On THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, I interview Tami Wollensak, CDLP® NMLS #1963450. This is what you will learn:

1. Be realistic about keeping and/or refinancing the house

1. The relationship between mortgage lending for a refinance of the house in a divorce, and the legal side of the divorce

1. How should a settlement agreement be written so that a divorced spouse can refinance the house once the divorce is final

1. What it means financially to refinance and keep the house

1. What happens if the lower earning spouse who is still living in the house can’t meet the mortgage payment

1. The tragedy of leaving Title while still on the mortgage

1. What a Due-On-Sale action is based on a Change in Title

1. Mortgage lender bases their decision to lend on

1. There is a difference between family court versus the mortgage industry rules for responsibility

1. How to change Title of the house if both spouses decide to keep the house jointly

1. Qualifications for one spouse to refinance the house in a divorce

1. How does self-employment effect refinancing the house

1. Timing requirements of child and spousal support to refinance the house

1. Know all your options when negotiating the house in a divorce settlement

1. Make the house a financial decision, not an emotional one

#mortgage #refinancing #childsupport #alimony #spousalsupport #divorce #Title #jointTitle #tenantsincommon #mortgagelender #home #house #divorcesettlement #DueOnSale #ChangeinTitle #emotion #self-employment #financialinsecurity #children #coparenting #parents #coparents  #certifieddivorcelendingprofessional #freeconsultation #equalcreditopportunityact #mortgage #amicabledivorce

Biography Tami Wollensak is a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP™) and Senior Mortgage Loan Originator for Oak Leaf Community Mortgage, a Division of Mutual Federal Bank. Tami has worked in the mortgage industry for more than 25 years and is licensed to lend in 46 states. Specializing in Divorce Mortgage Planning, Tami takes a holistic approach to the process of evaluating mortgage options in the context of the overall financial objectives as they relate to divorcing situations prior to settlement for the best outcome. To learn more, visit www.TakeOrLeaveTheHouse.com. 

Tami Wollensak, CDLP®

Sr. Mortgage Loan Originator

Certified Divorce Lending Professional

NMLS #1963450

(708) 359-2070

[email protected]

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Tami Wollensak, CDLP®, Sr. Mortgage Loan Originator, Certified Divorce Lending Professional Oak Leaf Community Mortgage. NMLS ID: 1963450. Equal Housing Lender. Federal Deposit Insurance Corporation.

Here’s what you will learn:

1. What a Forensic Accountant does

1. How to find the money for your divorce settlement

1. How a stay-at-home spouse starts to learn about the family money

1. How a stay-at-home spouse can ask about family finances without triggering the other spouse

1. How to protect bank accounts in case the earner spouse dies

1. How to figure out the family finances through income tax reports

1. When to justify bringing on a forensic accountant

1. Financial Abuse

1. Financial Infidelity

1. How to find hidden or overseas accounts

1. Difference between Financial Detectives and Forensic Accountants

1. Business evaluations of a family business

1. Divorce Money Guide

#forensicaccountant #financialdetective #money #incometaxreports #financialcoaching #hidden assets #overseasbankaccounts #divorce #divorcesettlement #familyfinances #businessevaluations #DivorceMoneyGuide #stay-at-homespouse #bankaccounts #financialabuse #financialinfidelity

#restrictingspending #familybusinesses #podcast #supportgroups #divorcesupportgroups #attorney #mediator #attorneyadvice  #groupcoaching #divorcegroupcoaching @TracyCoenen @TheAmicableDivorceExpert

Biography

Tracy has been investigating fraud for more than 25 years, but she didn’t always want to be a forensic accountant. With a dream of one day being a prison warden, Tracy went to Marquette University in Milwaukee, WI to get a criminology degree. A class on financial crime investigations reminded her how much she loved Encyclopedia Brown books as a kid. She continued her criminology degree, but added accounting and economics courses so she could sit for the CPA exam… and here Tracy is, finding money in cases of corporate fraud, high net worth divorce, and other financial shenanigans.

https://www.divorcemoneyguide.com

Instagram: divorcemoneyguide

Here’s what you will learn:

1. What child-centered looks and sounds like.

1. How to understand the stress that your child is going through from the actual co-parenting schedule to the communication between parents and children.

1. How this approach works with one high conflict parent.

1. How parents can be child-centered when the parents are still hurting emotionally.

1. How a child’s sense of family be reinforced with two households.

1. The grieving process for the parents

1. Trauma is generational and can transfer from parents to children for generations.

1. How children process their parents’ anger

1. The importance of children journaling their feelings and experiences

#divorce #coparenting #children #divorceabuse #grievingprocess #divorcecoach #bestinterestofthechild #generationaltrauma  #communicationstrategies #conflict #trauma #journaling #childcentered #amicabledivorce #podcast #JanetPrice #conflictcommunication #coparentinglife #coaching #coparentingschedule #family

Biography of Janet Price

Janet Price is the CEO of JP Coaching & Consulting, Inc and Founder of Divorce & Thriving Beyond.  Janet is a Certified Divorce Specialist and Conscious Co-Parenting Coach who empowers loving parents to rise above the ‘crazy making’ by keeping their kids out of the middle and moving from surviving to thriving!  

Janet is passionate about supporting parents divorcing & beyond, transition from the ‘intimate partner relationship’ to their ‘Business Partner Relationship called: The Kids’ so that the children are free to: love both of their parents and be loved by both of their parents. 

Janet knows the dynamics of divorcing and co-parenting in a high-conflict environment personally - As a child product of high-conflict divorce and a mother involved in a high conflict coparenting relationship, Janet has first-hand experience on the negative impact & trauma the kids experience when parents unconsciously co-parent and stay stuck in the intimate partner relationship communication loop.  

Janet’s Divorce & Thriving Beyond programs provide parents with the tools, skills, strategies, and support to co-parent effectively & transition to their Business Partner Relationship called: The Kids, so that the children experience their birth right, to love and be loved by both parents!

To Learn More about Janet’s Practice go to her website: https://jpcoachingandconsulting.com/divorce-beyond/

To begin getting the support today, join Janet’s private facebook community: Divorce & Beyond: It's Time to Rise, so our Families Thrive!: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceandbeyondtimetorise

• Website: https://jpcoachingandconsulting.com/divorce-beyond/

On this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert Elaine will share her tips on getting parents to be able to communicate with their children in a way that takes the stress out of the parent-child relationship.

Here is what you will learn:

1. How to deal with your children while you, the parents, are wildly emotional in your divorce process

1. What is Neurodiversity in children?

1. How to stop the blame and resentment cycle that parents may be in

1. Why the divorce rate is higher when parents have a neuro-diverse child

1. How the values that brought you into your current relationship with your partner can be used to reconnect in a co-parenting relationship

1. Coach approach to parenting instead of an authoritative approach

1. How to work with and communicate with a child who has lots of meltdowns and tantrums

1. When the parenting approach changes from giving their children a sense of agency to expecting them to accept an authoritative parenting approach

1. Children understand the coach approach to parenting vs the authoritative approach to parenting

1. How to get on the same of parenting with your co-parent

1. Parenting is an exercise of letting go

1. If parents have neuro-diverse children, the parents may also be neuro-diverse

1. What to do if both parents aren’t on the same page

#parenting #co-parenting #coaching #authoritative #communication #neurodiversity #communication #children #parentingquiz #coachapproach #divorce #family #families #blame #esentment #sanity #complexkids #ImpactParents #TheAmicableDivorceExpert #podcast #divorcepodcast #control #acceptance #collaborativeco-parenting #metacognition #meltdowns #sanityschool  @ElaineTaylorKlaus @JudithWeigle

Biography

Elaine Taylor-Klaus, MCC, is first and foremost the mom in an ADHD ++ family of six, and her complex kids are now successful young adults. Professionally, she is a Master Certified Coach – bringing a coach-approach to her work as an internationally recognized speaker, author and educator. The co-founder of the first global coaching organization for parents and professionals of neurodiverse kids, ImpactParents.com, she is a trusted advisor to parents, executives, health care and education professionals. She is also the co-founder of Sanity School®, a neurodiversity-informed behavior training program for parents. 

In addition to providing training for parents, ImpactParents has trained and certified hundreds of professionals around the world in neurodiversity-informed coaching skills. Elaine co-authored Parenting ADHD Now! in 2016 and published The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, Anxiety and More, in 2020. The Essential Guide will be released in Spanish on Valentine's Day 2023. 

Elaine Taylor-Klaus, MCC, CPCC

CEO, ImpactParents.com

Parent company for ImpactADHD®,

ImpactAnxiety & ImpactComplexKids

(404) 231-0390 voice

Author: Parenting ADHD Now! &

The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, anxiety, and more 

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In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, Patty McGuire will teach us the following:

1. What a Worthiness Coach is and how Self-Worth is lost when going through divorce.

1. How Self-Worth affects everything in a person’s life and how to recreate who you are now.

1. How to step back from the negativity that divorce showers on you

1. Steps to Empowerment.

1. The key to self-empowerment

1. The power of forgiveness in divorce and self-worth

1. How to change the energy in communication

1. How to keep your power in threatening messages

1. Emotional Divorce

1. How to remain positive

1. How to define your identity

#self-empowerment #self-worth #divorce #TheAmicableDivorceExpert #PattyMcGuire #JudithWeigle #podcast #divorcepodcast #forgiveness #narcissist #communication #worthinesscoach #emotionalenergy #mediation

Biography

Patty McGuire

Founder, Positivity Influencer Coaching

[email protected]

www.loveyourmarriageagain.com

Patty McGuire is a self-worth coach who teaches her clients how to create more love and happiness in their lives - one step at a time. Specializing in emotional wellness, divorce recovery and saving marriages, her unique method guides people from fear and pain back to love.

#selfworthcoach #divorcerecovery #savingmarriages

In episode 207 of THE Amicable Divorce Expert Judith shares an article from Diane Neumann, a divorce mediator, titled “The Psychological Stages of Divorce”. Diane takes the five emotional stages of divorce and demonstrates how mediation can be used during this time.

You will learn the following:

Stage One: Blaming the Spouse

1. a)  Mediation fosters a sense of control

Stage Two: Mourning the Loss

1. a) Mediation refocuses the “poor me” attitude

Stage Three: Anger

1. a) Mediation defuses anger

Stage Four: Being Single

1. a) Mediation heightens communication between spouses

Stage Five: Re-Entry

1. a) Mediation provides closure

#TheAmicableDivorceExpert #mediation #co-parenting #anger #grief #blame #settlementdecisions #fear #loss #ElizabethKublerRoss #JudithWeigle #podcast #divorcepodcast #separationanxiety #decision-making #divorce #amicabledivorce #divorcecourt #psychological #parentingskills #communication #livingexpenses

There are two divorces, the Emotional Divorce and the Legal Divorce. The Emotional Divorce comes first, and needs to be settled before the filing in Court begins.

Here's how this works…

Divorce is Emotional, during the lead-up to filing and throughout the filing. Throughout the filing there are so many decisions to make that are extremely important to get right: Custody and Co-Parenting, Child & Spousal Support, Division of Assets & Debts. These decisions cannot be made well while emotional. The question becomes, “Can the emotion be diminished or controlled that become the backdrop to decision-making, and that can be the reason for bad decision-making?” The answer is, “Yes!”

In this episode you will learn more about the Emotional Divorce and its significance in your divorce experience if you would like the best outcome possible for your entire family. Judith will give you real life examples of what to do and what not to do in a variety of situations from making a mutual decision to divorce, to being surprised by being served with divorce papers, to having lawyers involved in representation.

#emotions #grieving #co-parenting #court #griefprocess #mediation #podcast #divorcepodcast #amicabledivorce #personalitydisorders #divorcinganarcissist #GoodKarmaDivorce #JudgeMicheleLowrance #therapy #alimony #spousalsupport #childsupport #detachment #settlement

Thank you for joining me in this weekly podcast. The goal is to enable all of you to make changes in the trajectory of your divorce from acrimonious to amicable with my revolutionary approach to divorce: The Recipe for a Heart-Healthy Divorce™.

The four ingredients to this approach are:

1. Settle the Emotional Divorce before Settling the Legal Divorce

1. Compartmentalize Time

1. Communication for Conflict

1. A Self-Care Program with Laughter

I give a brief explanation of each ingredient in this episode. If just one of these ingredients is successfully accomplished by only one spouse, the trajectory of your divorce will change from seriously acrimonious to better. And sometimes, better is the best it can be.

Thank you for listening all year so that you can learn how to use divorce to grow as an individual and as a parent.

Happy New Year!

#divorce #podcast #divorcepodcast #amicabledivorce #selfcare #laughter #communication #conflict #narcissism #emotionaldivorce #legaldivorce #divorcefiling #coparenting #highconflictpersonalities #BIFF

In this episode you will learn the following:

1. Skills to deal with divorce

#divorce #coparenting #children #divorceabuse #grief cycles #divorcecoach #bestinterestofthechild #generationaltrauma #parentalalienation #communicationstrategies #conflict #amicabledivorce #podcast #JanetPrice #conflictcommunication #stayathomemoms

Biography of Janet Price

Janet Price is the CEO of JP Coaching & Consulting, Inc and Founder of Divorce & Thriving Beyond.  Janet is a Certified Divorce Specialist and Conscious Co-Parenting Coach who empowers loving parents to rise above the ‘crazy making’ by keeping their kids out of the middle and moving from surviving to thriving!  

Janet is passionate about supporting parents divorcing & beyond, transition from the ‘intimate partner relationship’ to their ‘Business Partner Relationship called: The Kids’ so that the children are free to: love both of their parents and be loved by both of their parents. 

Janet knows the dynamics of divorcing and co-parenting in a high-conflict environment personally - As a child product of high-conflict divorce and a mother involved in a high conflict coparenting relationship, Janet has first-hand experience on the negative impact & trauma the kids experience when parents unconsciously co-parent and stay stuck in the intimate partner relationship communication loop.  

Janet’s Divorce & Thriving Beyond programs provide parents with the tools, skills, strategies, and support to co-parent effectively & transition to their Business Partner Relationship called: The Kids, so that the children experience their birth right, to love and be loved by both parents!

To Learn More about Janet’s Practice go to her website: https://jpcoachingandconsulting.com/divorce-beyond/

To begin getting the support today, join Janet’s private facebook community: Divorce & Beyond: It's Time to Rise, so our Families Thrive!: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceandbeyondtimetorise

• Website: https://jpcoachingandconsulting.com/divorce-beyond/

On episode 203 of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, you will learn the following:

1. When and why people go from behaving respectfully towards one another to criticizing each other and speaking disrespectfully to each other once married.

1. How to define a healthy love relationship.

1. The essential need of people when they get into relationships and marriage.

1. What things changed for you in your understanding of what a good love life was after you left home and engaged in romantic relationships.

1. Why the divorce rate is 50% first marriages, 60% second marriages, and 70% third marriages end in divorce.

1. Why someone is reluctant to make a commitment, and what you should do if that’s you.

1. What makes love mysterious, hard to recognize, and difficult to get back on track.

1. What “love at first sight” is.

1. Question to ask if in a divorce: What did I contribute to the divorce?

1. The importance of grieving a marriage before entering another relationship.

1. The importance of understanding your family history and what you learned from your parents’ relationship.

#divorce #relationships #lovelife #divorcerate #familyhistory #commitment #communication #acceptance #behavioralpatterns #lovelifelearningcenter #DrThomasJordan #grief

Dr. Thomas Jordan is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst in private practice in New York City. He is on the faculty of NYU’s Postdoctoral Program in Psychoanalysis, author of Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life and founder of LoveLifeLearningCenter.com. Dr. Jordan specializes in the treatment of unhealthy love lives and has been studying them for over 30 years.

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