Before it became a respectable name on your dining room table, Oneida was something else entirely.
In the 1800s, religious leader John Humphrey Noyes set out to build a Christian utopia — a community free from greed, jealousy, and possessiveness. What he actually built was the Oneida Community: a theological experiment where one man decided he had transcended sin… and therefore didn’t have to follow the same moral rules as everyone else.
The result? Communal living, “complex marriage,” spiritualized control, and a slow-motion collapse that reads less like church history and more like satire — except it all really happened.
In this episode, we tell the story of how lofty ideals turned into deeply disturbing practices, how holiness language became a cover for abuse, and why the moment a leader believes they’re above accountability, everything starts unraveling.
It’s funny. It’s uncomfortable. It’s a cautionary tale for pastors and ministry leaders who might be tempted to give themselves small passes — the kind that feel harmless right up until they aren’t.
Listen now… and enjoy your silverware with a whole new level of awareness!