Ever hesitated to go after what you really want because you’re worried about what other people will think? Whether it’s starting a business, changing careers, dating differently, moving abroad, or even rocking a bold new look, fear of judgement is the #1 thing holding 30-somethings back.

In this episode of The Confidence Show, I’m sharing the one powerful sentence that instantly destroys that fear, plus 3 practical steps to help you stop caring what people think and start living your 30s with unapologetic confidence.

If you’ve ever asked:

➡️ How do I stop caring what people think?

➡️ How do I build confidence in my 30s?

➡️ How do I live life my way without guilt or judgment?

…this is the episode you NEED to hear,

Your 30s are too short to live by someone else’s opinions. Let’s make sure you don’t.

Listen next: You Need To Start Being The Villain Immediately

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Always remember, you're not behind. You're just getting started.

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How the worst spa experience of my life taught me it was ok to be the villain in someone else's story 👀

Being the villain in your thirties doesn’t mean you’re evil — it means you’re finally prioritising YOUR needs, setting boundaries, and refusing to settle for a life that doesn’t make you happy.

In this episode of The Confidence Show, I share a personal story (including the worst spa experience of my life...) to show you how speaking up for yourself can make you “the villain” in someone else’s story, and why that’s not only okay, but necessary.

We’ll talk about:

✔️ Why setting boundaries makes people uncomfortable

✔️ The difference between confidence and rudeness

✔️ What being the villain actually looks like in your 30s

✔️ How to stop people-pleasing and start living for YOU

If you’re ready to stop settling, start speaking up, and step into your “villain era” with confidence — this is for you.

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Always remember, you're not behind. You're just getting started.

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Wanna know the quickest way to stop feeling behind in your 30s?

In this episode of The Confidence Show, I dive deep into the feeling of being "behind" in your 30s and share my personal journey of overcoming it. We’ve all seen those picture-perfect moments on social media that can leave us feeling inadequate, but I’m here to remind you that it’s never too late to embrace your own path.

I talk about the steps I took to reclaim my mental space and focus on what truly matters to me. If you’ve ever felt lost or pressured by societal timelines, this episode is for you. Let's take a break from the noise and invest in ourselves together—join me in this challenge and let’s see how it transforms our lives.

📌 Timestamps:

00:00 - Why you feel behind in your 30s (it's not because you are)

00:26 - Dumped at 29 and feeling more behind than ever

01:21 - The bad habit that made everything worse

01:48 - Deciding to feel differently

03:23 - Instead of Instagram, look for evidence

03:51 - Falling back into past patterns (and feeling behind again)

04:24 - Going cold turkey was the only option

05:47 - I never expected this to happen when I quit social media

07:46 - Trust me, if you're feeling behind you need the break

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Always remember, you're not behind. You're just getting started.

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From chasing red flags to ignoring my own needs, to letting other people’s opinions drown out my intuition, I’m sharing the 7 mistakes I had to leave behind to finally start living with more confidence, more self-respect, and a hell of a lot more inner peace.

I’m sharing these not because I’ve got it all figured out (spoiler: I haven’t), but because I’ve finally stopped pretending I should. This episode is a celebration of growth and self-compassion, with honest talk about how embracing your own standards and boundaries changes everything.

In this episode, I’m spilling the beans on:

💋 The only regret I have in life and no, it’s not what you think

💋 How I stopped caring so much about what others think and started putting my own opinion of myself first

💋 The ongoing battle with people-pleasing and how I learned to say no without guilt

💋 The mistake I’m most proud to have stopped making (I think)

💋 The long-term impact of not being honest with friends (and how I broke that pattern)

💋 Why running from your problems only delays healing, and how to face them instead

💋 How setting your own standards for life and relationships creates true confidence

This episode is for anyone who’s ready to stop settling, start honouring their needs, and embrace imperfect progress in their thirties.

Mentioned:

🎥Stop Caring What They Think Now You’re in Your 30s 

Listen to The Date with Confidence Podcast here or watch on YouTube

🎥Don’t Ruin Your 30s with These Outdated Beliefs

Join The Standard Is You, my 12-week coaching experience for 30-somethings who are done settling and ready to raise their standards.

Prefer ongoing support? Join the Confident AF Membership, your weekly mindset boost + safe space to glow up your life (on your own terms)

Your Confident 30s: YouTube / Instagram / Website

If you loved this episode, please screenshot and share it on your stories (tag me @yourconfident30s)—I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking “I’m so behind!” or “I should be further along by now!”, this episode of The Confidence Show is for you.

I’m calling out the outdated beliefs that have been making 30-somethings feel like they’re behind, and handing you the mindset reset you actually need to feel confident again.

Whether you're single, childfree, living with your parents, or just feeling like life didn’t pan out the way you expected by now, this episode will help you stop spiralling in shame, shift your perspective, and remember the truth: You’re not behind. You’ve just been buying into the wrong beliefs.

In this episode, I’m spilling the beans on:

💋 The toxic AF narratives society sells us about where we should be by 30

💋 How I reframed living with my mum at 34 (and why I’m not ashamed of it)

💋 The root of these “you’re behind” beliefs, and how to unlearn them for good

💋 Why being single in your 30s is not a curse (it’s an opportunity for deep growth)

💋 How these beliefs affect your energy, confidence and ambition without you even realising

💋 The power of reclaiming your timeline and raising your standards on your own terms

💋 Pep talk reminders you’ll want to replay when you’re feeling off-track or not enough

This is your reminder that you don’t have to tick every box by 30 to be worthy, successful or fulfilled. You just have to believe you get to define what your life looks like, and start living like you’re the standard.

Mentioned:

Watch my How I Dropped the Shame of Living with My Mum in My 30s video on YouTube

Join The Standard Is You, my 12-week coaching experience for 30-somethings who are done settling and ready to raise their standards.

Prefer ongoing support? Join the Confident AF Membership, your weekly mindset boost + safe space to glow up your life (on your own terms)

Your Confident 30s: YouTube / Instagram / Website

If you loved this episode, please screenshot and share it on your stories (tag me @yourconfident30s)—I’d love to hear your thoughts.

And always remember, you're not behind. You're just getting started.

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If you’ve ever found yourself lying awake at 2am wondering, “What the fuck am I doing with my life?” this episode of The Confidence Show is for you.

I’m taking you behind the mindset blocks that are making 30-somethings everywhere feel completely lost, and showing you how to reframe this season as the perfect time to reinvent yourself, raise your standards and rebrand your life from the inside out.

Because you’re not behind, you’re not failing. You’re just in between the person you were told to be…and the person you’re choosing to become.

In this episode, I’m spilling the beans on:

💋 The biggest narrative keeping 30-somethings stuck and spiralling (yep, it includes the “I should have my shit together” one)

💋 Why not knowing what you want — or being ashamed of what you do want — is a confidence killer (and what to do about it)

💋 The secret shame of wanting a bold, adventurous life, and how I personally move through the guilt when it comes up

💋 Why feeling lost is actually a learned identity, and the mindset shift that will help you step into the version of you who knows their worth

💋 The journaling prompts that’ll help you stop feeling lost and start making decisions from your “not lost” self

This isn’t about having all the answers, it’s about trusting that the answers will come when you start showing up as that version of yourself.

You’re not lost, you’re just realigning. And honestly? That’s one of the most powerful places to be.

Mentioned:

Watch my Having Your Shit Together Is Ruining Your 30s video on YouTube

Listen to my chat with Han on The Remote Life Podcast about how freedom looks different in your 30s

Find the Rebrand Your Life series here

Join The Standard Is You, my 12-week coaching experience for 30-somethings who are done settling and ready to raise their standards.

Prefer ongoing support? Join the Confident AF Membership, your weekly mindset boost + safe space to glow up your life (on your own terms)

Your Confident 30s: YouTube / Instagram / Website

If you loved this episode, please screenshot and share it on your stories (tag me @yourconfident30s)—I’d love to hear your thoughts.

And always remember, you're not behind. You're just getting started.

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EPISODE 92: Life Rebrand At 34: Upgrading My Identity, Beliefs And Business

Welcome to the era of Your Confident 30s—aka your comeback era. This episode is a juicy behind-the-scenes look at how I rebuilt my business, rebranded my identity, and found my confidence again after grief, burnout, and feeling done with trying to squeeze myself into outdated boxes.

This isn’t your typical “glow up in 12 weeks” story. This is about choosing the scenic route — grieving deeply, healing slowly, and coming back stronger, sassier, and more self-respecting than ever. Because that is real confidence.

If you’ve ever looked at your life and thought, "Shouldn’t I be further along by now?"—this one’s for you.

In this episode, I’m spilling the beans on:

💋 The behind-the-scenes of my slow and soulful rebrand — both personally and professionally

💋 The dating experience that left me feeling small — and how I reclaimed my power afterwards

💋 Why speaking up (even when it’s scary) has become my new love language

💋 What “I don’t receive that” means and how I’m using it to energetically block BS

💋 How updating my wardrobe has helped me embody the most confident version of me (and yes, I now dress up for the supermarket, sometimes)

💋 The truth about rebuilding your identity when life throws you curveballs

💋 Why I hit reset on my brand and how it became Your Confident 30s

💋 Moving on from old versions of yourself (with love and a little sass)

💋 Why you’re not behind—even if society tries to convince you otherwise

💋 How my brand-new website + coaching program reflect my evolved identity

💋 That moment I nearly launched a whole new podcast... and why I didn’t

💋 Reclaiming joy, power, and self-respect in your thirties

Plus: A sneak peek into The Standard Is You, my brand-new 12-week group coaching experience for 30-somethings who are so done settling and so ready to raise their standards in every area of life.

This is your reminder that reinvention doesn’t have to be loud or fast to be powerful. You can evolve slowly and still become someone you’re wildly proud of.

Use this episode as your permission slip to be proud of who you are right now, while still dreaming (and building) bigger. 

Mentioned:

Losing Jasper: listen on Apple / Spotify

Photographer: Amanda Hutchinson

Your Confident 30s: YouTube / Instagram / Website

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot and share it on your stories (tag me @yourconfident30s)—I’d love to hear from you. And take a sec to leave a review ❤️

And always remember, you're not behind. You're just getting started.

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The Confidence Show is for the 30-somethings who are sick of feeling behind or like they’re late to life just because they haven’t ticked off the milestones society thinks they should’ve. They’re done with settling — in dating, in career, in friendships, in everything, and are ready to raise the standards for all areas of their lives. Hosted by Confidence Coach and founder of Your Confident 30s, Rebecca Hawkes, The Confidence Show is where you’ll build unshakeable self confidence, stop second-guessing yourself, and create a life that actually feels good on the inside—not just one that looks good on Instagram.

Whether you're picking up the pieces after a breakup, questioning where your life is headed, or finally deciding you're not here to settle for “ok”—this is your reminder that you're not behind, you're just getting started. If you're ready to become the love of your life and design a decade you're actually excited about, you’re in the right place.

Subscribe now so you never miss an episode and if you like what you hear, take a sec to leave me a review ❤️

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EPISODE 91: 12 Important Life Lessons I Learned Aged 33

It’s Taylor Swift’s MY birthday today!  

And as I celebrate turning 34, I thought I’d share the most important lessons I’ve learned over the past 12 months. I truly believe there’s so much we can learn from each other’s stories and experiences so my hope is, in sharing these experiences with you, you’ll resonate with what I have to share, feel inspired or perhaps learn something yourself.

(P.S. Don’t miss my special birthday sale here!)

Links mentioned in the episode:

• Your Confident 30s Instagram & YouTube Channel
• Podcast Episode: Stop Giving People Chances When Your Intuition's Off
• YouTube video containing my skincare routine affirmations
• Having your shit together in your 30s is ruining your life

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Welcome back to The Confidence Show! I'm thrilled to kick off 2024 with you after a short break. I'm bringing you up to date with what happened over Christmas & New Year plus what's in store for me in the coming weeks (including my first date of the year!).

Here's a brief overview of what we cover:

1. Family Health: All four grandparents faced health challenges in 2023, making the holiday season emotionally charged. ACP sessions and discussions about end-of-life decisions were intense but necessary.

2. Christmas Amid Challenges: Despite health issues and COVID, we managed to have a meaningful Christmas. It was emotionally tough, especially as it was the first Christmas without Jasper.

3. Grief and Anticipation: Facing the inevitable loss of loved ones, especially my granddad, triggered a deep emotional response. The anticipation of future grief is a complex process, and I'm navigating it day by day.

4. Time vs. Money: Recent conversations about property development and email marketing decisions highlighted a crucial perspective. Sometimes, the value of time outweighs financial savings. This realisation led to choosing convenience over cost savings.

5. Decision-Making Reflection: Encouraging you to reflect on decisions in your own life. Are there areas where convenience and peace of mind should take precedence over financial considerations?

6. Course Offer: As a special offer until January 31st, The Confidence Course is available for sign-up in US dollars with an additional discount, making it more accessible for international participants.

Links Mentioned:

The Date with Confidence Podcast: Tune in to hear the pre-date episode of my first date in 2024

Talking of Grandad.....Listen to this - Interview with My Grandad: Dating Advice from an 81 Year Old

The Confidence Course: Pay in USD until 31st January (and save an extra $40)

Link to The Confidence Course after 31st January

Free resource: The Confidence Kit

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