Today I am touching on a topic most people shy away from. If you have been following me since season 1, you know that I lost both my mother and father.

Both losses affected me in very different ways. This episode, I want to touch on the topic of losing someone again since I know many people continue to be wounded over such a tragedy.

Prophet Jo Naughton lives in London, England. She currently has her church and travels to speak at her events “Healed for Life” where she tells people the story of how she found healing after her 2-year-old daughter passed away and helps others find healing through the love of God.

After experiencing such an excruciating loss, Jo started to question God. She started to ask God why this happened to her. You may have similar questions too. I know for me, after my mother

passed away, I asked God why he didn’t tell me beforehand that such a thing would happen.

I asked Him why he allowed me to see other people’s futures yet was not able to see her passing coming. I asked so many questions and while I was saved and knew that God was good, I had pain.

I was saved but wounded. You can be both. For some of you, you can identify with such a feeling. But healing is not found in the answer to why.

The reality is God wants to supernaturally heal your heart. He can heal all your wounds and internal pain. You can be free from all pain and deal with your grief until it becomes a thing of your past. Jo and I go over the key steps that God took us through to ensure that we would have real freedom after losing those dearest to our hearts.

I pray that each step helps you to find peace, wholeness, and joy again. Not only will this give you victory but it will allow you to have a testimony that will impact everyone you come into contact with. Your victory will be a signal to anyone hurting from the loss of a loved one that they too, can have victory too.

Steps to Healing After Losing A Loved One

[18:15] Sometimes we ask God why. Why are tragic things happening to you? Questions like these bind you in confusion and despair. Who, what, where, when and why. These questions all mean ‘chaos’ in Hebrew. All the while you search for answers you remain in chaos. Let your questions go.

[20:02] Give up your right to an answer. Lay down your questioning so peace can enter in.

[22:00] Instead of saying God why me, tell him to use you. Pain conquered gives you the victory and authority over that pain so you can heal others. It goes beyond just you!

[23:20] Cry before the Lord. Allow yourself to hurt, cry, weep and shout. All that is inside of you must come out. This is different than a normal cry. This is crying that heals you.

[27:01] Allow God to heal you. The word says, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” This happens when we surrender. You have to let God heal you and disconnect from the pain which sometimes becomes a justification for so many things. Give your pain over to Him.

[33:16] Allow God to fill every void. ‘Shalom’ in Hebrew means “Nothing missing, nothing broken”. That is the peace of God. After losing someone, you miss them. This means you are reserving a place for that person instead of allowing God to be your all and all.

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If you don’t want to be in a cage you don’t have to be.

I realized this for myself not too long ago through a dream I kept on having repeatedly.

In this dream, I saw a woman in a cage. She was bound, she could not stand up straight and she looked weak. A man would open the door to the cage and tell me to get in. Usually, at this point, I would begin to hyperventilate and sweat until I eventually woke up.

This dream continuously haunted me until one night, I went to sleep and found myself in the dream again, except this time, when the man told me to get in the cage, I said within myself “This is only a dream, at any given moment I can decide to wake up and I am not going inside that cage.”

Dreams are like thoughts and imaginations sometimes in the sense that they are just illusions. Of course, this dream was not happening in my real life. However, it represented how I felt, which was stuck.

Take note, how I felt is separate from what is true. I may have felt stuck but that doesn’t mean that I was stuck.

Similarly, you may feel as though there is no way out of the life you were born into.

That is a lie!

Your dream life is more reachable than you know, it all depends on how you think. Your mindset is the difference between how you see yourself now, to what you can become.

If we shift how we think and change our perspective, then the reality of our life can change dramatically.

Some of you have been experiencing deep fear, stress, anxiety and other feelings that only keep you bound. It is the only feeling you have known for a very long time. If you are tired of this, the decision to be happy, have joy and experience freedom again is completely up to you.

The decision is yours! I remember looking at wealthy people on the street. They had cars that cost thousands of dollars and high-end clothes. I always wondered what made them so special that they were allowed to have such riches. Do you know what I found out?

Every successful person has a mindset of possibility and opportunities. They have no cap or boundary about where they can go in life! Most importantly, none of them have the mindset of a victim.

They do not feel defeated. They do not feel attacked. Rather, they continue to set higher goals for themselves. They knew they can go even farther in life.

No matter what your life looks like, you can choose a life of abundance, peace, and prosperity.

I hope that through this episode you will get your thoughts and mindset to say that you can do anything that you set your mind to.

Remember: The sky is not the limit. There are no limits over you.

How to decide to leave your old mindset!

[19:48] Envision your dream life. Go ahead and get as wild and detailed as your heart may take you. Know without a single doubt, that this life is possible for you!

[18:54] Conquer the thoughts that say you were born into lack. It all starts in your mind. You have to believe it within yourself and call out all the lies inside of your mind about your life.

[21:35] Make a choice, change your mind and work towards your dreams. Become the answer/solution to the very thing that has tried to take you down.

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As a Christian, have you ever felt ashamed for wanting to see a therapist?

 [16:06] There is a level of intimacy and vulnerability in the marriage. 

[17:15] Perfect love without judgment will emerge. Keep in mind that you can’t judge each other for the way of processing pain.

 [22:04] Things become healed when you allow it to come to the surface. You must have the courage to confront and the courage to push through. 

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"What's Your Why" is meant to be a thought provoking episode and a peek into the beginnings of my business. Be sure to sign up for my email club at AmandasClub.com to be the first to be invited to 2 speical events this year.

Starting something new in your life will always make you feel unsure and uncomfortable. And yet somehow, you know that you are being called to a new thing!

You know it deep inside of you, in the midst of fear and hesitation, it is an undeniable assurance that it is time to leave the old and move into the new.

Be the one who puts action to that feeling and runs with it! Maybe you feel to go after that master’s degree that no one else in your family has. Maybe you are the only one in your group of friends who feels to start their own business. Maybe you have already told your loved ones of your dreams and you are not getting the support and validation you seek.

Most pioneers don’t. Not everyone sees what you see for your future or feels what you do in your heart.
This is not the time to follow the instruction of those who do not believe in you. It is a road not traveled by many, so pioneering can be lonely. It will have you wondering what the journey may look like.

Where do you get trustworthy guidance from? What do I do when things aren’t turning out as planned?
I will share with you my journey to pioneering a six-figure business and the experiences I had along the way.
Be sure to take down these 4 tips on how to pioneer a new shift in your life. I know it will help you!

The Road to Having the Grace to Pioneer:

[2:16] Realize that you will be frustrated. Nothing great happens without their first being a frustration. This is where major push and motivation for change comes from.

[8:20] You will be stretched out of your comfort zone! No one else around you is doing what you do. Being the first in anything means you will abandon all comfort. This is not as negative as it may sound.

[15:09] You will experience warfare. The enemy is intimidated by those who have the boldness to rise up and make a difference in their personal lives, family, community, and world! He will send discouragement, weariness, fear, doubt and more to keep you from breaking through. Now that you know, you can fight back when these kinds of feelings come.

[21:22] You will leave an impact and a legacy. Pioneers leave clues to their success. One day you will be leaving clues for someone else!

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References Mentioned:

Feminine Woman Academy

If you want to have an uncommon marriage, you need to be an uncommon wife.

While most people think marriage solves problems, more often than not it will require you to confront your heart, character, and behavior. Whether you are a young couple or have been married for some time, dealing with your spouse will always pose a challenge.

I know for me, the beginning of my marriage forced me to take a look in the mirror and do a self-evaluation. Trust me, it was not pretty. Without knowing it, many times we come to marriage with baggage that has not been dealt with.

For those who are not yet at this stage, singlehood is the perfect opportunity to prepare to be the best wife you can be for your husband and get ahead in maturity, understanding and personal liberty.

I can only imagine how much pain I could have been saved from if I had just taken the time to focus on the state of my soul before entering marriage.

This painful process showed me what I was doing wrong and what I needed to do to make a complete turnaround and have the marriage God destined for me to enjoy.

Marriage is one of the most important ministries to God for a reason. There is a power and a purpose for your marriage, you just need to discover it! You can have a blissful, loving and God-centered marriage.

The key is your mindset. I am going to let you in on the intimate struggles of my marriage. You and your spouse are made for greatness, do you believe it?

3 Keys to Being an Uncommon Wife:

[13:38] Heal internally. Most of the time, the issues that trigger us most in marriage are directly related to issues in our past that were never fully dealt with.

[18:09] Get an uncommon revelation of who you are and who your husband is. The word says your value is compared to rubies. That means you are priceless and special. You need to change how you see yourself first and realize who your husband is, beyond what you may see now.

[24:45] Realize that you need uncommon humility. This is necessary to take down your defensive walls and pride. Walls are meant to separate. This cannot be present in restoring and getting ready for an uncommon marriage.

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Let me paint a picture for you. Imagine yourself waking up on a bright morning where the schedule for the day is fun and relaxation. No clocking into your job, no one-hour lunch break, and absolutely no stress! Instead, today you will go out, get some sun and enjoy the fresh air.

This portrait may seem simple, but how often do you get a day like this in the week? If you are tied to a nine to five job, it is probably very rare.

Think about the last time you were able to treat yourself and spend quality time with your family without worrying about how much lunch or a trip would cost. Or when the last time you were able to take time off from work to attend all your kids' school activities and being there with them every step of the way.

If you were anything like I was 7 years ago, this was unreachable.

One of the main frustrations I faced in working for a company was that I felt as though I was never building anything of my own. A major benefit of building your own business is that you will leave a legacy for your family to build upon. Starting from your shoulders.

Two Strategies for Building Your Business Online:

[16:05] Change your mindset. Perspective and outlook change everything. The transition to an employee to an employer is a huge leap for some people to ever consider for themselves! Pick any successful business owners mind and you will see that they have no cap to the possibility of growth.

[26:11] Implementing a premium experience. This means premium customer service that gives your customer an experience. This calls for going above and beyond for your clients. This is a part of building your business into a premium brand name.

References:

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You are special, unique, extravagant and everything about you, down to the details, make you unlike anyone else on this planet. Considering that there are 7 billion people on earth, that is saying something! And it is true.

God does not make copies. You are a masterpiece, formed by the greatest artist ever known. The same goes for your personal story. The world is waiting to connect with someone just like you.

In this episode, I want to encourage you to use your voice and tell your story because it will make all the difference to millions. I know that this can seem easier said than done. With some training and practice, you can master this skill and begin touching lives all around the world.

The first challenge is to get the boldness to share your story. The second challenge is on mastering how to tell your message to others in an impactful way. You already know your story is unique, now you just need to know how to make it memorable and easy to understand.

Here I will teach you how to tell your story in the most skillful way possible, to truly make your amazing story connect in a lasting way with others. I have three tips that you do not want to miss!

How to Tell your Unique Story to Others:

[15:08] Create your content. This means, write down the details of your testimony on paper and think it through. If you have never done this before, chances are you missed some powerful details that you forgot about!

[16:43] Learn the art of telling your story. You should be able to tell your complete unique story in five minutes. Yes, I said five minutes. This always calls for learning to refine your voice. This will take practice because not everyone knows how to control their pitch, tone, and diction.

[21:43] Copywriting. Find your unique voice via words. This can be done through writing, books, ads, emails and more. This goes along with perfecting your niche.

Resources Mentioned:

The Amanda Ferguson Story

Amanda Ferguson on Joni Table Talk

Femininewomanacademy.com

Amandasclub.com

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