If you're constantly spinning through the same painful emotions after betrayal - anger, resentment, blame - feeling like you're stuck in an endless cycle that never gets better, this episode will change everything for you. Katie shares a hilarious (and slightly embarrassing) story about an Andes mint binge gone wrong that perfectly illustrates the difference between clean pain and dirty pain. You'll discover why that anger and blame actually feels good in the moment but keeps you trapped, and learn to identify the deeper emotions underneath that will actually set you free.

Katie breaks down exactly how to recognize when you're indulging in "dirty pain" (those surface-level emotions that feel productive but keep you stuck) versus getting to the "clean pain" underneath (the sadness, grief, and hurt that actually heal you when processed). When you learn to feel your emotions without all the stories and meaning your brain attaches to them, you'll stop being afraid of your husband's next relapse. You'll finally have the tools to handle anything that comes your way with confidence and peace, because you'll trust yourself completely.

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If you've ever felt like your emotions were completely running you instead of you running them, you're not alone. Maybe you've snapped at your kids over something tiny, thrown something in a moment of rage, or found yourself sobbing in your car wondering what's wrong with you. In this episode, I'm sharing one of my most embarrassing stories – the day I completely lost it and smashed my phone into pieces – and everything I learned about why our emotions feel so out of control when we're dealing with betrayal.

The truth is, when you're carrying unprocessed emotions and trauma, your "bucket" gets fuller and fuller until it eventually spills over in ways that don't align with who you want to be. I'm breaking down the red flags that show your nervous system is dysregulated, why avoiding your emotions actually makes them stronger, and the exact process I teach my clients to empty their emotional buckets in healthy, effective ways. You'll learn the difference between temporary relief (like checking his phone) and actual healing, plus what it looks like to show up as the woman, wife, and mom you truly want to be.

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If you're holding onto thoughts like "my husband doesn't love me" or "I'm not enough" so tightly that they're all you can see, you're being blinded by your own mind. Maybe these thoughts feel so true and so real that you can't imagine thinking any other way. You wake up with them, go to bed with them, and they color every interaction you have with your husband. What if I told you that these thoughts – even though they feel absolutely true – might not be facts at all?

In this episode, I'm sharing my personal experience with intrusive thoughts that feel 100% real (spoiler: they involve a breastfeeding condition), and how this relates to the thoughts that are keeping you stuck in betrayal. I'll teach you the difference between thoughts that are rocks right in front of your face versus thoughts you can mold like putty, plus the three powerful questions that will help you determine if your most painful thoughts are actually true or just your dysregulated nervous system screaming for attention. You'll also learn why looking at your thoughts (like looking at a jump while horseback riding) will make you crash right into them.

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If you're feeling frustrated because you had a great morning of prayer and journaling, only to find yourself spiraling by lunchtime when your husband's phone buzzes – you're not alone. Maybe you're wondering why healing feels like such an exhausting roller coaster, or beating yourself up because you thought you were "past" that trigger that just completely derailed your day. The truth is, you're probably making your healing journey harder than it needs to be because you're expecting it to be linear.

In this episode, I'm sharing why healing is supposed to feel like one step forward and two steps back (and why that's actually a good sign you're making progress). I'll walk you through the spiral staircase concept that will completely change how you view your setbacks, plus real examples from language learning, fitness, and parenting that prove this is exactly how growth works. You'll learn the powerful question to ask yourself next time you feel like you're "back where you started" and hear an incredible two-year transformation story from one of my clients that will give you hope for your own journey.

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If you're spiraling because your husband lied to you again, feeling angry that he relapsed, or beating yourself up for checking his phone when you "know better" – you're caught in what I call the Shouldn't Trap. It's that sneaky voice in parentheses saying (he shouldn't be lying), (I shouldn't be feeling this way), (this shouldn't be happening). And here's the truth: that little word "shouldn't" is causing you more pain than whatever's actually happening in your reality.

In this episode, I'm exposing the hidden trap that's keeping you stuck in cycles of judgment, criticism, and suffering. I'll show you why fighting against what IS only makes everything worse, and teach you the powerful question that instantly shifts you from resistance to peace. When you learn to drop the "shouldn't" and ask yourself "Why does it make so much sense that this is happening?" – everything changes. You'll stop exhausting yourself fighting reality and start finding meaning, compassion, and actual solutions.

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If you're wondering where God is in the middle of your husband's porn addiction, feeling abandoned by Him when you need Him most, or questioning why He would let this happen to your marriage – you're not alone. Maybe you've been crying out in prayer, begging for this to be taken away, only to feel like heaven is silent. I get it. I've been in that bathroom at 2 AM, sobbing and wondering if God even cared about my pain.

In this episode, I'm sharing how I learned to see God's hand in my betrayal story – not just looking back, but even in the darkest moments when it felt like He'd abandoned me. I'll tell you about the life-changing moment in a church meeting that shifted everything for me, why your betrayal might actually be part of God's plan (not a mistake), and how to find His presence even when your husband relapses again. Plus, I'm revealing the powerful question that will help you see your current struggle from an eternal perspective.

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If you've ever walked into Target with your husband and felt your chest tighten, your mind race, and your body go into full panic mode – you're not alone. Maybe for you it's not Target. Maybe it's the beach, the gym, or even just seeing him close his phone screen. Whatever it is, that feeling of being completely hijacked by a "harmless" situation is exhausting, and it's running your life.

In this episode, I'm breaking down what's really happening in your brain when you get triggered (hint: it has nothing to do with Target), why avoiding your triggers is actually making them worse, and the sneaky way your mind is using these triggers to keep you stuck. I'll share my own humiliating beach meltdown from early in my recovery and reveal the exact process I used to go from full-blown panic attacks to actual peace. Plus, I'm giving you the step-by-step framework to start untangling your triggers this week.

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You say you want to heal from betrayal. You want to stop feeling anxious, stop snooping on his phone, and finally feel peace in your marriage. But here's the truth I'm sharing today: most women want the outcome without the "become." They want the destination without the journey, the results without the transformation. And that's exactly why they stay stuck for years.

In this episode, I'm getting real about what it ACTUALLY takes to heal from betrayal – and why your DIY approach with podcasts and self-help books isn't working. I'll share my own humbling business story about wanting $200K without becoming a $200K entrepreneur (spoiler: it didn't work), and I'll walk you through the 4 emotional stages every woman goes through on her healing journey. Plus, I'm calling out the sneaky trap of quitting right before your breakthrough and why 99.9% of people never make it to the other side.

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If you're constantly spinning between blaming your husband for looking at porn and then turning around and blaming yourself for not being enough, you're trapped in a vicious cycle that's keeping you stuck. You know that exhausting mental ping-pong where you go from "He's ruining our marriage!" to "Maybe if I was prettier/better/different..." – and neither thought brings you any peace?

In this episode, I'm exposing the sneaky blame-shame trap that's secretly sabotaging your healing (hint: it has nothing to do with whose fault it actually is). I'll show you exactly how to break free from this destructive pattern and share the radical mindset shift that changed everything in my own marriage. Plus, I'm getting vulnerable about my own struggle with this just last night – because yes, even coaches get caught in this trap sometimes!

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The pain and hurt you're feeling from your husband's porn use isn't actually from his porn use – it's from what you're making his behaviors mean about you. In today's episode, I'm diving deep into the lies you believe about yourself. These aren't lies that other people are telling you – these are lies you've been telling yourself, and they started way before your husband's porn problem.

Most of the negative beliefs we carry about ourselves were developed before we were 8 years old. Your brain has been gathering evidence for these beliefs for years, and now your husband's porn use is just shining a spotlight on wounds that were already there. But here's the good news: just like your brain learned to believe these lies through repetition, you can rewire it to believe the truth about who you are.

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