The Cinderella Mindset

Donna Driggers and Deanna talk about the power of love to create breakthrough.

Great conversation with Dawn Platt about releasing the apostolic in the marketplace...so inspiring

I had the pleasure of being able to have a great conversation with Scherilyn Phelps on Breaking the Poverty Mindset.  This was a powerful conversation. We also discussed purses (fake and real designer ones). Napkins and Cracked bathtubs.

 

Tangi Combs and I chat about spiritual warfare and life of persevering in the spirit...

The LORD Speaks : JOB 38

8 “Who shut up the sea behind doors

when it burst forth from the womb,

9 when I made the clouds its garment

and wrapped it in thick darkness,

10 when I fixed limits for it

and set its doors and bars in place,

11 when I said, ‘This far you may come and no farther;

here is where your proud waves halt’?

THE FIRST WAVE

The seas were rough.

The woman felt oppressed, weathered and exhausted.

She was growing weary.

The first wave came making an impact on her journey and bringing her closer to home. She was humbled and grateful, remembering the raw power of the wind and the strength of nature that came from a good God who created her perfectly (and loved her dearly). The wave came up under her boat and lifted her gently to a point where there was soft wind in her sail taking her toward a beautiful paradise. She was grateful for the advances she had made on that wave recognizing that her journey to freedom was impossible without God her Father.

THE SECOND WAVE

As time passed the woman started to forget that the first and original wave of power came from a strong and loving God who ruled all of creation.

God didn’t make mistakes when it came to human design. But the woman began to believe that she could sail the seas in her own power. She started to question whether the vessel she was birthed in was a good vessel or not. She turned the helm away from God’s destination. She didn’t appreciate that with God as the captain of the vessel there would be times when a turn would take her toward a place she would rather not go.

She ripped off part of the sail and threw it overboard.

It was the very heart of the vessel’s motherboard. She forgot about the raw and beautiful power of bowing with her sail to the authority of nature that created the wind and the waves. She believed she ruled and commanded her destiny by her own power.

So the second wave came and she decided to ride that wave toward a place where she assumed she would become like God. She began to grow bitter and angry that her original vessel had moments of weakness where her personal plans were obscured for God’s direction. She rode that wave and other women followed believing that if they also altered their vessels they could reach a beautiful place that was much better than the paradise of freedom that God had set aside for them. Had they rode out the wave God had sent, trusting Him and bowing with sincere humility in gratitude at the awesome workmanship that carried their souls, they would have enjoyed a smooth sail with momentum taking them to a place beyond their wildest dreams.

Instead the rough seas grew painful and pounded up against them taking them to a destination that was chained and anchored with despair, regret, guilt, bitterness, arrogance, shame and deception .

Some would drown in that second wave. While some would come up gasping for air pleading for mercy while realizing the mistakes they had made by throwing the heart of their being and identity, overboard.

Still, most didn’t turn toward their Father in Heaven. Instead, they created an altar to wombless goddesses that promised them power to reign on a sea where children had been thrown out of boats or left to drift without a hand extended by those who used to call themselves mothers.

 

THE THIRD WAVE

The third wave was about to come. This wave allowed each woman who claimed to be the captain of her altered vessel to elevate herself to “goddess” in any way she wanted.

This wave was a proud wave. This wave was illogical and beyond reasoning. The third wave was born from the second wave but wouldn’t claim to know or be able to identify the first wave, at all.

It had been too long since anyone even remembered the first wave journey that could have taken them into a paradise of freedom created ...

How do we put our phone on silent mode..? We should silence the noise and wait for God's perfect timing...

 

In waiting for God we acknowledge Him and become dependent and submissive to Him. We realize in those moments that God is our ONLY ONLY source..not google….not siri,… not alexa…or any app

The timing is with Him only HE IS SOVEREIGN…when we wait we get to find him and see Him...what a gift that is.

We also become dependent on Him..we want to be independent…we want to be the architect or creator of our breakthrough…waiting is considered lazy …right and impractical (source sovereignty…dependence- waiting on God creates stability) but witnessing and experiencing God's purpose and timing will refine us.

 

Waiting for God develops composure, poise…GOD is waiting for us Isaiah 30:18…

God is waiting on US…and He is waiting to shine His face on us and be gracious onto us…

Waiting for God is a part of the process that makes us mature..James 1 – 2 …testing of your faith bring perseverance…

There is always a PROCESS and it isn't always comfortable or easy.….the way we become complete is to go through the process…we develop perseverance and maturity…HOLDING ON, not giving up, having grit in the process. In that, we find true fulfillment and growth.

 

Waiting for God puts us in a place of meditation and rest Ps 37:7-9 ..those who wait for the Lord give us peace – move into a place o meekness and humility by depending on Him…the process is so importat

 

Turn back your from your fear of discomfort and pain...heavy pressure and fire often creates beauty.

 

Are you willing to wait...or are you refreshing your apps and looking to an idol to answer your needs? Wait for it...you will find it..

 

 

Grandma Ella took my hand into her white gloved Sunday 8:30 am service hands and walked me to the same spot in her church every single time. We sat on the left side of the church in the middle.  This was St. Paul's Lutheran Church in Rochelle, Illinois.  From about 1965-1979 I would spend frequent Sunday's with her . I sat with her many times...listening to sermons and my fondest and most consistent memory is the fact that she always gave me the WINTERGREEN LIFE-SAVERS....the white kind...

1988 was the last time I was in St. Paul's Lutheran church in Rochelle, IL. It was my grandmother's funeral. My grandma Ella was a rock to me and a safe haven in so many ways. My mother was a single mother of 4 girls. I was the baby. My grandma was solace, peace and security to me. Her life-saver (so well named) was something I consistently was able to count on with those sunday visits.

This week, I took a walk back into the church. It was almost 30 years to the day since I buried grandma. My Mom (grandma's daughter) is in hospice and it was a due diligence visit in anticipation to my mother's funeral.   But there was also the security in knowing that my mother would have her funeral in the same place as Grandma Ella.

It was very emotional for me too when I noticed the big banner with Grandma Ella's favorite scripture that she constantly repeated to me "I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS ME" Ph 4:13.It was the scripture she gave me in a card on the day I left Rockford to move from NYC.  It was the scripture I have clung to and always thought of when I've struggled through life and the one that ALWAYS reminds me of her..

As we left the church we walked out the door and path I walked when I left Grandma's funeral in 1988.

I took five steps on that path with my head down and lost my breath when I realized what was in my path ....a single wintergreen life-saver....in the middle of our path ...NO other mint, candy, garbage on the path....

Sometimes heaven meets earth...grandma Ella always the encourager...reaching her hand out to her grand daughters to hand them a life-saver from Heaven, reminding us that GOD does guide our steps.

This was a super natural miracle orchestrated by the HOLY SPIRIT and it was POWERFUL.  My little girl heart was once again filled with the belief that I am strong enough the do anything and everything through Him...even saying goodbye one day to my sweet beautiful mother...HUMBLED...by it all...

But comforted in seeing the little white life-saver from heaven there to remind me that I am not alone.

 

Deanna Falchook is a marketplace minister. Mom of 8 kids (5 adopted internationally) and leader of a team of families in Network Marketing who run a business partnering with missionaries, pastors, adoptive families, people of faith by helping them set up a self-sustaining virtual online health and wellness franchises. She is passionate about what she does. seeing it as honoring scriptural truths in bringing the nutritional elements of the earth to people looking for an upgrade in their health. Offering them foods loaded with natural nutrients to build their bodies helps to sustain the BODY of kingdom builders on the mission field as well as families.

I am a passionate Spirit-Filled Marketplace Minister. I love Jesus. I’m the type of Christian that speaks in tongues, often stops people to give them a ‘word’ and sees angels (no judgment please). There is a huge movement of Spirit-Filled Christians ( unique marketplace ministers) entering the industry of Network Marketing. In Network Marketing, we are trained to be efficient business builders and follow lots of very well constructed plans, challenges and systems (90 day, 30 day, pushes, blitzes, plans and challenges).

 

I have spent the past five years trying my best to be a better network marketer and am leading a team of thousands of unique entrepreneurs filled and moved by the Spirit. I have come to the conclusion that Holy Spirit-Led Marketplace Ministers are just different.   We have a different style, are led by a different ‘invisible’ leader and prioritize the timing and structure of (as Drake would call it) “GOD’S PLANs” over man’s. And while we respect, love and try our best to follow the official business PLAN, God often has other instructions.

 

To be even more specific, God does love efficiency and order. He created order. Many Christians in business and in their churches are extremely structured and follow RULES to a tee. But more and more Apostolic, Prophetic, Holy Spirit driven Christians are moving in their businesses hearing from God and often their days and moments are directed outside of their day planners. Our way of building a business can literally look like a hot mess to those looking in from the outside.

 

If you are (or are leading) a Spirit-Filled Marketplace Minister keep in mind that it may be time to embrace the fact that the Holy Spirit may be building your business in line with HIS timing and plans. This often looks messy, chaotic and rife with interruptions. Don’t be jaded into thinking these Spirit-Filled business leaders aren’t highly successful. The breath of God can breathe supernatural momentum into these businesses without human explanation. I have seen many inexplicable massive business growth emerge from this “messy marketplace ministry” style of business building.

 

In my effort to try to be more ‘efficient’ with my observation even with this article, I’ve laid out

 

12 Reasons Spirit-Filled Marketplace Ministers Look Like Hot Messes:

 

* Three-Way Calls turn into Witnessing: Mary was on the call with me. Her prospect was struggling deeply and started to mention how she used to go to church and just felt lost. She started crying. I had been talking to her about the benefits of intermittent fasting and an awesome cleansing product we have with aloe-vera. I had to stop that conversation and move into ministry. The conversation ended up with her hearing my testimony and recommitting herself to Jesus. Most business training tells you to keep your calls to a short time but this was a 45-minute call ending up with Mary’s prospect ordering a full nutritional system and also receiving Jesus. I’ve also been in calls intended to talk business that moved into full testimonies that witnessed to the caller and never ended up with a sale.

* They Don’t Follow Directions and Take Detours: So I was on my way to the important corporate event . We stopped to pick up some sharpies (for nametags) from the drug store and noticed a woman in aisle three sobbing. I spent the next ½ hour consoling her and praying with her. We showed up late to the event noticing the name -tags filled out in crayon.

* Marketplace Ministry is Stinky: My friend just got off the plane from Guatemala. She had been living there to build family homes for women trafficked and for children who were orphaned. She had won an incentive trip to Rome through the business she was building from her lapto...

 

In every institution, whether it is a corporation, school, or family, there is always that person who seems to stir the pot or color outside of the lines. True entrepreneurs often look off-balanced to the rest of the world. We are often considered 'trouble makers' who question rules/systems/protocol but we are often the very ones who can change the world for the better with our crazy ideas.

I must admit, I have always been inquisitive and crazy.  As a teen, I was a fast pitch softball pitcher without the windmill that everyone wanted to evaluate and emulate. I didn't wind my arm around. I was just fast from the hip. At first, referees were wondering if my pitching style qualified as 'legal' and had to refer to the play book to give approval.   When all of my friends had headed off to college, I opted to pound the pavement and move to NYC.  I had dreams of singing and ended up leading a very popular orchestra in NYC.  I started by singing on the street and ended up at the top of the Rainbow Room. People told me I was crazy.    I am now in another industry that I love...network marketing. And many friends think I'm crazy.

Recently,  I have become more and more aware of identifying the CRAZY ONES like myself in Network Marketing.   Sometimes, they try to pretend that they are 'normal' and continue to do their best to follow the rules and play nice.  The "crazy ones' are the ones I look for as business partners.

They are wired in such a way that won't allow them to operate quietly inside of illogical or logical systems.

So what happens then when they head into Network Marketing?

Are Network Marketing companies valuing the 'crazy ones' within their organizations who have powerful ideas that push against the old system?

Are the companies limiting genius potential to take their organizations to 'next level' operations by applying their ideas or are they silencing input from the 'crazy ones' and afraid of evaluating and transforming?

My observation is that not all Network Marketers are actually entrepreneurs.  Many are corporate drop outs that want to work from home but still operate best with rules and guidelines.

In the industry of network marketing, we have 'crazy' people (the entrepreneurs) mixed in with the people who would NEVER EVER be caught dead using a red crayon to color the sky or blue to color the grass.

The beauty of the industry of Network Marketing is that we believe we head into it for the freedom.  There is much talk about financial freedom and time freedom.  But the 'crazy ones' also value 'creative freedom.' In fact, some 'crazy ones' would rather sleep on a dorm floor with squashed nachos like Steve Jobs and still have full creative freedom over sleeping at the RITZ with a full bank account and no freedom. Network Marketing appeals to them because they enjoy using their creativity to sell product and they welcome the ability to be their own boss.

As a business woman and mother of 8 kids, I am realizing I am a 'crazy one' myself.  I've also raised my kids to be the same.  And it is a pleasure seeing the craziness come out of them. Because after all, my goal is to leave a generation and legacy behind where my children can leave the world a better place by creating change.  My first 'aha' moment of seeing one of my children in a 'crazy one' situation was with my sweet daughter Sam.

This is a picture of my daughter Sam.   She is one of the crazy ones.   At 2 and 3 she had her own fashion sense.  She was always a great story teller.  She was writing by the time she was 5.  We noticed a talent for writing and we were very proud of her because of it.

When she entered the third grade she had a teacher who was a bit of a rigid teacher.

Millennial Bashing is saturating google searches.  You don't have to read far to find out that millennials are being accused of ruining industry after industry.   According to recent research millennials have ruined the following:

 

* Offices - Millennials are simultaneously being accused of ruining office culture and working too hard, thereby destroying the Travel industry because they never go on vacation.

* Department Stores

* Handshakes

* Cars

* Traditional Marketing

* Work in General

* Suits

* 9-5 Workday

* College

* Credit Cards

* Restaurants

* Sex

Funny Things they are accused of ruining

* Buffalo Wild Wings

* Golf

* Bar Soap

* Wine Corks

* Napkins

* Home Depot

* Light Yogurt

* Marmalade

* Cereal

* Olympics

* Baby Names

 

10 Attributes for a Millennial Friendly Network Marketing Company:

If you are a millennial looking to start your own business in Network Marketing make sure the company you are working with encourages a culture where millennials are greatly valued.

Millennials place importance on the following value system for their ideal career or business.

* Purpose   

* Contribution

* Freedom