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It is important to listen to how the words are used while speaking because even in the 7% of communication there’s a lot that is missed because we are managing a lot of information on  a bit by bit basis that our brain has to filter out into chunks that we can handle.

The information is filtered through our beliefs, past experiences, memories, language, environment etc. So people speak in ways that often leave out important information and sometimes making associations that are inaccurate, untrue or not based on evidence or overgeneralizing and that’s why there’s so much missed communication in the 7%

People who tend to look or want to know the bigger picture of things or information most times generalize things and leave out details whereas those who like speaking details tend to assign meaning to things that don’t necessarily equal.

We speak in generalization, deletions, we speak in a cause and effect manner and associations but it is not obvious to the person listening that we are making these associations and since they are listening through their own filters of values and beliefs, therefore so much information tends to get missed.

In order to find clarity and avoid missed communication, we should ask instead of assuming things. We need to be mindful about what we say and when listening we should be mindful of the other person’s filters.

Our self talk is what drives most communication with others.

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Timestamps:

00:00 - Recap of last episode

01:10 - How our brain filters information in a second by second basis

03:00 - Reasons for missed communication

04:00 - Generalizers and detail oriented individuals

06:00 - Missed communication through our own filters

08:10 - Importance of being specific

09:20 - Using question to find clarity

11:10 - How we always make assumptions based on filters

12:09 - Resolving conflicts through being mindful of the filters

13:15 - Understanding the process how people came to believe what they believe

14:20 -  Effects of miscommunication

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· Can trauma make a person narcissistic?

· How exactly does our trauma affect our relationship with the people we care about?

· What can one do when their partner is living in trauma?

These and a whole lot more await you in this week’s special episode with Len Sturdivant, a love and relationship coach who offers individual, group, couples, and even online consultations. In this episode, he is going to teach us that to love others, we should first truly love ourselves. Today, we will learn about trauma, forgiveness, and healing.

Are you ready to take part of your relationships?

If you don't know how to love yourself first, how can you be in a "love relationship" with someone else? Prior to entering a relationship, a person who does not know how to love themselves will force YOU to take care of them. For you to control your relationship, you must learn to love yourself.

Ways to begin the healing conversation between you and your partner

Recognizing that when you get together, once the love hormone wears off, your eyes open and they can see. And there’s a lot of conversations like our background like what it was growing up for you. If you survive the pre-marital stage, you’re good.

Recognize the trauma you are carrying

Virtual intimacy with each other is tricky. Ever since sex became easier, love became harder to find. In terms of virtual intimacy between men and women, the first thing they go for is to be close. However, it causes us not to see beyond that. Know your partner more by observing how they handle break down, how they can self-soothe, and they handle their emotions right away.

About Len Sturdivant:

Len Sturdivant got his Master’s Degree in Psychology from N.C. Central University and completed 140 hours of doctoral training in marriage and family therapy at Virginia Tech. He conducted several workshops and conferences on relationships and held panel discussions on marriages and divorce. The main focus of his work is on relationship/family coaching and

divorce interventions. Len comes with over 10 years of experience and several publications in the field of marriage and family relationships.

Connect with Len via the following: Website: https://relationshipcoach.pro Email: [email protected] Instagram: www.instagram.com/relationshipcoachpro

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In This week’s Mind ReMapping Moment, we revisit when we talked about how you can shift your belief slowly or rapidly and the difference is just resistance. In the healthcare practitioner there’s an unspoken curriculum,a kind of messaging which tends to be a belief to many in the healthcare industry.

When we talk about belief change there are beliefs that we’ve had for a long time and some are just new beliefs, now the difference between shifting these kind of beliefs is just resistance and the resistance here represents many things but oftentimes it is all of the little beliefs that happened in between what you want to believe and what you actually believe.

Recently, many people are transitioning from what they do to wanting to start their own businesses and trying to find meaning and purpose outside what they are currently doing. It’s true that you can find meaning outside what you do or find meaning inside what you currently do.

Our beliefs collect around our core values, like a tree the values are the roots, the trunk may represent a big value that an up-shoot of the deep core value, then the branches become the beliefs, the tributary branches are the smaller beliefs and the leaves are somewhat our attitudes. So our attitudes are a collection around our beliefs, our beliefs are a collection around our values.

There’s a notion that acts as a resistance to many which is, you can only change a belief slowly and over time. It is true that you can change belief over time but the “ONLY” part is not true because there are people who’d quit an addiction instantly. The little beliefs that come in between what you want to believe to what you believe are the resistance. There are no unresourceful people, only unresourceful states.

The process of thinking and belief affects the content of belief, therefore when you get to dismantling the process of thinking we impact the content of the results that you want to implement or stop. When you focus on the content, you open up yourself to the internal and external resources to get through the process.

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Timestamps:

00:35 - The set of beliefs installed in the healthcare practitioners

01:40 - The difference between shifting beliefs slowly and quickly

02:50 - Searching for meaning in what we do in our day to day life

04:00 - The relationship between our beliefs and values

06:20 - Shuttering of the old beliefs

09:00 - Resistance points when it comes to belief change

10:00 - Accessing the right resources

11:30 - The process of belief and thinking

15:00 - Evidence that support our beliefs

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We sometimes look at the problems in our lives and while sometimes looking for the cause and end up finding the symptom, but what if those things are problems on the surface of a deeper set of programming?

Those people who have toxic interactions with others tend to ask, what is it that they are that keeps attracting such kinds of people, however underneath that is a tone of self-blame, a ‘what is wrong with me that?’

What is the programming that allows for people who are not healthy for us to be able to interact with us in an unhealthy way or to stay in our lives? What is the belief that drives the programming, attraction, strategy, internal mental sequence or decision making process that attracts us to a certain kind of people?

The things that we see in our minds tend to be the things that we create in our outer world, where attention goes it’s where the energy flows.

We need to think deeply about the recurring problems in our lives that wear different faces, we need to focus on what is the underlying issue. Once we discover the underlying issue we ought to ask ourselves how we want to feel. We also need to figure out what resources we need to solve the problem.

Always examine what is programmed into you that gets you where you are in order to know how to reprogram yourself to the direction you want to go.

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Timestamps:

01:05 - Looking at symptoms as causes

03:50 - Figuring out what the programming that causes us to act in a certain way

04:50 - How our programming makes us be attracted to a kind of people

07:00 - Our attention shapes our outer world

08:00 - Abundance vs Lack symptoms

09:50 - Physiological symptoms can point us out to the cause

11:00 - Solving our problem by shifting our attention

13:05 - Identifying the resources we have or don’t have and how to find the resources we need

14:41 - Enjoying the effects

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In the process of talking about conscious communication and the conversations I have with my kid has made me realize that what I am passionate about is making sure that kids know the tools to empower their own minds because I have seen the impact it has with my kid.

As parents the thing that disconnects us from our kids is the fact that we don’t  create the safe spaces where we can ask questions they really don’t tell us because we probably are too busy taking care of the big things of keeping them fed, educated, safe and clothed.

With social media, bullying and cyberbullying especially in children and also teenagers and young adults may be affected by what others may say about them if they are not grounded on who they are, it’s never too early to begin empowering the belief systems of our children about themselves and teaching them how they can reframe things and empower their own minds so they are prepared when they go out in the world.

To be grounded in oneself and who you are with the tools to communicate gives young people power to be able to choose their battles, choose when they should say something or brush it off, to find the confidence to express themselves transparently, honestly and authentically.

When you reframe a thought, what someone else says, a habit, you change the meaning of it with the context that is applicable.

There’s a difference between teaching a technical tool and modeling it through interaction and conversations and also modeling it in our own lives, this helps our kids pick it up unconsciously as a tool and would replicate that with time.

As parents we must embark on the journey of learning these tools, learning emotional intelligence, listening to our own self-talk and reframing the negative thoughts to empower ourselves.

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Timestamps:

01:00 - My passion to empower kids with tools to empower their minds

02:00 - A conversation with my son

03:20 - The importance of asking our kids questions

05:00 - Teaching kids how to reframe things to empower them

07:45 - The power of using reframe

09:45 - How to use anchoring with kids to enter resourceful states

11:20 - Importance of modeling tools in our conversations

13:05 - How we acquire these tools through learning these tools

13:44 - Using reframe to empower ourselves

14:50 - How do you empower the kids around you?

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Communication isn’t just words and the tone, words and tonality are part but not the totality of communication.

93% of communication happens in what we don’t say, how we say it, tonality, the body language, eye contact, our eye movements, our facial expression, all this is outside the words we use.

Oftentimes people communicate things they don’t intend to without saying a word, or maybe they are saying one thing and their body language or tone is saying something else, this may lead to miscommunication.

Conflicts, death of intimacy, traumas, divorces, all these tend to stem out of miscommunication.

There’s always an unconscious communication(rapport) and we need to be aware of that somatic intelligence of our bodies.

Communicating also involves what we receive, listening is part of communication and when someone is attentively listening it creates a rapport which deepens the relationship.

Written text tends to have missed communication because it is limited and this may cause miscommunication.

We are responsible for our communication therefore we need to be aware and constantly listen to ourselves when communicating in order to impact people in the way we want to impact them.

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Timestamps:

00:30 - Everything is communication

01:11 - The aspects of communication

02:22 - How we use our bodies/body language to communicate

03:10 - The impact of miscommunication

04:00 - Using facial expression as a conversation starter

05:55 - The unconscious communication that happens while communicating with others

06:45 - How we communicate with ourselves

07:30 - Listening as part of communication

09:30 - The limitation of text messaging and emailing

11:11 - Understanding the importance of communication

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For instance, I had a conversation with my mom who always held me as a shy and reserved kind of person, and she kept repeating that I used to be shy and timid even after having a conversation that  I have never been so.

When such a thing happens it tends to limit the closeness we have with these people because they are so hung up on holding these old models and they can’t see the growth. Seeing a person for who they used to be tends to make the subject feel lonely and frustrated.

People will oftentimes see you for who you used to be even when you are growing, you ought to have a conversation with them and call out what you feel like and what’s going on, especially with the people you think it’s worth keeping. Just like everything, repetition is important to make the conversation sink into their mind.

It’s understandable that people take time to realize that you have moved from what you were to who you are at the moment, so have compassion and patience because they are also dealing with their past traumas. Some people wouldn’t want to see you move past who they used to see you because of their own insecurities.

It’s important to find a community of people who see you for who you are in the present moment. The question is “Who are you holding in the old mental model despite them showing you and telling you that they’ve changed?” “What’s the source of holding others to their old beliefs?” “ Are you willing to move past seeing them according to the old mental model?” Remember, holding the old mental model of others tends to damage our relationship with others since it strains the subject from having conversations with you.

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TIMESTAPS

00:46 - When people only see you for who you used to be

01:30 - When the old models get outdated

02:10 - My experience with my mum holding me as shy and timid

03:10 - Understanding the Myers Briggs profiles

05:40 - The effect of not seeing the growth and being put in the old box

07:20 - Actions we ought to take when people box us in these old models

09:30 - Consistency of behavior and expression to retrain their brains

11:00 - Shifting of career and purpose

13:00 - Being patient and compassionate with people during the process

14:00 - Finding communities that see you who are now

15:08 - On the flip side of the coin, who are you holding in the old model of mind?

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In This week’s Mind ReMapping Moment, we revisit when we talked about Change work and why changing the environment gives limited longevity ended.

Change is always constant and universal, whether it is change in diet, beliefs, work out etc.

Changing your environment is helpful when you are in that particular environment , so unless you are in that one environment all the time, changing your environment can be very limiting because you still have the same mind and people in that environment.

There are levels to change and changing your environment is the most basic level in change and it is the easiest of things.

Changing your environment to a better one can improve your wellbeing and give you satisfaction and fulfillment in the space, however you have the same un-resourceful behaviors and you’ll experience the same thing you were experiencing before.

When we start moderating our behaviors, which is the next level of change, we start to deepen the level change, which results in another level of sustainability and in turn change in outcome.

On the next level, it’s about looking at what your capacity, your capability to change in a particular way may be limited. At this level you need to learn the skills required for sustainable change.

The next level of change is your “why” which is the level of value, this is where beliefs come, this is where the motivation comes from and this is the core point of change. What’s important to you about what you want to change, now if you align change in your beliefs, change in your skill capacity, change in your behavior and change in your environment then this a deeper level of sustainability in change.

The next level of change is in your identity, who we identify as defines what our values are.

At the next level of change is purpose and mission which tends to change over time depending where we are at that particular time. Our purpose and mission shapes our identity, our identity gives us our values and beliefs, our values and beliefs shape our capacity and capabilities, our capacity and capabilities shape our behavior and our behavior shapes our environment.

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Timestamps:

00:30 - Change is the only constant in life

01:30 - My story of change with my sweets intake

03:30 - Limits of changing the environment with the same mind (The WHERE)

05:40 - Change in the level of behavior (The WHAT)

06:20 - Change in the level of skills and capacity (The HOW)

09:45 - Change in the level of values and beliefs (The WHY)

14:44 - Change in the level of identity (Sense of Self)

17:15 - Change in the level of purpose and mission

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In This week’s Mind ReMapping Moment, we talk about Using Our Language to Transform Ourselves & Others.

With my upcoming training on neuro linguistic programming (NLP), I've received numerous inquiries about what it entails and how it can benefit individuals as leaders, parents, and in their personal growth. Today, I provide a brief overview of NLP, emphasizing how language can be utilized to bring about profound changes in ourselves and those around us.

The Essence of Neurolinguistic Programming:

Having delved into the realm of NLP for over a decade, both within my integrative medicine practice and as a coach, I have witnessed its remarkable impact. NLP combines language tools, practices, and patterns drawn from linguistics, neuroscience, and psychology to empower individuals and effect positive change. While language represents only 7% of communication, it encompasses verbal, nonverbal, and kinesthetic forms that influence our experiences and interactions.

Thinking in Pictures:

Our minds naturally think in pictures, creating mental movies that encapsulate our problems, perspectives, and beliefs. Language serves as a means to encode these pictures, forming a bridge between our thoughts and communication. By using language intentionally, we can alter the mental images associated with problems, expanding our viewpoint and uncovering previously unseen solutions. Through this process, known as reframing, we enhance our ability to perceive possibilities and broaden our horizons.

Shifting Perspectives:

One of the fundamental techniques in NLP involves reframing the context or meaning attached to a situation, which, in turn, transforms the internal picture we hold. By helping individuals examine their problems from new angles, we empower them to find their own solutions and reduce attachment to their challenges. Rather than offering direct solutions, we facilitate an empowering journey of self-discovery, leading to greater resilience and personal growth.

Transforming Belief Systems:

NLP offers tools to address inherited or unresourceful beliefs by replacing negative mental pictures with more positive ones. Through rapid transformation techniques and deep release work, we guide individuals in releasing old limiting beliefs and reinterpreting past experiences. This process expands their perspectives and enables emotional regulation, ultimately empowering them to navigate their lives with greater efficacy.

Language as Empowerment:

Language holds immense power in our lives. By harnessing its potential, we can communicate effectively, reframe our experiences, and transform our minds. NLP equips individuals with the tools and techniques necessary to utilize language as a catalyst for personal growth, improved relationships, and enhanced leadership. By consciously choosing our words and shifting internal pictures, we open doors to new possibilities and empower ourselves and others.

Remember, the language we choose has the power to shape our reality and transform our world.

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In this week's Mind ReMapping Moment, I am joined by Monica Wisdom. We delved deep into the power of our personal stories and how they can serve as a pathway to healing, empowerment, and self-discovery.

Exploring Our Wounds and Inherited Patterns:

Loyalty to Self and Authenticity:

Embracing Emotional and Mental Wellness:

The Therapeutic Power of Storytelling:

The Superpower of Our Stories:

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Website - monicawisdomhq.com

Email - [email protected]

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