The Bed Head Chronicles

Chuck Garcia joins Siri today to discuss the skills you need to succeed that often go ignored in high school and college education.

Chuck Garcia is a speaker, a mountaineer, and teaches leadership development at Colombia University. He wrote the best-selling book "A Climb to the Top: Communication & Leadership Tactics to Take Your Career to New Heights".

What You Will Learn:

• The importance of learning
• Creating good habits
• How to adapt
• Creating realistic goals

This week, Siri brings on Richard Newman to share the science of storytelling, how to implement LIFT into your life, and why you need to push yourself outside of your comfort zone. He shows how your disability does not have to hold you back and provides tools for everyone to take with them to go first in their lives.

Business leaders all over the world rely on Richard to transform their communication and to speak on the biggest stages. One client won over $1 Billion in new business in one year, using Richard’s techniques. But Richard had to learn it all from scratch. Richard is highly introverted and has high functioning autism. Richard’s research on non-verbal communication was published in the Journal of Psychology. His study proved that you can increase your leadership ratings by 44% by making simple changes.

What You Will Learn:

• How to build confidence
• The science of storytelling 
• What are the 3 minds? Logical mind, Survival mind, and Emotional mind
• What is LIFT?

Siri and Matt Del Negro talk about how to keep going in the face of rejection and the hope that comes afterward.

Matt Del Negro is an actor known for Scandal, The Sopranos, The West Wing, and now, City On A Hill. His book “10,000 Nos” talks about his experience with being told no as an actor and teaches others how to handle rejection.

What You Will Learn:

• How to take a risk
• Reframing the “no”
• Maintaining confidence in yourself
• How to go first
• When to quit something that isn’t making you happy

Siri and Cristina Mendonsa candidly discuss maintaining integrity and professionalism in a high pressure situation, living on purpose, and navigating a career pivot.

Cristina Medonsa is an award-winning broadcaster and brand storyteller TV/Radio/Digital Creative problem-solver connecting vision and content to increase reputation and reach. With more than two decades of storytelling experience across multiple platforms, she has a passion for creating relevant, transparent stories that showcase the strength, resilience, and beauty in our communities and each other.

What You Will Learn:

• Recovering from intense emotions
• Owning your mistakes
• Managing other people's opinions
• Shifting your perspective
• Love every moment
• Dealing with the fear of what is next
• Making the right decisions

This week Siri brings on Alison Levine to discuss navigating fear, working with a team to bring out everyones strengths, and 

Alison Levine is a leadership expert, polar explorer and mountaineer who is no stranger to extreme environments. She has survived sub-zero temperatures, hurricane force winds, sudden avalanches….and a career on Wall Street. She is one of the most in-demand keynote speakers, delivering resounding leadership messages that transcend her extreme climbing expeditions and remain relevant in today’s fast-paced business environments. She is able to draw relevant, authentic parallels between mountaineering and business because she has experienced both first hand—on multiple mountains, in multiple organizations, and in multiple industries.

What You Will Learn:

• The summit of the mountain is only the halfway point
• Facing fears
• Dealing with the disappointment of failure
• What are the possibilities if things go right?
• Changing your mindset when dealing with people weaker than you
• Do not underestimate your contributions

This week, I bring on CEO and sales expert Sabrina Lloyd. Siri asks Sabrina to share her story and how she came to the successes she has reached today. We discuss how going first has always been part of Sabrina's route to success, how your vision must come from within, and the importance of personal accountability.

Sabrina Lloyd is an entrepreneur, executive coach, and self-made millionaire. She empowers women and equips them with the right tools and knowledge so they can become the leaders they were meant to be. Sabrina started her career at American Income Life and quickly rose as a top 10 producer in her first year and went on to continuously break records. She is now the founder and CEO of L.L.O.Y.D. Agencies, which has been voted one of Chicago’s best places to work. L.L.O.Y.D. Agencies is one of the fastest growing AIL members and provides its members with executive training and leadership coaching.

What You Will Learn:

• Having faith in yourself 
• Growing from pain 
• Be your own biggest cheerleader 
• Always reach out for help 
• Constantly learning 
• Stop looking for outside motivation 
• Always be adding value to yourself 
• Go deeper than most 
• How will you stand out?

My first guest is my incredible wife Rebekah Keat. Rebekah is not only the most important person in my life, but also one of the fastest ever Iron Man triathletes in the history of the sport. When she retired she created one of the top triathlon clubs in the world as well as co-founding the Believe Ranch and Rescue and Horses In Our Hands.

In this episode, we discuss how we met and how we maintain a loving and supportive relationship.

What You Will Learn:

• What are the love languages 
• Figure out your love language 
• How your perceptions of love stem from your childhood
• Loving yourself How to spot other people's love language
• The key to a loving and supporting relationship 
• You are most powerful when you're fully present 
• Anything amazing in life you have to work hard at

Good morning, everyone. And welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles. Today I want to talk about negative people. How many of you have someone in your life that whenever you talk to them or see them after you've seen them, you just feel so down, because they're talking about all the problems they've encountered, how tough life is, how sad they feel, they're talking about their injuries or their sicknesses or whatever it is.

And you leave feeling drained, maybe you or someone. That when you meet up with another person, you talk about everything, that's gone wrong, everything that's missing, everything that you don't want to have happen. Are you that person that is focusing on everything that's wrong, not on everything that's right.

Are you that person that's focusing and dwelling on the problems rather than focusing and dwelling on all possible solutions? Let's assume that this is someone else in your life and you almost dread having to see this person because you know that you're going to come back from that meeting, feeling down and depressed.

Here's the thing be the eagle. There's this story. Eagles are the most beautiful, powerful birds, right? The only other bird that nips at an Eagle is the black Crow and the black Crow nips at the Eagle's wings and tries to get it to drop down. It hassles them. It is this, this energy. That's just trying to bring the Eagle down.

Now the Eagle doesn't drop down due to the harassment of the black Crow. Instead, the Eagle flies to higher and higher and higher altitudes until finally the crows can't breathe at that altitude and they drop off. Be the Eagle. If you have someone in your life that is constantly negative or angry or upset about what's missing what they don't have all their problems.

Negative energy is contagious, but so is positive energy, but you get to choose, you get to choose how you respond and how do you react to this person in your life? You can ask them more and more about their problems and then add how you can relate to their problems with your problems. Now that's dropping to that level.

Choose to be the eagle. Choose to in that moment from your side, focus on what you have focused on what you appreciate. Focus on what's good focus on solutions you've come up with to overcome a problem, focus on other people. Here's another thing, guys, people that are depressed or dissatisfied in their lives.

Most of the time they are obsessing over their own sadness, their own pain, everything that's missing, everything that's wrong. And it's a form of self obsession. I've been there. I've been that person. One of the most powerful ways to get out of that depression is to stop obsessing over yourself and everything that's wrong, all the problems you have and instead put your focus outside of yourself. Focus on other people give love, give support, give compassion, give encouragement. Because when you take yourself out of being obsessed with yourself and you focus on another, that depression will lift, you'll feel better about yourself and you will be having a positive impact on another human being's life.

Now, if you have someone in your life, that is that negative person that is always focusing on their problems. Number one don't drop down to their level. Number two, don't reward the behavior. If they constantly, if every time they call, they have something negative to talk about. Don't answer the call, send a text.

Hey, can't, can't talk to you right now, but then if they have good news, answer the phone, spend the time, talk to them for however long. So your rewarding that behavior. And you can also be an example. You could be an example in conversations with this person, you can say, yeah. You know, times are tough now with COVID and the Delta Variant and all of this, but wow it's been great to spend more time at home. It's been great that now that we all wear masks around, you know, we're not getting other types of bugs. The more you shift to focusing on the positive. The more, you redirect from a negative to a positive, they will witness that and they can learn from that. If you are consistent with that day after day after day, be consistent with your positivity, be consistent with your empowering focus, focusing on what you have, what you want, what you love, what you appreciate, what you can control.

And try to steer away when they want to take you down that deep dark negative path, pull yourself out from going there, elevate higher and invite them to come join you where you are, be the Eagle. You got this guys. We all know. And this has happened to me. Like I said, I've been there. I've been there in those times of depression and sadness, where I'm focusing on everything that's wrong and everything that's missing, but I know better now.

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Good morning, everyone. And welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles. Today I want to share something that made such a big difference in my life that Tony Robbins taught me, trade your expectations for appreciation and see your entire world change. Think about this, I remember back as an athlete, I started triathlon, I was 23 years old. I didn't know how to swim. And my dream was to one day become one of the best in the world. And I made it six years later to the Olympic trials in Sydney, Australia, and I failed miserably. I choked and I was absolutely devastated. I'd been going well, I trained harder than I'd ever trained before I committed my whole life to making this happen.

And I expected that all of that was going to lead me to making the Olympic team. I made the Olympic team, but I was an alternate, which is still great, but it wasn't my goal being achieved. So in that moment, I was so devastated. About how I failed and I fell short and I didn't make it. I had this expectation that by this time I would be at the level where I could have qualified.

And then I thought about it six years ago, I was 23 years old and I didn't even know how to swim and I had these dreams of just becoming proficient in the sport. And I am here six years later. At the Olympic trials, having qualified to fight for a slot on the Olympic team. And it suddenly put me in the space of appreciation.

Oh my God, I can't believe what I've accomplished in these six years. I was, I was terrible at this sport when I started and here I am, my God, I've made it to the start line of the Olympic trials. I am so grateful. All the amazing work that I've done, all the amazing progress that I've made. The fact that I've got sponsors and I'm racing professionally and suddenly I was just overcome with all this gratitude for how far I'd come in that six years.

And I started appreciating, and after this race, what I started doing is I stepped up to every start line thinking, God, thank you. Thank you for having blessed me. Incredible mind that is so strong and powerful and resilient that I can fail and be disappointed, but I get back up, I dust myself off and I get back at it again.

The fact that I've had the, the relentlessness and the determination and the work ethic to go from six years ago, not being able to swim to now racing professionally. So on the start line of every race, I would say, I just want to get out there and show myself. For all these gifts that you've blessed me with God or the universe, whatever you believe in, but I want to get out there and show you how much I appreciate these gifts that you have blessed me with.

And I am, when that gun goes off, I'm going to leave nothing behind everything that I know I have inside of me. I'm gonna lay out on that race course and show you my gratitude and appreciation for what I have and what happened. I started winning. I won one world cup and then another world cup. And then I won the world championships, becoming the number one triathlete in the world in 2001, I traded my expectations for appreciation and my entire life changed.

You may have someone in your life, a relationship, someone that you wish would do things differently or treat you differently or change in some way. And you're disappointed because they're not meeting your expectations, get rid of those expectations. You can't control another person. You can't change them.

And just appreciate, appreciate who they are. Appreciate the wonderful things about them. Appreciate what you can learn from them. And that will remove so much pain, so much disappointment, and it will lead you to having a much better relationship with that person. A deeper relationship, a richer relationship and a more fulfilling relationship.

Trade your expectations for appreciation and see your entire world change. Thank you, Tony Robbins for that incredible gift of sharing that with me years ago, as so often in my life, it changes everything.

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Good morning, everyone. And welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles. Today I want to share what I believe is the secret to success in life. And that is that no matter what you're doing in any moment of time, do it with 100% of your effort. 100% of your presence. 100% of your mindfulness. Yes that means even making your bed in the morning, making your dinner, uh, you know, playing with your dog, give it 100%.

If you get used to giving everything you do in your life, a hundred percent effort. That will lead you to the ultimate success in the things that matter most to you in your life. And here's something that you can do, think about during the day in every moment in every task you do in every interaction you have, are you giving a hundred percent effort?

Are you only giving 100% effort? If somebody is watching or somebody is going to grade your work? Or you're going to have a certain result if you give a hundred percent, are you only giving a hundred percent in those moments where you're being watched or you're being tested or are you giving a hundred percent in every single moment, even when people aren't watching you, because the more moments where you can give a hundred percent effort in your life, no matter what you're doing in that moment, meditating with a hundred percent effort, meaning being perfectly present and, and, and really, you know, being present with what you're doing in that moment, while you're meditating, making the bed with a hundred percent effort, doing a really great job, making your meal with love and really taking care, everything that you do.

If you do it and give a hundred percent effort, that is a secret to ultimate success in your life. Now, some days your a hundred percent effort, isn't going to lead to a great performance in whatever it is you're doing. But as long as you are doing the best that you can with what you have and giving a hundred percent effort in that way, that is going to lead you to the ultimate success.

No matter what you do in life, give it a hundred percent, do it with intention, do it with purpose, and you will find that those big, huge, ultimate goals that you've set for yourself, you will achieve because you'll be in the habit of always giving your best. And that means that that's not only going to benefit you, but it's going to benefit every single person around you! 

Have an amazing day.

Siri