The level of wisdom shared in this episode may have never been reached on this show and this will be difficult to ever be out-smarted.  Rockford Wright, MD returns to the show to continue the discussion on discernment.

He shares some extremely valuable insights about how a man can make more sense of the ordinary struggles in life through healthy expectations, rational interpretations of triggering stressors, how empathy can shape our judgments, and why listening should be focused on learning and understanding what is being shared.  Dr. Wright teaches about habits and understanding what drives behavior, which realizations will help us be certain all of the elements are in place before we attempt to influence change with others or ourselves.

Profoundly helpful and very useful information in this episode.  Be sure to check out episode 87 which is part one of this two-episode series.

This one's a stunner of a show.  Rockford "Rocky" Wright, MD, joins Brad and Mike Olsen in a stellar conversation on discernment.  Rocky's contribution to this topic is loaded with genius illustrations and stories that make some profoundly deep concepts about discernment easy to understand.  Guaranteed this is an enlightening and edifying experience as he explains the survival benefit of biases and the protective factors associated with judgment.  He details some personal experiences where he learned to see things he had previously not understood in a new way and teaches in PURE ALPHA STYLE what it means to be a fair judge of self and others as a man of discernment.  This is Part I of a 2-part series on this topic.  Check this one out and stay tuned for an even better second half next week. 🔺

Our guest today has been a counselor in a correctional facility for 21 years.  Several years before he started, he was an inmate there, serving 14 months for violent crimes as a juvenile. He paid off $33,000 in restitution by working in the kitchen. He didn't meet his biological father until he was 15.  Three weeks later, his stepfather died by suicide. This led him to years of anger and violence. Once he was locked up, he learned how to deal with his emotions from men he didn't want to disappoint.  He read spiritual texts, competed in sports, and learned to meditate.  He was the first inmate in this prison to later return and work there, continuing the influence he was shown decades before. He is now very close with his father. He and his wife have a blended family of 8 children and he enjoys weightlifting, mixed martial arts and was recently in an episode of the hit show, Yellowstone.

This episode is special.  With our most distinguished guest ever on this podcast, Brad Singletary and Jimmy Durbin interview a man with high distinction, retired Coast Guard Rear Admiral Stephen Mehling.  Our topic is discipline and Admiral Mehling presents some surprising elements of discipline that most men surely never consider.  His military experience spans nearly 40 years which included worldwide impact as evidenced by a chest full of medals awarded for exceptional leadership in extremely high-level roles. He shares some exciting stories of both courage and compassion from profound experiences beginning in 1976 at the United States Coast Guard Academy. Admiral Mehling teaches in pure Alpha style: with both boldness and gentleness, with humor and high value, with both energy and reverence.  This is a remarkable conversation that all men should hear.   

.Part two of the discussion on Endurance.  Taco Mike, Jimmy Durbin, Mike Olsen, and Brad Singletary discuss the following from the RED9:

As always, the guys share very personal stories of darkness and then triumph and how their own maturing process shaped new perspectives about themselves and what is possible and what can be accepted about life's challenges.  Mike O. is confronted about why he can't ask for help even though he is always willing to help others.  This is an exceptional conversation with high-value content.  Share it with people you know. 

"This is a million-dollar conversation." - Taco Mike

Part one of a two-part series. Brad, Taco Mike, Jimmy Durbin, and Mike Olsen discuss one of the principles from the Red9, ENDURANCE. An alpha trains his mind to endure difficulty, he has written goals and adjusts when necessary. This show is improving and is probably our best episode ever.  

Gavin Hillman is a Doctor of Physical Therapy and has been actively engaged in structured and organized physical health for over 25 years. He continues to keep his physical health a priority and regularly takes part in running events, hikes, biking, and scheduled gym time for resistance training.

Tanner Smith is an emergency room Physician’s Assistant and worked the night of the Route91 mass shooting in Las Vegas on October 1, 2017.  He and his team treated 200 victims in two hours as a result of the shooting. He has qualified and completed the Boston Marathon 3 times and has a PR in the marathon running in 2 hours and 52 minutes. In his most recent Boston Marathon two months ago, a runner had a cardiac arrest and Tanner performed CPR saving her life, and still ran another 18 miles to finish with a time of 3:12. He enjoys promoting fitness and helping people stay active by coaching people looking to get into running and leading weekly group runs for Life Time Athletic Club.

In this episode we answer these questions: 

General health topics:

He burns premium fuel. Intentional about food and water.

He is igorously active to extend strength and stamina.

He judiciously uses supplements and medical treatments.

He gets proper rest.

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In some colorful and humorous yet insightful commentary, gangster BFF's Steve Edwards and Kevin O'Neil continue the discussion on the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover. They discuss the societal shifts that happened decades ago to create a generation of men with Nice Guy Syndrome. They outline ways to get away from these self-destructive behaviors which are deceptively (and sometimes unconsciously) cloaked in "nice" behavior which becomes super-unfulfilling forms of manipulation where everyone ends up miserable. They get a little rowdy with their riffing banter and ball-busting and demonstrate through their charming camaraderie what it looks like to have a stimulating friendship with a dude. **These are adult conversations meant for adults only.

TOPICS DISCUSSED:

1. Attributes of a Nice Guy

2. The Covert Contract

3. Relationship Issues

RECOMMENDED BOOKS:

The Way of Men by Jack Donovan

The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida

Sell Or Be Sold: How to Get Your Way in Business and in Life by Grant Cardone

The 10X Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure by Grant Cardone

The Obstacle Is the Way by Ryan Holiday

Own the Day, Own Your Life: Optimized Practices for Waking, Working, Learning, Eating, Training, Playing, Sleeping, and Sex by Aubrey Marcus

Can't Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds by David Goggins

Chicken Soup for the Soul by Jack Canfield

The Success Principles: How to Get from where You are to where You Want to be by Jack Canfield

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If you're like most dudes, no one taught you how to be a man. Instead, you've probably been taught pretty much the opposite. So many personal influences in our lives: our parents, our peers, and society has conditioned us to be obedient rather than strong. We've been taught to be a good boy, follow the rules, not be rude and these ideas have been forcibly injected in our heads since we were able to speak. The problem is it doesn't work and is hardly ever in our best interests. These messages manipulate us into being manageable and compliant, the standards of systems that are about control. Sometimes giving is not right. Sometimes sacrificing is wrong. Sometimes being nice damages us. Today we're going to discuss the book No more Mr. Nice guy by Robert Glover.

Questions answered on this episode:

1. What's wrong with being a nice guy?

2. What does it mean to be integrated?

3. What's the making of a Nice Guy?

4. How do you please the person who matters the most?

5. How do you prioritize your needs?

What ways we can do to be integrated?

Be honest about your feelings, your interactions.

Quit being afraid of new experiences or what's around you.

Learn to surrender what you can't change.

Do what you want to do.

Learn how to get help.

Recognize that people are human.

Stop trying to be perfect.

Stop seeking approval.

Take care of your own needs with integrity.

Stop building such huge walls and let people in.

Don't try to cover up or take attention away from your weaknesses. Don't be afraid of your shortcomings.

Be aware or cognizant of your childhood events and some of the conditions or influences that led you to where you're at today.

Set boundaries.

Be transparent about what you're feeling about things.

Spend more time with men.

Recognize that women, they reject nice guys.

Learn to be more passionate, more assertive, more responsible.

Recognize that you don't have to do everything right, or you're allowed to be flawed.

Don't let the fear of failure or the fear of success.

Go after the life you want, quit settling.

Make your own rules.

You’ve never seen a person of tremendous influence who didn’t have some sense of control over their energy. The most influential people in your life have carried themselves with unmistakable vitality and positivity. Those high-value qualities are generated in our minds and bodies. An ALPHA is a man of energy. If his mission is to have life, create life in himself and others, and preserve life, he must be focused on the needs of his body and use it as a machine that helps him deliver high-level power into his daily life and share contagious power with those in his influence. How a man manages the care of his physical machine is a predictor of his successes with everything and everyone with which he is involved.

Questions answered on this episode:

Thoughts to Ponder:

“There are two fundamental thoughts that just about everyone on the planet has, in fact, I'd say everybody on the planet has, so every listener here has these two thoughts. It's universal. The first one is I'm not enough. The second one is, if I'm not enough, I won't be loved.”

"Depression makes us shrink. Depression makes us want to be small and unseen. We try and slink into the background, whereas someone who's energetic and full of life, the alpha that you're talking about, he's out there. His chest is up. His chin is up. He's looking in at an elevated level. His eyes are up. He's feeling good about himself. He's walking on his toes. He's not dragging himself around."

"You and I have a choice, what are we going to do with our words? Are we going to use them in positive ways? Are we going to repair ourselves by asking better questions and by speaking in more positive ways? Or are we gonna do the reverse?"

- Joshua Roy

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