The Divorce Doctor

Did you hear a small voice whisper to you that you shouldn't marry the person you married? It's easy to ignore our intuition. But when we do, it can lead to so much anger and resentment. We knew better, but now here we are.

This week's podcast guest, Tonya Carter, shares about the anger and powerlessness she felt immediately after her divorce. It wasn't until she decided to take back her power and rewrite the narrative that she found her purpose and fulfillment in life. According to Tonya, too often we put periods where only commas belong.

Tonya Carter is an author, speaker & Relationship Transformation Coach. Her speciality is helping women navigate through the process of uncoupling by providing ‎support, advice, resources and tools that will help mitigate interruptions in their business, work ‎performance and household obligations. ‎

She has written a book titled Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive after Divorce and ‎also facilitates a 12 week Masterclass that walks women through the process of overcoming divorce ‎and healing.‎

She also has a podcast called The Reinvent U Podcast, which focuses on mindset, emotions, finances, ‎health, faith, love, parenting and building meaningful relationships where she helps others become the best version of themselves ‎in their personal lives, families and professional environment. ‎

Tonya is from Atlanta where she resides with her two children‎.

Learn more about Tonya Carter by visiting her website https://www.tonyacarter.com/, following her on Instagram @mstonyaspeaks, and download your free copy of 7 Ways to Recover.

Sometimes leaving can be hard. This week's podcast guest Marie Fraser was married to a man with narcissistic personality traits for 27 years, which ended in a seven-year acrimonious divorce. Marie's experience navigating her difficult marriage and being a mother to a child with special needs highlighted how lonely and isolating divorce can feel, especially when all others see is a pretty privileged life. Her advice to us is that we know ourselves better than anyone else. We can be our own best friend.

Marie's previous career in corporate management equipped her to redesign her life and now she practices as a clinical hypnotherapist, transformational therapist and certified life coach. No matter what hell we've gone through, Marie encourages us that we can still experience a full and wonderful life.

Learn more about Marie Fraser by visiting her website at www.mariefraser.com and following her on Instagram @mariefraser__.

Take her quiz "Are You Over Your Ex" and check out her Masterclass while you're there.

Have you ever stayed in a relationship because you thought you had to? Maybe you didn't think you had other options, or you didn't trust you would be okay on your own. This week's podcast guest, Vasavi Kumar, shares vulnerably about the journey she's taken after her divorce to finding and loving herself. The day she realized she didn't need a man to confirm her worth, she saw her life through fresh eyes. Now Vasavi uses her life's experiences to help other women find freedom in their own adventurous selves, too.

Vasavi is a Visibility and Confidence Coach, and Founder of the Real Rich community. Through her membership community and podcast, Being Human with Vasavi, she helps entrepreneurs feel more confident on camera and clear in their creative process. She's been featured in the Wall Street Journal, FOX, VH1, and was a regular on NBC's Kansas City Live as the "Keepin' It Real" guru.

For more from Vasavi and to learn more about how you can stop hiding and start shining in your business, stop by her Instagram @mynameisvasavi or vasavikumar.com.

What beliefs were instilled in you that you had to unlearn in your divorce? This week's podcast guest, Paulette Rigo, describes what it is like to come to terms with living the life that you've chosen, not the life that others want for you. As a dancer, Paulette was taught that the show must go on. The idea that you should never let others see you sweat communicated another message to her: stay silent.

After confronting these harmful internalized beliefs, Paulette began creating a life that was congruent with her desires. She is a Credentialed Mediator, Certified Divorce Coach, Trauma Informed Recovery Coach, Career Transition Specialist, Book Writing Coach, Speaker, Host and Author. Her new book, Better Divorce Blueprint, and its accompanying workbook, along with the No Matter What card deck, Thriving in Chaos Project Podcast, Best Life Ever Private Island Retreats and Better Divorce Academy, are all tools she created and utilizes to help her clients create an optimal divorce experience and the new life chapter they deserve and desire.

It is Paulette's personal 8.5 year litigated and appellant experience and expertise that makes her so skilled in allowing her clients to stay in control, stay out of court (if possible), and maintain their dignity. She helps them create the right team of professionals from the early stage of contemplation, to the necessary final steps of healing using practical tools, inspiration and a proven wellness model.

Learn more about Paulette by visiting her websites at betterdivorceacademy.com and bettercareerproject.com

Be sure to check out her book, Better Divorce Blueprint and the accompanying workbook.

And for our listeners, Paulette is offering a free digital version of the NO Matter What deck of 52 inspirational cards.

Follow Paulette on Instagram @betterdivorceacademy, Twitter @paulettegloria, and Facebook @paulettegloriarigo

Did your husband leave you? Whether you had a feeling something was decaying in your marriage, or you were blindsided, the feelings in the aftermath are the same. It's easy to feel like you don't know where to go or what to do.

That is exactly how this week's guest felt when her husband left her. Julie Starr, author of Your Husband Left, Now What? is an award winning social issues advocate for human rights and environmental protection. Julie has long been a dreamer and a doer. Trained first as a professional dance therapist (a 4 year degree from York University in Toronto), Julie moved into life coaching, founding Possibility Life Coaching for Women.

Today, Julie works intimately with individuals and groups of women who have experienced a husband leaving and are eager to move through the grief to live their better life. Julie's been there, done that!

Right now Julie is generously offering a free 30 min clarity call for anyone who wants to consider where they are, where they want to go, and what's getting in the way.

Learn more by visiting her website at https://possibilitycoaching.net/about-julie/

Divorce is painful and our upbringing can play a huge role in how our family and friends choose to respond to our pain. This week's podcast guest, Karen Chellew, shares her story of navigating divorce in a religious setting, and how she worked through her questions on her own and with her kids.

The feelings we face during a divorce are complicated and it's easy to let guilt and shame convince us that we don't deserve what's ours in the negotiation process. People rarely talk about all the overwhelming legalities and financial decisions that need to be made in a divorce. What you want more than anything is a trusted guide who has your back and who understands what it's like to walk in your shoes.

Karen is a true gift to anyone going through this process. She is the Co-Founder of My Divorce Solution, a team that includes a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) who can develop your financial portrait, the quintessential financial document any couple needs to make clear financial decisions for their future. As a Legal Liaison, Karen helps support your legal team and facilitates connections with critical resources. With her team's combined professional and personal experience, they are uniquely qualified to assist clients through the divorce process.

Learn more about Karen Chellew by visiting her website at https://mydivorcesolution.com/ and following her on social media:

Instagram - @mydivorcesolution

Twitter - @mydivorcesolution

Facebook Group - We Chat Divorce Financially Speaking - https://www.facebook.com/groups/mydivorcesolution/

Be sure to join her for the 2021 Mrs. to Me Summit held October 22, 2021 – October 24 at Hilton Head Island, SC. For more information visit https://mydivorcesolution.com/mrs2me-summit-2021/

This week on The Divorce Doctor Podcast, I interviewed Michele Traina. After marrying the person from her first long-term relationship, Michele knew it wasn't going to last. As a performer, she felt more of a rush during her on-stage appearances rather than on her wedding day.

Michele shares how her attraction to a coworker pushed her to look inward and discover what she wanted from intimate relationships. From that point, Michele knew divorce was the best course of action. Her fearlessness brought her to a life of creative fulfillment and peace with her ex.

Learn more about Natasha by visiting her website at www.divorcediariesshow.com

This week on The Divorce Doctor Podcast, I sat down with Natasha C. Dewhirst. After surviving a traumatic childhood, Natasha lived with PTSD and after repeating relationship patterns during her marriage she developed Chronic Fatigue and needed a wheelchair.

During the interview, Natasha shares her journey on how she divorced her husband, healed herself from Chronic Fatigue and is now on a mission to support women who live in a constant state of survival and burnout due to faulty childhood beliefs and dysfunctional relationships.

Learn more about Natasha by visiting her website at https://natashacarltondewhirst.com/

Did you resonate with Natasha's story? Take her quiz to see if you're close to burning out. http://bit.ly/burnoutreset

On this week's episode of the Divorce Doctor Podcast, I spoke with Tiffany Harnsongkram. She helps divorcees find the courage to survive and thrive through divorce without guilt and shame. Tiffany is the founder of From Divorce to Destiny, which is a conscious divorce platform where she offers coaching and education.

In this interview, Tiffany reveals the transformation she had to make when she was only granted 30% custody of her daughters. Tiffany discovered the flaws in the legal system and how she could be the best mother when she wasn't around as much as she planned. It's an inspiring story that has an incredible resolution.

Learn more about Tiffany by visiting her website at https://www.fromdivorcetodestiny.com/

While most divorces will have a catalyst event that leads to the divorce, such as addiction or infidelity, Kiki had a different experience. For some, divorce happens from within. We don't hear from them often, but we should. Kiki's divorce came when she and her ex-husband realized that they loved each other but were also growing apart.

This week on The Divorce Doctor Podcast, I interviewed Kiki Orr. A novice blogger and host of Just Bloom, a podcast that reminds all of us it's never too late to find happiness. Kiki's divorce allowed her to bloom into a new woman, one that refuses to settle and finds validation in her heart.

Learn more about Kiki by visiting her website at https://www.kikiorr.com/