The Balancing Act

A conversation about social media and the obsession society has with posting only the highlights of the day self editing the not so highlights of the day. From Mark Madsen to a mention of Nickleback, yes Nickleback, we discuss the collective psychological inflexibilities of a society hooked on their phones and caught up with building up a facade of an ideal self.

In todays episode we discuss the traps we fall into when things don’t pan out as we expect. Do we fall into our inflexible patterns which lead to suffering or are we able to adapt and be flexible. From avoiding movie trailers to not pinning our hopes that the Dave Matthew’s Band will play a particular song, we discuss the importance of utilizing our ACT skills to “go with the flow” rather than become ridges and resort to being “no with the flow”.

Today’s episode is a discussion on what makes Star Wars’ C-3PO human and The Terminator a killing machine from the future. It is a chat about the habits we fall into in not wanting to stay in feelings that we find too uncomfortable and instead of staying in feelings we run away from them, and in essence, run from ourselves. This is a talk on the importance of keeping the “ing” on our feelings.

Cue the foreboding music from the movie Jaws todays episode focuses on the sharks in all of us that want to keep swimming because if the shark stops we sink into deep dark waters. Today we talk about the difference between committing action as an act of attraction versus an act of avoidance and the importance of facing our demons while chasing our stars.

Let’s face it, only playing defense isn’t enough in the battle against psychological inflexibility. The truth is we need a good offense as well as a good defense. Today we have a chat about using defense with defusion and offense with fusion and knowing how to use them differentially. Pulling simple wisdoms from Dave Matthew Band songs and avoiding the case of the Mondays the secretary from Office Space warned us about we discuss differential defusion and how it contributes to our pursuit of psychological flexibility.

We go unplugged, no script, all stutters, “ums”, and popped “p’s” to discuss the art of listening and how invalidating advice can be when people we care about are being vulnerable…

And some how Pulp Fiction gets mentioned.

From really bad Neil DeGrasse Tyson impersonations to the band Tool; comes a conversation about how we develop an aversion to effort and how it leads to psychological inflexibilities.

Today we talk concerts; from Dave Matthews Band, to Mutemath, to that great School of Rock band in South Miami down the street from my office we have a conversation about the Eternity we have in the Now and the importance of embracing the Now with gratitude, for later is not guaranteed, so start embracing Now with a big warm Hug.

Tapping into the imagination, inspiration, and commitment of Walt Disney comes a conversation about the kind of psychological flexibility one needs to chase dreams and the dangers of the Four Horseman of the InFlexibility Apocaplypse; FEAR.

We are back! Chatting about the torment of golfing, to the trials in CrossFit, and the tone deafness of guitar playing. Today’s episode is a discussion of the importance of mindset, how a growth mindset breeds resiliency, and uses the processes of psychological flexibility to help us keep swimming, while a fixed mindset traps us into a world of limits and stagnation, a place of psychological inflexibility.