Becky Matchullis is an ATCK who grew up and was raised in Malaysia, Hong Kong, and Canada. She is a family resilience coach who specializes in international and cross-cultural workers. Becky was a delight to have on the podcast to share her resources and insights into the grief process and how to build resilience. Check out all of the resources down below!

Resources:

Becky's Website:

https://copingskillsforkids.com/

https://www.theresiliencedoughnut.com.au/

TCK Training:

https://www.tcktraining.com/

https://www.amazon.com/Unstacking-Your-Grief-Tower-Processing/dp/B09GZKQ1P8/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3NSCQLQNM3H06&keywords=the+grief+tower+lauren+wells&qid=1687005003&sprefix=The+Grief+Tower%2Caps%2C143&sr=8-1

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Lukas and Eugene had the privilege of talking to Matt Bagley, an American expat living in the United Kingdom for almost two decades. Matt is a history teacher at TASIS and is the current head coach for the Scottish national lacrosse team. Matt shares his story of his search for adventure as a young 20-year-old, and how that journey opened up paths to the UK. Matt also discusses his head lacrosse coaching experience with the English and German national teams and shares insights navigating cultural differences with the teams and experiencing the camaraderie of international lacrosse.

You can follow the World Lacrosse Championship this summer in San Diego (June 21st - July 3rd) on ESPN.

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Lukas and Eugene welcome Dr. Ingo Tophoven to the podcast to talk about mental health systems for the global church. Dr. Tophoven shares about his upbringing in Germany as a native citizen and becoming an international student to the United States on several occasions. Dr. Tophoven discusses his past counseling and ministry experiences over the past two decades that involve being authentic about mental health, church health, and individual/relational health. We also talk about his interest in exploring global mental health systems within the church, due to the fact that not all mental health systems are similar to Western models or are non-existent. Towards the end, Dr. Tophoven shares a bit about his current research and interest in assisting global churches to interact in new ways of developing their mental health systems that fit their indigenous needs as individuals, churches, and communities. We hope you enjoy this episode and find time to share it with others!

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Fundraising Website: GlobalCycleClub

Ministry Page: Ingo & Capri Tophoven - New International

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Eugene and Lukas take some time to reminisce on man's one true love...food. Whether it's exploring past favorites from Germany, Ecuador, Venezuela, and Canada or talking about the unforgettable experiences of eating animal intestines, or biscuits and gravy. Sitting around a table and sharing a meal brings us together and is one of best ways for TCKs to experience their diverse backgrounds and find common ground on the simple things. We hope you enjoy this episode and share it with a friend.

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Eugene and Lukas discuss the topic of church hurt in this podcast episode. Eugene and Lukas think about some of the specific themes of church hurt such as, spiritual, sexual, emotional, and physical abuse in the church. Understanding the complexity of this topic and talking about different ways of recognizing how one can spot certain aspects of church hurt. They discuss the idea of church hurt as it relates to one's attachment to God and understanding the difference between people who hurt others in the church, and God's true and good purpose for the church. 

Eugene and Lukas continue the After Show with The Cultured Chameleon's Patreon as they discuss practical ways of helping those who might be experiencing church hurt.

Resources: 

Diane Langberg – Christian Counseling

Wolves, Sheep and Shepherds – Diane Langberg

Trauma as a Place of Service: Cairn University 2019 – Diane Langberg

Nedra Tawwab

Nedra Tawwab | Facebook

Beginning Recovery From Religious Trauma and Spiritual Harm (themighty.com)

Church abuse, leadership scandals & RZIM: Rachael Denhollander, Amy Orr-Ewing, Mike Cosper & Diane Langberg - Unbelievable? | Podcast on Spotify

Ezekiel 34

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Lukas and Eugene discuss the specific identifiers that characterize people with diagnosable obsessive-compulsive disorder and one of the treatment interventions utilized. Although most people will refer to their behaviors as "OCD" or will stereotype this disorder, only 2-3% of the population is diagnosed with this disorder. Mindfulness Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a style of therapy used to integrate mindfulness, cognitive reframing, and behavioral exposure/intervention for those diagnosed with OCD. Eugene and Lukas break down the different aspects of this therapy and also have a general discussion about how our thoughts do not always define who we are or how we should perceive ourselves. Thanks for listening! 

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News: The Cultured Chameleon Patreon is coming out next week! Thank you all for listening and supporting us this far!  Lukas and Eugene discuss parenting styles that are cited in literature (authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and negligent) as ways of understanding how parents have raised their children. The conversation explores some cultural differences cited in the literature concerning the differences found in some cultures who have a predominantly higher authoritarian style of parenting compared to authoritative. Lukas and Eugene share how they viewed their parents' style of parenting and what positive/negative influence that had on them. Lukas and Eugene also discuss "the dance" that takes place between people in any type of relationship, and how one can begin to navigate an unhealthy relationship towards a new positive territory, while retaining healthy boundaries in the process. The episode briefly touches on forgiveness and reconciliation at the end, but there is a more in-depth conversation had on our Patreon regarding forgiveness and reconciliation that you can go listen to and support! 

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Lukas and Eugene bring Capri Tophoven to the show! EMDR trained therapist, missionary kid, pastor's kid, and a mother to third culture kids! The show talks about generational upbringing where Capri's parents immigrated from Mexico to Texas during the "Pancho" Villa Revolution. Capri shares her life stories about dealing with her father's abuse, the family mission trips to Mexico, and inviting families to live in their house. Capri discusses her training as a therapist and how EMDR changed her entire approach to counseling and understanding trauma. The show also touches on being a mother going overseas for missions and how she navigated that role for herself and her family. Capri also reflects on her identity and how that has been shaped continuously over the decades with each decade uncovering another aspect of herself. 

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