In this episode, we flip the script on sadness. What if falling apart isn’t a failure but a form of emotional intelligence? From the law of entropy that governs the cosmos to the yin-yang truth that darkness and light need each other, she explores why breaking down is part of nature’s design. A conscious pity party becomes a sacred reset — a moment to stop performing strength, let the tears flow, and feel the clean pain that actually moves emotion through the body instead of trapping it.

Haelly also draws on Carl Jung’s concept of the inner child — the tender, innocent part of us that still longs to be seen, soothed, and held. By honoring that child with compassion rather than criticism, we reclaim our wholeness and learn that darkness doesn’t destroy the light; it reveals it. This episode invites you to curl up, cry it out, and remember: sometimes the most healing thing you can do is give yourself permission to pout.

Random things from the episode:

Ding Dong its your doorbell

Crankenstein

The Light-Disturbed 

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Back in July, I went to a Lindsey Stirling concert expecting great music—but I walked away with a life lesson I’ll never forget. In the middle of her performance, she paused to reflect on her journey and said, “I wasn’t good enough… yet.” That one word—yet—hit me like a lightning bolt. It was a reminder that growth isn’t about being perfect or ready. It’s about trusting the process of becoming.

In this episode, I explore how that moment connects with one of my favorite books, Turning Pro by Steven Pressfield. Together, we’ll unpack what it means to move from amateur energy to professional devotion—showing up for your calling even when you feel unqualified. Whether you’re stuck in self-doubt, afraid to launch something new, or waiting for the perfect moment to begin, this episode is your nudge: you don’t have to be there yet... you just have to start showing up like the person you’re becoming.

Who is Lindsey Stirling....allow me to introduce the legend....here is her most viral video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHjpOzsQ9YI&list=RDaHjpOzsQ9YI&start_radio=1

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If this episode hit home—especially the part about how your worth doesn’t change no matter what you do—I want you to stop what you’re doing and book a free 30-minute chat with me.

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And here’s the deal: I only open a handful of these sessions each month for my loyal podcast listeners. Once they’re gone, they’re gone.

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Sometimes life hits you with the kind of chaos you can’t plan for — canceled flights, glitchy systems, impossible deadlines. In this episode, I share two moments that tested my calm and my perseverance: the unexpected delay that turned my trip into a full week away from my son, and the near-denial of a program I depend on because of one tiny missed box on an online form.

Both moments had the potential to spiral me — to send me into panic, frustration, or self-blame. But something shifted. Instead of falling apart, I rode through the storm like a buffalo — the animal that runs toward the storm, not away from it. Because that’s how you move through uncertainty faster. You face it head-on.

This episode is a reminder that you are the hero in your own story. The underdog who doesn’t give up. The one who gets resourceful when things fall apart. The one who anchors into calm when life feels chaotic.

You can’t control the storms. But you can always control how you move through them. And when life gets messy, remember: you’ve got you.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The near-disaster with my program renewal and how I stayed grounded through the mess
• The story of my canceled flight after a plane crash in San Diego
• How to delay your emotional reaction when you need to stay in problem-solving mode
• Why being calm doesn’t mean being numb
• The “buffalo mindset” for riding through life’s storms
• What it really means to be your own best hero

For anyone who’s ever felt thrown off by life’s curveballs — this one’s for you.

If you’ve been listening to this and thinking, “That’s me — I get thrown off when life shifts, when things don’t go as planned,” then I want to invite you to book a free 30-minute coaching session with me.

If you struggle with uncertainty, with feeling like you’re always trying to get your footing again — let me help you find your anchor. In this call, we’ll identify what’s really causing that sense of instability, and I’ll walk you through simple but powerful tools to create certainty within yourself, no matter what’s happening around you.

After our session, you’ll leave with practical strategies to navigate life’s curveballs with calm, confidence, and clarity — the same mindset that helped me ride through my own storms. Because when life gets unpredictable, you’ve still got you.

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If you want something, then let yourself have it.

That’s the lesson I had to face when planning my trip to California — holding my son’s father accountable for his word, navigating the fallout, and choosing my want over fear.

In this episode, I share:

• The story behind saying yes to California, even when resistance showed up.
• Why 10x Is Easier Than 2x and what it taught me about wants vs needs, simplicity, and letting go.
• The story of a young Michelangelo and how his want created 10x results at only 23.
• The deeper truth of wealth: freedom from vs freedom to.
• Why wanting is the most vulnerable — and most magical — thing we can do.

And yes, I even tie in one of my favorite childhood movies, HalloweenTown, because its wisdom is still shaping how I live today.

✨ Reflection for you: What do you truly want right now that you haven’t let yourself have?

As a thank you for listening, I have a FREE gift for you — the full recording of my People Pleaser Detox Workshop. It’s a powerful session that will help you set boundaries with clarity and confidence, without losing your compassion. Watch it here: People Pleaser Detox Workshop

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Why do we tie our worth to the titles we hold, the achievements we rack up, or the way we appear to others? In this episode, I share four stories — from being treated like VIP as a TSR dance teacher, to the Speaker of the House losing perks once the title was gone, to Michael Phelps’ post-Olympic identity crisis, and even a Jackie Kennedy dress moment at Spa World. Each story reveals how quickly the world’s treatment of us shifts when a title or costume changes — and why none of those things define our true value.

Your worth doesn’t rise and fall with your achievements, your roles, or your image. It is steady, unshakable, and rooted in one simple truth: the fact that you exist makes you worthy.

I close with a mantra to anchor this truth and invite you to reflect on where you’ve been outsourcing your worth — and what it would feel like to rest in the reality that you are more than a title.

References:

Actress Rountable

Dr. Maya Angelou Interview 

Michael Phelps

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What do a stolen trash can, a Hobby Lobby moment, and a book on boundaries have in common? They all taught me the same lesson: courage shows up in the small, ordinary moments — often with shaking hands.

In this episode, I share the story of confronting my neighbor after she admitted to sending her son onto my property to take my trash can, and what it revealed about protecting my home, my son, and myself. I also share a Hobby Lobby story that brought me face-to-face with the same truth: boundaries have to be clear in order to be respected.

We’ll talk about:

• How “beautiful rage” was born in me when my son was born
• Why fear and shaking don’t mean you’re weak — they mean you’re human
• The Law of Exposure from the book Boundaries and why unspoken limits don’t work
• How everyday conflicts can be powerful practice grounds for courage

This isn’t about trash cans or checkout lines — it’s about reclaiming your voice, honoring your worth, and standing tall in the little moments that matter most.

✨ As a thank you for listening, I have a free gift for you — the full recording of my People Pleaser Detox workshop. It’s a powerful session that will help you set boundaries with clarity and confidence, without losing your compassion. Watch it here: People Pleaser Detox Workshop

💬 And if you’re personally struggling with boundaries — if you feel unsure how to say yes and no with clarity, or how to handle conflict without guilt — I invite you to join me for a free 30-minute consult. In this session, I’ll share tools that can help you protect your energy, communicate your needs, and approach boundaries with confidence and compassion. Click here to schedule: Scheduling Link

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I was talking to a man in a lab coat — literal oncologist energy. And when he asked what I did, I said it: “I’m like a life coach.”

What happened next wasn’t about him… it was about me.

In this episode, I unpack the spiral of comparison, the shame that crept in, and the belief that I wasn’t “legit enough” to sit at the same table.

If you’ve ever shrunk yourself next to someone with a fancy title, if you’ve ever questioned your work, your value, your right to take up space — this one’s for you.

We’re talking imposter syndrome, internalized hierarchy, and how to reclaim your worth no matter what letters do (or don’t) follow your name.

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Have you ever felt like all your value disappeared the minute you messed up?

In this episode, I share the raw and real story of how I showed up nearly two hours late to a retreat I was co-leading… and the mental spiral that followed. I didn’t want to run away — I wanted to shrink, fawn, over-apologize, and earn my way back into being “okay.”

But what if your worth was never gone to begin with?

This episode is about the power of staying with yourself — even in the moments where shame wants to swallow you whole. We’ll talk about the fawn response, leadership perfectionism, and what it means to sit in your seat of power… even with trembling knees.

Because your throne?
 It was never up for debate.
 Even when you feel shaky — it’s still yours.

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✨ More clarity around what’s keeping you stuck
 ✨ Tangible tools to handle stress and tough emotions
 ✨ A boost in confidence and a deeper connection to your power
 ✨ Practical next steps that feel doable, not overwhelming

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What happens when the medical system doesn’t have the answers you need? At 25, Melissa’s life changed forever after a vaccine injury left her battling chronic illness. For 15 years, she fought not only her health but the frustrating gaslighting from doctors who couldn’t—or wouldn’t—help her.

In this eye-opening episode, Melissa shares her relentless struggle for answers, the emotional toll of being dismissed, and her longing for the kind of breakthrough moments seen on medical dramas like House. But instead of waiting for a magic diagnosis, Melissa empowered herself by turning to holistic medicine. Through a lot of trial and error, she learned to understand her symptoms and heal her body on her own terms.

Her journey is one of resilience and self-advocacy in the face of a broken medical system. With approximately 129 million Americans living with at least one major chronic disease as of 2024, Melissa's story resonates with many. Tune in to hear a powerful story of courage, frustration, and hope.

Connect with Melissa Jan:

email: [email protected]

IG: @melissaayshajan

🎧 Ready to feel more confident, less overwhelmed, and actually excited about your life again?

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✨ More clarity around what’s keeping you stuck
 ✨ Tangible tools to handle stress and tough emotions
 ✨ A boost in confidence and a deeper connection to your power
 ✨ Practical next steps that feel doable, not overwhelming

This isn’t about venting—it’s about momentum.
If you’ve been spinning your wheels or silently struggling, this is your sign to pause… and choose support instead.

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Ever wondered why your child reacts by hitting or struggles with big emotions? In this episode, pediatric OT Stacey helps unpack the hidden reasons behind these challenging behaviors. We explore how sensory overload and the brain's "rooms" can impact a child's ability to communicate, leading to primal reactions like hitting. Stacey shares valuable insights on how to understand the "why" behind behavior and how modeling desired actions can help children navigate their feelings. If you're looking for clarity on how to respond with empathy and understanding, this episode offers actionable strategies to help you manage difficult moments with compassion.

MISCELLANEOUS items/resources mentioned in the podcast:

• Autism Level UP
• Rhythmic Moving 

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🎧 Ready to feel more confident, less overwhelmed, and actually excited about your life again?

I’m offering a limited number of free 30-minute coaching sessions this month—and I’d love for you to grab one.

In just one session, you’ll walk away with:

✨ More clarity around what’s keeping you stuck
 ✨ Tangible tools to handle stress and tough emotions
 ✨ A boost in confidence and a deeper connection to your power
 ✨ Practical next steps that feel doable, not overwhelming

This isn’t about venting—it’s about momentum.
If you’ve been spinning your wheels or silently struggling, this is your sign to pause… and choose support instead.

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Spots are limited, and once they’re gone—they’re gone.

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