The Best Self Podcast

We’re being told constantly that we need to be more visible. Post more. Show up more. Be everywhere. But after a competitor got an opportunity I thought should have been ours, I panicked... and then absolutely nothing happened.

Our relationships stayed intact, our business carried on, and it made me question whether visibility is really the thing we should all be chasing.

In this episode, I’m exploring the difference between being seen and actually being known, trusted and remembered.

I’m talking reputation, real connection, social media fatigue and why your marketing strategy needs to work with who you are. Because you’re a human being, not a content machine, and sometimes the people we remember most are the ones who made us feel seen.

Highlights:

(04:20) - A competitor got the stage, I panicked... and then absolutely NOTHING happened

(08:35) - Everyone is visible all the blooming time, so why does it all feel like noise?

(12:38) - Are you actually connecting, or are you just broadcasting into the void?

(17:02) - I stopped posting and we had our busiest year in 14 years... excuse me, WHAT?

(25:07) - The person who was 20 times more visible didn’t get my money, and here’s why

(33:33) - Maybe the question isn’t “How can I be more visible?” but “How do I want to be known?”

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If you’re a sole trader or running a small business, here’s something worth considering: you are your business. Your confidence, energy, boundaries, fears and even the amount of sleep you got last night can affect how you show up, and ultimately, how your business performs.

So what if the thing holding your business back isn’t another strategy you haven’t discovered yet?

In this episode, I’m looking at the patterns behind overgiving, undercharging, procrastination, playing small and struggling to be visible.

I’m also talking about finding your natural genius, because building a successful business shouldn’t require becoming someone you’re simply not.

Highlights:

(05:06) - The launch excitement has disappeared... now what?

(09:37) - Feast or famine in your business? It might not be as random as you think

(14:37) - Are you supporting everyone else while quietly avoiding your own spotlight?

(19:07) - When saying no feels harder than being completely drained

(24:08) - Your natural genius might be the business strategy you’ve been overlooking

(29:29) - Ambition and inner peace absolutely can exist in the same business

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What if your burnout isn’t something a holiday, a weekend off or an early night can fix?

Sometimes we’re exhausted because we genuinely need rest, but sometimes that flat, heavy feeling is telling us something completely different. And if we’re solving the wrong problem, it’s no wonder nothing seems to change.

In this episode, I’m breaking burnout down into five different places it can come from: capacity, physical depletion, performance, lost joy and timing.

I want to help you work out what’s actually draining you, because you might not need to burn your whole life down. You may simply need clarity about what needs to change.

Highlights:

(05:09) - Why burnout isn’t always an energy problem

(09:59) - Are you expecting today’s version of you to have yesterday’s capacity?

(14:36) - When the answer really is to stop, rest and do less

(19:05) - The burnout that comes from living a life that no longer fits

(23:32) - How the things that once brought you joy get buried beneath the admin

(32:17) - Why accepting the wrong timing isn’t the same as giving up

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In this episode, I’m talking about why goals alone aren’t always enough to keep us moving, and why having a bigger vision for your life can be so powerful.

Sometimes we get so focused on what we need to achieve next that we forget to ask the bigger question: what do I actually want my life to look and feel like?

I’m sharing how I’ve been using AI to create a detailed “day in the life” of my future self, then work backwards from that vision into realistic goals and actions.

It’s about dreaming bigger, getting emotionally connected to the life you want, and taking sustainable steps towards the woman you’re becoming.

Highlights:

(04:20) - Why it matters to notice the life you’ve already created

(08:43) - How to use ChatGPT to build a detailed vision of your dream life

(13:01) - Why feeling the future matters as much as planning it

(17:53) - How a big vision can motivate you when goals stop feeling exciting

(22:23) - The difference between goals that push you and a vision that pulls you

(26:59) - Why your best self is a journey, not a perfect finished version

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In this episode, I’m talking about why goal setting can feel so different in midlife, especially when you’re motivated, ambitious and still somehow finding yourself stuck in that stop-start cycle.

So often, the problem isn’t a lack of discipline. It’s trying to work at a pace that no longer fits your actual life or capacity.

I’m sharing a more sustainable way to approach progress, including my red, amber and green system for adjusting your effort without abandoning your goals.

We’ll also look at self-sabotage, identity, consistency and why progress becomes much easier when you stop expecting yourself to operate at 100% all the time.

Highlights:

(04:21) - Why pushing through constantly can actually destroy consistency

(08:34) - The shift from all-or-nothing thinking to sustainable action

(13:21) - How to keep the goal while adjusting the intensity

(18:07) - Why your real capacity matters more than the capacity you wish you had

(22:02) - My red, amber and green system for staying consistent through real life

(35:36) - How to spot your self-sabotage language before it knocks you off track

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In this episode, I’m talking about why goal setting can start to feel very different in midlife, even when you are motivated, capable and know exactly what you want.

For me, the problem was not discipline or willpower. I was setting goals for the life I used to have, not the capacity I actually have now.

We’ll look at starting with how you want to feel, getting honest about your current responsibilities, and using the Wheel of Life to see which areas need your attention most.

This is about setting goals from reality, not frustration, so you can make progress without constantly feeling like you are falling behind.

Highlights:

(04:15) - Why this may be a capacity problem, not a motivation problem

(08:41) - Forget the goal for a moment. How do you actually want to feel day to day?

(13:01) - Stop setting goals like you still have the time and energy you had at 25

(17:26) - When plan A, B and C all fall apart, ask yourself what you can do next

(21:44) - The Wheel of Life exercise that can quickly show you where your biggest shifts may be

(29:49) - Before you set a single goal, get clear on your feelings, your focus and your real capacity

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September always feels far more like a fresh start to me than January. The routines are returning, the summer chaos is settling, and there’s suddenly a little more space to think about what I actually want for myself.

In this episode, I’m sharing the simple reset process I use every September, inspired by my years as a stylist. We’ll reflect on where life feels good and where it needs attention, clear out some of the physical, mental and emotional clutter, and get organised so you can move into the final quarter of the year feeling purposeful, energised and ready for what’s next.

Highlights:

(04:46) - The four stages of my September reset

(08:49) - Stop setting goals before asking how you actually want to feel

(12:42) - Why the things that matter rarely happen by accident

(16:49) - The detox that goes far beyond clearing out your wardrobe

(18:30) - Getting organised for yourself, not just everyone else

(20:47) - Who do you want to become more of over the next 12 months?

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In this episode, I’m sharing what it has looked like to start again with my health, fitness and routines after a really difficult few years.

I talk about returning to boot camp, choosing courage over comfort and why waiting until you feel completely ready can keep you stuck for far longer than you realise.

I’ll also share what I’ve learned about acceptance, letting go, capacity and rebuilding trust with yourself. This is not about changing everything overnight.

It is about choosing one thing, showing up consistently and proving to yourself that you can move forward, even when life feels messy and the timing is far from perfect.

Highlights:

(04:15) - The message that stopped me in my tracks: you chose courage over comfort

(08:20) - Why I decided not to wait until September to start again

(12:03) - The real turning point was committing before I felt ready

(16:19) - When pushing harder was actually making things worse

(25:24) - Why this was never a willpower problem, it was a capacity problem

(29:59) - One thing at a time: how small commitments create real momentum

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In this episode, I’m sharing why September has always felt more powerful to me than January when it comes to making changes.

Inspired by fashion’s iconic September issue, I’m looking at how we can use this season as a reset, choose a clear direction and stop drifting through the final months of the year on autopilot.

I’ll talk about identity, goals, habits and why real change is not just about what you want to achieve, but who you need to become along the way.

We’ll also explore the power of editing your life, deciding what deserves your time and energy, and choosing one clear focus that can help you finish the year with real momentum.

Highlights:

(01:30) - Why September gives me more fresh-start energy than January ever has

(04:35) - The idea behind creating your own personal September issue

(09:15) - Stop being the reader of your life and start acting like the editor

(14:01) - Why goals alone are not enough, and the identity shift that makes change stick

(24:29) - Your time and energy are prime magazine real estate, stop giving pages away to everything

(29:58) - One cover story, one clear focus, and why that can change the whole final quarter

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Have you ever wanted to step forward, wear the dress, start the business, go to the gym or simply feel more like yourself, but found yourself holding back?

I know that feeling because I’ve lived it too. In this episode, I’m talking about the shame that can quietly make us shrink, hide and wait until we feel more ready, more confident or somehow more acceptable.

I explore how life changes can leave us caught between who we were and who we’re becoming, why that in-between stage feels so uncomfortable, and how small promises to yourself can start rebuilding confidence.

You do not need to become someone else first. You need to start showing up for the person you are now.

Highlights:

(04:53) - The hidden shame behind why we avoid doing the very things that could help us

(10:44) - Why life changes can leave you feeling like you no longer recognise yourself

(15:31) - The exhaustion of adapting while still trying to hold everything else together

(20:53) - Why clinging to your old self can keep you stuck in an uncomfortable limbo

(30:19) - What happens when you finally name the shame that has been running the show

(34:49) - One simple question that can become your compass when you do not know what comes next

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