In today's episode, we explore the differences between being a boss and a leader. Leaders focus on developing their team, communicate with people, and invest in their entire community. In contrast, bosses often prioritize the organization and top executives. We emphasize that leaders should practice what they preach and recognize the power of effective communication.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

1. Communicate with Purpose, Not Just to Speak: As a leader, it's important to be intentional with your communication. Speak to build others up, not just to hear yourself talk.

   
   

2. Practice What You Preach: Effective leaders model the behavior they want to see in others. Implement the advice and principles you share with your team.

   
   

3. Develop Emotional Intelligence: Understanding your own emotions and how they impact others is crucial for being an impactful leader. Take the time to develop self-awareness and empathy.

   
   

4. See Your Team as a Community, Not Just Workers: Shift your mindset from viewing employees as cogs in a machine to seeing them as valuable members of a community you are there to support and develop.

   
   

5. Don't Be Afraid to Pivot: If you've genuinely tried to lead in a toxic environment and it's compromising your values, dare to make a change rather than stay stuck.

   
   

6. Endure the Difficult Work: Sometimes the path to growth and success involves persevering through challenges. Don't quit just because the work gets hard - the lessons may be in the work you're tempted to refuse.

   0:00 - 5:00

   • The discussion shifts from "bosses vs leaders" to focusing on leaders and how they should approach communication and relationships.

   • Terrence and Sandra emphasize the importance of practicing what you preach and not giving advice you don't follow yourself.

   5:00 - 10:00

   • The difference between bosses and leaders is highlighted - bosses focus on the organization/institution, while leaders focus on building up the community/people.

   • It is important to value and develop all members of an organization, not just the top executives.

   10:00 - 15:00

   • Terrence and Sandra share personal experiences of being a "pushover" for leaders/bosses who show genuine care and concern for their employees.

   • Emphasizes the need for leaders to be compassionate and supportive, not just task-oriented.

   15:00 - 20:00

   • Advice for employees who are leaders working under a poor boss - maintain your values, find ways to positively influence, and don't lose hope.

   • Caution against making rash decisions out of emotion, but be willing to pivot when necessary.

   20:00 - 25:00

   • Developing emotional intelligence is crucial for both bosses transitioning to leaders and leaders working under bosses.

   • Importance of truly seeing and hearing your team, not just giving orders.

   • Emphasize the value of discernment in sensing team dynamics and responding accordingly.

   
   

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Welcome to Season 2 premiere of the CEO Material podcast. In today’s episode, we explore the critical distinction between bosses and true leaders. We share our experiences encountering more "bosses" than mentors in the workplace. The key message is that not all authority figures are effective leaders. Real leaders share their wisdom and help others grow, regardless of titles or status. We encourage listeners to seek out unexpected mentors, as valuable lessons can come from unconventional sources. A core responsibility of leadership is passing knowledge through mentorship. This episode focused on cultivating the right leadership mindset.

If you're interested in developing your leadership skills and learning from experienced mentors, be sure to tune in for the next episode of the CEO Material podcast. We'll be providing more practical tools and tips to help you become a more effective leader.

Don't miss out on this insightful start to Season 2 - listen to the CEO Material podcast today!

Key Takeaways:

1. Leadership positions inherently come with promises to provide growth, improvement, and a better future. Leaders must take ownership of these promises.

2. Parenting is a fundamental form of leadership, and the role of a parent comes with the promise to be good to one's children.

3. Self-evaluation and growth are essential for leaders to fulfill the promises they make, both in personal and professional relationships.

4. Leadership is a collective effort, and leaders must bring their best selves to the table while also being willing to seek help and negotiate when needed.

5. Understanding and fulfilling promises is crucial in all areas of life, as we all have inherent promises to keep simply by being on this earth.

03:00 - 04:00 -Call to action: Asking the audience for feedback and topic suggestions.

05:00 - Introducing the topic of "Bosses vs. Leaders".

06:00 - Sharing personal experiences of encountering more "bosses" than "leaders".

07:00 - Discussing the difference between a boss and a leader.

08:00 - Sharing the importance of seeking out mentors and leaders.

09:00 - Acknowledging the value in one's own leadership abilities.

10:00 - Discussing the mistakes of dismissing one's own leadership potential.

11:00 - Emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and building upon one's own strengths.

12:00 - Sharing the personal experience of seeking mentorship in a mega-church.

13:00 - Discussing the capability and wisdom found in "average" people.

14:00 - Highlighting the story of Tyrese's mother and her leadership in a fast-food restaurant.

15:00 - Emphasizing the importance of respecting and learning from those in various roles.

16:00 - Discussing the difference between paying the price to be a "boss" versus a "leader".

17:00 - Encouraging listeners to discern between those who are truly leaders and those who are simply bosses.

18:00 - Discussing the obligation of leaders to mentor and share their knowledge.

19:00 - Emphasizing the joy and fulfillment in mentoring and helping others grow.

20:00 - Discussing the importance of looking beyond titles and status when seeking mentors.

21:00 - Encouraging listeners to respect and learn from people in various roles and situations.

22:00 - Discussing the concept of "leading from below" and filling necessary voids.

23:00 - Emphasizing the importance of filling voids with positive and healthy influences.

           24:00 - Encouraging listeners to be intentional and effective in their leadership   roles.

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In today’s episode,we discuss the importance of personal and professional growth, self-awareness, and imagination in adult life. We emphasize the need for a clear vision and imagination to achieve goals, while also maintaining a childlike innocence and curiosity. As we dive deeper we encourage each other to step out of their comfort zones and explore new experiences, cultures, foods, and music to foster growth and learning. Also,we highlight the challenges of balancing these aspects in today's society and the impact of modern conveniences on free time and imagination.Tune in as we dive deeper in this second episode of Temperament

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

1. The importance of managing one's temperament and communicating effectively in relationships.

2. How developing personal vision can help with growth and handling conflicts. 

3. Retaining a childlike sense of imagination and wonder as an adult.

4. Allowing children to explore different activities and find their passions.

5. The balance between responsibility and stretching beyond one's comfort zone.

6. Passing on the importance of vision to future generations.

7. How exposure to different cultures and perspectives can enhance one's vision.

00:04 - Recap of last episode discussing temperament 

02:26 - Importance of introducing vision in last episode

03:26 - Developing a vision changing one's mindset and approach to conflicts

07:00 - Seeing oneself through one's relationship with another

07:10 - Feeling like another is reading your mind without mind reading

07:19 - Explanation of phrase "always in my Kool Aid"

08:16 - The importance of vision and evolving one's thinking

09:03 - Losing childlike imagination as adults due to responsibilities 

09:15 - Clarification of childhood experiences referenced 

10:13 - Where adults lose ability to imagine and dream like children

11:48 - Perception of certain activities like gaming between generations

13:29 - Definition of vision

15:20 - Importance of both imagination and wisdom for vision

16:30 - Balance between childlike qualities and adult behaviors

19:59 - Younger generations prioritizing quality of life over work

21:09 - Passing on vision to future generations through parenting

22:54 - Allowing children to explore different activities and find passion

25:50 - Balancing exploration with sustaining responsibilities

27:03 - Importance of stretching beyond comfort through new challenges

29:22 - Encouraging exposure to different cultures and perspectives

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In today’s episode, we discuss the concept of success and its definition, emphasizing the importance of defining it on one's own terms rather than relying on external measures. We also discuss the societal misconceptions surrounding success and happiness, and the need to find balance in life to achieve fulfillment. Additionally, we highlight the significance of giving children the freedom to dream and explore their passions without imposing parental expectations. Throughout the conversation, we ephasize the importance of creativity, resilience, and self-discovery in pursuing one's goals and finding true fulfillment.Tune in for more insights.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• Defining success on your own terms rather than comparing yourself to others or relying on external measures like wealth or status.

• Finding fulfillment and balance in life through pursuing goals and activities that satisfy your soul, mind and sense of purpose.

• Using self-reflection and assessment to ensure alignment between your goals, values and how you spend your time/resources.

• Allowing children freedom to dream without expectations so they can find their own path to success.

• Embracing failure as part of growth and learning, not as a reflection of your self-worth.

• Developing gratitude for your current situation and accomplishments in life rather than always wanting more. 

• Balancing dreams with appreciating what you already have through an attitude of gratitude.

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In this episode, we take a candid look at the importance of emotional balance in leadership. Reflecting on our past experiences with volatile tempers and poor emotional management, we discuss how these challenges affected our leadership both at home and in professional settings. We share our journey towards finding balance, patience, and hope, emphasizing the continuous effort required to grow and improve as leaders. Through personal anecdotes and thoughtful insights, we aim to provide valuable lessons on overcoming emotional hurdles and leading with integrity and authenticity.

What you will learn: 

1. Self-awareness: Recognizing and acknowledging personal flaws and areas for growth is the first step towards becoming a better leader.

2. Emotional balance: Learning to manage emotions and approach situations from a place of calmness and clarity enhances leadership effectiveness.

3. Personal accountability: Taking ownership of one's actions, behaviors, and reactions fosters trust and respect among team members.

4. Continuous learning: Leadership is an ongoing journey of self-improvement, requiring openness to feedback, reflection, and adaptation.

5. Resilience: Overcoming challenges and setbacks with resilience builds character and strengthens leadership capabilities.

6. Authenticity: Leading authentically by staying true to oneself and demonstrating integrity fosters genuine connections and inspires others.

7. Empathy: Understanding and empathizing with the perspectives and feelings of others promotes collaboration, teamwork, and effective leadership.

1:30 - Highlighting how poor emotional balance negatively affected their leadership at home and work, emphasizing the importance of balanced emotions in leadership.

1:59 - Reflecting on personal growth and striving for balance, the speaker mentions that the podcast aims to share these insights with the audience.

2:18 - Discussing the importance of hope, faith, and patience in their current leadership approach, contrasting it with past behavior.

2:28 - Terrence expresses pride in the personal growth that led to a calmer demeanor and improved handling of upsetting situations, no longer reacting impulsively or with anger.

11:25 - Introduction of the topic of temperament and seeking balance.

12:06 - Sandra describes their routine of setting a positive mindset before entering work.

12:57 - Emphasis on leaving personal issues at home to maintain a professional and positive demeanor at work.

13:26 - Conversation about how traffic can trigger negative emotions and the importance of self-preparation to maintain control.

14:10 - Discussing the importance of not letting others' actions control your demeanor and maintaining personal control.

15:00 - The importance of making home a place of peace to manage emotions and temperament.

15:21 - Story of witnessing a couple fighting in their car and reflecting on how personal issues affect professional contributions.

17:34 - The practice of waking up early for personal time to prepare emotionally and mentally for the day.

18:29 - Discussion on different methods of preparation for maintaining temperament, such as gaming, home improvement, and ministry.

19:47 - Importance of meditation for dealing with underlying issues and not projecting problems onto others.

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In today's episode, Terrence and Sandra discuss the importance of giving and self-care. The hosts explore how to fill your own "cup" with nurturing activities before sharing your gifts with others. They emphasize showing appreciation for the many givers in our lives, while also stressing the need for boundaries to avoid depletion. Terrence and Sandra provide tips for maintaining a positive mindset through spiritual practices and creative outlets. They delve into setting limits, especially with family, so that one can give from a place of love rather than obligation. It's a thoughtful discussion about balancing giving, receiving, and prioritizing your own well-being.Tune in to hear these impactful insights on nurturing healthy relationships and being your best self. Your "cup" will feel full after listening in!

What you will learn :

From the CEO Material podcast episode about the importance of giving and setting boundaries, here are five key lessons listeners can learn:

1. The Value of Giving: Recognize the significance of giving in various forms, whether it's time, energy, or resources. Understand that giving not only benefits others but also enriches your own life.

2. Self-Care is Essential: Understand the importance of self-care and maintaining your own well-being. Just as you cannot pour from an empty cup, taking care of yourself first allows you to give more effectively and sustainably.

3. Setting Boundaries: Learn to set boundaries in your relationships and commitments. Boundaries help protect your own energy and prevent burnout by ensuring that you give in a healthy and sustainable way.

4. Giving from a Place of Peace: Ensure that your giving comes from a place of peace and joy rather than obligation or resentment. Giving out of love and abundance enhances the quality of your contributions and fosters positive relationships.

5. The Power of Overflow: Understand the concept of giving from overflow. By keeping your own cup full, you have more to offer to others without depleting yourself. Cultivating abundance within yourself allows you to give generously and authentically.

05:00 Thanking givers for their contributions05:22 - Discussion of different types of givers like healthcare workers, teachers, volunteers, etc.10:00 - Explanation of the "cup" metaphor10:22 - Explanation of keeping what fills your cup (mental capacity, energy, etc.) for yourself while giving from the overflow15:00  Examples of how the Terrence and Sandra fill their own cups15:22- Mention of therapy/counseling as another way some people fill their cup20:00 - Importance of boundaries and discernment in giving20:22 - Example of how discernment is needed in giving your energy so you're not drained by those who just take without giving back21:22 - Point about not feeling obligated to give to family members and needing boundaries even with family21:55- Dangers of feeling obligated to give and giving from resentment25:00 - Creating an atmosphere of giving through love and support25:22 - Importance of giving out of love, joy, and peace rather than obligation or resentment

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In today’s episode we discuss the unfulfilled promises made by leaders, highlighting their lasting effects on individuals, especially children. We emphasize the importance of acknowledging and fulfilling promises in leadership,and the need for self-awareness, trust, and responsibility.We go ahead and discuss gender roles and responsibilities in marriage, with a focus on shared burdens and mutual support. Finally,we emphasize the significance of effective communication, active listening, and mutual understanding in keeping promises in leadership.

What you will learn:

•  the importance of taking ownership of leadership and fulfilling promises to oneself and others.

• Leadership comes with promises, whether acknowledged or unspoken, to improve or provide growth.

•  Leadership positions come with promises, embrace them.

•  Self-evaluation and growth are essential for relationships.

• Growth is a collective effort, bring your best self to the table.

•  the need to negotiate and seek help when needed to walk out promises effectively.

•  importance of understanding and fulfilling promises in personal and professional life.

00:39 Nobody wants a leader that doesn't come with the promise of either a new day, or a better day or something better, some improvement

01:50 Parenting is the most basic form of leadership

03:01 The act of being a parent is the fact that you promised to be good to your children.

04:01 it doesn't matter what leadership position is parent, husband, wife, Fran, boss, Pastor, church leader, that it comes with inherent promises

07:11 if you're going to take these roles, then we need to honor the promises that come along with these roles

11:45  part of being a leader is self evaluation, you have to evaluate yourself

15:14 stop trying to be Superman without your Superwoman 

22:37 When did you realize that that leadership came with promises?

24:25 It doesn't matter what it is, you made some promises if you're on His earth, you've made some promises. Because one, if you're on this earth, you are a leader. Remember, the first leader you ever really have or the best leader you have is yourself

28:29 There is no such a thing as a self made millionaire. you standing on someone's shoulder, someone's giving you a helping hand, someone's lending you some form of wisdom and advice. 

29:29 Whether you are a  CEO, a President, at some point you're gonna be relying on others, and you need to be able to give it up. 

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In today's episode, we dive deep into the beauty of "No" and its profound significance in our lives. Many of us don't often associate "No" with something beautiful, but we're here to challenge that notion. Saying "No" can be a powerful act of self-care and empowerment, allowing us to set boundaries, prioritize our well-being, and stay true to ourselves.

Ready to discover the transformative power of "No"? Tune in and join the conversation!

What you will learn:

• The Power of Finding Your Voice: Sandra's childhood experiences highlight the importance of finding and using your voice to assert yourself and communicate your boundaries.

• The Empowerment of Saying "No": Terence's dating experiences demonstrate how saying "No" can empower you to make choices that align with your values and needs

• Overcoming Trauma and Finding Strength: Sandra's journey of overcoming sexual abuse and finding the courage to say "No" showcases the resilience of the human spirit and the strength that comes from facing and healing from trauma.

• The Importance of Gratitude and Emotional Health: Discussion on gratitude and emotional health emphasizes the significance of cultivating a positive mindset and taking care of your mental well-being

• .The Power of Sharing Your Story: Sandra's story illustrates how sharing your experiences can be empowering and healing for both yourself and others.

• Taking Ownership of Your Response to Life's Challenges: The quote "It’s not what happened to you, it’s not what you’re going through, it's how you respond that matters" highlights the importance of taking ownership of your response to life's challenges and adversities.

02:54 Sandra explains her childhood background where she did not have a voice

03:25 The power of one’s voice

04:02 How the power of no influenced Terence’s life in his dating years

08:42 Sandra shares how she was date raped and sexually abused twice

11:10 Sandra’s experience the first time she said no

11:28 How scarcity and saying no played a role 

13:34 Being emotionally unhealthy

13:48 Gratitude

15:58 The power of telling your story

20:33 It’s not what happened to you,it;’s not what you’re going through, it's how you respond that matters

21:44 How to establish your identity

25:40 Respect your son’s and daughter's intuition

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Join us as we delve into the crucial topic of trust in leadership. In today's episode, we explore strategies for establishing and maintaining trust within teams and organizations. From the importance of transparent communication to leading by example, we examine key principles that leaders can apply to cultivate trust among their team members. Additionally, we touch on themes of healing, perseverance, and community support, emphasizing the collaborative effort needed for growth and well-being. Don't miss out on these valuable insights—tune in and discover how to foster trust within your leadership role.

What you will learn :

• Transparency and Communication: Leaders should strive to be transparent about goals, challenges, and decisions.

• Leading by Example:Consistency between words and deeds reinforces trust among team members.

• Supporting Healing: Leaders play a role in facilitating healing within their teams, acknowledging and addressing personal and professional challenges faced by team members.

• Perseverance and Resilience: In the face of adversity, perseverance is key. Leaders must continue to move forward, even when the journey is difficult.

• Community and Collaboration: Building a supportive community is essential for personal and professional development. Leaders should encourage collaboration and mutual support among team members.

• Understanding Safeguarding vs. Controlling: Recognizing the difference between safeguarding behaviors and controlling behaviors is important for creating a trusting environment.

• Assessing Team Well-being: Regularly checking in on the well-being of team members through concepts like the "Temperature check" helps leaders gauge the health of their team and address any issues promptly

01:08 Trigger warning for the next episode which will basically cover Sandra’s sexual abuse

01:20 The importance of today’s episode

05:02 Leaders have to help heal

06:59 If it kills your light, it kills your life

08:13 If you’re going through hell,don’t stop.Keep going.

10:54 Quality of life

12:02 The “Temperature check” concept

16:10 Sandra explains what The CEO Material means 

22:05 The importance and power of a community

26:00 The difference between safeguarding and controlling

29:09 It takes a village to heal a village

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