In this episode Christy and Tanesia geek out on the sweetness of the sun card; exploring themes of romance, shedding protective layers, observing glimmers of magic and joy that transform our perspective on ourselves and the many relationships we cultivate.

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Links, Resources, Special Thanks

Thank you Dr Jaguar for our intro and outro music & Christy Cook for "Darkest Day of the Year" 

As mentioned...

Tarot for Change by Jessica Dore 

Sarah Cargill

#suncard #tarot #podcast #joy #glimmer #magic #solstice #romanceyourowndamnself #thebiggestromanceonearth #workit #ownit #tarotmagic #dating #romance 

Published on December 30, 2024.

In this episode, Christy and Tanesia discuss the moon tarot card and Audre Lorde's essay Uses of the Erotic as they relate to pleasure, desire, and sexuality.  Listen as the dynamic duo sort through what makes them feel most alive, the possibilities of the unknown, what it means to harness our own feral, unhinged selves, to bathe in the the wildness of creativity,  eroticism, in all its many shapes and forms.  What do you really desire when the moon is round and full?  

Special thanks to Dr. Jaguar for our intro music & "Menstruation" by Paul Clay and the Lab Family for the outro.  

Resources and links mentioned in episode:

Lindsay Mack

"The OA" on Netflix

"Pina" the movie

The Cassandra Complex by Laurie Layton Schapira

Maladoror by Le Compte de L'autreamont (Shark sex book)

Inciting Joy by Ross Gay

Urban Tantra by Barbara Carrellas

Uses of the Erotic by Audre Lorde

Quinn App

Naudio (Tanesia's favorite "real fictional" audio crush)

#mooncardtarot #theerotic #erotica #pornographia #tarottalk #workwife #chaos #menstruationisnormal #connection #joy #desire #embodiment #tantra #fantasy #kink #flirting101 #abundance #creative #aliveness #grief #voidtimes #unknown #aliveness #dancing #learningmontages #community #audioerotica #romantasy #fantasy #darkromance #romanticfiction #power #smut #abundance #electrified #hornyfever #colonoscopy #shortking #thechurchgiggles

Published on Monday November 25, 2024.

In this episode Christy and Tanesia wax dreamy while discussing the Star Card, reflecting on the ancient watery quiet emanating off of it, and the experiences they had on much needed dates with themselves.  Get cozy, light some incense, and listen to these lilting and wandering musings! 

#starcardtarot #datewithyourself #artistdate #JuliaCameron #datesofourlivespodcast

Thanks to Dr. Jaguar for the music!

Published on April 8, 2024

An 8 ft long, 1 foot wide episode about all things ding-a-ling.  In our longest episode yet (1 hour 56 minutes–not that we’re measuring it or anything), Christy and Tanesia discuss slang words, biological phenomena, pegging, strap-ons, actual penis festivals, and the messages of the tower card as they relate to creative energy, receptivity and the beauty of embodying both penetrative and slurpy receptive sexual energy.  Tanesia also interviews special guest Rudy Montoya asking an expert all our curiousest queries.

Thanks to Dr Jaguar for original intro music.  Thank you Rudy Montoya for being our guest expert and answering our questions! Thank you Chuck Berry for writing “My Ding-a-Ling.” Outro cover of this song performed by Christy Cook.

This is an uncommonly LONG episode.  We thought we’d provide you with a Table of Contents in case it’s too much to take all at once.

2:30 Free Association

5:41 Name that Dong

10:37 Penis Lore - Biology! 

34:15 Strap ons

52:00 Actual Penis Festivals

1:02 Bringing it back to the Tarot

1:09 Phallacies - Quick fire questions with Special guest Rudy Montoya

Fact check: echidnas are MONOTREMES (egg laying mammals) to note: their young are called “puggles.”

For a more scientifically rendered tale of tarantula sex see:  https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/eaten-crushed-or-starved-male-tarantulas-trade-their-life-to-impregnate-a-mate/#:~:text=Using%20a%20specialized%20appendage%20near,into%20the%20female's%20abdominal%20cavity

Other resources and articles:

Animal Penii:

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/nine-weirdest-penises-animal-kingdom-180976274/

Slug Mating Magic: 

https://youtu.be/ST_AEmm3GmI?si=gZ8DI-DTK-MtE4mC

Strap ons:

https://g-silicone.com/2017/09/01/history-strapon-sex/

https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a29902964/why-women-like-pegging-men/

Further Reading on Kanamara Matsuri:

https://theculturetrip.com/asia/japan/articles/how-to-celebrate-kanamara-matsuri-tokyos-penis-festival

#slugsex #EFFthePatriarchy #Podcast #Podwifelife #TheTower #towercardtarot #magic #penisduels #totheinsemination  #hemipenis #prongeddong #prehensilepenis #penislore #FestivaloftheToweringDong #phallophoria #suitofwands #towercardtarot #creativeenergy #maypole #joystick #generderfuckery 

#kanamaramatsuri #penispops #penispuns #turtlemode #toxicmasculinity #manscaping #penisculture #dicpick #tradingcards #bigdickenergy #bigdaddyenergy #dingaling #strapons #ancestraldildos #releasethefloodgates #femmegushing #bourani

Published March 25, 2024

Welcome baaack to the Dates of Our Lives.  Join Tanesia and Christy as they introduce the third season of the pod, and chat about the third line of the Tarot, the Devil Card, and how person power intersects relationships in magical ways. #deviltarotcard #datesofourlivespodcast #personalpower #tarot #magic #relationships

Please send your dating/magic questions to our instagram @datesofourlivespod or to [email protected] for "You've Got Mail!!"

Thank you Dr. Jaguar Bashwiner for our theme music.  

Influences and mentions: the work of Sarah Faith Gottesdiener (SFG), and Bess Matassa's Tarot Almanac!

In the final episode of the season, Tanesia and Christy talk to returning guest, Pete, about the etiquette of threesomes, the alchemy of the Temperance card, and the magic and possibility of the unknown.  Paying homage to endings and new beginnings, the three cast a sexy spell full of unknowns and alchemical possibilities! 

Special thanks to Dr Jaguar for our theme music and Pete Bourland for being up for an adventure!

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If you have ideas for season 3, a hilarious dating story, questions for "You've Got Mail!" or just want to shower us with sweetness you can send correspondence to: [email protected]

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Website: datesofourlivespodcast.podbean.com

Published on May 22, 2023

In this episode Christy and Tanesia drink beer again and discuss the etymology of La Petite Mort, types of orgasms, and how these things might connect to the death card in the tarot.  Join us while we cum to some pretty remarkable realizations and revelations!  

Thanks to Dr. Jaguar for composing our theme music and check out these other folks who we mention in this episode: This Paranormal Life Podcast @thisparanormallife, Speaking of Sex with the Pleasure Mechanics Podcast (this episode is the one we reference), Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski @enagoski, and adrienne maree brown's work on pleasure activism @adriennemareebrown.

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Or, head to our website: datesofourlivespodcast.podbean.com  

#PeteyDinkley #TheDatesOfOurLivesPodcast #PodWives #Tarot #Death #LaPetiteMort #Etymology #CellMagic #TimeMagic #WafflesAndILoveYou #PodCastLife #PodcastersOfInstagram 

Published on March 20, 2023

In this episode we talk about the Hanged One tarot archetype, and BDSM!  Content warning: we discuss themes around sex, restraint, porn, power dynamics, pain, vulnerability, humiliation play, breath play, shame, domination, and more. If you feel triggered by these topics, take care of yourself, and opt out of this episode.  Know we are basing our conversation in joy!

Check out Haylin Belay @haylin.co on instagram!

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Follow us on Apple podcasts, spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts!

Add us on Instagram @datesofourlivespod

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Or, head to our website: datesofourlivespodcast.podbean.com

Thank you Dr. Jaguar for the theme music.

#bananasip #bananaslip #tomandjerrycosplay #experts #BDSM #powerbottom #vulnerability #hangedone #tarot #solvedalltheproblemswithourmanholes #manholes #lobsters #fantasy #consent 

Published on March 6, 2023

Join Christy and Tanesia in a new Chariot year!  We talk about the messy middle—both in tarot terms (transitioning from the Lovers to the Chariot through the lens of Justice)  and in CRUSH ENERGY terms!  You know that vibe-y fun energy that makes you feel alive and vibrant?  Does it have to be dependent on someone else? Maybe not!?

#crushenergy #tarotmath #motorboat_thetruth 

Thank you Dr. Jaguar for our theme music!

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Or, head to our website: datesofourlivespodcast.podbean.com

Published on January 23, 2023

In this episode Christy and Tanesia think about dating whilst playing board games with their dates, Jordan and Pete.  First impressions!  Curiosity!  Play!  Patience!  Explore these themes with us as we play Heart Throb and Dream Crush at Empire Board Games in Albuqerque.

Thank you to guests Pete Bourland and Jordan Hines!  Thank you Empire Board Games for hosting us on the DL, and to Dr. Jaguar for our theme music.

We are on apple, spotify or wherever you get your podcasts.  Listen and share with all your flings, dates, and exes! 

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on our website: datesofourlivespodcast.podbean.com

Published on November 21, 2022