I’m sitting here writing this to you on the second week of January and I have a confession to make… my Christmas decorations are still up. 

Things are not going to plan.

The constant reminder that a chore needs to be completed is both frustrating and upsetting at the same time.

Maybe it isn’t your holiday decorations that are the problem but there is more than likely something that needs to be done that the health of your family and the weight of caregiving has made it difficult for you to do. 

Christmas decorations in the middle of January may seem like the least of a caregivers worries. You’re right! That is exactly why they’re still up. 

Listen to episode 145 of the Love Your Caregiving Life podcast to learn how my decision tree works and how it helps me focus on what is most important for me and my family. 

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This time last year my husband and I started downsizing our lives so we could move from our suburban home in Minneapolis to a condo in Chicago. 

It made us realize that we were really excited about some of the responsibilities we no longer needed to worry about. Responsibilities stressed me out when my husband wasn’t physically able to do them during the years his cancer took a larger role in our lives. 

Listen to episode 144 to hear more about 

⭐️How downsizing in our life allowed us to enjoy it more. 

❤️Work through what you might be willing to let someone else do for you so you can spend more time doing more of what’s important in your caregiving life. 

👉🏼Understand how sometimes “because we always do it this way” isn’t always the nest way.

Find transcripts and more at www.loveyourcaregivinglife.com

Let’s talk about why hating yourself isn’t a requirement for change. 

Your needs matter. You don’t have to find a reason to hate yourself in order to justify doing them. 

Listen to episode 143 to learn,

❤️How to choose the change you want in life without the need to hate yourself in order to do it. 

❤️How to make positive life changes that set you up to succeed. 

❤️Ways to not fall into the trap of New Years resolutions that will only serve to make you feel bad about yourself. 

Find more at www.loveyourcaregivinglife.com

Why do we hurt our ability to enjoy the small moments in our lives by being controlled by what might happen in the future?

How many times do you find yourself laughing with a group of people and then remember your loved one has a doctor’s appointment next week and suddenly feel your stomach drop? 

Or maybe living in constant worry of the possibility of losing your loved one to the point that you can never enjoy the day you’re living in with them?

Listen to Episode 142 to hear more on how you can enjoy living with your loved one and make more opportunities to enjoy life with them.

You can find more at www.loveyourcaregivinglife.com

When you think of it, aren’t the “bad” times and experiences in your life what make you who you are? 

When you think about your caregiving do you know you can make it through difficult things because of the vacation you took three years ago or because you were able to advocate for your loved one last month? 

Listen to episode 141 of the Love Your Caregiving Life podcast to find out why we only document the good and try to quickly forget the things that change us and why my camera roll is only full of Chicago sunsets and smiling faces? 

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How many times have you been out with someone and suddenly they'll give you a weird look and ask if you’ve been walking around like that all day? Have you had two different shoes on all day or wait, I thought your hair was up when we left.

When was the last time you really saw your loved one? It’s so easy to do. I mean in a - why didn’t you tell me I forgot to button up my shirt before we left the house kind of way. We just take for granted that they’re there. We see the space they’re taking up but don’t really look at them. 

We walk alongside our loved ones for so long that we fail to truly see them.

Listen to or read episode 140 to hear more on why it’s important to notice your loved one and how to use that to strengthen your relationship. 

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Here’s the thing… gratitude isn’t standing around the dinner table holding hands with people you haven’t seen in a year, feverishly trying to think up a new thing you can say you’re grateful for because Aunt Mary already took what you were going to say! 

Gratitude is not just a holiday theme.

It isn’t a one-and-done kinda thing.

In fact, I love that gratitude gets the spotlight for one-twelfth of the year because I believe it is a powerful practice and is something I do all the time. 

Gratitude is a practice. You aren’t supposed to be good at it on your first try.

How do you work on it? 

You try your best to find things you are grateful for and acknowledge when that feeling of gratitude or thankfulness genuinely shows up.

For example… Let’s say someone hands something to you and you say “thank you”. If you were practicing gratitude you would take a moment to really be thankful for it. Thank you can be such a mechanical thing to say. If you are practicing gratitude then simply really being thankful for something when you say thank you can be a great place to start. 

Listen to episode 139 to learn more about what gratitude actually is and ways you can start practicing it today. 

Find a free gratitude sheet in the show notes at

https://www.loveyourcaregivinglife.com/blog/episode-139-gratitude-and-thankfulness-don-t-have-to-be-bad-words-for-caregivers

Usually, the topic of gratitude pops up when life is already too difficult for you to handle as a caregiver.  Usually, around the holidays the gratitude message becomes powerful and you can feel surrounded by it. You’ll see it in holiday commercials, on social media, and in almost any conversation you find yourself in. Or worse yet… the awkward gratitude circle your family always forms right before you’re allowed to eat. 

Listen to Episode 138 of the Love Your Caregiving Life podcast to learn why it’s ok to be angry about gratitude. 

Find more caregiving support including the digital caregiving magazine Caregiving Confessions at www.loveyorucaregivinglife.com

Turbulence is never a science. You could hear there could be some bumps along that way and on the other end of it realize it really wasn’t anything to worry about. Or the turbulence hits out of thin air and it takes you by surprise. Either way… you’ve learned that there is a certain amount of unpredictability when you fly and you have to choose how you will approach that each time you get on a plane.

Caregiving is the same way. 

We’ve all been forced to face how unfair life can be… so are you a glass empty or glass full type of person?

I think I’m a… hope the waiter comes soon because I’m thirsty type.

I do walk through life expecting the best. 

Don’t you deserve the best?

You doubted that when I said it didn’t you? 

But really… don’t you deserve the best? 

What if the best isn’t a cure. 

What if the best is seeing what is good in your life?

Listen to episode 136 to find out how I make sure that glass is filled as high or as low as I need for it to be.