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What happens when childhood trauma becomes your greatest teacher? Brandon Held's life story reads like a manual on resilience -- growing up in poverty, living with an abusive, alcoholic stepfather, losing his infant daughter, multiple failed marriages, surviving a suicide attempt, and emerging not just intact but mentally resilient and determined to help others. 

Brandon's candid conversation reveals how he broke generational cycles of addiction and abuse. His military service was a good starting point in life while also exposing him to leadership - both exemplary and toxic - that shaped his understanding of human connection. 

The most powerful moments come when Brandon discusses his relationships. After three failed marriages and numerous betrayals, he learned to establish boundaries and recognize genuine connection. This clarity came at a tremendous cost, including a suicide attempt following a devastating period where he simultaneously lost his wife, children, job, and home while burdened by crushing debt. 

Where to find Brandon: https://linktr.ee/brandonheld

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Resources from This Episode: 

The Happiness Hypothesis, by Jonathan Haidt https://amzn.to/47ZSLzY

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In this eye-opening conversation, we meet Phil, the creator behind the YouTube channel "What's Up Boomer," who shares his journey of reinvention after reaching retirement age with less-than-ideal financial circumstances. 

At 66, Phil works at Home Depot while building a YouTube following that exploded from 400 to over 8,000 subscribers after he candidly shared his "unplanned retirement job" story. With refreshing honesty, he dismantles the stigma around working past retirement age, revealing how these unexpected paths can lead to fulfillment rather than disappointment. 

Phil's life story unfolds through powerful moments. His experiences shaped his philosophy about making peace with life's unexpected turns: "Making the best of the way things have turned out when they haven't turned out exactly like I'd planned." 

This conversation offers both practical strategies and emotional wisdom for navigating life's final chapters with grace, purpose, and unexpected joy. 

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Check Out the “What’s Up Boomer” Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@whatsupboomer1958

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The YouTube Formula, by Derral Eves  https://amzn.to/49VQdWg

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Why does a man with $2.1 trillion (five times Elon Musk's wealth) conclude that everything is "vanity and striving after wind"? King Solomon's ancient wisdom on happiness finds surprising validation in modern psychological research.

We've put happiness on a pedestal as life's ultimate goal, but what if chasing it directly is actually counterproductive? This episode dives into fascinating research from Jonathan Haidt's "The Happiness Hypothesis" revealing why achievements often feel anticlimactic and why circumstances—both good and bad—have surprisingly little long-term effect on our happiness levels.

Discover the scientific formula for happiness (H = S + C + V) and why your voluntary actions contribute a whopping 40% to your well-being while your circumstances account for just 10%. We explore the crucial difference between pleasures (which feel good momentarily) and gratifications (which engage us fully and create lasting satisfaction), and why "flow states" might be the secret to meaningful fulfillment.

The conversation takes a provocative turn examining Buddha's philosophy of non-attachment. What if the enlightened one missed something crucial by never actually speaking with the suffering people he observed? Perhaps complete detachment isn't the answer—our greatest joys and deepest meaning come precisely from the connections that make us vulnerable to pain.

Whether you're fascinated by ancient wisdom, modern psychology, or simply seeking a more meaningful approach to well-being, this episode offers valuable insights on living with purpose beyond the happiness trap. What worthy pursuits will you dedicate yourself to?

Resources from This Episode:

• The Happiness Hypothesis, by Jonathan Haidt https://amzn.to/47ZSLzY
• Authentic Happiness, by Martin Seligman https://amzn.to/47KABUf

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Are you tired of feeling stuck in a rut, wondering if real change is possible for you? In this episode, we'll explore the concept of personal transformation and discuss options for getting ourselves “unstuck”. Whether you're seeking to become more physically fit, overcome self-doubt, build confidence, or simply create a more fulfilling life, this episode is for you. We’re discussing the human brain and how it works against us when it comes to self improvement. Discover the power of change and start your journey towards a brighter, more purpose-driven future.

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Happiness Hypothesis, by Jonathan Haidt: https://amzn.to/47ZSLzY

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People dream of getting rich - fancy vacations, luxury toys, never ending fun. Sounds perfect, right? But what if we told you that chasing wealth might just make you miserable? Because, the real question isn’t so much HOW to build wealth - it’s WHY you want it in the first place.

We start this episode with a tale of Two Millionaires. One was living a flashy lifestyle financed by debt who lost everything. The other was a simple man who lived a humble life and he died with $8M in the bank.

Join us for an exploration of the human psyche and how our emotions drive behavior. 

Resources from this Episode:

• Millionaire #1: Ronald Reed 
• Millionaire #2: Richard Fuscone 
• The Mind-Heart-Body Connection

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Here's the shocking truth about Retirement in America: 

• Many Americans hit retirement age scrambling for financial security
• 8.2 Million adults over the age of 65 are living BELOW the poverty line.
• Over 10 Million people over the age of 65 are still working, double the amount from 1985 

This is reality, but it’s not all doom and gloom - there’s still hope, and the solution is simpler than you might expect.

In this episode, we start with the story of a retired couple who burned through their retirement savings, forcing the husband to go back to work at age 71. We then delve into the historical events that led up to our current state and the proposed solutions from Pundits & Politicians. 

Reference Material:

• 80 Years Old and Unable to Retire
• Scandinavian Socialism: The Truth of the Nordic Model
• Sweden's Experiment with Socialism

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Poverty is NOT a choice. It’s a Trap! And the way out isn’t what you think. Forget everything you know about poverty. In this episode, we’re going to challenge assumptions and discuss the traps that keep millions stuck in a cycle of desperation. We start with the story of an 11 year-old girl named Dasani who was the oldest of 8 children. Her parents were addicts and that landed the family  in a dangerous homeless shelter in Brooklyn, NY. 

We discuss some very common poverty traps in America and we try to answer this burning question: Is there a way to break the cycle? 

Reference Material: Dasani's Story, New York Times, by Ruth Fremson, Dec 9, 2013.

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If you've ever faced the bitter disappointment of failed New Year Resolutions, you're not alone! Have you ever considered that sheer willpower is not enough to create lasting change in your life? On this New Year's Eve, we discuss alternatives to annual resolutions, introducing concepts like Neuroplasticity, Coherance Therapy, and Meditative practices that help us rewire the circuits in our brain.  

Resources from this Episode:

1. Self Authoring Suite
2. Stoa Meditation App
3. Day One Journaling App
4. Coherence Therapy (Affiliate Link)

00:00 - Welcome
00:12 - Introduction
02:01 - Biggest Dreams for 2024
05:33 - Embracing Truth About Ourselves
09:47 - Neuroplasticity
18:21 - Coherence Therapy
20:14 - Mastery State vs Sympathy State
25:05 - Stoic Meditations
34:47 - Episodes from 2024
35:48 - Gratitude
40:08 - Serendipity
45:39 - Goals for 2025
48:36 - Closing Remarks

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This is Part 2 of our Interview with Chris Wilkens, Commander of 3rd Platoon, Bravo Company, 1st Battalion, 8th Marines during the 2nd Battle of Fallujah in November 2004. Our discussion begins on the battalion's arrival on the outskirts of Fallujah and Chris walks us through his platoon's deadly skirmishes through that very kinetic battle of the war in Iraq.

The 2nd Battle of Fallujah (aka Operation Phantom Fury) was fought over a 6 week period beginning on Nov 7th, 2004. It was the bloodiest battle of the Iraq war and also the heaviest urban fighting for US Marines since the Battle of Hue, Vietnam in 1968.

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Operation Phantom Fury, also known as The 2nd Battle of Fallujah, was fought over a 6 week period beginning on Nov 7th, 2004. It was the bloodiest battle of the Iraq war and also the heaviest urban fighting for US Marines since the Battle of Hue, Vietnam in 1968.

As we remember the 20th Anniversary of the battle, we have a special guest, Chris Wilkens, who served as the Commander of 3rd Platoon, Bravo Company, 1st Battalion, 8th Marines. This is Part 1 of our interview where Chris talks about growing up in New York, becoming a Marine Corps Infantry Officer, Deploying to Iraq with 1/8, and the Battalion's actions leading up to Fallujah.

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