Overthinking? Same.

I’m Jess, your anxious, tea-fuelled ADHDer figuring life out one impulsive decision (and mild panic) at a time.

The Anxious ADHDer is a podcast for brains that don’t always play by the rules. And if I dare so say myself, honest, funny, and a little chaotic in all the right ways.

New episodes every Monday and Thursday. Grab your brew, press play, and feel a little more understood. 💜

Ever feel like even simple choices drain you?

In this episode, I’m diving into decision fatigue, the quiet, exhausting side of ADHD and anxiety that nobody really warns you about. You know, when every choice feels heavy and your brain’s running on empty, it’s easy to start doubting yourself.

I’ll share how I’m learning to rebuild self-trust, what actually helps when your mind feels jammed, and a few small ways to bring your brain and energy back online. 💛

Because honestly, being indecisive isn’t laziness, it’s your brain trying to protect itself. From picking lunch to making work decisions, ADHD impulsivity and anxious overthinking can make even the smallest choices feel massive. When every option comes with a dozen what-ifs, no wonder we freeze, delay, or hand the decision to someone else.

✨ What I cover:

• Why ADHD and anxiety make every decision feel like climbing a mountain
• How overthinking and perfectionism drain your mental energy
• Practical tools like decision windows, default options and micro-commitments
• How to use criteria, not emotions, to simplify choices
• Small ways to rebuild trust in your own judgement

💬 Quote to remember:

“Indecision doesn’t mean failure, it just means your brain is tired.”

#ADHD #Anxiety #DecisionFatigue #Overthinking #Boundaries #MentalHealth #Neurodivergent #SelfTrust

Ever find yourself stuck in that ADHD and anxiety shame spiral where one tiny mistake suddenly feels like proof you’re a total failure? You’re not alone.

In this episode, I’m unpacking that exhausting loop, from missed deadlines and forgotten texts to those awkward moments your brain replays on a loop. I’ll share how ADHD sets the stage and anxiety piles on, why this combo hits so hard, and how I’m learning to climb out of it.

Expect a few (very) cringe-worthy stories, honest reflections, and practical tools to remind us that shame is a liar, mistakes are human, and small wins count... more than we think. 💜

Because let’s be honest, ADHD can make life messy, with missed deadlines, misplaced bills and late replies, and anxiety loves to make each one feel like the end of the world. Together they create a loop of overthinking, avoidance and guilt that is tough to break.

✨ What I cover:

• Why ADHD and anxiety make small mistakes feel massive
• How the shame spiral starts and why it sticks
• The role of silence, overthinking and what ifs
• Practical tools like resets, quick repairs and celebrating small wins
• How to separate shame from reality and respond with self-compassion

💬 Quote to remember:

“Shame doesn’t say you did a bad thing, it says you’re a bad thing, and that’s the lie.”

If this episode gives you a moment of relief, share it with someone who’s ever apologised for simply being human. Remember, ADHD does not make you lazy, and anxiety does not make you weak. Mistakes are proof you are trying.

#ADHD #Anxiety #ShameSpiral #MentalHealth #Overthinking #Boundaries #SelfCompassion #Neurodivergent

You know that voice that tells you you’re not doing enough - no matter how hard you try?

In this episode, I’m diving into the inner critic, that relentless voice that shows up when ADHD and anxiety collide. The one that fuels negative self-talk, chips away at self-esteem, and keeps saying that you should “do better.”

I’ll share how naming your inner critic can create space, calm emotional chaos, and remind you that you are not your thoughts. 💜

Because if you live with ADHD and anxiety, that inner voice can sound brutally convincing. It shows up in every missed deadline, every awkward moment, every time you overthink a text. But naming it helps separate you from it. Once you can recognise that voice as something outside of yourself, it loses its grip.

✨ What I cover:

• Why ADHD and anxiety amplify your inner critic
• How negative self-talk affects focus, mood and self-esteem
• Why naming the voice helps create distance and perspective
• Practical tools to challenge unhelpful thoughts
• How to respond with compassion and rebuild self-trust

💬 Quote to remember:

“You are not the voice in your head. You are the person who gets to choose how to respond to it.”

If this episode helps you feel a little lighter, share it with someone who needs a reminder that their thoughts aren’t facts. Be kind to yourself, name the voice, and take back your power.

#ADHD #Anxiety #InnerCritic #SelfCompassion #MentalHealth #Neurodivergent #Overthinking #Boundaries

Ever wonder why ADHD and anxiety can make relationships feel like an emotional rollercoaster? In this first episode, I’m exploring how the two tangle together, think emotional spirals, miscommunication, and that constant sense of overwhelm that nobody really talks about.

I’ll share a few honest reflections, what I’m personally working on, and some small strategies that help me slow the spiral (or at least make it suck a little less).

This is just the beginning there’s so much more to unpack! If you’ve ever thought, “Why is my brain like this?” welcome to my world. Let’s figure it out, one episode at a time. 💜

Because when ADHD and anxiety collide, it can feel like your brain is at war with itself. ADHD makes it hard to start, focus or remember, and anxiety keeps whispering that you’ll mess everything up. Together they feed self-doubt, avoidance and burnout. And if you’ve ever found yourself overthinking a message, cancelling plans out of guilt, or trying to be “easy” so no one leaves, you’ll get it.

✨ What I cover:

• How ADHD and anxiety feed off each other
• Why the overlap can make relationships feel so intense
• How self-sabotage and overthinking show up in daily life
• The difference between forgetfulness and fear
• Practical tools to calm your brain and rebuild self-trust

💬 Quote to remember:

“You’re not lazy or broken. You’re just living in a nervous system that’s been on high alert for too long.”

This is just the beginning, and there’s so much more to unpack. If you’ve ever thought, “Why is my brain like this?” welcome to my world. Let’s figure it out, one episode at a time.

#ADHD #Anxiety #MentalHealth #SelfAwareness #Relationships #Neurodivergent #Overthinking