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What happens when the uniform comes off and the structure disappears?

In Episode 14 of the Common Veterans Podcast, Kenny, Jeff, Casey, and Fred sit down for “Hobbies for Healing”—a conversation about what Veterans do with their time, why hobbies matter, and how something that starts as “just for fun” can become structure, purpose, connection, and a new challenge.

The guys talk mountain biking, motorcycles, scuba diving, martial arts, camping, baseball, 3D printing, knife making, gaming, and plenty of completely unplanned rabbit holes.

But underneath the laughs is a bigger question: what fills the space when military life is gone?

The military gives you somewhere to be, something to accomplish, and people beside you. Civilian life doesn't automatically replace any of that. The crew discusses how hobbies can provide routine, personal goals, solitude when you need it, camaraderie when you don't, and something worth getting out of the house for.

Kenny also gets personal about his transition home. For a period after returning, his routine consisted largely of working out every morning and drinking every night. He wasn't prepared to simply return to the person he'd been before military service. Eventually, martial arts became one of the things that gave him discipline and structure again.

The conversation also turns to the other side of hobbies: obsession, neglecting responsibilities, spending money you don't have, or turning an activity into your entire identity.

The takeaway isn't that everyone needs the same hobby. It's to find something that works for you. Try something new. Borrow the gear before spending a fortune. Find the balance between being around people and having time alone.

Sometimes you're just looking for something to do. Sometimes you find something worth showing up for.

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Every Veteran served in the military. But we didn’t all serve in the same military.

In Season 4, Episode 13 of the Common Veterans Podcast, the crew sits down with Vietnam Veteran Bob Evans for a raw, funny, and at times heavy conversation about how military service changes from one generation to the next.

We Didn’t Serve the Same War

Vietnam. The Persian Gulf. Afghanistan. Iraq. Different branches. Different missions. Different training environments. Different homecomings.

Even Veterans who served during the same conflicts didn’t necessarily experience the same war.

The table compares how Basic Training, military culture, leadership, expectations, deployments, and the public’s relationship with the military have changed over the decades.

There is plenty of the usual branch rivalry and Veteran humor, but underneath it is a serious question: How much does the era in which we served shape the Veterans we become?

Coming Home From Vietnam

The conversation takes a much heavier turn when Bob talks about what happened after Vietnam.

For years, many Vietnam Veterans avoided wearing anything identifying them as Veterans. Some left military service off job applications entirely. Veterans returned home from war only to discover that the uniform they had worn in service to their country could become something they felt pressured to hide.

That experience creates an important contrast between generations. Every era of Veterans has faced challenges coming home, but the reception many Vietnam Veterans received was fundamentally different.

Different Generations. A Common Core.

Despite those differences, the conversation eventually comes back to something every Veteran around the table understands.

Strip away the branch, the uniform, the MOS, the deployment location, and the generation, and there is still a common core.

It begins with the shared experience of military training and becoming part of something larger than yourself. Different generations may have trained differently, fought differently, communicated differently, and returned home differently—but the values and relationships created through service remain remarkably familiar.

Finding Camaraderie Again

That shared experience matters after the uniform comes off.

The crew talks about mental health, asking for help, finding the right counselor, and recognizing that the first person you talk to may not always be the right fit.

More importantly, Veterans need people around them.

Whether that connection comes through a Veterans organization, riding group, peer-support program, church, VFW, or simply a few Veterans sitting around a table, finding camaraderie again can make all the difference.

I Got You

Sometimes one of the hardest things a Veteran can say is simply, “I need help.”

But among Veterans, the answer can be just as simple:

“I got you.”

We may not have worn the same uniform at the same time. We may not have served in the same branch, fought the same enemy, deployed to the same place, or received the same welcome home.

We didn’t serve the same war.

But we understand more about one another than we sometimes realize.

The Toast

To the Veterans who served before us, beside us, and after us — Veterans of every generation.

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Season 4, Episode 12 – Strong Enough Is Different Now

For a lot of Veterans, physical fitness used to come with a schedule, a formation, a PT test, and somebody making sure you showed up. You didn't have to decide whether you felt motivated that morning. You had a place to be, a standard to meet, and a group of people going through it right alongside you.

Then you leave the military, and all of that changes.

In this episode of the Common Veterans Podcast, the crew sits down for a conversation about fitness without formation and what being "strong enough" actually means after military service.

They start by looking back at how physical fitness worked across the different branches. Army PT wasn't necessarily Navy PT, and Air Force standards came with their own rules, expectations, and frustrations. The guys compare fitness tests, running, push-ups, sit-ups, weight standards, body composition, unit expectations, and some of the strange situations created when military standards didn't always line up with what someone would normally consider physically fit.

Of course, there's also the part everyone remembers: formation runs, organized PT, carrying ridiculous amounts of weight, and doing things at 20 or 25 years old that sounded perfectly reasonable at the time.

A few decades later, they don't always sound quite as reasonable.

That's where the conversation turns from military fitness to Veteran fitness.

What happens when your mind still remembers exactly what you used to be capable of, but your knees, back, shoulders, and everything else have started filing formal complaints?

The guys talk openly about getting older, old injuries, changing abilities, and learning that staying physically active doesn't mean you have to keep chasing the person you were during active duty.

Maybe you can't run like you used to.

Maybe running becomes biking. Maybe carrying a heavy pack through the mountains becomes walking a few miles around town. Maybe the amount of weight on the bar isn't nearly as important as maintaining mobility, independence, and enough strength to continue doing the things you enjoy.

That isn't quitting.

It's adjusting the standard.

And maybe that's something Veterans don't always give themselves permission to do.

The crew also gets into one of the biggest things that disappears when you leave the military: accountability.

Military PT might have been miserable. You might have hated another five-mile formation run. You might have complained about it the entire time. But you weren't doing it alone.

Your people were there.

Someone noticed when you didn't show up. Someone pushed you when you slowed down. Someone was probably complaining right beside you. Whether you realized it at the time or not, fitness was tied to camaraderie and community.

Once you're out, maintaining that same accountability becomes a personal responsibility—and that can be harder than any PT test.

That's why finding a group, a workout partner, a Veteran organization, or simply a few people who expect you to show up can make such a difference. It isn't necessarily about recreating military PT. It's about rebuilding some of the community that made showing up easier in the first place.

Ultimately, this episode isn't about how much you can bench, how fast you can run two miles, or whether you could still pass the PT test from twenty years ago.

It's about being as healthy as you can with the body you have today.

Strong enough at 25 and strong enough at 45, 55, 65, or beyond aren't necessarily the same thing.

And maybe they shouldn't be.

Grab a drink, settle in, and join the Common Veterans crew for a conversation about military PT, getting older, staying active, accountability, camaraderie, and learning that sometimes being strong means knowing when the standard needs to change.

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Sometimes, another person sees your potential long before you can see it yourself.

In Season 4, Episode 11 of the Common Veterans Podcast, the crew discusses mentorship, leadership, confidence and the people who help shape us throughout military service and civilian life.

What begins as borrowed confidence can eventually become something real. A mentor challenges you, pushes you beyond your comfort zone and gives you enough belief to take the next step. Through experience, competence, failure and persistence, that temporary confidence eventually becomes your own.

But not everyone worth learning from deserves to be placed on a pedestal.

The Common Veterans examine the difference between admiration and hero worship, why every mentor remains human and how to recognize warning signs of unhealthy leadership. Those warning signs can include arrogance, manipulation, micromanagement, taking credit while shifting blame and refusing to accept responsibility.

In this episode, the Common Veterans discuss:

• How military sponsors and supervisors can become mentors
• Learning from both exceptional and terrible leaders
• Why competence builds lasting confidence
• Testing advice instead of following it blindly
• Knowing when a mentor has become harmful
• Learning from victories as well as failures
• Training your replacement and paying knowledge forward
• Becoming the mentor someone else needs

Good mentors do not create followers who remain dependent on them. They develop people who can eventually stand on their own, lead others, and continue the mission.

Invest in relationships that build character. Continue learning. Continue leading.

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This episode contains adult language, military humor, and mature conversation.

Networking is a mission, not a mystery.

For many Veterans, the word “networking” can feel artificial, transactional, or uncomfortable. In this episode of The Common Veterans, Kenny and Jeff welcome retired Army Veteran Brian Beal for a conversation about replacing empty networking with genuine relationship building.

Brian served for 22 years in the Army, working in field artillery, human resources, resiliency training, and career counseling. Through his military service and continued work with Veteran organizations, he learned that strong connections are rarely built through business cards, social media requests, or carefully rehearsed sales pitches. They are built through curiosity, consistency, service, integrity, and the willingness to listen.

In This Episode

• The difference between networking and making a real connection
• Why Veterans may struggle to communicate in civilian professional environments
• Using reconnaissance to prepare for events, meetings, and opportunities
• Building rapport by asking sincere questions and actively listening
• Managing social anxiety by planning ahead and bringing a trusted battle buddy
• The importance of mentors, self-awareness, and learning from mistakes
• Why face-to-face conversations still matter in a technology-driven world
• Following up naturally without sounding forced or transactional
• Keeping promises and protecting the reputation attached to your name

The conversation also explores the role of VFWs, American Legions, stand downs, community events, and Veteran organizations in creating places where Veterans can reconnect with people who share a common core of experience.

The lesson is simple: do not enter every room asking what someone can do for you. Prepare for the mission, show genuine interest, find common ground, keep your word, and look for opportunities to help another person.

A contact may open a door. Trust, integrity, and follow-through are what keep it open.

Guest: Brian Beal

This episode is supported by the Bancroft Companies and Winter Oak Studios.

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When the Calls Stop Coming

Military service creates bonds unlike any other. We train together, deploy together, struggle together, and celebrate together. There is always someone nearby who understands without needing an explanation. Then transition happens. Careers begin. Families grow. Life moves in different directions. Before long, some of the people we once talked to every day slowly disappear.

In this episode of Common Veterans, the hosts explore The Silent Ranks—the Veterans who quietly fade into the background after leaving the military. They are the friends who stop answering texts, decline invitations, isolate themselves, or simply become harder and harder to reach. Sometimes it's intentional. Sometimes it's life. Sometimes it's something much deeper.

Recognizing the Silent Ranks

This conversation isn't about diagnosing mental health conditions or forcing people into conversations they aren't ready to have. Instead, it focuses on recognizing warning signs, understanding the difference between giving someone space and forgetting about them, and learning how to continue reaching out without creating additional pressure.

Not every unanswered text message is a cry for help, but neither should silence always be ignored. Veterans often process life's challenges differently, and many choose isolation long before asking for help. The hosts discuss how awareness, patience, and consistency can often be more valuable than having the perfect words.

Reaching Out Without Pushing

The discussion centers around a simple truth: friendship doesn't require immediate responses. A text message. A phone call. An invitation to grab lunch. A reminder that someone is being thought about. These small acts of consistency communicate something powerful—you haven't been forgotten.

Sometimes there won't be a response, and that's okay. Continuing to check in from time to time without guilt, pressure, or expectations demonstrates the same commitment and dedication that defined military service. Looking after one another doesn't stop when the uniform comes off.

The Strength of Shared Experience

Drawing from their own military experiences, the hosts reflect on the unique bond shared between Veterans. While careers, families, and life circumstances change, the common experiences of service remain. Those experiences create a foundation that allows Veterans to encourage one another in ways that are often difficult to explain to anyone who hasn't lived it.

The mission after military service may look different, but the responsibility to care for one another never truly ends. Sometimes simply showing up—or reminding someone you're still there—is enough to make a difference.

In This Episode

• Why some Veterans disappear after transition
• Recognizing signs of isolation
• The difference between giving space and giving up
• How to reach out without forcing a conversation
• The importance of gentle, consistent encouragement
• The lifelong bond created through military service
• Why shared experiences continue to unite Veterans long after service ends

A Challenge for Every Listener

If someone came to mind while listening to this episode, don't ignore it. Send the text. Make the phone call. Leave the voicemail. Invite them to coffee. Even if there isn't an immediate response, your effort lets them know they are remembered.

We never truly know what someone is carrying. Sometimes the smallest act of connection is exactly what another Veteran needs to remember they are not carrying it alone.

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Military culture has its own language, humor, rhythm, and rules. The problem is that what makes perfect sense in uniform does not always land the same way in a civilian workplace, a customer service job, a staff meeting, or even a casual conversation.

In this episode of Common Veterans, the hosts take on social rules, workplace landmines, and communication whiplash through the only way they know how: real stories, blunt honesty, and plenty of inappropriate laughter. From first civilian job mistakes to military sarcasm, misunderstood jargon, and the moment you realize, “I probably should not have said that,” this episode explores what happens when military communication meets civilian expectations.

The conversation gets into the language Veterans carry with them after service. Military humor, direct feedback, acronyms, old habits, and phrases that used to build camaraderie can suddenly become confusing, awkward, or completely unacceptable in civilian life. Sometimes it is funny. Sometimes it is uncomfortable. Sometimes it leads to a write-up on the first day.

The hosts also talk about why Veterans often feel more comfortable around other Veterans. There is a shared understanding, a common rhythm, and a kind of trust that allows people to joke, vent, and speak plainly without explaining every word. But outside of that circle, communication takes more awareness. Knowing your audience matters. Reading the room matters. And learning how to say what you mean without losing yourself matters too.

This episode covers:

• Military humor and civilian culture shock
• Workplace communication mistakes
• Blunt honesty versus professional diplomacy
• Sarcasm as a second language
• Military jargon that does not translate
• Why intent and impact are not always the same
• How Veterans can adapt without losing authenticity

This one is part comedy, part cautionary tale, and part group therapy session. The stories are honest, the language gets rough, and the lessons are real. Because every Veteran has probably had at least one moment where they walked away thinking, “Yeah... I can’t say that here.”

Warning: This episode contains mature language, military humor, and discussions that may not be suitable for all audiences. Any inappropriate examples are shared for educational and comedic purposes only.

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What happens when Veterans stop trying to tell the “perfect” story and start telling the honest one?

In this episode of Common Veterans, the table gets practical about the power of storytelling. Not storytelling as performance, but storytelling as a tool for resilience, connection, healing, and helping others understand what lived experience really means.

Guest host SGT Eric Donoho, U.S. Army Retired, joins the conversation. Eric is a decorated combat Veteran, Purple Heart recipient, author of Canyon of Hope, and a national advocate for Veterans and military families. His work focuses on moral injury, healing after war, and helping others find meaning through truth and connection.

This discussion breaks down real stories in real time: what to keep, what to cut, and how tone changes meaning depending on the audience. A story told to another Veteran may land differently than the same story told to a civilian, a spouse, a child, or a room full of strangers.

The episode explores how Veterans carry stories, how those stories shape identity, and how lived experience can become more than memory. It can become a tool.

In this episode:

• Why storytelling matters for Veterans
• How resilience shows up through lived experience
• What details make a story stronger
• How tone changes depending on the audience
• Why owning your story can help others find their way

Whether you have told your story a hundred times, avoided telling it altogether, or are still trying to understand what it means, this conversation is about learning how to carry it with purpose.

Guest Host: Eric Donoho
Producer: Sarah Holmes

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The Stuff We Don’t Diagnose is a conversation about the weight people carry when life does not fit neatly into a label. In this episode of Common Veterans, we sit down with Reverend Pastor Mason Vieth to talk about the things that do not always show up in a chart, a report, or a diagnosis, but still shape the way people live, think, and relate to the world around them.

This episode steps away from clinical framing and leans into lived experience. We talk about moral injury, guilt, anger, avoidance, silence, faith, and the long shadow certain moments can leave behind. Some experiences do not sit right with who we believe we are, and even when time moves on, part of us can stay caught there. That is where this conversation begins.

Pastor Mason Vieth brings a perspective that is both personal and pastoral. As Kenny and Tony’s home church pastor, he knows them well enough to keep the conversation honest, grounded, and, when needed, from going too far off the rails. His role in this episode is not to hand out easy answers. It is to help make room for reflection, accountability, forgiveness, and hope without pretending every wound can be explained away.

Together, this conversation explores what happens when emotions no longer move in straight lines. Anger does not always have a clear target. Guilt does not always fade with time. Avoidance can look like staying busy, shutting down, laughing things off, isolating, or refusing to revisit certain memories. On the surface, that may look like coping. Underneath, it can be evidence of something unresolved still asking to be acknowledged.

One of the central ideas in this episode is that not everything needs to be diagnosed in order to be real. There are experiences that carry deep emotional and spiritual weight without fitting neatly into a category. That does not make them less important. If anything, it makes conversations like this more necessary.

In this episode, we talk about:
moral injury and the burden that can linger when an experience does not sit right with who you believe you are
guilt, regret, anger, and resentment that do not always make sense on the surface
avoidance, silence, and the ways people distance themselves from pain
faith, forgiveness, and accountability without easy answers
the importance of being seen and heard without being reduced to a diagnosis

This is one of those episodes that does not rush toward a solution. It sits in the hard space on purpose. It makes room for honesty, reflection, and recognition. Sometimes the first step is not explanation. Sometimes it is simply naming what has been carried for a long time.

Guest: Reverend Pastor Mason Vieth

Podcast: Common Veterans

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Episode 5: Permission to Fail

Veterans are good at telling the version of the story that makes sense. Service. Transition. Forward movement. Progress. What often gets left out are the moments in between — the jobs that did not work out, the leadership decisions that fell short, the relationships that took a hit, and the seasons where nothing felt as steady as it was supposed to.

In this episode, the hosts take a more honest look at what failure can mean after service. Not as a dramatic ending, but as part of the road that many Veterans quietly walk. This is a conversation about setbacks, identity shock, hard lessons, and the uncomfortable reality that growth often comes through struggle rather than in spite of it.

Too often, failure is treated like something to hide or explain away. Veterans especially can feel pressure to present a clean, polished version of life after the military — one where discipline always wins, experience always translates, and the next step always makes sense. But real life is rarely that neat. Sometimes the plan falls apart. Sometimes the transition hits harder than expected. Sometimes what looked like the right move turns out to be the wrong one.

FreedomSystem.org joins the conversation to talk about what they see in the Veteran community when those moments happen. They discuss the pattern of Veterans knowing help is there, delaying the reach for it, and then eventually showing up when life has pushed them to a point where something has to change. It is a real look at what failure can stir up — and what can begin when it is finally faced head-on.

This episode is not about glorifying mistakes or pretending every setback is somehow inspiring. It is about ownership, reflection, and perspective. It is about understanding that failure does not cancel out growth. In many cases, it creates the conditions for it. The suck is real. The frustration is real. But so is the possibility that what felt like a breaking point was actually the beginning of a better footing.

If you have ever felt like your story got messy after service, this conversation is for you. If you have ever looked back at a bad season and realized it taught you more than an easy win ever could, this one will hit home.

We are The Common Veterans.
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