Do you constantly feel behind, even when you’re doing everything you’re supposed to be doing?

In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the biggest misconceptions moms carry: that feeling behind means you’re bad at time management. The truth is, most moms aren’t struggling because they’re disorganized or undisciplined, they’re struggling because they’re carrying an invisible mental and emotional load that never turns off.

If you’ve ever felt like your brain is always running, even when you finally sit down to rest… this episode is for you.

We talk about what mental load really is, why traditional productivity and time-management advice often misses the mark for moms, and how invisible labor and emotional responsibility contribute to chronic overwhelm. Most importantly, we unpack why feeling behind does not mean you’re failing, and how to release that belief with compassion.

This episode isn’t about doing more or fixing your life overnight. It’s about understanding what you’re carrying, why it feels so heavy, and learning how to reduce mental load in a way that fits real life.

You’ll also learn a simple, practical reset you can implement today to help quiet the mental noise, externalize what you’re holding in your head, and begin creating relief without adding more to your plate.

If you’re tired of feeling like you can’t keep up, and ready for a more supportive, realistic approach, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.

Why feeling “behind” has very little to do with time management

What mental load actually is (and why it’s so exhausting for moms)

Invisible labor and emotional overwhelm no one talks about

Why rest doesn’t feel restful when your mind won’t shut off

How shame and self-blame add to burnout

A simple, actionable way to reduce mental load starting today

How to reframe the belief that you’re failing with compassion

Why carrying less, not doing more, is the real solution

00:00:00     Introduction and Welcome

00:03:00     The Feeling of Falling Behind

00:09:00     Understanding Mental Load

00:15:00     Practical Steps to Manage Load

00:21:00     Changing Your Relationship with Pressure

00:27:00     Conclusion and Encouragement

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Have you ever set a habit with the best intentions… only to watch it slowly fade away?

If you’ve ever wondered why some changes never seem to stick, especially in seasons where life already feels full, you’re not alone. And it’s not because you lack discipline or motivation.

In this episode, we explore the powerful difference between habits and rituals, and why understanding that distinction can change the way you approach growth, self-care, and consistency (especially as a mom).

Drawing inspiration from the work of Michael Bungay Stanier, author of The Coaching Habit, this conversation reframes behaviour change in a way that feels realistic, compassionate, and sustainable. We talk about why resistance is a normal part of change, how to design around it, and why returning matters more than staying perfect.

You’ll also hear a personal story about skincare, not as an anti-aging routine, but as a ritual rooted in self-worth, nervous system regulation, and the belief that you deserve to be taken care of.

This episode is an invitation to stop forcing change, and start supporting yourself instead.

The key difference between habits and rituals, and why it matters

Why habits often fall apart in real life (especially for moms)

How rituals create meaning, flexibility, and self-trust

Why resistance is inevitable when trying something new

How to work with resistance instead of fighting it

Why starting small and easy makes change more sustainable

The power of support and not doing change alone

Why slipping doesn’t mean failing, and how returning creates real progress

You don’t need more discipline or a full life overhaul. You need habits and rituals that meet you where you are, and permission to return without guilt when life gets messy.

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0:00   Introduction and Acknowledgment

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In this episode, we’re talking about the truth behind “me time”, and why it often doesn’t work for moms the way we’re told it should.

So much self-care advice assumes life is calm, predictable, and manageable. But what happens when it’s not? When you’re navigating grief, stress, caregiving, emotional exhaustion, or simply carrying the weight of everything that needs to get done?

Lisa shares openly about her own recent season of loss and uncertainty, including the passing of her grandmother, her dad being in the ICU, and spending much of Christmas at the hospital. Through this experience, she reflects on why me time can feel impossible (and even ineffective), when it’s unplanned, unprotected, and treated as an afterthought.

This episode explores the shift from accidental self-care to intentional self-support, and why planning for yourself before the week begins can be a powerful act of self-respect. Lisa introduces the concept of Monday Hour One, also known as Sunday Service Sessions, as a gentle, compassionate way to check in with yourself, protect your energy, and create space for care — even when life feels heavy.

You’ll hear why starting with your own needs matters, how to treat your personal care like a non-negotiable appointment, and how intentional planning can help you feel supported inside your life instead of constantly trying to escape it.

This is a grounded, honest conversation for moms who are tired of feeling like they’re failing at self-care and are ready for something that actually works in real life.

If this episode resonated with you, you’re invited to join Lisa’s free community, where she hosts workshops and live Sunday Service Sessions to help moms intentionally create space for themselves. Some features are available through a paid membership for those who want deeper support, but the heart of the community is connection, compassion, and doing this together.

✨ You are worth showing up for. Always.

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This is a softer, gentler episode.

Today’s episode is a reminder that rest is not a setback. It’s care, maintenance, and self-respect. If you’ve been feeling tired, overwhelmed, or stretched thin, this short check-in is here to remind you that slowing down doesn’t mean you’re falling behind.

Especially as moms, we’re conditioned to push through and keep going, even when our bodies and hearts are asking for a pause. This episode is an invitation to listen, to release the guilt around rest, and to remember that you don’t need to earn your worth through productivity.

Consider this your permission slip to slow down, breathe, and choose yourself - even just for a moment.

Short. Gentle. Exactly what you might need today.

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In the final episode of The Calm Mom Season holiday series, we’re talking about something moms rarely give themselves permission to do - receiving the same care they give everyone else.

This episode takes an honest, compassionate look at the reality of motherhood during the holidays: the invisible labour, the mental overload, the overstimulation, the guilt around resting, and the pressure to be “on” even when you're completely drained.

We explore the science behind why this season feels so heavy, why rest is a biological necessity (not a luxury), and how to regulate your nervous system in tiny, realistic moments that actually make a difference, especially for single moms or moms without a lot of support.

This episode will help you:

Understand why holiday overwhelm hits so hard

Release guilt around slowing down or saying no

Recognize the signs of nervous system overload

Create small grounding rituals that regulate your stress response

Navigate overstimulation and emotional fatigue with more compassion

Shift from performance to presence

Give yourself permission to take up space this season

Whether your holidays are busy, bittersweet, complicated, joyful, or somewhere in between, this episode is your reminder that you deserve peace too.

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So many moms move through the holidays carrying a weight they never talk about — the weight of trying to create “perfect” moments for everyone else.

The perfect holiday.

But here’s the truth we dive into in this episode:

Perfect moments don’t matter.

In this week’s Calm Mom Season holiday series episode, we explore the quiet pressure that pulls moms out of the present and into performance, and how to reclaim the moments that actually matter.

This conversation is honest, grounding, and deeply human.

✨ Inside this episode, we talk about:

Why moms often miss the very moments they’re trying to create

The emotional root of perfectionism during the holidays

A personal story that shifted my entire perspective

What real presence looks like in everyday motherhood (it’s messy and beautiful)

How to slow down enough to actually experience your life

A grounding 5-minute presence practice you can use anywhere

This week’s Calm Mom challenge: a no-phone night or a slow morning

The thing your family remembers long after the moment is gone

✨ This episode will help you:

release pressure

soften your expectations

reconnect with what actually matters

feel more human and less “held together”

find calm in the middle of real life, not after it

This is your invitation to stop chasing perfect…

Press play when you’re ready to feel lighter.

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The holidays are here… and while this season is often painted as joyful and magical, the reality for many moms is far more complex. In today’s episode of The Becoming You Podcast, we’re diving into one of the most emotionally charged experiences of the holiday season: the pressure to be merry — even when you’re not.

This episode comes at a deeply personal moment. My grandma recently passed away, and I’ve been navigating grief in a season that’s supposed to be filled with cheer. I share openly about what this feels like, how emotional pressure shows up for moms, and why so many women feel obligated to be “happy” during the holidays even when life is heavy.

If you’ve ever found yourself smiling through stress, pushing down your feelings to keep the peace, or pretending you’re fine just because it’s Christmas…this episode is for you.

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The holidays are here, and while they’re supposed to be filled with joy and connection, sometimes they feel more like chaos and overwhelm. Between the planning, the shopping, and the pressure to make everything perfect, it’s easy to lose sight of what this season is really about.

In this first episode of The Calm Mom Holiday Series, Lisa opens up about the first time she hosted Christmas, how she tried to do it all herself, what happened when she didn’t accept help, and the powerful lesson she learned about perfection, peace, and letting go.

If you’ve ever felt the pressure to make the holidays “just right,” this episode is your permission slip to slow down, release control, and find moments of calm, right in the middle of the mess.

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This episode of The Becoming You Podcast was released on November 11th, Remembrance Day.

From there, she dives into one of the most universal struggles so many of us face, guilt. That heavy, exhausting feeling that tells you you’re not doing enough; whether as a mom, a partner, or even just as a person trying your best.

In this honest and heartfelt episode, Lisa Hardie, Self-Love and Life Coach, opens up about her own journey through mom guilt and the deep self-blame she carried after her marriage ended. Through vulnerability and reflection, she shares what helped her release the weight of guilt and finally find peace, not by being perfect, but by forgiving herself.

You’ll learn:

Why guilt isn’t proof that you care, it’s proof that you’re human

How mom guilt and self-blame shape your identity

What really happens in your brain when guilt becomes chronic

Four powerful mindset shifts to reframe and release guilt

How to turn guilt into gratitude and self-compassion

Lisa reminds us that you can’t carry both guilt and growth, one keeps you stuck in the past, the other helps you move forward.

🎧 Tune in to learn how to forgive yourself, let go of what’s weighing you down, and start living in the “what now” instead of the “should have.”

✨ Plus, stay tuned for a preview of next week’s episode — the start of Lisa’s new four-part series: “How to Calm the Chaos During the Holidays.”

🌸 The Joyful Mom Collective: A supportive community for moms ready to let go of guilt, embrace joy, and rediscover themselves, one small shift at a time.

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Have you ever felt uncomfortable doing things alone? Or maybe the idea of taking yourself out on a “solo date” feels awkward, intimidating, or even a little scary?

Lisa shares her own journey of learning how to spend intentional time alone, how she moved past the fear of judgment, and what she discovered on the other side: confidence, peace, and a deeper sense of self-love than she ever thought possible.

What “dating yourself” actually means (and what it’s not)

Why it feels so uncomfortable and scary at first

The science-backed benefits of solitude and self-connection

Practical ideas for planning your first solo date

The emotional and personal growth that comes from learning to enjoy your own company

Lisa also shares key studies showing how intentional alone time improves emotional regulation, reduces stress, and builds confidence—reminding us that spending time with ourselves isn’t selfish, it’s essential.

This week, plan one solo date. It doesn’t have to be elaborate—just something that lets you reconnect with yourself. Notice what comes up, how it feels, and what parts of you you start to rediscover.

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