The Beauty in the Mess

This episode is about Dr. Nicole Bradford sharing her wisdom of taking one step or one day at a time to achieve what you really want in life. Dr. Bradford discusses how what you say to yourself can either lead you closer to your goals or push you further away. You have the power to change the situation you are in. By taking one step or one day at a time, what you want in life is available to you.

Dr. Bradford tells you how to set 3 goals for yourself as well as 8 strategies for life. Additionally, she discusses topics such as how you have to learn to confront yourself. Stop accepting what you say to yourself as an automatic truth. Ask yourself, is it true? Is it advice you would give to your best friend? If not, then change what you are saying to yourself right away. Additionally, advocate for yourself. Stand up for yourself. You are worth the effort.

She also gives an analogy of walking through target and picking up things we don’t need or even want really. It is so similar to what we do in life, isn’t it? People say something mean or hurtful, and we put it in our basket. It is amazing to me how very little of the good things seem to go in the basket. We need to watch what we allow to go in our baskets for sure. I love how she also says that if someone says something that can be hurtful or limiting to you, just say you know what? I disagree and I am giving that back to you. I absolutely love that…even if you only say it in your mind, it is a powerful tool.

Dr. Nicole D. Bradford is energetic presenter that has overcome several challenges in her life including witnessing domestic violence as a child, workplace labels/limitations, supervising while young, and desiring success and being labeled and disliked by peers, and family members (both in-laws and outlaws). Dr. Bradford has been fortunate to work as a Professor, Vice President of Student Services, Teacher, Assistant Principal, and Campus Principal.

In This Episode:

·    You must confront yourself. (12:02)

·    Set three goals for yourself. (13:26)

·    Eight Strategies for life: MAINTAIN (15:43)

·    Watch what you put in your basket. (21:22)

Connect with Dr. Nicole Bradford:

·       Website: https://www.maintaintheflame.net

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This episode is about Kevin’s Last Walk with his dad, Barry Adkins. Barry’s story is about a father who lost his son from alcohol poisoning and who has been on a journey to find the meaning in that loss and turning that horrible experience into something wonderful or something “good” as Barry would say. Barry carried his 18-year-old son’s ashes in a backpack 1400 miles on foot to lay him in his final resting place and also bring attention to the dangers of alcohol poisoning. He has been educating people and saving lives ever since his son’s death.

It’s the type of loss, that if you haven’t been through it, you don’t even want to imagine it. However, Barry has discovered a way to find meaning in the loss of his son by educating people on the dangers of binge drinking alcohol, especially young people. Most of us hear about the dangers of drinking and driving, but the truth is, alcohol is toxic to the body, and too much of it can lead to horrible things, even death. This isn’t a message about not drinking alcohol, it is more about just being responsible with how much you consume in one sitting if you do drink.

The larger story of Barry finding good in the profound loss of his son is that Barry’s journey has brought him connections, learning, healing, and maybe even a little adventure, not to mention all of the people Barry is impacting and saving along the way. I am sure he is saving countless lives by educating people of the dangers of binge drinking.

Barry is an inspirational speaker who has shared his story with over 50,000 students and parents across the country, and he wants to continue sharing his story at schools, churches, on podcasts, etc. It is story that needs to be told!

In This Episode:

·       An unexpected knock on the door. (5:04)

·    Barry gets a message. (7:26)

·       Barry decides to take Kevin on one last walk. (11:13)

·       Barry teams up with Jake White and is continuing to make a difference. (27:43)

Connect with Barry Adkins:

·       Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kevinslastwalk

·       Website: https://www.kevinslastwalk.com

·       Barry’s Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v0blTIbbzO8&t=1

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This episode is about conquering fear and finding your true identity with Urmi Hossain. Urmi is a Bengali girl who was born and raised in Italy and has since relocated to Canada. She has struggled with identity problems and had to overcome a lot of fears along the way.

Have you ever thought about how much fear holds you back from doing what you are meant to do? Is fear a big hurdle in your life? Have you ever thought your fears could become your assets in life? If not, you should listen to what Urmi has to say. Although young, Urmi has learned to make fear her ally and not her enemy. Even more importantly by conquering her fears, she has discovered her true identity and is growing by leaps and bounds. Her mission in life is to inspire others to overcome their fears and follow their dreams. She wants to lead by example, and that she is.

In This Episode:

·    Instead of running from fear look at it as an opportunity. (7:10)

·    Urmi wrote a letter to her younger self. (8:02)

·    3 things that helped Urmi conquer fear. (10:35)

·    Moving to Canada forever changed Urmi’s life for the better. (17:45)

Connect with Urmi Hossain:

·       LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/urmi-hossain

·       Urmi’s Story: https://www.humansof2020.com/157-dear-younger-urmi/

·       Urmi’s book: https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0B75X14G7/ref=sr_1_2?crid=38ODHSOSYZ3W8&keywords=urmi+hossain&qid=1658373403&sprefix=urmi+hossain%2Caps%2C98&sr=8-2

·       Urmi’s blog- https://www.myways.ca/

·       Urmi’s YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZoiI0SGU0Xo9_lNjtLWtgg

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This episode is about living an uncommon and an extraordinary life with Terry Tucker. Maybe you can relate to this? Have you ever asked yourself if there is more to life than this? Have you ever wondered what your purpose in life is? And maybe even more importantly, have you ever thought, I can’t handle much more? If you have pondered these questions, and even if you haven’t, you should listen to the experiences that Terry has encountered, and the knowledge and wisdom he has to share. Terry is not only living an uncommon and extraordinary life, but he is doing it even though he has been battling cancer for the last 10 years and still is by the way. He has some advice and wisdom for all of us, that I personally feel we should all try to pay attention to and learn from.

You’ll hear him say during the podcast that he doesn’t have a big red S painted on his chest, but I think he secretly may. I have never met someone who is going through so much, and enduring so much pain, and yet, he still wants to help others daily. What an aspirational human being he is!

In This Episode:

·       Learn To Do Uncomfortable Things (10:54)

·     Have You Found Your Purpose In Life? (11:58)

·       Ever Wondered What Your True Breaking Point is? (17:22)

Connect with Terry Tucker:

·       Motivational Check: https://www.motivationalcheck.com/  

·       Sustainable Excellence Membership: sustainableexcellencemembership.com

·       LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/terry-tucker-9b5605179/

·       Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/motivationalcheck

·       Twitter:  https://mobile.twitter.com/terrytucker201

·       Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/sustainableexcellenceauthor/

·       Sustainable Excellence, Ten Principles to Leading Your Uncommon and Extraordinary Life - Amazon Link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08GLGVTVS

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Recovering from Eating Disorders with Alana Vandersluys

Today’s episode is dedicated to the recovering from eating disorders. How do you change your mindset? Change your relationship with food and control?

I’m joined by Alana Vandersluys who is happy to share her own journey from 3 undiagnosed eating disorders to becoming a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor.  She had orthorexia, binge eating disorder, and body dysmorphic disorder and now she is helping others change their relationship with food. Alana is also an author and a speaker.

Tune in to this 13th episode of The Beauty in the Mess to hear about how she is now helping people stop dieting and find health without obsession, restriction, and diets.

Some Questions Asked:

• What is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor? (02:24)
• What led to Alana becoming a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor? (02:34)
• Did Alana’s eating disorders happen at the same time or sequentially? (07:30)
• Is overeating in a way a disorder? (09:32)
• During her eating disorders, did she know this was abnormal behavior? (11:43)
• Is the scale still a trigger Alana? (17:03)
• Besides a promise to yourself and accountability, what else helps make recovery sustainable? (19:03)
• How does Alana help clients shift their mindset? (20:26)
• Is control one of the big issues with eating disorders? (22:31)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• Alana suffered from 3 eating disorders in her 20’s. (03:56)
• The evolution of Alana’s eating disorders. (24:38:05)
• People who suffer from eating disorders many times are suppressing a negative emotion that they don’t know how to deal with. (11:28)
• How did Alana make the shift or what led to her recovery? (14:05)
• Accountability has a big role in recovery. (15:24)
• Challenging your thoughts also has a big role in recovery (20:42)
• Alana’s book, Freedom with Food and Fitness. (23:47)
• Alana’s coaching program, Defy the Diet (26:29)

Connect with Alana Vandersluys:

·        Alana on Instagram: @freedomwithfoodandfitness

·        Facebook: Freedom with Food and Fitness

·        Facebook: Defy the Diet & Beat the Binge

·        Apple Podcasts: Finally Free Podcast

·     https://recoverywarriors.com/author/alana-van-der-sluys/

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Overcoming the Hurdles to Entrepreneurship with Aurora Burkhart

Today’s episode is dedicated to the journey of entrepreneurship. How do you make those first steps and overcome fear and doubts?

I’m joined by Aurora Burkhart who is happy to share her journey. When she first started out she limited herself because of not only her fears but other peoples’ doubts that she could make her dreams come true. She started on a path of personal development and ended up starting her own business, inventing a new product, and changing the course of her life.

Tune in to this 12th episode of The Beauty in the Mess to hear about how she broke through the fear barrier and is now hoping to help others break through their barriers.

Some Questions Asked:

• Why did her family discourage her dream of entrepreneurship? (04:07)
• How do you know what areas of your life to change? (07:16)
• What did confidence look like for Aurora and how did she find it? (08:49)
• Did therapy change her course? (10:54:05)
• Did she always know what kind of business she wanted to start? (12:43)
• Did her invention end up launching her business? (13:58)
• Was her husband onboard with all these changes? (14:06)
• Is personal development an ongoing thing for Aurora? (15:46)
• Besides freedom, what other gifts came from becoming an entrepreneur? (18:12)
• What advice would she give someone else who wants to become an entrepreneur? (22:13)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• Living the same day for 50 years. (15:56)
• Les Brown: Imagine you are on your deathbed surrounded by the ghosts of unfulfilled potential. (22:25:05)
• The birth of Andiamo Homes LLC. (23:56:05)
• Aurora’s intentions is to give people time back. (25:30)
• Your comfort zone is a dangerous place. (26:45)

Connect with Aurora at Andiamo Home Goods:

• www. https://andiamohomegoods.com/

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Sometimes the Biggest Loser is the Biggest Winner with Megan Hoffman

Today’s special guest is Megan Hoffman from the USA’s Biggest Loser. She was the At-Home Winner of the show’s reboot season in 2020. She is a model, Keynote Motivational Speaker, and Author who primarily focuses on Personal Development, Health & Wellness, and Body Positivity. She has been a leader in the Fitness Industry for over a decade and after overcoming her own weight loss battle has made it her life’s passion to help other break free from self-imposed limitations. She has been featured on People, E-news, USA, The Reality TV, Women’s Health, PC Pop culture, Floor 8, Blog talk Radio, the Showbiz Cheat Sheet, Deadline, Prevention, and Simi Valley Acorn.

She is not only gorgeous on the on the outside, but she is just as beautiful on the inside. Her motto is, “you don’t have to be the fastest, you don’t have to be the strongest, you just have to keep going,” and that she has. She has not only worked tirelessly on her body, but she has worked tremendously hard on her mindset as well, and she is happy to share all that she has learned.

Tune in to this 11th episode of The Beauty in the Mess to hear about Megan’s experiences and learn from her wisdom.

Some Questions Asked:

• How do you sit with that emotion and not go to food? (07:57)
• She found confidence and the self-love before the weight loss. (11:20)
• What do you think that Biggest Loser taught you that you hadn't already learned on your own? (32:44)
• Do you feel like they prepped you well mentally? Or do you feel like you had done most [00:38:00] of that? What they taught you already? (37:53)
• What do you think the key, as far as the losing weight part has been for you, is it the macros or just the consistency or meal prep or what do you think? All the above? (41:40)
• Prior to the surgery, what was your total weight loss? Or even now? (01:00:11)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• The trap of romanticizing weight loss. (02:06) (13:56)
• Cleaning up your social media. (03:52) (19:58)
• The importance of keeping promises to yourself. (05:35) (12:54)
• Learning not to numb out on food. (07:57)
• Never start over again. (16:22)
• Consistency is key. (18:43) (41:52)
• Setting yourself up for success; asking for help; finding support and accountability. (19:41) (35:31) (43:55) (52:57)
• What got you to the point of weight loss is what will keep you there. (49:34)
• Just get started. (56:06)
• God has a way for you to succeed. (01:03:19)

Connect with Megan:

• Megan Hoffman on Instagram: @iamhoffy
• Megan Hoffman's Facebook Profile

·        http://iamhoffy.com/

Kelly Hudson’s Book available on Amazon:

Losing, Learning, and Loving: Through Christ's Example, Learn How Contestants on a Reality Weight-Loss Show Achieve Wellness by Healing Body, Mind, and Soul 

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Honoring the Life and Promise of Ed Carney with Cheryl Carney

Today’s episode is dedicated to remembering the life journey of Ed Carney, a dedicated follower of Christ and a self-proclaimed “dirty dog sinner saved by grace.” Ed spent much of his life sharing his testimony with others and leading many to Christ, keeping a promise to God that he made long ago in prison. He had told God, while in prison, that if God would forgive him for everything he had done wrong, he would serve Him for the rest of his life. Ed kept that promise. Although Ed’s life was over too soon, he made the most of it, with Cheryl, his wife, by his side. Ed loved God, Jesus, his wife, and kids.

I’m joined by Cheryl who is happy to share Ed’s story, some of his testimony, and a lot of wisdom that Ed liked to share.

Tune in to this 10th episode of The Beauty in the Mess to hear about how Ed’s experiences and wisdom helped others along their path.

Some Questions Asked:

• So how did the police show up? Did somebody tip them off hat he had drugs? (02:18:05)
• So did they turn him in trying to lessen their own sentence? (03:11:05)
• So, it’s a Pastor that would come to the prison? (06:38)
• To try to get out on parole, right? (07:40)
• Some of that was due to the charges being trumped up a little bit, wasn’t it…and that is why the judge decided to let him go? (08:24)
• Was the Hepatitis from the drug use? (13:23)
• How many years of his life did he go around giving his testimony? (23:12:05)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• Ed gets arrested for possession of drugs. (01:58)
• Ed’s bond gets set at $147,000 in 1988. (02:53)
• A random man hands Ed a Bible through the bars at prison. Acts 2:41-42 changed Ed’s life.  (03:52)
• Ed makes a promise to God which he kept for the rest of his life. (04:23)
• Ed meets World Champion Boxer, Mike Tyson, in prison. (05:27)
• Ed gets miraculously released from jail early. (08:40)
• Ed starts going to churches to give his testimony. (09:02)
• Some of Ed’s testimony. (10:17)
• Ed finds out he has Hepatitis C. (11:53)
• Ed and Cheryl ran Celebrate Recovery in Frankfort for 10 years. (14:16)
• Ed’s parents and Ed pass away from Covid within day of each other. (15:16)
• Story of Ed finding a journal entry of a prayer he had made long ago that had come true. (16:41)
• Ed says he is a “dirty dog sinner, only saved by grace.” (17:47)
• At Ed’s funeral, a relevant poem that he had written long ago that Cheryl had never seen before falls out of his Bible. The poem was, “What Heaven Means to Me.” (19:23)

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Removing the Veil with Stacy Henderson

Unfortunately, many people have come from a place of abuse or neglect in their lives. Stacy, who with God’s help, is now working through and overcoming her past, is now helping others transform their lives.

I’m joined by Stacy Henderson, who is a Christian woman who has worked in the healthcare field for the past 20 years. She has 3 children, 2 stepchildren, and makes her home in Anderson, IN, with her husband Brent. She has created a blog called Women Unveiled on Facebook where she shares stories, prayers, and messages of healing and hope. She has now also joined forces with her husband who is a professional nationwide speaker. In their “Coming Together” conferences, they help men and women come to a deeper understanding of who they truly are in Christ and how they can live a life of purpose, courage, and confidence.

Tune in to this 9th episode of The Beauty in the Mess to hear about how Stacy’s experiences and wisdom are now helping other people to not only find their purpose in life, but to start living it.

Some Questions Asked:

• Where did she (mom) go? (05:01:05)
• Do you think, looking back, that she really didn’t know, and it was embarrassing so she just stuck to that story? (12:58:05)
• So, so far has she ever acknowledged what she put you and your sisters through or said she was sorry? (19:31)
• So, how did you do that, I mean…what does that look like (surrendering your entire being to God)? (23:55:05)
• So, if you are feeling the unconditional love from God, which I think is awesome, is that helping you give yourself love and helping your self-worth? (27:21)
• So, you mean trust His (God’s) timing of things or? (31:53)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• Stacy’s first introduction to God. (05:22)
• Stacy, feeling unloved and unwanted, makes the decision to commit suicide 5 days before high school graduation. (06:36)
• A friend suggests that Stacy make a plea for the identity of her father on Facebook. (14:29)
• In 2019, an Ancestry DNA tests leads to the identity of her father, but he is deceased. (15:26)
• Stacy’s second & successful attempt at forgiving her mom. (16:44)
• Everyone has a story, and given the lies they are buying into, they are acting the way they should be acting. (21:08)
• TEA Thoughts, Emotions, and Actions (23:19)
• Stacy is now sharing her testimony at conferences and blogging, “Women Unveiled.” (25:23)
• Your worth and value come from Christ and Christ only. (28:02)

Connect with Stephanie:

• Stacy Henderson's Facebook Profile
• https://unleashed.men/woman-unveiled/

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The Art of Parenting Adult Children with Lori Badry

Many of us have children who are now adults or will be before we know it. There is a difference in how you parent your children when they are minors versus how you parent them as adults. The role you play in their lives, whether we like it or not, changes. It must change.

I’m joined by Lori Badry, who is a Christian woman with a wonderful husband, 3 adult children, and 3 beautiful grandchildren. Education was her career of choice as she was a teacher for 34 years. Now she is happily retired, with a side gig that brings her a lot of joy.

Lori had to learn the transition to parenting adult children the hard way. She made a mistake, and it forced the need changes in her life. She wanted God to put instructions on a neon sign, but instead He told her to be still and look inward. Through a journey of personal development, growing closer with the Holy Spirt, and growing closer with her husband she has found peace and balance in her life. Now she wants to share with other parents how to navigate parenting adult children so that they don’t find themselves in a perfect storm the way she did. She is so open and vulnerable and so willing to help. You will enjoy listening to her journey.

Tune in to this 8th episode of The Beauty in the Mess to hear about how Lori’s experiences and wisdom are now helping other parents navigate this new way of approaching parenting of adult children.

Some Questions Asked:

• What do you think she meant at the time (speaking to the fact that her therapist had just told her that she ‘was not that important’)? (08:59)
• Do you think some of that micromanaging your children was just the need to be needed? (10:46)
• So, for people that want to avoid that perfect storm but still have the same results you’ve had, what do you think the number one thing to do is? (14:54)
• So, is he (husband) kind of on the same path? Was he doing the prayer and the personal development as well or was that mostly your journey? (18:30)
• How do you do that without feeling guilty that you are not offering that solution (to your kids)? (23:69)
• What does strengthening your relationship with your husband look like now (26:69)?

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• You are not as important as you think you are (08:58)
• Find personal development material that will help you grown and find your purpose (15:24)
• Find a therapist to help you work through things if needed (16:19)
• Prayer before anything (17:30)
• Talk About It Saturdays (17:69)
• Reconnect with your spouse (18:68)
• Ask Adult children if they are wanting a sounding board or advice (19:74)
• Kids change from your kids to your friends (30:58)
• Don’t let your emotions be the decisive factor in your decisions (31:61)

Connect with Stephanie:

• Lori Badry's Facebook Profile
• [email protected]

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