey into the world of coaching and styling, driven by a desire to help women feel confident and empowered in their own skin.

We explore the powerful relationship between clothing choices and confidence, discussing how what we wear can impact our mood, self-perception, and interactions with others.

Listeners are treated to practical tips from Jessica on curating a wardrobe that reflects their true selves and boosts their confidence in any situation.

Key Points from the Episode:

• Jessica shares her intention with the lIsteners before diving into the episode.
• Jessica tells her story of how she got into fashion in an unconventional way that led her to her current career in coaching and styling women.
• We dive into how women can dress to show their own unique style and feel confident in every situation
• She also shares her best tips for throwing together a "last minute" outfit for date.

Links Mentions in Today's Episode:

Jessica Papineau

Jessica Papineau on Instagram

Lauren Zoeller

Lauren Zoeller on LinkedIn

Lauren Zoeller on Instagram

Lauren Zoeller on X

Lauren Zoeller on TikTok

Lauren Zoeller on Facebook

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The Aligned Love Podcast

One of the most difficult decisions to face when in a relationship is when to stay and when to walk away. Today on The Aligned Love Podcast, I welcome Emily Freeman, author of “How to Walk Into a Room” to dive deep into conversation around this very topic and so much more. Emily is a bestselling author and specializes in supporting anyone with decision fatigue. Tune in to hear Emily share her insights on learning to explore the narratives we construct about staying or leaving in relationships, reflecting on past goodbyes, and she also offers guidance on how to navigate the decision-making process when faced with the decision to stay or walk away. 

Key Points From This Episode:

• Building courage in the face of decision fatigue
• Discerning truth from discomfort 
• Overcoming anticipated regret 
• Decoding our stay or leave narratives 
• Navigating life’s crossroads with confidence
• Simple steps to overcome decision fatigue 

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Emily P. Freeman

Emily P. Freeman on Instagram

How to Walk Into a Room

Lauren Zoeller

Lauren Zoeller on LinkedIn

Lauren Zoeller on Instagram

Lauren Zoeller on X

Lauren Zoeller on TikTok

Lauren Zoeller on Facebook

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The Aligned Love Podcast

Once you have done the deep trauma work required to help you shift from a place of protection to a place of connection, there is another step that you can take to catapult you into a magnetic life. Today on The Aligned Love Podcast, we are delving into how a state of activation can help call you into a magnetic life. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about the recent event called ‘The Shift’, why your divine feminine or divine masculine is already a part of you, the importance of having a resilient nervous system, and more. We even discuss why you truly can ‘have it all’. Finally, we share a little bit about the new Aligned Expansion program and how you can apply the tools you will learn there to create the magnetic life you want. Thanks for listening in!

Key Points From This Episode:

• All about the recent ‘The SHIFT’ somatic immersion event. 
• How deep trauma work can help you shift from protection to connection in relationships. 
• Why your divinity is already inside of and a part of you. 
• The next step past trauma work that will catapult you into a magnetic life: activation. 
• The importance of creating a resilient nervous system and how to do that. 
• Why you really do get to ‘have it all’ and define what your ‘all’ is. 
• The Aligned Expansion Program and how it will help you create a magnetic life. 

Quotes:

“When you are born into this world, you are, in a sense, connected to your deepest divinity. – And over time, – we start to pull away from that deep divinity.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:08:22]

“Your divine feminine or your divine masculine is already inside of you. You were born into it.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:09:37]

“You have to be able to feel and build resilience in your nervous system and be okay [with] feeling uncomfortable.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:14:04]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

The SHIFT

Apply to Join The Aligned Expansion Program

Lauren Zoeller

Lauren Zoeller on LinkedIn

Lauren Zoeller on Instagram

Lauren Zoeller on X

Lauren Zoeller on TikTok

Lauren Zoeller on Facebook

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The Aligned Love Podcast

Lilly Rachels specializes in helping men build strong relationships through effective communication. She joins us to share insights from her training, client work, and personal relationships empowering listeners with key skills to resolve conflict, listen with intention, and deeply connect. Tune in to hear Lilly’s insights on what it means to be in an aligned relationship, how to use a feedback loop to engage in arguments, and what to avoid to keep healthy communication alive. We delve into the importance of understanding what is behind your communication style, and how to apply mindful communication to the dating world. Our hope for this episode is that you leave with more curiosity about yourself, your partner, and the potential connections that await in the dating pool. Thanks for tuning in! 

Key Points From This Episode:

• Introducing Lilly Rachels and her journey from personal trainer to psychotherapist to coach. 
• Lilly sets the intention for this episode of the podcast: that listeners leave with more curiosity.
• Her journey to exploring the mind body connection and psychotherapy.
• Why effective communication is so crucial to navigating the dating world.
• How Lilly and her partner approach communication and conflict.
• The importance of understanding why you communicate the way that you do. 
• How to use a feedback loop to engage in disagreements.
• Two things that are going to kill your communication. 
• Differentiating between verbal and non-verbal communication and how to capitalize on both.
• How to listen while you are dating.
• What it means to Lilly to be in an aligned relationship.

Quotes:

“If you learn how to communicate properly, even ruptures in partnership, or in friendships, bring you closer together.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:11:33]

“A lot of people think that they know how to communicate, but they don’t know how to listen.” — @LillyRachels [0:13:58]

“Assumptions and misunderstandings; those are the two things that are going to kill your communication.” — @LillyRachels [0:20:58]

“People tell you who they are if you listen to them.” — @LillyRachels [0:31:28]

“Truly, that’s the bread and butter when it comes to being in partnership; [being with someone who] you can be yourself with and not feel like you have to hide.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:39:19]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Lilly Rachels
Lilly Rachels on TikTok
Lilly Rachels on Instagram
Lilly Rachels on LinkedIn
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Lauren Zoeller
Lauren Zoeller on Instagram
Lauren Zoeller on TikTok
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The Aligned Love Podcast

Today on The Aligned Love Podcast, we are breaking down micro-cheating and emotional unavailability. You’ll hear all about what micro-cheating is, how it differs from blatant cheating, some indications and examples, and why it is an indication of emotional unavailability. We delve into where emotional unavailability stems from before we discuss what you can do if your partner is engaging in micro-cheating or if you are the one doing it. Lastly, we'll guide you through an exercise aimed at illuminating the reasons behind either accepting unacceptable behavior in relationships or engaging in such behavior yourself. 

Key Points From This Episode:

• Why we are diving deep into micro-cheating. 
• What micro-cheating is and some examples and indications of it.
• The difference between micro-cheating and blatant cheating. 
• Why micro-cheating is an indication of emotional unavailability. 
• Where emotional unavailability stems from. 
• The importance of taking time to figure out where you are emotionally unavailable. 
• A comparison between micro-cheating and addiction. 
• Questions to help you understand why you accept bad behavior in partnership/do it yourself. 

Quotes:

“When it comes to micro-cheating, we’re not talking about the blatant cheating tactics, actions, or behaviors that someone would execute when we think of normal cheating. We’re talking about those tiny little micro-actions that start to add up.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:07:19]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Lauren Zoeller

Lauren Zoeller on Instagram

Lauren Zoeller on TikTok

Lauren Zoeller on Facebook

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The Aligned Love Podcast

Today on the Aligned Love Podcast, we have the incredible somatic healing expert and yoga instructor, Veronica Rottman, here to discuss how we can nurture our feminine essence to create profound connections. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about how Veronica’s family inspired her to get into her line of work, why, as a woman in particular, you need to understand your body, and how Veronica helps her clients connect to their feminine essence.

We then delve into how menstrual cycles are a roadmap to understanding the female body before we discuss why you need to be aware of your own, especially when dating. So many women have been forced to be more ‘in the masculine’ when needing to be providers for themselves and even for children, and in this episode, our guest tells us how we can embody our feminine sides when in this position. 

Finally, Veronica tells us what her definition of aligned love is and why it has so much to do with rhythm. Thank you for tuning in and learning more about connecting to your feminine essence! Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast so we can reach more listeners. 

Key Points From This Episode:

• The importance of understanding the language of your body, specifically as a female.
• How to connect to yourself as women.
• The power of using your menstrual cycle when dating.
• How to use your menstrual cycle to step fully into your feminine power.
• How to continue to embody the feminine while having to be in your masculine as a provider.
• Why rhythm in relationships is Veronica’s definition of aligned love.
• What’s next for Veronica and where listeners can learn more about her work. 

Quotes:

“When you come back into your body you get to heal the parts of you that were fragmented as a woman because you were forced to pretend that you were in a completely different nervous system [and body] than you actually are.” — Veronica [0:08:01]

“Our whole community thrives when we honor each other’s [menstrual] cycles.” — Veronica  [0:16:47]

“Trauma makes you have to try harder even when you’re doing simple tasks.” — Veronica  [0:29:26]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Veronica Rottman on Instagram

Waking Womb

Watch The “Find Your Soulmate” Mini Training

Lauren Zoeller

Lauren Zoeller on LinkedIn

Lauren Zoeller on Instagram

Lauren Zoeller on Facebook

The Aligned Love Podcast

Take a seat for a genuinely insightful episode of The Aligned Love Podcast, where your host Lauren Zoeller does a tell-all; answering your burning questions! We are going to be diving deep, discussing topics such as the divine feminine, learn how to get over someone who isn’t interested in dating you and discovering ways to truly get your partner to step into his masculine while you embrace your divine feminine. Lauren leaves no question unanswered, covering all bases! Don’t miss next week’s episode with a very special guest, so make sure to stay tuned. 

Key Points From This Episode:

• How do you get over someone who doesn’t want to date you? Or, how do you stop having feelings for someone who continues to hurt you, over and over again?
• The importance of healing your nervous system.
• Letting go of resentment and anger toward an ex when co-parenting is on the table.
• We delve into the concept that emotions have attached energetic, vibrational frequencies. 
• Her top three heartache (and heartbreak) tips.
• How do you know if returning to an ex is a good or bad thing?
• Examples of what it feels like to be connected to your divine feminine.
• How do you know the difference between mothering a significant other versus being a lover?
• How to handle stepping into your feminine with a man who isn’t very masculine.

Quotes:

“Until you do the work, to heal the parts of you that need someone else to validate your existence, validate your worth, make you feel loved, and like you belong and that you are worthy of receiving love. Until you heal those parts of yourself you will continue to struggle with thinking and ruminating about someone who doesn’t want to date you and you will continue to stay in partnerships that are not truly, deeply, what you desire because your nervous system is so condition to need that hit of external validation.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:02:35]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Arja Hendrikx

Sexual Archetype Quiz

Dr. Bruce Lipton on Instagram

Dr. Bruce Lipton on X

Bruce Lipton, Ph.D.

Dr. Joe Dispenza on Instagram

Dr. Joe Dispenza on X

Dr. Joe Dispenza 

Lauren Zoeller

Lauren Zoeller on LinkedIn

Lauren Zoeller on Instagram

Lauren Zoeller on X

Lauren Zoeller on TikTok

Lauren Zoeller on Facebook

The Aligned Attraction Framework: How to Find Your Soulmate Without Sacrificing Your Career or Spending Time on Data Apps

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The Aligned Love Podcast

Nurturing platonic love is often overlooked and seen as less important than romantic partnerships. Today on the Aligned Love Podcast, Lauren’s best friend, Christin joins her to discuss cultivating female friendships in your 30s and beyond. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about the ups and downs of Lauren and Christin’s friendship, their relationships with each other’s partners, why they had to fight for their friendship, and more. We delve into how to navigate introducing partners into friendships before discussing disagreements in friendships. Lauren and Christin go on to share the importance of healthy boundaries, community and nurturing all relationships, and being in (platonic) love with each other. Finally, our guest tells us what aligned love means to her and reminds us to lead with love in everything we do. The bottom line of today’s episode is that we need aligned love in friendship too. So if you want to hear all about this beautiful platonic relationship and how to cultivate your own, press play now! 

Key Points From This Episode:

• The importance of fighting for platonic relationships. 
• Why we need aligned love in friendships  as well. 
• The dangers of jealousy when a friend finds romantic love. 
• The difficulties of how to navigate introducing partners into friendships.
• Our relationships with each other’s partners. 
• Finding the balance between advising friends against bad decisions and having boundaries. 
• How to handle disagreements in relationships. 
• What we have learned from our relationship with each other. 
• Being in love with platonic friends and what we can learn from polyamory. 
• The importance of community, nurturing all relationships, and leading with love. 
• Christin tells us why aligned love is safety for her. 

Quotes:

“A romantic relationship is not designed to meet all of our needs and the amount of intimacy and support and connection a person requires to be healthy and vibrant and fully expressed – is a group effort.” — @matchasnob [0:11:28]

“A lesson I’ve been learning is how – [to] continue really loving someone and not withdrawing from someone because our beliefs aren’t the same.” — @matchasnob [0:37:08]

“We don’t honor [friendship] the same way that we do partnership but [it] is a partnership!” — @matchasnob [0:48:07]

“Alignment and safety go hand-in-hand for me. Typically, the feeling of misalignment is the same feeling of threat or discomfort or disease or things that indicate to you that you don’t feel completely safe.” — @matchasnob [0:54:39]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Christin Henke

Christin Henke on X

Christin Henke on Instagram

Lauren Zoeller

Lauren Zoeller on LinkedIn

Lauren Zoeller on Instagram

Lauren Zoeller on X

Lauren Zoeller on TikTok

Lauren Zoeller on Facebook

The Aligned Love Collective

The Aligned Love Podcast