The Ashley Berges Show

Clients have asked me, Why did I fall for a narcissist? How does this happen? There are a lot of reasons we fall prey and fall in love with someone who eventually takes their mask off and is a true narcissist. Whether it began in our childhood due to our parents narcissistic tendencies, the commonality that can be felt when meeting someone with similarities we may not be aware of, the love bombing and the attention we receiving from the person in the beginning, and countless others reasons for why this happens. Listen to this week’s episode of the Ashley Berges podcast and get more clarity and personal understanding of the inner struggle you will experience and feel when you realize the truth and have to decide how to navigate the future. 

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Self-awareness and a lack there of is your big determination to honestly understand if someone has significant signs and symptoms of narcissism or not. When dealing with these people, you will find yourself on a very uneven playing ground. The rules do not apply to them!  They make up the rules for the relationship and you must follow them. If not, there will be a problem.  However, they are immune to the rules - the rules do not apply to them -  You learn this over a period of time- in the beginning you’re usually getting attention and having more favorable experiences and then that begins to change.And their attention begins to wane and they begin giving less and less. You will begin to see significant change within them, and wonder why they are changing, sometimes turning very much inward wondering what you have done, and trying harder every day to get back to the beginning of the relationship.If you believe you have a narcissist in your life, you will want to listen to the full podcast and understand the spectrum that is narcissism, Just because someone has two signs and symptoms doesn't mean they are a narcissist. However, some have no empathy, no care about what they do to you, and are constantly using you for what you can do for them. Listen to this podcast and get the clarity you can use to understand these relationships clearly. 

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There are real reasons why people with borderline personality disorder, signs and symptoms connect with people who are narcissistic and have narcissistic signs and symptoms. The attraction is very deep-seated and somewhat primal. Primal in the sense that the relationship is fast and furious, the borderline getting wrapped up in the narcissist’s persona. The narcissist feeds the borderline what they want and then the love bombing and constant attention stops and then the intermittent reinforcement begins. If you have ever dated someone with borderline personality disorder and one day they dump you by text, they have found a narcissist that they are enamored by. For many people who have codependent tendencies, if you were in a relationship with someone with borderline tendencies and one day they go silent, there is someone else in their life. A narcissist is very skilled at getting the attention of a borderline, pulling them in, and then playing them to get the borderline to basically beg to keep them. Listen to this podcast to learn why this connection initially looks like it works but how it is a ticking time bomb. These two are the perfect puzzle piece for the most painful relationships.

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Why do narcissistic relationships feel so incredible in the beginning and so painful later? In this episode, Ashley breaks down the cycle of narcissistic relationships, from love bombing, idealization to devaluation, gaslighting, receiving the silent treatment, and emotional control. Discover why we stay, why we try to get. back the beginning of the relationship, people stay, and why the beginning was not real. Learn how childhood conditioning, codependency, borderline personality disorder, and trauma bonds can keep you stuck. Most importantly, awareness is the first step toward breaking free and reclaiming your life.



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Are you currently dating? Trying to meet the right person? Are you currently on a dating app and working to meet someone who you connect with? In today's podcast, I am breaking down the 10 biggest dating red flags that can lead to manipulation, heartbreak, and unhealthy relationship patterns. From too much attention and love bombing to bringing up marriage on the second date, to jealousy, emotional manipulation, and hidden emotional baggage. Join me as I explain what these red flags look like, why we often overlook them, and how to recognize them before becoming emotionally and financially invested. Learn how to recognize unhealthy relationship patterns, how to protect yourself from toxic dynamics, and find healthier relationships based on trust and respect.

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There’s a specific type of narcissism that goes under the radar. It goes under the radar because it’s the opposite of what you think of when you think of narcissism. Overt narcissism is the most known type of narcissism where someone is the center of attention, extremely arrogant, and overpowering others. However one specific type of narcissism is even more toxic because it goes under the radar and surfaces when you are already deep into a relationship, partnership, or friendship. These people weaponize your fear over time to control, manipulate, and gaslight you. You may have a parent, family member, spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend who is a covert narcissist and you may not know it. You know something isn’t right, their are red flags, but you don’t realize who and what you are actually dealing with. Listen to this thirty minute episode and get the knowledge you need to see the truth, recognize the signs, see the red flags honestly, and later within the podcast ways to safeguard yourself in the process. 

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Are you accepting crumbs in your relationship? What does it mean to be crumbed? The beginning of a relationship can start in a very different way: lots of attention, love bombing, and admiration and then things change. Eventually the massive amount of attention begins to come to an end and you begin to get less and less. You don’t realize but the little attention you are receiving begins to be put on a pedestal by you and you aren’t realizing you are now cherishing the crumbs. Learn about crumbing and what it means in a relationship. Listen to the whole podcast to get advice and direction you can use to clearly move forward in a healthy and informed direction. 
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Unhealthy Relationships have One Common Denominator…FEAR…Unhealthy, toxic, and challenging relationships often begin with love bombing, massive amounts of attention from the other person, codependency, and an over-active mind creating a "perfect life" narrative that makes us overlook the red flags and jump in head first. Often we get into serious relationships, unhealthy marriages, and have children with people that we should not be in a relationship with. We pushed ourselves into these relationships because of the fear of being alone, fear of dying alone, and old school triggers of being the only child, having no one, and being abandoned by parents or family. Having a child with someone is the biggest “contract” you will ever make with someone…Choose wisely! This latest podcast will enlighten you, bring you awareness, and save your ass. Don’t let fear rule your life. 

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In this episode of The Ashley Berges Podcast: Who are you spending your time with? I'm exploring positivity, negativity, toxic positivity, and realist thinking today. How each way of thinking impacts your mindset, relationships, health, success rate, and overall well-being. I’m discussing how negativity drains energy, allows for victimhood, and creates mental and emotional roadblocks. Toxic positivity is something many people are not aware of and fall victim to criticism and negative judgment. Just as harmful as negativity is toxic positivity, where there is no empathy and full judgment if you are not rainbows and unicorns all the time. Listen to this short, under-thirty-minute podcast that will help to identify the energy you have, the energy of others, and how to protect yourself from people who are bringing you down.

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Have you ever felt like you’re constantly cleaning up someone else’s mess, but nothing ever changes? In this episode of the Ashley Berges Podcast, I ask: Do the people in your lives really want help, or are they just putting on a show and dragging us into it? I'm breaking down the key indications that someone isn’t ready to change, from blaming others and refusing accountability to projecting their insecurities. I also go into deep explanation on how enabling others keep us stuck and why setting boundaries is essential to protect our energy and our self-worth. These relationships don’t just affect the person stuck in the chaos; they also take a toll on the people around them. As friends or family members, we often spend countless hours trying to fix, advise, or rescue someone, losing sight of our own needs and priorities. The stress, anxiety, and emotional exhaustion can quietly reshape your life, your relationships, and even your well-being. If you’ve poured your time and love into someone trapped in chaos, this episode will give you clarity and help you stop enabling. If you are currently in a relationship where you are dealing with chaos and drama on a daily basis you can't miss this podcast it will help you!




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