This week, Dr. Jill Wener and I took the conversation to another level as we talked about the distinction between “allyship” and “partnership”, and the level of trust and the deep scrapping that needs to be done for the partnership to work effectively.
Highlights from the conversation:
· Hospitalist-turned-expert-in-physician-wellness.
· CEO of Conscious Anti-Racism. #Antiracism educator
· Best-Selling Author and Podcaster
· Meditation Instructor, Tapping Specialist at Conscious Health Meditation + Wellness
[04:49] “Partnership” versus “allyship”
With the white savior complex and this issue originally here because of white people, “partnership” is a better word to use than “allyship.” Partnership implies “we’re are a team and we are going to work on this together and have equal stakes. There has to be willingness to do it from both sides, especially when it’s hard.
[11:38] Partnership to see through “blind spots”
Partnership is important to so the party sees what the other does not. If it is a blind spot, we’ll never see it. Blind spots keep us stuck in specific way. People of colors have to be willing to listen and pinpoint what needs to be checked.
[15:30] Speaking up for future generation
The more we allow it to happen, the more they can get away with it, all the more that it continues happening. We have to be able to be courageous enough to
speak up at times when it may not be comfortable in order to make the bigger difference.
[17:40] What does true partnership look like?
True partnership is about impact rather than intent: “how do my behaviors land” versus “how do I want them to look?” It means going really deep and scrapping out every last bit, finding more of resistance and figuring out what people in any position of power are projecting. For people of color, a level of trust to allow it to happen is very important. A level of vulnerability that comes with that partnership.
[22:50] Hear and Understand
For white people, there has to be a level of education that is self-motivated. It is important to push past comfort, if it doesn’t make one feel comfortable, it is not enough. Then giving the white people the tool to do that is the next big step.
For people of color, one very important thing to do is to heal our traumas – be willing to look at how we’ve internalized this culture and how this greatly impacted us. When we can look at that and forgive ourselves for having internalized a lot of these cultures and heal from the impact it brings, it then gives us even more power to be able to partner. We can never heal if we don’t start to talk about it – between the cultures.
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