We all have a wish list. The list that we started perhaps in our childhood. Maybe we've been adding to it or taking away from it over the years. We find that our lists change as as we ourselves change. And sometimes what we prayed for in the beginning is no longer wanted in the end. So take the precious time in getting there. The shortcuts really aren't helping like you believe they are. Don't be in such a hurry. I believe if it's meant to be, and you work toward it every day, you will get there.

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I ask myself this question a lot. And I know what I can contribute to others. I know what I am capable of. But is it enough for me? Until you get to know your real self, you will hear the voices of others telling you what you should do and how you should do it. They block out that inner voice trying to guide you. But you need to realize they are not you. They will never know what's best for you. No matter how much they love you. Take the time to learn who you really are. Before you start any project. Before you accomplish any goal. You need to look within yourself and find out if it's enough for you. The true you.

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Day 3 into the brand New Year and some of us are already disappointed at ourselves for not accomplishing what we said we were going to do. It's OK to feel discouraged. Trying something new is scary. But you have to keep starting over. You don't fail and then say "well I'll wait until next year and try it again." Every day is a new chance to begin again.

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In this last chapter of my book, THE CALCINATION OF A VOLATILE LIFE, I use a story that I heard from a mentor, and talk about how we sometimes don't even know our own strength. We have the ability to escape our trauma, but have been listening to all the wrong people and their lies that limit us, and are too afraid to fight back. You have the power inside of you to change where you are at this very moment. Stop relying on others and giving away your power. Break free on your own. Enough is enough. I hope this audio version of my book has helped someone find their way. You can purchase the book on Amazon. Thank you for listening.

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For years I dreamed and wished my life away. I'm talking years and years. All that precious time... gone. I look back, from where I stand now, and the waves of grief can hit me hard. But I am not going to waste anymore time crying over things that I can't get back. I will make the most out of the time that I have left. I understand, now, that I was being molded into who I am today. The hardship allows you to become fearless in your pursuit of happiness. Today, dare to become that person living your dream life. Do it. You have to start. Or nothing will change. ❤❤❤

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Let's give a big shout out to the people in this world that are constantly searching for a better way. Not just for themselves. They search for an easier way, so that others may follow their lead, and maybe get to where they want to be a little quicker. The Seekers. The ones that put in the work. The dedication, and fearlessly move forward despite ridicule and criticism from the sidelines. The Seekers that never follow the crowd, for they know there is a better way. They dare to be different. They allow change. They welcome healthy communication and feedback. They read the books. They never stop learning. Their minds remain open to new possibilities. For they know there is more than just one way of doing something. God bless the Seekers of a better life. For they are the leaders of tomorrow.

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Do you find yourself wanting to make everything OK for everyone in your life? Do you drop everything and put your own needs and responsibilities last, so that you can see to someone else's happiness? STOP!! If you keep doing this people will expect it from you all the time. People don't care how much pain and anxiety it causes you. They will ask the impossible because they know you will try to do it. How about you let them handle their own problems now and then, and maybe try to fix themselves and what they've brought on into their own lives without relying on you to be the fixer. You can't fix everything. It's not your job.

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This chapter of my book allows you take a look at all you've been sorry for... and why? Were you really sorry for speaking your mind or doing exactly what YOU wanted to do? We apologize for all the wrong things. We enable someone else to actually think that we are doing something wrong by being honest with what we really want. Nothing you do is cause for another's actions or words. Everyone has a choice on how they react. Everyone has control over themselves and should not have any say in how you feel, or what you should feel. Quit giving away the power of YOU and stop apologizing.

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In this chapter of my book, THE CALCINATION OF A VOLATILE LIFE, I talk about the one you thought would work. The one that you could see for days and days into the future, and sharing your life with. The one that hurt you the most, but the hardest to forget. It's hard... damn hard. But if you're lucky, something will eventually remind you on why it didn't work. Sometimes what we want, isn't meant for us.

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In Chapter 9 of my book, THE CALCINATION OF A VOLATILE LIFE, I talk about bad decisions. They are going to happen. It's just part of being human. But when you look back on it, you have to see how you were just dealing with a crisis the only way you knew how, at that moment in time. You were working with what you had to work with and made a decision for your survival. That's what we do. We don't have all the answers. We learn by trial and error. Stop reliving those mistakes over and over again, and start living in the present. Where you are now. Forgive yourself and move on. Failure makes us better people. We win every time we fall and get back up. Be the warrior you are meant to be. Fight for the life you want and quit beating yourself up for your bad decisions.

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