Why does your partner go quiet when you're trying to have a conversation?  You know they hear you, but it takes a minute to answer.

And why does that silence make your heart starting beating faster?

In this episode of The B-Side of Marriage Podcast, Ra’Shunda and Jason react to a video about why men go silent during arguments, then realize they're talking about a pattern that has shown up in their own marriage.

What starts as a conversation about "what's for lunch" turns into something much bigger: trying to predict your partner's reaction, managing each other's emotions, overthinking simple questions, carrying responsibility for everything, and learning how childhood experiences can quietly shape the way we communicate with our spouse.

We talk about what happens when one person needs space to process while the other experiences silence as uncertainty, why “fixing” isn't always what's needed, and what it takes to tolerate uncomfortable feelings without immediately trying to make them disappear.

If you've ever thought, “Why can't you just tell me what you're thinking?” or “I'm trying to figure out how to answer without making this worse,” this conversation may sound very familiar.

👇🏾 Tell us in the comments: When conflict gets uncomfortable, are you more likely to go quiet, start fixing, or want to talk it out immediately?

Marriage and relationship coaching with Ra’Shunda and Jason is available in Houston and virtually nationwide.  Book a free vibe check call at www.thebsideomarriage.com

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Because the real work begins at “I do.”

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The B-Side of Marriage podcast is hosted by Jason and Ra'Shunda Adams, who are marriage coaches and premarital counselors, where they discuss the good, the bad, and the real of marriage life and family. They have been married for over 17 years and are raising 2 young kings and 1 young queen. They do not have the perfect marriage, but they do have a strong one and are extremely passionate about helping couples have fulfilling, secure, and healthy marriages. ******************************************************

Bside Of Marriage Song Created by Lain Gray https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGCZ6MBOcTg5oG2SV89t-RA

What happens when the marriage advice you inherited leaves no room to question the expectations placed on wives?

After watching Death of the Pastor’s Wife, Ra’Shunda and Jason had a LOT to talk about.

In this episode of The B-Side of Marriage Podcast, we discuss our reactions to the documentary and use it as a starting point for a larger conversation about Christian marriage culture, sexual expectations, submission, church leadership, accountability, and the beliefs couples can carry into marriage without ever stopping to examine them.

We talk about:

The idea that wives are responsible for satisfying their husbands sexually

Why a husband's sexual choices remain his responsibility

What happens when religious authority discourages people from questioning leadership

The different expectations sometimes placed on men and women in church communities

Purity culture and the expectation that sexuality suddenly becomes simple after marriage

What happens to a wife's autonomy when submission is interpreted as minimizing her needs

How inherited marriage roles can create resentment

Why couples need to examine the expectations underneath their relationship

This isn't a conversation about prescribing one “correct” way to structure a Christian marriage.

It's an invitation to ask better questions about the marriage you're actually building.

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The B-Side of Marriage podcast is hosted by Jason and Ra'Shunda Adams, who are marriage coaches and premarital counselors, where they discuss the good, the bad, and the real of marriage life and family. They have been married for over 17 years and are raising 2 young kings and 1 young queen. They do not have the perfect marriage, but they do have a strong one and are extremely passionate about helping couples have fulfilling, secure, and healthy marriages. ******************************************************

Bside Of Marriage Song Created by Lain Gray https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGCZ6MBOcTg5oG2SV89t-RA


Parenting is hard. Healing is hard. Doing both at the same time? That's the real work.

In this episode of The B-Side of Marriage Podcast, Ra'Shunda and Jason open up about the gap between the parent they imagined being and the one their kids actually need. From projecting childhood fears onto your kids, to breaking the "because I said so" cycle, to raising critical thinkers in a world you didn't grow up in — this conversation is honest, relatable, and full of grace.

What you'll take away from this episode:

* How to recognize when you're parenting from your own unhealed wounds

* Why your kids are not mini versions of you and why that's a good thing

* Practical ways to meet your kids where they are emotionally

* How to raise kids who think critically and express themselves freely

* Why community matters more than ever for parents today

Because here's the truth: you don't have to have it all figured out to be a great parent. You just have to be willing to grow alongside them. 💛

🎧 Listen now and share with a parent who needs to hear this today.

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The B-Side of Marriage podcast is hosted by Jason and Ra'Shunda Adams, who are marriage coaches and premarital counselors, where they discuss the good, the bad, and the real of marriage life and family. They have been married for over 17 years and are raising 2 young kings and 1 young queen. They do not have the perfect marriage, but they do have a strong one and are extremely passionate about helping couples have fulfilling, secure, and healthy marriages. ******************************************************

Bside Of Marriage Song Created by Lain Gray https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGCZ6MBOcTg5oG2SV89t-RA

Twenty seasons. Over one hundred weddings. Only twelve couples still married.

Married at First Sight Season 20 based in Seattle, and we are watching the same pattern play out that over and over again. The wedding is electric. The honeymoon is exciting. Then they move into the apartments, real-life begins, and the spark starts flickering. Here is what almost nobody tells you: passion is not something you find. It is something you build...intentionally.

In this episode of The B-Side of Marriage Podcast, we break down what MAFS Season 20 is showcasing about connection, desire, and what actually keeps couples together after the butterflies wear off. We are a husband and wife marriage and relationship coaching team, so you get both perspectives: his and hers, no filter.

🎧 Listen now and subscribe for more real relationship conversations.

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The B-Side of Marriage podcast is hosted by Jason and Ra'Shunda Adams, who are marriage coaches and premarital counselors, where they discuss the good, the bad, and the real of marriage life and family. They have been married for over 17 years and are raising 2 young kings and 1 young queen. They do not have the perfect marriage, but they do have a strong one and are extremely passionate about helping couples have fulfilling, secure, and healthy marriages. ******************************************************

Bside Of Marriage Song Created by Lain Gray https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGCZ6MBOcTg5oG2SV89t-RA

Every Black parent carries the heavy weight of sending your child into an area, a school, a team, or a neighborhood that wasn't built with them in mind.

In this episode of The B-Side of Marriage, we sit with something a lot of us are dealing with right now: the fear, the grief, and the hard questions that come with raising Black children in predominantly white spaces.

🎧 Listen now and subscribe for more real relationship conversations.

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The B-Side of Marriage podcast is hosted by Jason and Ra'Shunda Adams, who are marriage coaches and premarital counselors, where they discuss the good, the bad, and the real of marriage life and family. They have been married for over 17 years and are raising 2 young kings and 1 young queen. They do not have the perfect marriage, but they do have a strong one and are extremely passionate about helping couples have fulfilling, secure, and healthy marriages. ******************************************************

Bside Of Marriage Song Created by Lain Gray https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGCZ6MBOcTg5oG2SV89t-RA

How long do you wait for someone to change?

In this episode, we explore how to extend grace without losing yourself, why accountability requires agreement, and how unspoken expectations quietly erode relationships.

If you’ve ever wondered whether patience is helping—or hurting—this episode is for you.

🎧 Listen now and subscribe for more real relationship conversations.

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The B-Side of Marriage podcast is hosted by Jason and Ra'Shunda Adams, who are marriage coaches and premarital counselors, where they discuss the good, the bad, and the real of marriage life and family. They have been married for over 17 years and are raising 2 young kings and 1 young queen. They do not have the perfect marriage, but they do have a strong one and are extremely passionate about helping couples have fulfilling, secure, and healthy marriages. ******************************************************

Bside Of Marriage Song Created by Lain Gray https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGCZ6MBOcTg5oG2SV89t-RA

When your partner is stressed, quiet, or short with you—do you assume it’s about you? In this episode, we break down how couples attach meaning to moods and body language, and how that spiral can create unnecessary tension.

You’ll learn the two questions that slow down your reaction, how attachment styles show up, and why empathy doesn’t mean carrying emotions that aren’t yours.

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The B-Side of Marriage podcast is hosted by Jason and Ra'Shunda Adams, who are marriage coaches and premarital counselors, where they discuss the good, the bad, and the real of marriage life and family. They have been married for over 17 years and are raising 2 young kings and 1 young queen. They do not have the perfect marriage, but they do have a strong one and are extremely passionate about helping couples have fulfilling, secure, and healthy marriages. ******************************************************

Bside Of Marriage Song Created by Lain Gray https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGCZ6MBOcTg5oG2SV89t-RA

In this episode, Ra'Shunda and Jason talk about what happens when life gets overloaded—kids, work, school, goals—and your marriage starts running on fumes.

They share why “white space” matters, how to stop missing bids for connection, and how couples can recalibrate before burnout turns into resentment.

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The B-Side of Marriage podcast is hosted by Jason and Ra'Shunda Adams, who are marriage coaches and premarital counselors, where they discuss the good, the bad, and the real of marriage life and family. They have been married for over 17 years and are raising 2 young kings and 1 young queen. They do not have the perfect marriage, but they do have a strong one and are extremely passionate about helping couples have fulfilling, secure, and healthy marriages. ******************************************************

Bside Of Marriage Song Created by Lain Gray https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGCZ6MBOcTg5oG2SV89t-RA

Welcome to 2026! In this episode, Ra’Shunda and Jason share why couples don’t always need brand-new resolutions—sometimes you need a reset.

They discuss revisiting last year’s goals, redefining consistency, celebrating wins, and avoiding a performance mindset in marriage. Plus, they share a fun idea: a Marriage Goals Bingo Card to help you track progress and celebrate along the way.

🎧 Listen now and subscribe for weekly marriage and relationship conversations.

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The B-Side of Marriage podcast is hosted by Jason and Ra'Shunda Adams, who are marriage coaches and premarital counselors, where they discuss the good, the bad, and the real of marriage life and family. They have been married for over 17 years and are raising 2 young kings and 1 young queen. They do not have the perfect marriage, but they do have a strong one and are extremely passionate about helping couples have fulfilling, secure, and healthy marriages. ******************************************************

Bside Of Marriage Song Created by Lain Gray https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGCZ6MBOcTg5oG2SV89t-RA

Ever had a day (or season) where you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, or emotionally checked out—yet life still expects you to show up in your relationship?

In this rewind episode, Ra'Shunda and Jason talk about why marriage isn’t 50/50, how to stop negative thought cycles, how to communicate what you need without shutting down, and why self-care and gratitude can help you reconnect when you’re not feeling it.

🎧 Subscribe for weekly conversations that strengthen marriages through real life advice and experiences.

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The B-Side of Marriage podcast is hosted by Jason and Ra'Shunda Adams, who are marriage coaches and premarital counselors, where they discuss the good, the bad, and the real of marriage life and family. They have been married for over 17 years and are raising 2 young kings and 1 young queen. They do not have the perfect marriage, but they do have a strong one and are extremely passionate about helping couples have fulfilling, secure, and healthy marriages. ******************************************************

Bside Of Marriage Song Created by Lain Gray https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGCZ6MBOcTg5oG2SV89t-RA