THE BETTER MAN|| TRUTH&TRADITION

gentlemen what's going on....how many of us are tired of
living a sucky ass life

we've walked around this suffocating
even paralyzing environment of AVERAGE  for too long

we settle for shit that we immediately regret settling for...

like why the hell am i accepting this 7th place existence...

we settle for the bitchy ass girlfriend because she has a nice ass

or HAD a nice ass, but 1,000 big macs later and 10,000 hours of complaining
 
well... shes more of an actual ass....than a nice ass

we settle for that dead end job that pisses us off EVERY DAMN day....

like .......who wants to stroke out over selling insurance

we settle for that lumpy ass mash potato body because hell,,,,everybody else looks like this

we settle in our belief system because its too damn hard to go against the flow
of everybody else's ignorant paradigms...

we've got comfortable settling yet secretly crave the ideal body, that ideal woman, that ideal car
that ideal life...

you know what the fuck im talking about.....were sitting in the parking lot....nice truck pulls
up,,,yeah id like that....

we see the woman in those leggings.....DAMN YOU LEGGINGS.....and shes actually nice
and normal...

we hear about elon musk and his millions and think,,,yep,,,that would be cool

but then we do nothing to get the life that we want.....we drink another gallon of sugar
we spend another 1,000 dollars on metaphorical porn....

we say fuck that woman in the leggings...shes probably a feminist

and so we enslave ourselves in a in the dark pit of regret called settling

and we miss the entry point to something absolutely beautiful

a life that  has freedom painted all over it.....

the freedom to be the badass we all dream of or BY GOD should be dreaming of

i love nietzsche and he has this creed to say YES TO LIFE

what are we saying yes to????

so the idea here is to start saying yes to the hard things

and yes i fucking said hard......these assholes selling you the easy and quick way are douche bags...

nothing great is going to come easy.....so mark them off as gifters selling you magic beans
and unsubscribe from them NOW

your entry point.....the red carpet to your grand entrance is CONTINUAL HARD WORK....

and there we go,,,probably lost half of you....hard work is not contagious or even promoted

so heres my proposition......today,,,, focus on one thing that you want in life

write down one difficult task that it will require to achieve your desired position

then get to fuckign work...knocking that down to size...

challenge yourself to put in the work that no one else is doing so that you can get to
the p[lace that everyone else craves to be....

raise your bar and watch your life follow.....keep raising that son of a bitch until
life begins to bend to your will....

i promise you,,,,that you haven't even tapped into the bottom of your potential

quit being lazy and start working harder

love and respect gentlemen

the bar has been set to low,,,time to raise it

you will hear from me next episode

gentlemen whats goign on...what are you proud of...

if i came to your door and asked you.....quick tell me
eveythign great in your life...

you would probably be like most men....um uhhh ummm
stammering and stuttering aroound GRASPING for some sliver of
pride....

well i have a job, family, gf,,,,um i bought a new car...

but are we seriously pleased with these trophies...or do we feel obligated
to thrust them as our highest accomplishments

merely because thats the narrative projected as the status quo

hell,,its what normal people do and its how its been down forever
who am i to rock the boat....right

but we see this flood of bullshit continually crashing its degenerate waves into our boat

and so were seeing a rise in men beginning to exercise THEIR right to THINK for themselves

i don't want to be proud of following someone else....like how is my trophy for mediocrity
something to hold in esteem

like what decent man runs around with a 7th place trophy in his hand SCREAMING
look at me im the greatest man alive...

but in essence that's what is spreading throughout the present age....

there's this fragmented sense of what pride actually means

everyones limping around on broken ideals of what strength, pride and accomplishment truly represent....

Nietzsche said i teach NO to all that makes me weak..that exhausts....i teach YES to all that strengthens
that stores up strength,,,that PRIDE....

and i love this...because it makes me ask myself

am i proud of weak things that will leave me exhausted and ultimately defeated

or do i say YES to all that strengthens me and leaves me a better man

we have to ask ourselves are we proud of being caught in the rat race of life, simply
keeping pace with the asshoel to the left of us

or are we proud of separating ourselves from the weak and hanging strength on the highest
rung of the ladder we daily ascend....

i want to climb out of this stinking pile of shit that everybody else calls life

i want to be a man that builds my own life...hell to discover myself along the way\
and not just be another cog in someone else's machine...

i want to be filled with such an immense pride in something that can never be torn down

something that cant be duplicated

i want to leave my fucking finger print ON MY life...

you see it and you know that yep, that was his.....he owned his life

you know that feeling of accomplishment when you've attained something you set out to fulfill

its fuckign the greatest feeling ever....it brings a self possessed satisfaction
.....that cannot be rivaled

when you knock on my door and ask me to tell you what im proud of...
i want you to have to pull up a rocking chair and a glass of water

because mannn were gonna be here a while

I want my answers to be big,precise and beautiful....

im proud to be a man dammit,,,,and im a good one

let that be my motivation, let that be the beginning of my pride..

to be a man that pursues separating himself from the status quo

that is definitely something to take pride in

love and respect gentlemen

gentlemen whats going on.,...in a directionless society i believe its imperative
that we establish a foundation...

cause if we have no legs to stand on, how can we ever hit the target

so we need a corner stone with which we can begin slinging some arrows from....

and so at the genesis of any man's trajectory lies his core values...

dammit tik tok tiara get off the damn pole

i said CORE not WHORE...

for too long now, a mans inner compass, his code, the values he may be rooted in or
not rooted in.... have largely been determined by....

the conditioning of others....parents...friends....educational institutions...media etc. etc.

but the core and intrinsic nature of man.... in all honesty.....rarely is connected to
his self imposed core values....

key word...self imposed...

ask yourself,,,and seriously contemplate it...when's the last time you thought
about your core beliefs...

where did they come from...are they beneficial,,,are they limiting
are they a misrepresentation of actual reality...

could these beliefs that you hold as your adopted core values....be faulty??

and im not asking you to throw out all that you know...

but the path  to freedom always requires a QUESTIONING of what it takes to get there...

to cling stubbornly to YOUR way of doing things, even though they may be draped in WELL INTENTIONS

is a guarantee for disappointment....WHY

because there is always a more effective and efficient way to do things....

so many times in life ive beat my head against a damn wall simply because i was to damn
prideful..... to take advice from someone else....

ALL because according to my core values and belief system...MY WAY was the way life was supposed to
work.......even though shit was obviously not conducive to a successful life...

our core values are the driving force behind ALL OF our decisions...

every thought and action derives from what we hold to be morally sound or fundAMENTALLY
good for our well being....

and if your core value contradicts your essential goals.....well hell man

its time to either question your values or your goals...OR even both

for example, I know people in church that believe its wrong to be rich...so they never pursue money
or wealth...

i know people that place physical health very low on the spectrum of importance
so eating big macs and sitting on the couch doesnt exhaust their conscience.

your core values subconsciously and consciously are your highest priorities...

these deeply rooted and held beliefs shape your life...

so why the hell are we not acquainting ourselves with these values more frequently and with more depth

ask yourself....WHY THE HELL DO I BELIEVE THIS WAY....AND WHAT IS IT ADDING TO MY LIFE....

I CANT  tell you what to hold close to your man beating heart....
i'm not going to suggest what foundation to stand on...or what target to shoot at

but i will tell you that you need to form your own belief system in congruence with
your goals....

and for god sake i'm not suggesting you rob banks and kidnap ol ladies...

BUT just because great grandpa wrongly taught you some misheld belief system
doesn't mean you still have to carry the burden of faulty thinking....

check your values....hell ...punch them in the gut,,,if they can take a punch
keep them at your side

but if they fall like joe biden climbing some stairs.....well thats a different story

love and respect gentlemen

gentlemen what's going on....i can sum up hamza and every other modern self help guru on the scene
.....with one word...its a plural word but nonetheless one word....

HANDS...

yeah, hands that's going to be the new revolutionary self help book

these echo chamber shouting men are screaming keep your hands off your dick

keep your hands off video games

PUT your hands on some self help books

and put your hands on some fucking wieghts...

and for the really grifty and grimey ones.....
....put your hands on the click button and sign up for my copy and paste
tutorial class....

did i mention it's only $299.99

but wait a damn minute what about the guys with no hands...better luck next time i supposed

And don't mistake me for some bitter hating karen....
i commend these men or most of them for stepping to the plate

and accepting the arduous path of improvement and freedom and for not beating off...
....giving hands to yourself new meaning...

but there's only so many NEW YOUK times best selling bullshit books you can read before it starts repeating

and for the common man that connstat drip of water to the forehead is not satisfying
.....but quite fucking annoying..

those men brave enough to enter the self improvement arena AT FIRST are quenched
by these nuggets of truths.......and drops of water

because let's face it...there is truth in quitting the overindulgence of meaningless bullshit

aka....gaming...whacking your lettuce...eating fucking 3 pounds of processed food a day....

swiping through tinder like that traditional woman you've dreamt up in your head is gonna jump out
and say

................yep,,i'm a real woman and  i bought into... and spend time on this social media bullshit

you just had to dig for me....

gentlemen...we've enveloped ourselves in a cloud, and an illusory cloud at that, ....of shallow self help
nonsense...

We think listening to some dudes tell us to quit wasting time and keep our hands off the one eyed willie wonder
is going to motivate us to some higher and elevated plane of existence...

and that's just complete bullshit or self help books would have stopped printing years ago...

and i'm a reader.... an avid reader....and i love listening to new and fresh ideas....or even ideas
stated in a new context

but there comes a point when we must recognize that everyone were listening to is spewing the same thing...

that's  why i read philosophy and history and listen to philosophers that DISAGREE...and try to vary the
content i consume

that's why i choose to go beyond the superficial shallowness
......of your everyday self help youtube content creator....

and the idea is to form this notion of self possessed dependence...

to not be reliant and eaglery depending upon the next drop from the guru...

but to instead absorb the truth laid out before you by these men....RELEASE the bullshit

and start forming your own map....

that's your solution to an improved life....depending upon yourself in regards to the
truth you have acquired whether it be from a book or a man or life lessons...

id much rather read one book for the rest of my life, or live out one maxim, one truth

than to continually be enslaved by the dependency of some man's content....

and yes,,,let us be refreshed and revitalized and motivated....most of these men are great at this

but the question, the hard question....

Are you worshiping the man...

or the TRUTH that man is speaking to YOUR inner man

because one will make you that simp that the content creator wants you to be

and the other will make you the man that you are supposed to be....

worship nothing but the truth
and for god sake....keep your hands off you dick....at least while you're watching self help videos..

love and respect gentlemen

gentlemen whats going on....how many times have we looked at someone's life and
thought to ourselves or even out loud......

what a lucky son of a bitch...

good fortune has bestowed upon them the mightiest advantages...

we see them as this overnight success.....as if they woke up that morning
walked outside and was smacked in the face with wealth, looks, and personality

and truth be told a little bit of ENVY creeps up and spills out from us

that motherfucker....i want to be like him,,,BUT i hate him...

annnnd so we construct and manipulate all these fallicious reasons
why that guy sucks and is probably a fucking loser

hes probably a mommas boy, tiny dick, beats his gf,,greedy, tight ass etc. etc.

we built this prison of comfort ....and its sole substance  consists OF excuses

more so.... reasons why its okay for us to not have.... achieved the life we secretly or even tik tok
openly want....

you've seen the videos desiring a high value life,,,,but only scrolling  through it
instead of doing anything to acquire it...

in this flip flop society where being fat is now safe and rational and
being healthy is oppressive and privileged

like what the fuck...weve turned the term hard work into a toxic privilege that
only the tyrannical should aspire to be

ummmm so hard work is now bad...

unfortunately society is leaning towards that exact fallacy...

and so the entitled see success as luck, or a class privilege or race privilege..
or some other form of excuse ridden bullshit...

but many times these or most times these crybaby 7th place trophy having wokists

never take into account that the harder a person works the luckier they get...

let me repeat this so that im clear....the harder i work the luckier i get

meaning....i didn't wake up with a 6 pack....i fuckig ate tuna for 6 months and went to the
gym 5 days a week....EVEN when i didn't want to

i wasnt handed a buisness....i worked every fucking weekend for 5 years to save money to invest in my
success...

i wasn't born with life knowledge...i lived,,,i suffered...and so i decided to read and listen everyday to people
.....SMARTER than me

successful people are not fucking lucky, theyre hard workers

working hard is not a damn disease that will cause your limbs to fall off or your dick to shrink

hard work is the missing ingredient to a soft and entitled generation that is waiting

for overnight tik tok success to fall from the apple tree and hit them in their ignorant ass head

but unlike Newton and gravity....that erroneous way of thinking or perceiving life is not based
on any truth....

one unchanging principle to life and success is.... hard work pays off.....and yes a little luck
goes along ways....may we all be blessed with good fortune

because this is life and many things are outside of our control

but one thing that is within our grasp and power....is the will to outwork every lazy motherfucker
around us...

and in a world that loves leveling the playing field to a mud pit of mediocrity
its actually not that difficult to outmaneuver the masses and produce some form of greatness....

so the hell with excuses and prisons of reasons for why that asshoel is luckier than me...

i don't have time for envious excuses....because ill get somewhere quicker by stepping towards it instead of
telling 100 reasons why i cant

love and respect gentlemen

gentlemen whats going on....in lieu of the current cliamte
lets check the fucking temperature...the temperature of gender roles
double standards and the likes

because i don't know about you but i'm tired of some mindless
meteorologist telling me what the weather is like....

i want to go experience it myself

so i want you to grab your balls with one hand
an with the other place it over your heart and pledge allegiance to being a man.

"IM PROUD TO BE A MAN"  ..... is that statement even politically correct anymore,.,,
....who gives a shit....

so in accordance with testing the water....

lets jump into some of the female statements and attitudes of our day....
and is there a double standard....

she says,,,i wanna guy with muscles and money....and so i say well i wanna woman
with a nice ass and one that performs traditional roles...

now which one of us is going to be applauded while the other is dropped into
a boiling pot of cancel culture piss....

were enveloped in this nonsensical and pervasive viewpoint where man
is stripped of his dutiful authority BUT ASKED to carry on traditional roles...

while his female counterpart unloads any traditional weights but picks up the crown
of authority....

lets paint a picture here....the man presumingly should be the door opening, dinner buying,
bread winning, greek god looking, 8 inch eggplant having son of chivalrous saint....

"but by all means i don't need all of that because i'm an independent woman"

"but how tall are you and how much money do you make.....not that any of that matters
of course.....did i mention im independent"...

 my god we've twisted the ROOT of what it means to be a man into such chaos
....pun intended  ROOT,,,,because now you don't even have to have a ROOT to be a man

but so much convoluted nonsense is being bought not only by ignorant and shallow women
but by men and women at large...

its like this...if a lie is told long enough it becomes truth

and in a world where a new generation wants it fast and easy...believe me
....none of them are going to research shit for themselves.....they just accept it

so the world for whatever innumerable reasons has twisted the genders and their roles....powerful roles
at that... into an unidentifiable mess...

and our job, your job, and a fun job it is....will be to to disentangle the bullshit from the truth...

men are fuckign men....and when they accept that,.....my god they become powerful

and women are fucking women...and goooood gawssshhh they are a sight to behold when they truly adorns themselves
in the power of perfect feminity

as i said earlier it is presumed that man should fulfill the role of the typical stereotype of what man is .....but without assuming the patriarchal privilege of manhood....

the prevailing thought is ....be a man BUT DONT be a man....

what the fuck are we teaching our young boys....

can you imagine the confusion echoing through the halls of society today,,,

and we wonder why genders are more confused than joe biden during an unscripted interview

you are a man , and there is this intuitive sense within that knows who you are and what you're to do...

for the most part there is a nature, a part of man that loves his physical strength,
he has a compassioante drive to connect with the otehr sex,,,

to be that door opening protector
and provider...to do good by his and their requirements

fuck its my nature and i love it....but to be berated and looked down upon for embracing
my identity....

a man in all my powerful characteristics....well its bullshit.....

to sell this nonsense,,,this malevolent idea that men and women are in competition
is the most atrocious idea any fucking feminist or communist or wokist could peddal..EVER

i want to see women know that their true equality is not in becoming more masculine but owning
the feminie nature of their self possessed power

and i want to see men applauded for living andfulfilling the role of true masculinity

and within these two statements im not paCKAGING up some 1950s black and white episode
of MAN KNOWS FUCKIGN BEST,,,..and woman just needs to shut up and cook

if you're a man you can cook and wash laundry too....ive been doing that shit since i was 12

and if you're a woman, go start a business and wear a pantsuit that rivals hillary clinton
for all I care...

but for god sake....fuck these double standards, and the hell with this competition

if you want a man to open the door for you,,, become a woman that is worthy of that mans
attention....and if you want a traditional woman's attention,,,

become the man that demands
traditional over the delusional fuckery of today

i love opening doors....hell for women...men...elders,.,,,myself...fuck it doesnt matter

and i love being able to pay for my lady friends meal....
and my god....

there's nothing like throwing out a mouse or stepping on a spider
and seeing the look of satisfaction in my womans eyes

i know shes thinking....look at that masculine motherfucker go

now if its a snake shes on her own.... just kidding, ill text her dad
as im leaving...

but as i do these things ... I want a reciprocal relationship....

It feels good to be open and communicate with a woman.

for her to praise your strengths in the relationship
and to be able to return her admiration

for what you adore in her strengths

but this constant competition bullshit...."and i'm just as equal as you pious claptrap
must end...

i'm not equal to a woman,,,,my god they can do and go through some things i dont think
i'd wish on any man...

and that's freaking awesome

but that means there are some amazing things men can do that women never could...

these gender strengths,,,,they don't make one better than the other...
they actually make them more compatible...

but when we provoke competition and rivalry as if its a bloody fight to victory

well...what the hell do we expect....

so men...the hell with societies new age standards....lets pledge allegiance
to masculinity....

and invite anyone wanting to TRULY progress...to come stand under our umbrella of protection.

and if they would shut their false feminism voices up for just a minute....

women would see they're the ones that actually fastened the masculine umbrella together

but when were competing to be the umbrella...it never gets made much less held
........and everybody gets soaked in the acidic downpour of gender equality....

love and respect gentlemen

whats going on gentlemen....Men we are at war and confidence is our weapon,
you can remain a slave to self doubt and poor pitiful me, the world hates me
and life is overwhelmingly not fair.....

or you can confidently step into freedom

and hell thats what were all looking for as men ,anyway..... more confidence

whether we want to admit or not,,, WE want to be possessed by some cockstrong self assurance

who doesn't want to walk in the room and feel like they own that shit...
to be james bond before the world went woke and weak...

because Confidence kicks ass....it is the impenetrable ability to believe in self, an unshakeable self dependence
that refutes failure and weakness

its that fiery explosive shit that every little boy dreams of being consumed by

but in the modern and entitled soft age...We want the fire without the smoke

So We get fat on idleness..... and our savior, our , facade ....our exchange for self possessed confidence ,

is EXCUSES....EXCUSES BECOME OUR GOD....disagree with me??

good, I WELCOME, THE EXCUSES men come up with to excuse our excuses....

excuses are our fucking enemy, and I adamantly encourage you to cut the head off of ill fit
reasons for why you cant achiive something anytime it pops it's head out of

its pit of hell mixed with whinery and bitchery

Many a man has built his life on an island of excuses,
and then he wonders why life sucks when the island devours him and drowns out his hopes.....

confidence never waits for hope to manifest,.... quite the contrary, confidence is a CREATOR,
hell the ultimate creator....

it's time to exchange our god of excuses with the God of confidence
and go create a damn good life.......

men are not supposed to  look through the holes of a dilapidated roof
and wish upon the SLIVER of star light peeping through....

they rise above the bullshit and BECOME the star.....

and the most important and fundamental principle of confidence is GETTING GOOD AT SOMETHING....
(THIS TAKES PRACTICE).....to consistently stoke the fire requires a smoky start,

practice, failure, fatigue, repeat and repaet  
SMOKE DAMMIT, it fucking stinks sometimes  but fire requires smoke

just as men... and GOOD CONFIDENT men require effort. ...

and  holy shit, when a man lights himself on fire with effort, patience, passion and determination

people will come from miles away to watch the Pureness of that man's light burn....THIS IS CONFIDENCE

This becomes an article of overwhelming self assurance we begin to wear in more and more encounters

the more we begin to consciously practice winning every situation of every moment

confidence cant help but swell up within and burst forth like motherfucking volcano

so you can sit in that pile of shit called excuses and stink of mediocre standards

or you can get your ass up and get good at something

hell anything...its fucking crazy how confiodence in one area spills over into other facets
and creates a domino effect....

so be the first damn domino, stack up some confidence, practice until you get real damn good
and then keep putting in the effort

be aware that life is warfare and confidence is your weapon and practice is the bow that shoots
that shit into existence...

love and respect gentlemen,,,go set yourself on fire....

gentlemen what's going on...why do we suck at relationships...
and by we ,, i mean the western culture in general.. not you or me specifically

but to be honest ive sucked at relationships as well....because i followed what i THOUGHT a
relationship was or is supposed to be....but fuck...who the hell really knows

and It's self-evident that relationships are in quite the predicament,  look at the divorce rates,
and the winding navigation of the new age social media scene....
 
among scores of other life challenges, that will.... always rear their devious head...

death, taxes, breakups, break ins breakouts etc. etc...
 like a pissed off overweight diva when the all you can eat buffet runs out of bacon.

shit happens and shit leaves us pissed, confused and complicated

  Those .karens. deaths and the likes,
are ONLY a start to the difficulties..... a relationship CAN and will encounter

man and woman meet, they like each other, they pursue each other
but man has a past, woman has a past too....

man has his belief system and woman has her belief system

maybe they're heading in the same direction, but man has an idea of how to get there
and woman believes in her ways to arrive at said destination are better

and this presents problems...... but this is life....billions of people all wanting
their little piece of happiness...
but all varying in the actions to get there...

and so the engine, the power and force running relationships off the cliff to their death
is...... the instant gratification curse of modernity...

oh what a fucking curse it is......"I WANT IT NOW" AND MY WAY IS THE BEST

AND SO THE REASON RELATIONSHIPS SUCK IS...

We too often have a short term mindset with a temporary behaviors
, we cut corners in effort to have it OUR WAY NOW!!.  but The fast way now is the LONG way in the end...

we ignore the red flags....such as...she has three kids with three different baby daddies
...umm she hasn't worked in 5 years....and it ALWAYS has to be her way.....

we overlook these for the temporary pleasure of some fantasy
.....we've cooked up in our head of what relationships are
supposed to look like.....but according to who.....the news....the media....the newest song....OR YOU...

This lust for intense instant gratification cause these tiny debts to ACCUMULATE
 until eventually were bankrupt .....

we give up a little freedom for this....we give up a piece of OUR direction for that

we lose a little bit of our sovereignty for a seat at the table of uncomfotable slavery

ever felt like the cultural standard of relationships or... ANYTHING for that matter HAS YOU anchored down...

So the perfect relationship template in its cookie cutter fashion needs to be...MMM injected with a fresh look ....

it needs to fit YOU and your direction,  what do YOU want, are you more traditional,

are you seeking money, freedom, love, a partner, fun, adventure, simplicity. Etc etc.

and then go to work finding a compatible partner....key word compatible...not perfect..

perfect doesnt fucking exist

because WHO THE HELL believes love is going to fall from the heavens and hit you square in the love hole.....
without any effort......

nothing in life is guaranteed and easy,,,,,and those selling you that shit
need to be slapped and kicked in THEIR love holes....

fuck love and all its new age watered down bullshit....
modern love is a WEAK depiction of what a relationship is actually supposed to look like...

a relationship is specific to those involved....and in an INTIMATE partnership.... it is distinct
to those TWO tied together....

so we have to remove ourselves from the societal narrative... and begin to blatantly refuse
the sign posts of weak ass relationship standards...

So here's to brining new ideas to what it means to have a relati9nship

and by new I mean a recoursing to the old and traditional way of excellence and a commitment

 to a code. to having actual self imposed standards

fuck the white washed two story house with the lame ass white picket fence....
thats not your direction , then don't get caught up in fooling yourself into the
mockery of what a true relationship..... is supposed to be and represent...

Instant is the biggest lie sold to us modern men...

because its the trial and efforts,,,,its the actual slaying of the dragons that release the
true power of what lies within a man...

EASY doesn't make you a man....kids enjoy an easy life....
and we see how pissed off they get when it doesn't go their way...

"give me back my damn transformer brandon

but its the ability to put in the work, the capacity to see beyond the instant pleasure
and the ability to see life's red flags that give men guidance

and relationships are no different.... and so i suggested a recoursing to the old tradition of excellence

and i guess what i mean there is ....to hold yourself to a higher standards....hell to create your standard outside
of the masses crippled and limping principles...

what does a relationship look like to you....can you ignore the instant pleasures of lust and what its supposed to be
according to tik tok and hollywood....

so that you can build and construct something that last...

its cool to go to walmart and get a ready made desk that i can put together in less than 10 minutes...

i get it home and it looks good...colors match the room....whooohhh boy,,im such
a handy man....all put together and no extra pieces

but as soon as i put the pc on it and add a few extra aesthetics...

it begins to sway and buckle under the weight

its cheap materials and mass assembly line production coulndt hold the weight of reality

i would have been better off if i had been patient and waited for the amish made desk that was going
to take a little longer to make....but built with care, standards and experience...

we suck at relationships because we want it now,,,and we want it easy....so we ignore the faulty constructions
hoping that just maybe, we can be the exception to the old age rule.....cheap and easy falls to shit....

gentlemen whats going on....confidence
is it that super drug,,,,the link to kicking ass, walking on water and dominating life...

because its quite apparent the head down mumbling type
gets a life that reflects just that
a mumbled jumble of leftover scraps

while on the other hand the the baby kissing life affirming, hand shaking, wheaties eating
vitamin taking big grinned son of gun seems to.....own his life as one that walks in that perfect confidence
.....and self possession we all wish we had

he wears Confidence as a suit of armor...he eats at the big boys table...no scraps for me

THIS man has learned to tailor that suit of confidence to HIS specific talents, needs, goals, and desires.

he seems to walk a little taller...and a little more ballsy

We see those people that wear confidence like it's the perfect fit. Like they were born to own life.

and i started thinking about this over the weekend as me and my son were figuring out ways to
break in his new first baseman's glove...

these suckers come off the factory line more stiff than a 40 year old virgin at an instagram
model convention .....

on the beach....bikinis....

and im not playing.....its like squeezing the hardest vice grip ever....nearly impossible to catch a ball
with my squeeze...much less a ten year olds grip...

so im watching youtube videos...praise god...and im throwing the glove in the sshower under hot water...i'm stretching
it,,,im beating it with a mallet,

im throwing it against concrete....mixed with thrown
prayers of please god just let it work.....

i'm folding it in the way he wants it to look and fit to his specific hand...

its been bent and folded more than a ten year old dollar bill
circulated through 1,000 strip clubs......and just as dirty looking...

but with patience,,,effort,,,,lots of effort....repeated effort,,,,with some experienced
guidance from more informed men.....

the glove is beginning to have some function and utility

so the glove didn't come shaped to my sons hand

and Much like my son WANTING the glove to come out ready made for his comfort

We often error in believing confidence SHAPES us,....
when in fact we have to mold confidence in correlation with our strengths....

Personal strengths and confidence are hand in hand....there is this intersection where they become effortless flow...
that flow we admire in other accomplished men

Whether in sports, the workplace, hobbies, women, or conversation...

And we shape our strengths by getting in the Mudd and practicing them..... we throw
ourselves into difficult situations....
and uncomfortable positions so that we begin to mold ourselves...

Stretching our capabilities, getting outside of that prison pit of hell and bending our desire to our will...

The glove,no matter our want, or wishing, doesn't show up bow wrapped and ready to use to perfection.

And WE FAIL ourselves and OUR possibilities when we fall victim to that weak line of thinking.

As if we SHOULD just be confident...

Confidence is ultimately a reward for you being good at something, and that goodness is a consequence of repetitive shaping...

You get good at something after continual effort....life seriously is that simple...

Continual preparation prepares you to have more genuine assurance in yourself.

The participation trophy culture wants the confidence of the ceo,

yet they've never even put in the effort of the janitor...

If you're unwilling to clean the toilet you sure as hell don't deserve to shit in it.

1,000 hours of practice....1000 attempts at talking to a woman.....1000 hours in the gym...
1000 of anything sure as hell gives you more confidence

than the man that is too fearful to
get in the mud and start stretching his potential to meet his needs, desire and direction

dont be afraid to start practicing life men....lets get out there and start shaping the possibilities

love and respect....you will hear from me