The Beauty in the Mess

Expanding Your Comfort Zone with Stephanie Oden

Many of us are introverts. From a business perspective, the world requires that you put yourself out there as far as social media all other sorts of interactions.

I’m joined by Stephanie Oden, who is an entrepreneur, a life and business strategist, an author, an engineer, a Certified Results Coach and a Certified Success Principles Trainer as well as a successful Network and Affiliate Marketing Professional. In addition, she is a self-professed introvert who extroverts really well.

She found herself with the life she always wanted, as far as the 6-figure income, a husband, two kids, two cats, a great position at work, a company car, and all the things. However, something was missing. She hid her pain, until she couldn’t. That served as the catalyst to make huge changes in her life.

She now helps other introverted entrepreneurs connect what they are doing with the core of who they are.

Tune in to this 7th episode of The Beauty in the Mess to hear about how Stephanie’s experiences and talents are now helping other introverts find their power and their voice to accomplish their purpose in life.

Some Questions Asked:

• How do you overcome that feeling of I can’t because I define myself in this way (introvert)? (02:42)
• Do you want to describe what that part of your journey was like (messy/dark part)? (04:12)
• So, what was the catalyst to try to turn that around for you, then, if you didn’t even, at that point, desire to get out of it? What changed? (05:57)
• Do you feel it is harder for an introvert? (13:10)
• Speaking of being an author, you have written two books. Is that correct? And you have co-authored a third book? (24:45)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• Stephanie’s struggles with feeling a major void (04:17)
• God was the changing factor in turning things around (06:01)
• The impact of your own words on your physical health & your actions (07:33)
• Pulling the gifts and the strengths out of other introverts (08:47)
• Practicing self-forgiveness and self-gratitude (16:20)
• Don’t try to disconnect from your past. (18:26)
• Letting go of the illusion that balance exists in life (21:07)
• Stephanie’s books (24:50)
• Expanding your comfort zone (26:47)

·        Stephanie’s upcoming Masterclass for Introvert Entrepreneurs 2022 Summer Session:

Quiet Conqueror Sales Accelerator (29:43)

Connect with Stephanie:

• Stephanie Oden's Facebook Profile
• Stephanie Oden's LinkedIn Profile
• Stephanie Oden's Website
• Stephanie Oden's Marketing & Mindset Newsletter
• Stephanie Oden's Masterclass, Quiet Conqueror Sales Accelerator

Let's Connect!

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• Instagram: the.beauty.in.the.mess
• The Beauty in The Mess Website

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Using Art To Cope With Mental Health Struggles With Jennifer Mazur

Mental health struggles such as ADD, anxiety, and depression are issues that many people from childhood to adulthood have to deal with. People learning to cope with these conditions can sometimes be stigmatized or end up feeling shame about their conditions. With Covid, it has increased the wait times for people who are seeking help with these struggles. That is why the importance of having alternative avenues is vital.

Today, I’m glad to be joined by Jennifer Mazur, a mental health artist. Jennifer’s mental health struggles started in childhood, and she has learned to cope with them using her creativity and art. She now uses her experiences to help others who are facing the same problems she faced.

We’ll be diving into the issues of mental health struggles and the impact that it can have on someone. This is a very informative conversation where you’ll get to understand the issues that people with these struggles face and an alternative means of help. 

Tune in to this sixth episode of The Beauty in the Mess to hear about how Jennifer’s experiences and talents are now helping others cope with mental health struggles.

Some Questions Asked:

• Where did you ever figure out where this (mental health struggles) originated from? (03:41)
• How did you break out of this then? How did you start to overcome? (04:39)
• How long have you been helping children with this? And do you help adults too? (16:01)
• So, in the future are you going to divide the adults that are struggling with these issues themselves from the parents of children who are struggling? (20:31)
• What kind of feedback are you hearing from these parents if you don’t mind sharing? (21:08)
• Besides the paid memberships and the different groups where do you see yourself going with this (in the future)? Do you have any projections beyond that?

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• Jennifer’s struggles with mental health issues as a young child (02:02)
• At 40 years of age Jennifer finally receives a diagnosis (02:30)
• The 3 things Jennifer does every day to keep herself in check (08:26)
• Jennifer decided to try to start educating people about the stigmas surrounding mental health and what they do to people (13:30)
• Jennifer decided to start helping people with mental health struggles who didn’t consider themselves artists and started offering free workshops as a means to do this (16:48)
• People are waiting forever for help due to the pandemic and these workshops help bridge that gap (17:54)
• Jennifer just released a new program with 4 openings that is customized for the specific child (23:20)

Connect with Jennifer:

• Jennifer Mazur's Facebook Profile
• Jennifer Mazur's Facebook Group
• Jennifer Mazur's Instagram

Let's Connect!

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• Instagram: the.beauty.in.the.mess
• Website

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Trigger Warning: In this episode, we will briefly touch on suicide and/or suicidal thoughts during this discussion. If this may trigger extreme emotional distress for you, you should skip today’s episode. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline immediately, which is available 24 hours a day at 1-800-273-8255.

The recovery journey from substance abuse is rarely straight or completely predictable. Patients have to deal with many setbacks as well as the negative feelings that come with them, which can lead to self-hate. That’s why it is important to have a supportive community that can help them in moments of weakness.

Today, I’m glad to be joined by Melanie Dacquisto, Certified Addictions Registered Nurse. Melanie had a long struggle with substance abuse and she now uses her experience to help addicts using the harm reduction principle.

You’ll hear about her childhood experiences and how they contributed to her substance abuse problems. You’ll also find out the reason she decided to get clean and how she has sustained that for a decade.  Additionally, you’ll learn about the harm reduction principle and how it helps people with substance abuse disorder.

Tune in to this fifth episode of The Beauty in the Mess to hear about an interesting journey from harmed to harmless.

Some Questions Asked:

• Do you think your mom was aware that you were drinking at 16? (06:09)
• Did your boyfriend’s parents help you with your son? (23:25)
• How were you accessing drugs without the nursing job? (32:41)
• Do you see the harm reduction principle helping more people become sober? (43:50)
• Do you feel like being around substance abuse users puts you at risk? (46:11)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• How Melanie ended up in a girls' group home (12:29)
• The reason people who’ve had an abusive childhood get into abusive relationships (20:21)
• How addiction led to her losing her job (23:45)
• What motivated her to get clean (34:17)
• The use of the harm reduction principle in treating people with substance abuse disorder (43:50)

Connect with Melanie:

• LinkedIn
• Email

Let's Connect!

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• Instagram
• Website

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With empathy, you are quick to listen and slow to judge. In today’s world, it's vice versa, people are fast to judge and they barely listen. And when they listen, they do with the intention of replying and not understanding. That’s how we miss a golden opportunity to support and encourage each other when going through tough times.

It's also important to note that empathy is only effective when reasonable limits are set. If you get too attached to a problem being faced by another person, you are most likely unable to help the person going through it. Empathy should be approached with caution and intention for it to be a useful path to encouragement and support.

In this episode, we’ll dive deep into empathy and the potential impact it can create. We’ll also discuss its different forms and the qualities of each of them. Additionally, you’ll hear about how to best deploy it to create a maximum positive impact on those who need it.

Tune in to this fourth episode of The Beauty in the Mess to hear about the importance of empathy.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• Signs of an empathy deficit disorder (00:34)
• Qualities of a person who is an empath (02:30)
• The four qualities of empathy (04:28)
• The importance of setting limits as an empath (09:55)
• The different forms of empathy (11:42)
• What to look for when evaluating whether you are lacking empathy (15:43)

Biblical References:

• James 1:17
• John 10:10

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• Instagram
• Website

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Trigger Warning: In this episode, we will briefly touch on suicide and/or suicidal thoughts during this discussion. If this may trigger extreme emotional distress for you, you should skip today’s episode. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline immediately, which is available 24 hours a day at 1-800-273-8255. 

Mental health and addiction are big problems that until recently had not been getting enough attention. People going through them were stigmatized and that shame made it difficult for them to seek the help they really needed. At the moment, there is less stigma and many support groups are now available to those who need help. However, there is still a lot remaining to be done to increase the effectiveness and accessibility of the treatment programs.

Today, I’m glad to be joined by Rita Tattersall, a licensed addiction and mental health counselor. Rita’s journey is unique: she struggled with substance use disorder and now uses her experience to help others who are facing the same problems she faced.

We’ll be diving into the issues of substance use disorder and the impact that it has on both the addict and those close to them. This is a very informative conversation where you’ll get to understand an addict's perspective as well as a counselor's perspective. 

Tune in to this third episode of The Beauty in the Mess to hear about how a painful past is now helping and comforting others.

Some Questions Asked:

• What do you think was the source of the suicidal thoughts? (17:09)
• Were you fully aware of the consequences of your substance use disorder? (21:04)
• How did you, in your mind, justify putting your employer at risk? (28:10)
• What allows you to become sustainable in your recovery, and how do you even start? (29:34)
• What do you feel is the most significant gift that's come out of your addiction? (46:45)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• The importance of person-centered language (03:05)
• Rita’s first experience with a therapist (10:21)
• Why loved ones make excuses for people with substance use disorder (21:46)
• How Rita approached the 12 Steps Program the second time (34:08)
• What led Rita to become a counselor (39:24)

Connect with Rita:

• Facebook
• LinkedIn
• Instagram

Useful Resources:

• Signal for Help Ministries
• The Oasis Counseling Center
• Chuck McCoskey’s Recovery Ministry

Let's Connect!

• Facebook: The Beauty in the Mess podcast 
• Instagram
• Website

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Fear is designed to keep us safe and alert us when we try to venture into circumstances that can result in mental or physical harm. If you want to reach specific goals that seem out of reach and require you to step out of your comfort zone, then fear will be the first obstacle you encounter. In many cases, people have failed to even take that first step out of their box because they are overwhelmed by it. However, fear also plays an important role in keeping us alert and prepared for potentially dangerous situations.

In most cases, fear is used to justify not stepping out of the comfort zone. It's a story with vivid imagery and exaggerated consequences that people tell their minds to help justify inaction. While you cannot eliminate fear from your life completely, you can learn to manage it, lessen it, or use it as leverage.

Today, I’m happy to uncover the anatomy of fear and how you can work through it in a positive as well as productive way. We’ll talk about the different tools that are at your disposal when faced with the different types of fear. We’ll also look at why you are attached to your comfort zone and how you can step out of it with confidence.

Tune in and join me in this second episode of The Beauty in the Mess, and let's walk hand in hand on this self-discovery path.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• Why posting about my podcast on social media was difficult (01:04)
• The different types of fear (04:59)
• Working through fear in a positive way (07:46)
• Using gratitude to push fear out of your brain (13:09)
• How to use fear as a motivation tool (14:46)
• Two reasons why you prefer to stay in your comfort zone (17:28)

Let's Connect!

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• Instagram
• Website

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Growing up, we put together the pieces of our identity mainly based on what people say about us. What we hear is what we become. At the same time, a subconscious process is running in the background; our brain is listening and paying particular attention to the negatives. Why? Because our brain's primary function is to keep us alive, it might also be dangerous if something sounds harmful. That's why compliments, praises, and eulogies pass by, barely noticed, and insults, mean comments, and humiliating remarks stick.

After realizing the words, I kept repeating in my head about who I was contributed to building the feeling of unworthiness I was trapped in, I decided to step up for myself. I realized I allowed other people's words to put me in a box, and I also taught those around me to keep me there.

Today, I share the transformational journey I started in the past few years and the moment I gave myself permission to change, get out of my box, and let go of insecurities, self-doubt, and the limiting beliefs that stopped me from becoming who I was meant to be. I also share a simple yet effective seven-step process to help you eliminate the parts of your identity that no longer serve you.

Tune in and join me in this first episode of The Beauty in the Mess, and let's walk hand in hand on this self-discovery path.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• We create our identities based on what we hear about ourselves (2:33)
• If you believe something strong enough, good or bad, your subconscious mind will help you make it come true (8:40)
• About my unboxing process (10:41)
• Asking for guidance, strength, and wisdom (11:08)
• How I started my podcasting journey and what was stopping me from doing it (14:12)
• The importance of practicing gratitude and forgiveness (18:37)

Let's Connect!

• Facebook: The Beauty in the Mess podcast 
• Instagram
• Website

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