The Art Of Imperfect Adulting

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Connie Warden, acupuncturist, mindfulness teacher, and author of Speeding to Compassion: Life Lessons and Humor to the High Road. Connie opens up about an ordinary incident of losing her patience with another driver—and how this small, imperfect moment on the road became a catalyst for self-reflection, real change, and deeper compassion. The conversation explores not just driving mishaps, but also universal themes of self-awareness, emotional regulation, family traditions, and the stories we tell ourselves.

About the Guest:

Connie Warden is an acupuncturist, former yoga instructor, and longtime Colorado resident. Drawing from her background in holistic health and personal growth, Connie brings humor and insight to the everyday moments that test our patience and humanity. She is the author of Speeding to Compassion, a book that dives into real-life lessons learned (often the hard way) behind the wheel and beyond.

Connie is one of eight siblings, has two children, four grandkids. She has been an acupuncturist for 20 years, been practicing yoga since she was 16 and teaching for 15 years. She has just written a book on her journey to becoming a more mindful, kindful, driver called "Speeding to Compassion: Life Lessons and Humor to the High Road."

Main Topics Covered:

• The power of small moments and how minor conflicts can spark meaningful self-awareness
• Driving mishaps, emotional triggers, and why we’re often tempted to react
• Learning to drive and teaching others—a rite of passage in families
• Mindfulness tools for stress: EFT tapping, emotional naming, and humor
• How our underlying stories shape our reactions and daily life
• Spiritual and emotional bypassing, and the importance of processing feelings
• Navigating accidents, self-doubt, and personal growth after making mistakes
• Universal experiences of impatience, regret, and finding the high road in everyday encounters
• Thoughts on self-driving cars and the future of road rage

Quote from the Episode:

“An outburst is really only hurting you... So does it help the other person? Most likely not. Right. The only person it’s hurting is yourself. And that’s the whole thing.” — Connie Warden

Timestamps: [00:00:05] Connie’s background and warm-up questions

[00:02:33] The “jerk” moment: losing patience at a red light

[00:05:47] Past driving mistakes and compassion for others on the road

[00:06:22] Learning to drive in a big family

[00:09:15] Why this incident led to real self-reflection

[00:11:03] Would Connie have reacted differently to an adult?

[00:13:12] Teaching kids to drive and the stress involved

[00:14:18] Does being a “jerk” ever get a pass? Squeezing the cactus

[00:17:55] Car accidents, self-doubt, and EMDR for driving anxiety

[00:21:45] How this experience changed Connie’s life and approach

[00:22:32] Avoiding spiritual bypassing and emotional avoidance

[00:24:12] Practical tools for mindfulness and self-regulation in traffic

[00:25:17] The future: how might self-driving cars affect road rage?

[00:26:27] About Connie’s book and how to connect with her

[00:28:00] Connie’s family traditions, morning routines, and closing

You can find Connie Warden’s Book, “Speeding to Compassion” here: https://bookshop.org/a/87491/9780996320306

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In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Ann Evanston—Bay Area-based self-love expert and coach—to explore relationship crossroads, personal transformation, and what happens after a breach of trust in a long-term partnership. Ann shares her very personal journey of staying and doing the work in her marriage after discovering her partner was seeking connection elsewhere, offering a unique, candid perspective on forgiveness, rebuilding, and the ongoing “practice” of loving partnership.

About the Guest:

Ann M. Evanston, MA is a Warrior-Preneur, master-level performance coach, and unapologetic champion of women in their 40s and 50s who are done putting themselves last. With over two decades of experience helping women find their voice, own their power, and take up space—Ann leads the Self-Love Evolution movement, guiding midlife women to reclaim their worth, desires, and personal fire. She’s been featured in The Huffington Post, Spark & Hustle with Tory Johnson, and named one of the “Top 6”  consultants by About.com. Ann is the author of The Self-Love Evolution for Women Guide & Journal and Unscripted: How Women Thrive, as well as several high-impact eBooks for bold businesswomen ready to break the rules and rise.

Main Topics Covered:

• Discovering betrayal and the immediate aftermath.
• How Ann and her husband rebuilt trust and connection.
• The importance and process of intentional relationship work (“the practice”).
• The impact of shame, societal judgment, and making unconventional choices in love.
• The evolving nature of long-term relationships—sex, menopause, and continuing to choose each other.
• Ann’s framework for self-love and community-building for women.

Quote from the Episode:

“You may think we’re this perfect couple, but you don’t know what we go through every day to be that couple.” — Ann Evanston

Timestamps: [00:00:05] Intro and welcome; Ann’s Bay Area home and garden passion

[00:02:45] Ann’s relationship backstory and living situation

[00:09:04] Discovering her husband’s online activities

[00:11:20] Addressing betrayal, confrontation, and mutual decision to rebuild

[00:12:40] The experience and shock of discovery

[00:23:16] Intentionally rebuilding—why forgiveness comes before trust

[00:24:29] Creating weekly date nights, “the practice,” and intentional communication

[00:29:24] Ann’s menopause journey and changes in partnership

[00:32:06] Disney’s myth of “happily ever after” vs. real relationships

[00:36:11] Ann’s choice to stay, fear of judgment, and supporting women’s choices

[00:44:47] Ann’s current work, retreats, and how listeners can connect

Special Offer from the Guest:

Free excerpt of Ann’s book The Self-Love Evolution for Women https://connect.warrior-preneur.com/SLE

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In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Melanie Bonk—Somatic Trauma Therapist, Certified Love, Sex & Relationship Coach, and Oregon-based mom of four—about how childhood abandonment and old wounds can unexpectedly show up in long-term relationships. Melanie shares a deeply personal story of unraveling during a romantic vacation, what it looks like to meet your inner child with compassion, and how she transformed those old patterns into a thriving adult partnership.

About the Guest:

Melanie Bonk is a certified Love, Sex & Relationship Coach, Somatic Trauma Therapist, and Tantrika devoted to helping people reclaim their pleasure, power, and wholeness—one bonkilicious breath at a time. Her work weaves modern trauma healing with ancient tantric wisdom to guide individuals and couples into deeper intimacy, erotic sovereignty, and soulful connection. Through body-based practices, pleasure rituals, and playful exploration, she helps clients alchemize shame, rewrite old patterns, and awaken their wild, wise, turned-on selves. Whether we’re up-leveling the connection to your body, deepening your couple bubble, or expanding your orgasmic potential, every part of you is welcome here. Because Melanie believes pleasure is medicine. Your body is wise. And healing can feel good. Let’s bonk better, together.

Main Topics Covered:

• Growing up with divorce and how early abandonment influences adult relationships
• The power of self-awareness and “reparenting” your inner child
• Transforming relationship conflict into connection through soulful communication
• Techniques for emotional intelligence and creating safer, more intimate partnerships
• How to embrace difficult emotions and show yourself compassion instead of self-judgment
• Journey from crisis to thriving: Melanie’s personal and professional evolution
• Somatic therapy, its principles, and practical uses in relationships and healing

Quote from the Episode:

“It’s like—no, I had to take her out of the seat. I didn’t want her to have the power in my partnership. I like to connect to my queendom, my goddess, that higher version of myself. And that’s who I want to be in the driver’s seat.” — Melanie Bonk

Timestamps: [00:00:06] Melanie’s introduction; home and family background

[00:01:06] Laughter as medicine and what makes Melanie smile

[00:01:58] The vacation unraveling: a story of abandonment triggers

[00:04:03] Family dynamics and building a lasting partnership

[00:05:14] Middle-school obsessions, childhood divorce, and early relationship patterns

[00:09:19] What actually happened during the vacation “spiral”

[00:13:59] Becoming aware of old wounds and the impact of somatic training

[00:15:55] Tools for de-escalation and holding space in relationships

[00:18:57] Compassion as the antidote to self-judgment

[00:21:47] The “work” of transformation and ongoing reparenting

[00:25:28] How the relationship looks now—embracing alone time

[00:26:19] Melanie’s approach as a coach and therapist, plus upcoming programs

[00:30:33] Somatic therapy explained

[00:32:19] Special offer for podcast listeners

[00:33:07] Rapid-fire questions: dreams, favorite places, snacks, and more

Special Offer from the Guest:

Sign up with your email and receive a secret link to 3 small, bite sized somatic practices to explore over 3 weeks. https://www.melaniebonk.com/pod

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In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Terry Tucker—a Denver-based author, former SWAT hostage negotiator, and cancer survivor—about turning a life-changing cancer diagnosis into a purpose-driven journey. Terry shares the story of his rare melanoma, the challenges of major medical setbacks including limb amputation, and the practical wisdom that has helped him find meaning, connection, and sustainable excellence through adversity.

About the Guest:

Terry Tucker is a speaker, author, and podcast guest on the topic of self-development. Among his diverse professional roles, Terry has been a marketing executive, a hospital administrator, a SWAT Hostage Negotiator, and for the past thirteen years, a cancer warrior. He is the author of Sustainable Excellence: Ten Principles To Leading Your Uncommon And Extraordinary Life and a featured author of Perspectives On Cancer: Stories Of Healing, Hope, & Resilience.

Main Topics Covered:

• Navigating an unexpected cancer diagnosis and rare melanoma
• The emotional rollercoaster of receiving a life-limiting prognosis
• Losing a foot and a leg: adapting to profound changes in mobility and identity
• Lessons from a career in SWAT negotiation and coaching applied to surviving cancer
• The role of empathy, connection, and community in healing and resilience
• How to reframe devastating news into meaningful, purpose-driven action
• The creation of Terry’s book, "Sustainable Excellence," during recovery
• The ongoing choice to share personal stories and why it matters in imperfect adulting

Quote from the Episode: "How can I turn a death sentence into a life sentence? ... It was, well, how am I going to live, given the fact that I was a college athlete, I was a SWAT hostage negotiator? I’ve done things in my life that have prepared me for this." — Terry Tucker

Timestamps: [00:00:05] Welcome and guest introductions

[00:01:01] Terry’s passion for connecting with people

[00:02:33] SWAT negotiation and the art of going deep

[00:03:47] Receiving the cancer diagnosis

[00:04:21] Explaining rare melanoma and its challenges

[00:06:10] Life “before”—career, family, and the warning signs

[00:08:35] Telling his wife and seeking support

[00:12:23] Processing a terminal prognosis and embracing the journey

[00:16:07] Coping with five years of harsh treatment

[00:18:10] Amputations, COVID complications, and adapting to new limitations

[00:22:15] Reality of accessibility, mobility, and home modifications

[00:23:56] Choosing to share his story—private person goes public

[00:26:58] How SWAT negotiation skills help during crisis and recovery

[00:30:02] Negotiating with yourself: hope, perspective, and purpose

[00:32:52] About "Sustainable Excellence"—how it came to be

[00:35:24] Fun closing questions and favorite films

You can find Terry Tucker’s Book Sustainable Excellence, Ten Principles To Leading Your Uncommon and Extraordinary Life  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DXBW98K1

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In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Michelle Wincell O'Leary about her courageous journey of transformation—from leaving a long-term marriage and thriving career to embracing a life of alignment, intention, and adventure on a boat. Michelle shares the pivotal moments, inner shifts, and practical tools that helped her step into a life that feels meaningful and present.

About Our Guest: Michelle Wincell O’Leary is a former mental health executive and therapist turned transformational coach, author, and founder of Spirit of Therapy, LLC. After decades in mental health leadership, Michelle transitioned to living on a boat and now dedicates her work to helping others integrate consciousness, energy work, and practical healing through her writing, masterclasses, and coaching.

Main Topics Covered:

• Michelle’s transition from executive mental health professional to author and spiritual guide
• The process and emotional landscape of ending a marriage amicably
• The role of self-awareness, intentionality, and alignment during major life shifts
• Finding community, flow, and meaning in unexpected places (including on the water!)
• The integration of Western therapeutic practice with spiritual and energetic principles
• The creation of Michelle’s upcoming multi-book series, “Flow in the Present”
• Letting go of societal checklists and embracing present-moment living

Notable Quote: “I got really good at learning how to release things that didn’t feel aligned... I don’t know why they’re in my life. They don’t fit. They don’t make sense. I don’t need that.” — Michelle Wincell O'Leary

Special Offers from the Guest: Empowered Master Class in Energy Tools:  This 5-hour small-group experience is based on the principles from my book, Flow in the Present Series, Resilience. You'll receive a free Resilience Creator Journal. Value $159 For The Audience of The Art of Imperfect Adulting  25% off and a free Creator Journal (Total Investment $120) Listeners can collect this offer by mentioning The Art of Imperfect Adulting.

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In thisepisode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, host Amy Stone speaks with Chandra Kydd, educator, author, and founder of Smart Kid Concepts. Chandra shares her inspiring journey from discovering a life-changing Peace Corps poster in college to spending three transformative years serving in St. Vincent and the Grenadines. Together, they explore how unexpected opportunities, service, and embracing imperfect paths can shape meaningful adult lives.

About the Guest:

Chandra Kydd is the founder of Smart Kydd Concepts, LLC, an award-winning adult educator, author, and speaker who believes education is the key to success and personal growth. Her passion for education began as a U.S. Peace Corps volunteer and has led her to guide thousands of students, from middle school to post-secondary and GED programs, toward achieving diplomas, careers, and brighter futures. Chandra is also a best-selling author who has shared her story and insights at major book signings, including the Los Angeles Times Festival of Books and the London Mind, Body & Spirit Festival. She also provides motivational speaking, interactive webinars, and personalized consultations to empower learners, educators, and organizations.

Main Topics Covered:

• The moment a college hallway poster changed Chandra’s life
• What the Peace Corps is and what it actually looks like “on the ground”
• The application process, challenges, and reality checks of serving internationally
• Designing education centers and health/wellness programs in St. Vincent
• The emotional challenge of “coming home” after immersive international service
• Adult learning: why adults need motivation, structure, and support for success
• The creation of Smart Kid Concepts and the Smart Giving Project
• The power of service, community, and continuing to learn as an adult

Featured Quote:

“They appreciated my presence so much. Every little thing, just me being there, leaving, knowing that I left home to be there with them, to show them anything that I knew—to them, they were so grateful. And they were so appreciative, and I was so grateful for everything they taught me.” — Chandra Kydd

Find Chandra Kydd Online:

Website: www.smartkidconcepts.com

Timestamps:

• 03:07 – The poster that changed everything: discovering the Peace Corps
• 05:06 – Chandra’s college dreams before the Peace Corps
• 08:17 – Early inspiration for service and family influences
• 10:36 – The Peace Corps application: challenges and perseverance
• 16:24 – “Boots on the ground” in St. Vincent: project work and community embrace
• 27:02 – The joys and challenges of coming home after service
• 33:00 – Founding Smart Kid Concepts and motivation for adult learners
• 41:16 – The Smart Giving Project and serving the local South Florida community
• 43:12 – Show wrap-up, giveaway instructions, and Chandra’s online info
• 44:23 – Fun rapid-fire questions: morning routines, best advice, and favorite vacation styles

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In this episode, Amy Stone welcomes Alyssa Wolff to the Art of Imperfect Adulting. Alyssa shares her journey as a mother of five, her early dreams of a big family, and how she transitioned from a busy home life into building a successful online business as a "Take Back Your Time" coach. Their lively conversation explores how to be intentional with time, set boundaries, and make peace with choosing a different path for work and family—without guilt.

About the Guest:

Alyssa Wolff is a mom of five (ages 6 to 16) living in Oklahoma. After challenging herself to create order and margin within a big family, Alyssa began mentoring others as a productivity and time management coach. She now helps busy parents reclaim their schedules and carve out space for what truly matters.

Main Topics Covered:

• Growing up with a vision for a large family versus lived reality
• Navigating college plans, changing majors, and marrying young
• Transitioning directly to parenthood and raising five kids within ten years
• Recognizing the need for personal challenge and fulfillment beyond motherhood
• Discovering online entrepreneurship and the birth of her coaching business
• The mindset shifts required to manage family, work, and self-care
• Building routines, boundaries, and letting go of “people-pleasing”
• Strategies for creating daily quiet time, even in a busy household

Quote from the Episode:

"Once you get in your head that you are allowed to have a both-and, suddenly you can smash that box of what motherhood and business and working from home can look like." – Alyssa Wolff

Timestamps:

• 00:00 – Introduction and Alyssa's background
• 01:10 – Family size and childhood visions
• 03:35 – College journey and major changes
• 05:50 – Meeting her husband and accelerated graduation
• 08:53 – From graduation to motherhood
• 11:13 – Deciding how many children to have
• 12:34 – Seeking new challenges post-baby
• 16:19 – Discovering online business and entrepreneurship
• 19:00 – Choosing time management as her coaching niche
• 23:09 – Unique approach to work-life balance
• 28:33 – Free schedule resource for listeners
• 29:04 – Tips for creating quiet time
• 30:46 – Reading recommendations
• 30:50 – Best advice Alyssa ever received

Offer from Alyssa:

Your Ready-to-Go Work-at-Home Daily Schedule

Value: $37

Special offer: Free access

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In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Kathryne Imabayashi—international educator, parent coach, and author—whose decades-spanning global journey began after a fateful encounter with the novel Shogun. Kathryne recounts how following an unexpected “nudge” to move to Japan set her on an adventure through multiple countries, shifting her perspectives on personal growth, parenting boys, self-discovery, and the sometimes surprising role of fate in adult life.

About the Guest:

Kathryne Imabayashi (Kathy) is a retired educator with decades of experience in early childhood and elementary education, both nationally and internationally. She founded a preschool in Japan and later held leadership roles supporting families and teachers. Now, she focuses on helping parents raise emotionally healthy boys through courses, workshops, and her podcast Unlocking the Parenting Code. Kathy is also the author of Raising Boys Who Become Remarkable Men.vigate the realities of parenting, transition, and personal transformation.

"Rather than jumping to, it was jumping from—I knew that if I stayed on the path I was on, it would not end up well for me... I was unsettled, not grounded, and I just knew I needed to try something different." — Kathryne Imabayashi

Main Topics Covered:

• The life-changing impact of reading Shogun and making a radical move abroad at 30
• Navigating culture shock, language barriers, and building a life in Japan
• Parenting as both an educator and a mom—especially the unique challenges and joys of raising boys
• How fate, intuition, and context shaped Kathryne’s international teaching and administrative career
• Overcoming internalized biases, especially around gender, sparked by a pivotal parenting moment
• The surprising reality of becoming an “adventurer” despite a quiet, non-risk-taking childhood
• The role of lived experience in shaping parent coaching and educational approaches
• Embracing continual change, self-reflection, and the value of imperfect adulting

Quote from the Episode:

“Rather than jumping to, it was jumping from—I knew that if I stayed on the path I was on, it would not end up well for me... I was unsettled, not grounded, and I just knew I needed to try something different.” — Kathryne Imabayashi

Timestamps: [00:00:05] Guest welcome and why laughter matters

[00:01:01] The book that changed everything: Shogun

[00:02:16] Life in Canada, wanderlust, and feeling unsettled

[00:08:29] The practicalities of moving to Japan with no safety net

[00:14:28] Marriage, family, and an unexpected international odyssey

[00:21:32] The difference between jumping to adventure vs. jumping from discomfort

[00:26:18] The story behind Kathryne’s passion for raising emotionally healthy boys

[00:32:06] Navigating bias, fear, and the transition from educator to parent

[00:38:35] Kathryne’s coaching work and ways to connect

Connect with the Guest:

Website: sonhoodcoaching.com.

Special Offer from the Guest:

Listeners of The Art of Imperfect Adulting can access a complimentary introductory coaching call with Kathryne. Visit sunhoodcoaching.com and mention the podcast in your inquiry to schedule your session or access a range of free resources for parents raising boys.

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In this conversation, Amy Stone chats with guest Marcy Neumann, who shares the story of her difficult decision to leave a marriage of nearly 30 years. Marcy explains how the experience was not just a breakup, but a powerful catalyst for profound personal change. Together, they explore the realities of loneliness within marriage, the challenge of breaking from old programming, and the courage it takes to choose yourself at any age.

About the Guest:

Marcy Neumann is known as the Heart Shift Coach—a spiritual mentor, healing arts practitioner, and an expert in helping women cultivate courage and self-love after life-changing transitions. With a rich background as a registered nurse, spiritualist minister, and Reiki master, Marcy now empowers others to step into their authentic selves.

Main Topics Covered:

• The story of leaving a long-term marriage and what led up to it
• Feeling alone within a seemingly successful relationship
• The societal and family programming around marriage and divorce
• Physical and emotional symptoms of ignoring your own needs
• The process of building a new life—and identity—after divorce
• Building self-love and courage as the foundation for positive transformation
• Navigating community reaction, shame, and the “hope hook”
• Marcy’s thriving career and new passion projects post-divorce

Guest Quote:

“I had done such a marvelous job, and I actually say I'm quite masterful at creating this illusion of a life and being what everybody else wanted and needed me to be, and in that process, losing myself.” – Marcy Neumann

Want More?

Marcy offers podcast listeners free access to her guide, How to Shift from Self Sabotage to Self Love in Five Days. “How To Shift from Self-Sabotage to Self-Love in 5 Days” (Ebook)Visit https://marcyneumann.kit.com/selflove and use code IMPERFECTLOVE to get your copy for free.

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For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69

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before that I used Kit.

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In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Karen Dwyer-Tesoriero—a New York City-based psychotherapist and life coach—about surviving and rebuilding after a stunning financial crisis. Karen candidly shares the turning point when she discovered her family’s mortgage hadn’t been paid in 14 months, the personal upheaval that followed, and how she found resilience and self-belief while pulling herself and her children through divorce, debt, and uncertainty.

About the Guest:

Karen Dwyer-Tesoriero is a psychotherapist in New York City and offers telehealth services in Florida as well as life coaching nationwide. With a specialty in supporting adults through major life transitions, Karen draws from both her clinical expertise and her lived experience navigating complex financial and relationship setbacks.

"I realized what was happening was I had all these negative thoughts about myself... And I really had to figure out on this ferry ride what my next step was. And I said, those negative thoughts really aren't true." — Karen Dwyer-Tesoriero

Main Topics Covered:

• The shock and aftermath of learning your home is at risk due to unpaid debt
• Navigating hidden financial troubles within a marriage and the importance of transparency
• The role of professional support systems (therapists, attorneys, friends, family) in recovery
• Rebuilding financial stability: paying off debt, protecting assets, and learning from mistakes
• Talking to children honestly about money and family changes
• The long-term impact of financial trauma and practical steps for self-protection
• Building a new, empowered chapter—personally and professionally—after crisis

Quote from the Episode:

"My negative thoughts are holding me back from being the best version of who I am. Why am I letting my negative thoughts and him do that to me? I’m not going to let that happen anymore." — Karen Dwyer-Tesoriero

Timestamps: [00:00:11] — Introductions; Karen’s NYC roots and family life

[00:02:43] — The day Karen learned her mortgage hadn’t been paid

[00:04:57] — Work-life and deferred financial oversight

[00:11:25] — Personal accounts seized, house liens, and unraveling assets

[00:14:09] — The Staten Island Ferry epiphany: fighting back negative beliefs

[00:17:46] — Paying down debt, protecting her business, and life with kids after crisis

[00:19:54] — Navigating divorce, splitting debts, and selling the family home

[00:26:44] — Building a new foundation with help from friends and family

[00:30:10] — The ongoing emotional toll of financial trauma

[00:32:08] — Advice for couples and individuals: financial transparency

[00:38:03] — How to connect with Karen and her services

[00:39:14] — Three fun final questions

Connect with the Guest:

Karen Dwyer-Tesoriero, LCSW

Email: [email protected]

Website: coffeewithkaren.com

Special Offer from the Guest:

Karen is offering a complimentary one-hour personal life coaching session to the audience with coupon code #believeinme 

*Note from the show: Guest offers are often limited-time and limited quantity. If you have an issue redeeming the guest offer, please reach out to the guest or vendor directly.

If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/support

We invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.

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• Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast app
• Get guest offers delivered straight to your inbox
• Access all important links in one convenient place
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Are you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.com

If you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guest

Here are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)

For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69

Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi

Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590

Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofj

For Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stone

before that I used Kit.

Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors