Hey everyone. This is Kirk here again from Option Alpha and welcome back to the daily call. Today, we're going to be talking about why your income is the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Truth be told, I did not believe this when I first heard it. In fact, you probably heard this before in the past and I've heard this quote or a quote variation of this thrown around numerous times and I always thought it was cool and it was a novelty thing and – "Oh yeah. That's an interesting quote." But I really didn't understand the power of what this is actually portraying. And now, looking back on the last couple of years, not only for trading, but also in Option Alpha as a business and what my wife does in real estate, this could not be further from the truth. In fact, I now spend a lot of my time thinking about who I want to associate with in the future and that's not a bad thing. You should cut ties with people who are not at the level that you want to be at. And that's not to say you can' be friends and nice and cordial with people. You just don't want to spend your time with people who are going to drag you down to their average level.
And I learned this lesson not in a hard way, but I learned it really, really quickly about three years ago when I started in this new mastermind group that I've been a part of and it's literally the only group I'm a part of. It's the only association that I'm with right now and I couldn't be happier, honestly. It's a very expensive mastermind group to be in, but I know why they do that. They prescreen people before they come in, so you can't just pay and get in. You got to be prescreened to get in. You have to have a relationship with somebody or a couple of people in the group. You have to be at a certain income or net worth or business level to get into the group. And I thought that was crazy initially, but it actually is very smart now because what they're doing by creating this group of likeminded people is they're trying to move up the average of all of the members in the group. If they were to accept everybody who was let's say a newbie investor or a newbie business owner, then it would end up dragging down the group and the group could not elevate on its own.
And so, I learned this because what I was a part of before this, even going back five, six years now, I was a part of other little groups and little associations. You probably have them in your town, little meet-ups and I went to all these things and I always want to be connected and learn from other people and figure out what other people are doing. But what I found is that all of those little associations and groups, while great to start, didn't really get me where I wanted to go and it was because I was associating with, in many respects, people who are just getting started too. And so, that wasn't appropriate for me then moving on in the future. I needed to disassociate myself with groups and people who have chosen to either stay at the status quo or have chosen to quit or stop. I can't be associated with those types of individuals anymore. And again, this is not a knock on people personally. I like a lot of people from the last 10 years that I've met. I like them personally. I still message them on Facebook and they're great people, but when it comes to business and investing and building wealth, they're not the people that I want to associate with. I want to associate with a different group of people who have my same ideals, who are going to help support me and I'm going to help support them.
And so, today, if nothing else you get out of this podcast, is it's okay, like I give you permission if you need my permission or you need somebody to say it's okay to disassociate yourself and cut ties to some degree with people who are dragging you down. And you know who they are. You know who the people are that are in your life or you're even thinking to yourself right now – "I really shouldn't be spending this much time with this person because all they do is complain and all they do is whine and all they do is talk about the things that are wrong in life." And so, it's okay to cut ties with them and frankly just stop communicating with them and be more busy, have more things come up that you can't go and meet them every single weekend to sit around and lounge and talk about how miserable life is. And start finding people who are like you or start finding people who you want to emulate that have had success because I'm telling you, what's crazy about even the group that I'm in right now is that nobody complains. I mean, it's insane. It's a very high end, very expensive mastermind to be in and everyone supports each other 1,000,000%. Nobody complains.
And the disparity in income even at this level is ridiculous. I mean, there's people in this group who are just crushing it on every level. It doesn't matter what it is, commercial real estate, investing, business, I mean, you name it. And still, even in this group, everyone is so, so supportive because they've all been there. They've been through the beginning stages and now, they want to elevate their life. And so, someone who's making $100 million a year, he wants to learn from the person making $2 million a year and you don't find that that often when you start to associate with people who just don't have the same mindset. Hopefully this helps out. Like I said, if you have any questions, comments or feedback, let me know and until next time, happy trading.