The Authenticity Coach

Are there events, activities, interactions or conditions that, however enjoyable or unenjoyable, require an extended period of time for you to recover? Do you shame yourself or face criticism from others because you "should" be able to attend, host or participate without feeling so emotionally depleted, discombobulated & unproductive in the hours or days that follow?

We all have limits to our capacities. We all experience gaps between what is expected of us & what we are capable of doing without overextending ourselves.

To improve your well-being & productivity, come to know your unique personal limits. Make it a practice to ask yourself: What is the true cost to me in energy of doing this? Learn the importance of managing your energy -- not just your time.

If we want our lives to be transformed, we must change. In order for the changes in our actions to be enduring, we must change our beliefs. Our thoughts drive our feelings & our feelings drive our actions (and inactions).

Overcome limiting beliefs & contrary goals to that you can be, do & have what you dream. Learn how to transform your life by examining your thoughts & making seemingly small changes to your core beliefs.

Are you warm or powerful? Are you more charming or commanding? Do you convey intimacy or gravitas?

Become aware of your natural tendency & unlock the power of intentionally exhibiting a wider range of behaviors. Learn practical tips for becoming more comfortable with, & better skilled at, displaying approaches that convey both warmth & power.

See how your idea role supports your becoming a better version of yourself -- providing a forum for you to expand your span between warmth & power in ways that are both highly effective & authentic.

Is it about me, you or us? The viewpoint from which you perceive a situation impacts the choices you have, how you communicate with others & the outcomes you experience.

To instantly create new pathways where none existed, try shifting your perspective between me, you & us -- & switching your sentence structure between declarative, imperative & interrogative. Learn how to recognize your current viewpoint & create viable alternatives. Free yourself from feeling trapped & frustrated -- in a seemingly magical way.

Hurt & harm are not the same thing. Hurt is a feeling of pain; harm is actual damage. When we focus more on avoiding hurt than on preventing harm, we may unintentionally inflict great injury on ourselves & others.

Learn to differentiate hurt from harm, being liked from being loving & the importance of serving others from the urge to please. The wisdom afforded by these distinctions can protect us & those we care about. It grants us the power to open our lives -- & help others to open their lives -- to opportunities to live out our full potential.

How much support do you have in your pursuit of your dream or goal? Is it the type of support you most need? What type of support would be a game changer for you?

Dreams and goals need support to thrive!

Learn how to expand your circle of support -- & transform your ability to achieve your dreams & goals.

Do you feel hurt & let down by others? Are you frustrated in your efforts to build satisfying relationships where you receive as much as you give?

Learn a practical & powerful approach to building a life of greater respect, support & satisfaction. Ask yourself three critical questions to break away from bad treatment: Am I taking in too much? Am I holding onto too much? Am I doing too much?

Protect yourself, look for evidence of what you want & shake it off. Experience your feelings. Cut the ties to your pain. Identify your position on the Karpmann drama triangle. Recognize the ways in which you are a volunteer as much as you are a victim. Know your limits. And speak your truth.

Do you always seem to be asking to be "allowed" to do something? Are you waiting to be granted permission?

Learn to stop seeking a license from someone else to do what you have the right -- & the power -- to do. Shift your mindset & approach from the child-like entreating of, "Who will let me?" to the powerful stating of, "Who will stop me?"

Who signs your permission slip? You do!

If you are unhappy at work & you do not know what to do about it, you can start by distinguishing: Are you unhappy because you are hungry for more or because you are being eaten alive? Does the work leave you yearning for something more or different? Does the mission of the business fail to excite you? Are your colleagues harmless but uninspiring? If so, you may be hungry for more. Or is it that the work or workplace is draining your spirit & devouring your well-being? Do the expectations of the role or the culture of the organization conflict with your top values? If this your experience, you are likely being eaten alive.

Discover the probing questions to ask yourself that will help you to decide whether to stay or leave. Gain the clarity & the tools to stop being consumed by a workplace that is destructive to you. And learn how to start creating a life that feeds your hunger to express your natural tendencies & talents.

Do the social media chants to "Follow your passion!" & "Do what you love!" leave you feeling uninspired & even a bit irritated?

The Japanese have a word -- ikigai -- that means "reason for being." Your ikigai is where four aspects converge: what you love to do, what the world needs, what you are good at doing & what you can be paid to do.

Learn how to tap into the wisdom of this ancient concept -- & identify what most energizes you.