The Challenger Podcast

Since we last spoke to Meredith Shirey, LMFT, on her episode Overwhelmed by Choices, we received so many questions from our audience that we decided to have a follow up conversation! On today’s episode, we answer the following questions from real life daters… why is it so hard for women to date out there what are great ways to get to know someone you’ve just met how do you date after a divorce? with kids? how social media comes into play in modern dating and so much more! 

Meredith and I agree that self-awareness and personal discovery is key to finding lasting love when dating in these modern times. Meredith believes that we are all capable and deserving of love and connection, and that we are inextricably connected. 

If Meredith’s message resonated with you today, please reach out to her at www.relationshipcounselingnyc.com or email at [email protected] Feel free to follow her on Instagram @meredithlmft 

Renee Slansky believes that a man’s main love language is words of affirmation. In today’s episode, she explains the difference between affirmation and validation. We don’t end the conversation there, but we dive even deeper into how to affirm a man’s purpose to give him the confidence to dive all-in a relationship.

Renee was kind enough to share the roles within a relationship and the phases when one person is pursuing more than the other. “A healthy relationship is who has to do work in this moment to produce the healthy result. Sometimes it’s 50/50, sometimes it’s 90/10. Sometimes you have to carry the other person.”

She believes that when we bring the familiar phase into the courting phase, we shouldn’t be surprised when it blows up and fails!

Men and women are constantly testing each other to establish whether their partner is high value… or not. Renee believes that men test women so much more than women test men! Until I read a book by Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, I would have disagreed but with Renee’s advice and the knowledge gained, I have now changed my mindset on this opinion!

If Renee’s message resonated with you today, please reach out to her at http://thedatingdirectory.co/, facebook.com/TheDatingDirectory/ , instagram.com/reneeslansky/ and Twitter –  twitter.com/reneeslansky

As promised, here is the video I recommend everyone watch to learn more about how to make a man fall for you!

10 Ways to Make Him Fall for You

Dave Glaser is the owner of Fit Life Champions and an Enneagram Coach for singles that wish to find lasting love in an authentic relationship.  Your first session is absolutely free, please book your 30 minute consultation with Dave atcalendly.com/believeberealbebold now!

Thank you for all of your support over the last 18 months!  If you’d like to contribute to the podcast and receive additional coaching, click www.patreon.com/bbrpodcast to sponsor the podcast today!  More behind the scenes and intimate details of Dave’s dating life to help you navigate your own experience await you there!

Sylvie Tarpinian lives in Denver, Co and is finishing up her book Why is it So Complicated?! She joins me on this week’s podcast episode to talk all things dating from where to meet your ideal guy to dating your guy friends! She believes that fear is what holds up back in relationships. The fear that we will not be accepted if we show up as our authentic selves is a common answer we hear from our expert and real life dating guests on the podcast. 

I too have had this fear that if I am too transparent or completely forthcoming with my intentions, I will be rejected quickly for another option that’s more mysterious, funnier, or better looking. Sylvie’s mission is to help people learn how to date in a way that is enjoyable rather than emotionally draining and painful. 

Stay tuned for the release date of her new book in 2020 by connecting with her on Insta: @Starpin21 FB: Sylvie Tarpinian Recently, I have uncovered through interviews and reading more extensively into modern dating, is that there is some truth to leaving a little bit of mystery for your date to uncover as you get to know each other. 

SHE'S THE ONE!  Thomas Suski is back for another interview to discuss what's been happening in his love life since our last episode, Finding the One aired!  We also go really deep into Dave's experience with Thomas as his NLP practitioner!  Warning!  We get deep, philosophical, and self-disclose more than we thought we would!  Including a love triangle, doubting ourselves, and so much more!

On Feb. 6th at 7:30 pm, Thomas and Dave invite you to join them to learn how unlocking your true potential can help you find lasting love and enjoy the journey too!  Only 20 spots available so sign up for free now! https://mailchi.mp/2ee6bbcd57ea/bbrwebinar  

Finally!  The follow up bonus episode for The Peacemaker Enneagram personality type is released AND a special bonus! Dave gets vulnerable at the end of the How to Thrive While Dating in Denver live event and wanted to share what's going on in his life that held up the Friday episodes:)

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To find out your Enneagram personality type, take the test at 9types.com and send your results to Dave at [email protected] for more information!

Kerri-Ann Appleton is a Certified Reiki Master, Yoga Teacher and Transformational Coach living in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. The first time we talked on the podcast, Kerri-Ann and I discussed having an open heart when finding lasting love. This episode has so much necessary information for us to build healthy relationships when dating in Denver today!

Kerri-Ann believes that patterns, beliefs and conditioning from their childhood, community, society, culture, etc… is what holds us back in relationships. However, she also believes that if we remember and act with The Four Agreements in mind, we can be empowered to treat ourselves and others with respect, an open heart, and love!

Her mission is to empower 1 million women around the world to thrive by finding their true authentic selves and to live from that place.

If her message resonated with you today, please connect with Kerri-Ann at www.kerri-ann.com, or on Facebook @ MyJourneytoRio

Dave Glaser is the owner of Fit Life Champions and an Enneagram Coach for singles that wish to find lasting love in an authentic relationship.  Your first session is absolutely free, please book your 30 minute consultation with Dave at calendly.com/believeberealbebold now!

Thank you for all of your support over the last 18 months!  If you’d like to join us for the Take 90 program, please click believeberealbebold.com/take-back-your-life-in-90-days/ now!

To find out your Enneagram personality type, take the test at 9types.com and send your results to Dave at [email protected] for more information!

Rachel Overvoll is the author of the best selling book Finding Feminism which dives deep into her religious upbringing. She is currently in school to become a sex and relationship therapist. Rachel believes that the fear of being their authentic selves is what holds us back in relationships. Additionally, sexual shame and sexual trauma are big factors that she believes prevents us from finding lasting love. 

Rachel is a feminist author, writer, and speaker that believes in equality between men and women and on today’s episode, she shares from her personal experiences to illustrate moments of gratitude. Her goal is to empower women to live in their authenticity. If her message resonates with you today, please reach out to her at www.rachelovervoll.com or on Instagram @rachelovervoll

To find out your Enneagram personality type, take the test at 9types.com and send your results to Dave at [email protected] for more information!

Shelly Sulfrian is one of my best friends in Denver, a former client, and inspirational survivor of Ulcerative Colitis. She has a Doctorate in Pharmacy working in the corporate world as a Nuclear Pharmacist. Outside of her career, Shelly’s passion is to bring awareness and provide support for those suffering with invisible digestive illnesses, and to raise IBD and Ostomy awareness.  

Shelly believes that a lack of self awareness, confidence, and vulnerability prevents people from being their authentic selves in relationships. Shelly is an Enneagram type 4, the Individualist, and had adverse reactions to that test result. After many moments of self-reflection, she now believes her empathy is a big strength to help others!  

Authenticity to Shelly means, “I am the most creative version of myself. I am confident and I don’t let other people sway what I want to do.” As the biggest takeaway, Shelly wants us to know that we can “give each other grace” because we never know what is going on in their lives.  

If her message resonates with you, please reach out to her on Instagram @shellsgotguts  

Dave Glaser is the owner of Fit Life Champions and an Enneagram Coach for singles that wish to find lasting love in an authentic relationship.  Your first session is absolutely free, please book your 30 minute consultation with Dave at calendly.com/believeberealbebold now!  Thank you for all of your support over the last 18 months!  If you’d like to join us for the Take 90 program, please click believeberealbebold.com/take-back-your-life-in-90-days/ now!

To find out your Enneagram personality type, take the test at 9types.com and send your results to Dave at [email protected] for more information!

As season three comes to a close, we wanted to invite a unique soul onto the podcast to share her message. Before creating We Talk Real Talk, Alyse Opetowski, ran a company of top co-working locations around the world, as well as launched and won four environmental campaigns and one campaign for a local political (in San Francisco). She has consulted and grew 10 New Zealand tech companies that expanded their businesses to the US. Alyse’s true mission though is to create a space for people to feel comfortable sharing their true self, practice honesty and challenging conversations daily and inspire others to do the same Alyse and her group host We Talk Real Talk Events that focus on authentic conversation over dinner with friends. They have big plans for collaborations next year such as our yoga/breath work/conversation and connecting to body and mind. Featured collaborators include Lisa Trope, live storytelling/conversation with MyStory, mental health conversation that focus on the destigmatization and solutions. Additional partners include Rising Routes and other creative, fun events for people to deeply connect. Personally she hosts many dinner parties on Friday nights (for Shabbat) and other types of events finding interesting ways for people to have meaningful interactions. Alyse believes that fear is what holds us back in relationships- fear of judgement, unworthiness, response from others as well as the fear of rejection. She believes that is mostly because it is not the “norm” to ask and share what is really going on with you. In her opinion, many of us have lost the ability to really communicate because of screens, devices prevent us from doing so, or simply just the lack of practice. Finally, Alyse shares a deeper passion through We Talk Real Talk, which is spreading empathy and connection through conversation. This is an opportunity for you to have a space to interact with people in a meaningful way. They are creating tech-free gatherings that inspire authentic connection locally in the Denver area. If her message resonated with you today, please don’t hesitate to reach out to her at www.wetalkrealtalk.com, FB: wetalkrealtalk IG: @wetalkrealtalk_ Dave Glaser is the owner of Fit Life Champions and an Enneagram Coach for singles that wish to find lasting love in an authentic relationship. Your first session is absolutely free, please book your 30 minute consultation with Dave at calendly.com/believeberealbebold now! Thank you for all of your support over the last 18 months! We are going to be taking a quick two week break from airing episodes so that we all can enjoy the holidays with family and friends.  If you’d like to contribute to the podcast and receive additional coaching, click www.patreon.com/bbrpodcast to become a part of the podcast today!  You will gain access to more “behind the scenes” and intimate details of Dave’s dating life to help you navigate your own experience await you there!

To find out your Enneagram personality type, take the test at 9types.com and send your results to Dave at [email protected] for more information!

On this week's episode, Tami Kiekhaefer, LCSW, joins Dave to discuss the fear of rejection and vulnerability that holds most people back in relationships!  We discuss everything from fitness and nutrition for mental health to how to build confidence for your first date back in a while. If her message resonated with you today, please contact her at www.healthyhealing.net or through her private Facebook group Successful Dating for Adults,  #SDFA.  Dave Glaser is the owner of Fit Life Champions and an Enneagram Coach for singles that wish to find lasting love in an authentic relationship.  Your first call is absolutely free, so please book your 30 minute consultation with Dave at believeberealbebold.com now!

To find out your Enneagram personality type, take the test at 9types.com and send your results to Dave at [email protected] for more information!