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I mentioned in a blog last year that I’d watched the ‘A star is born’ film with Lady GaGa and Bradley Cooper.

Good film, somewhat let down by not being able to tell what Bradley and his brother were saying.

Anyway………

As a lot of people probably did having seen it, I downloaded the ‘Shallow’ song straight after.

And then, as a I often do, played it to death.

I recently downloaded a couple more songs from the Soundtrack when flicking through my “Recommended for you” list.

And am currently ruining “Always remember us this way” by playing it too much

I do find though that, the more I listen to songs, the more different lyrics jump out at me.

And one recently did with this one.

Unfortunately, having just googled it, I’ve found that I misheard the lyric.

But I like my version more so am going to stick with that and the point I was going to make.

The line goes;

“We don’t know how to rhyme but damn we try”

But, I heard;

“We don’t know how to run but damn we try”

Either way, the point is still valid.

We don’t need to know.

It’s nice when we do.

But, damn, we can still try when we don’t.

And we’ll only ever know by trying.

If we’re struggling to make better food choices, live a healthier lifestyle, etc…………

Then we’ll only ever get better at that by trying.

It won’t come and get us.

Not doing it is the surest way to carry on not doing it.

Just keep trying and, worst case scenario, you’ll make more progress than you would’ve done through not trying!

Much love,

Jon ‘I’ll Wait for You’ Hall

We're on a mission to help one million people RISE by 2030. Join the movement by setting up your 'RISE for free' account at www.myrise.co.uk

We're on a mission to help one million people RISE by 2030. Join the movement by setting up your 'RISE for free' account at www.myrise.co.uk

We're on a mission to help one million people RISE by 2030. Join the movement by setting up your 'RISE for free' account at www.myrise.co.uk

We're on a mission to help one million people RISE by 2030 - join the movement at www.myrise.co.uk

I was in Sainsbury’s the other day.

I usually use the Smart Shopping app when in there.

Partly as is minimises contact with others but, mainly, just because it’s quicker.

But I was only grabbing a couple of bits, so used the self checkout.

And, as often happens, the machine didn’t like what I was adding to the ‘bagging area’.

And after a couple of attempts at taking it off and putting it back on………

It flashed up the message “Please wait, someone is coming to help you”.

And said it out loud.

Which was nice.

Doesn’t always happen, like.

But usually someone appears relatively quickly, scans the thing on the lanyard round their neck, punches in a code and you’re sorted.

The help is summoned automatically and (nearly always) duely arrives.

Unfortunately, most of life isn’t like this.

No one is coming to help us.

At least not without our request.

Hope is not a strategy.

“Here’s to hoping 2021 will be better” will probably mean it won’t be.

We need to make it happen.

Make life happen.

Make our goals and desires happen.

There are people who can help us do that.

We can help, for example.

But that help can’t come to us.

If we sit at home waiting for it to come to us, nothing will change.

We’ve received financial aid in the last year from the council.

But we had to ask for it.

It didn’t come automatically.

And, if that was all we’d had, we’d have gone under.

We had to make 90% of it work by our own efforts.

I have a coach.

But if I don’t engage in that programme and ask for help when I need it, it’s a massive waste of money.

Help is there.

But it’s not ‘on it’s way’.

We need to ask for it (maybe by clicking this link —> www.myrise.co.uk/briefing-meeting).

And, ultimately, we need to make it happen with our own efforts.

Much love,

Jon ‘I need someone’ Hall

We're on a mission to help one million people RISE by 2030. Join the movement by setting up your 'RISE for free' account at www.myrise.co.uk

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I was chatting to a couple of members after a session the other week.

And they told me how they’d been struggling with other people.

Doing what you could call ‘flabotaging’ them.

You know the type.

“Stop being so boring and have a biscuit”

“You’re making me feel bad”

“You’re no fun anymore”

All with a view to making you eat and or drink something.

To make themselves feel better about their similar choice(s).

The members I was talking to referenced “peer pressure”.

And how they thought they should avoid it.

Which I get.

But, ultimately, that’s probably not going to happen.

We’ll always have ‘peers’.

“A person of the same age, status, or ability as another specified person”

Short of never seeing anyone again, we’ll always have others in what we consider to be our ‘peer group’.

What, perhaps, could change, is two things:

1. How much we ‘enable’ our peers to pressure us.

If we constantly say “No” nine times and then a “Yes”………….

We’re just teaching people to ask ten times.

If we’re consistent with what we say and do, all those comments quickly dry up.

Doesn’t mean we can never have those things.

But we can be consistent with doing what we’ve said we will once we’ve said it.

2. Adjust the average of our ‘peer groups’

Part of the reason that our members get such good results is that ‘collective momentum’.

When you’ve suddenly got in your life more people who are eating better and exercising regularly…………

It’s easy to just get dragged along with that.

That doesn’t mean we can never see the ‘flabotagers’ again.

But, adding in (or re-engaging with) a group that shifts the average of all our ‘peer groups’

can be powerful.

——– Here’s a group you might benefit from being part of –> www.myrise.co.uk/briefing-meeting———-

Ultimately, we’ll always have peer pressure.

All we can do is change the average of that pressure and how we respond to it.

Much love,

Jon ‘reviewed’ Hall

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Have you ever said that?

Or some variation of it?

Either out loud or in your own head?

“I’m fine once I set my mind to it”

Meaning, of course, that you generally do what you intend to when you’ve got your “head in the right place” about something.

Which we get.

It’s a common expression and sentiment.

But……….

As with most / all common expressions and sentiments, it’s worth questioning.

Is it the way to approach something that sets you up for success?

Long term?

Is it the way of seeing things that people who consistently do those things have?

Or, is it something they just choose to do?

More often than not?

Whether they feel like it or not?

Do we need to “set our minds to it”?

Or do we just need to make that decision to “do it”?

——– Like we could just click this link to take the next step –> www.myrise.co.uk/briefing-meeting——-

Most of the time?

Is the way we see and think about things………..

How easy we find them to do…………

And how consistent we are with them………..

Going to change by just, essentially, “thinking about it” more?

Or will just doing it, irrespective of how we currently feel about it, be what gets us to those changes?

Much love,

Jon ‘Game and match’ Hall

We're on a mission to help one million people RISE by 2030. Join the movement by setting up your 'RISE for free' account at www.myrise.co.uk