The Divorce Doctor

"It was terrifying to have to make it on my own to have to start looking at finances on my own, but it was liberating."

In today's episode, Barbara Huson and I discuss wealth and power during divorce, and how to overcome those feelings of being dependent on your ex. We discuss how to feel empowered after divorce, and taking back your life. Divorce can be this huge opportunity to completely change your life.

Barbara Huson (previously known as Barbara Stanny), is the leading authority on women, wealth and power. As a bestselling author, financial therapist, teacher & wealth coach, Barbara has helped millions take charge of their finances and their lives. Barbara's background in business, her years as a journalist, her Master's Degree in Counseling Psychology, her extensive research, and her personal experience with money give her a unique perspective and makes her the foremost expert on empowering women to live up to their financial and personal potential.

Barbara Huson has been featured on Good Morning America, The View, Extra, The O'Reilly Report, and many times on CNN, MSNBC, CNBC, Fox News, PBS and NPR, as well as the New York Times, and USA Today.

Barbara is the author of 7 books:

• Prince Charming Isn't Coming: How Women Get Smart About Money
• Secrets of Six-Figure Women: Surprising Strategies to up Your Earnings and Change Your Life
• Overcoming Underearning: A Five-Step Plan to a Richer Life
• Finding a Financial Advisor You Can Trust: A Guide for Investors and Those Who Want To Be
• Breaking Through: Getting Past the Stuck Points in Your Life
• Sacred Success: A Course in Financial Miracles
• Rewire for Wealth: Three Steps any Woman Can Take to Program Her Brain For Financial Success

You can learn more about Barbara and her work at www.Barbara-Huson.com

Read more about her book, Rewire for Wealth - https://www.barbara-huson.com/rewire-for-wealth/

Oftentimes when you're going through a divorce, you realize that your ex-spouse was your best friend, and then you find yourself going through a major life change without anyone by your side. This can lead to internalizing these issues and creating more stress for yourself. In today's episode, my guest Daniel Herrold and I discuss friendships post-divorce and why they are so important.

Daniel Herrold is the co-creator of Divorced Over 40. It is an amazing in-person and virtual community of divorced women and men. This community provides support through content on its social media channels, as well as hosts events with a specific intention of fostering and cultivating friendships. There are over 10,000 strong virtual tribes that have been formed in over 50 cities across 7 countries worldwide. Daniel is a proud, smart, and wise divorced dad of three daughters. And he lives in Tulsa and is really dedicated to changing the stigma of divorce.

Learn more about Daniel Herrold, and Divorced Over 40 by visiting his website at divorcedover40.com

Often, as women, we are told that our bodies are to serve a purpose. We're told that we are here for man's pleasure, to carry children, to raise them, keep the perfect house, have the perfect job...etc. Simply, we're told we're not here for our own self-expression, pleasure, or happiness. But that's just not true. In today's episode, Dr. Valerie Rein and I discuss Patriarchy Stress Disorder, and how we can change the future for generations to come.

Dr. Valerie Rein has discovered Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) and created the only science-backed system for helping women achieve their ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment by healing the intergenerational trauma of oppression. She holds an EdM in Psychological Counseling from Columbia University and a PhD in Psychology from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. Her bestselling book, Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women's Happiness and Fulfillment has been heralded by Amazon reviewers as "the most important body of literary work of our modern times" and "perhaps the most important book of the century for women." Her cutting-edge programs have helped thousands of women shift from survival to thriving and master the game of "How good can it get?" in their work and personal lives.

Here are some great opportunities to get connected with Dr. Valerie:

1. Subscribe to Dr. Valerie's Thriving Notes when you download the first chapter of her book or book resources.
2. Follow her on Instagram -- or on Facebook - feel free to tag and DM her! She love tags and hashtags, hers are #patriarchystressdisorder and #thethrivingexperience -- follow them for updates.
3. Come out and play with us live at our legendary free virtual retreat, The Thriving Experience! Learn more and register here.

Dr. Valerie Rein has discovered Patriarchy Stress Disorder® (PSD) and created the only science-backed system for helping women achieve their ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment by healing this collective, generational trauma of oppression.

Listen to Dr. Valerie's conversations with women leaders about PSD on her podcast.

As a gift, Dr. Rein would like to give you the first chapter of her book, Patriarchy Stress Disorder. Download the first chapter here: https://www.drvalerie.com/book

"The truth is, those relationships can be incredibly beautiful."

Being a parent is tough, being a step-parent can be even more challenging. Life after divorce for those families can be impossible, but maybe they shouldn't always be. For our children, the more love the better. So how do we navigate the waters of step-parenting after divorce and self-care?

Today, Jeff McMahon and I discussed self-care for step-parents on this episode of The Divorce Doctor Podcast. Jeff believes the future of health is not belonging to a gym or following some new and crazy diet every month, but more follows the principle of "living life in the majority". This refreshing approach of getting people results without being miserable and sacrificing a lot has made him a sought-after consultant and mentor for top online entrepreneurs, thought leaders, and influencers.

Be sure to check out Jeff's FB Group where he has a FREE 5 day challenge of creating your best online dating profile.

Learn more about Jeff McMahon by visiting his Facebook Group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/2632311580365810

Often, when we are going through a trying experience, it's challenging to see that the pain, confusion, and emotions are not permanent. It's really important to remember that even though it feels like these feelings are going to last forever, they are only temporary. They are not a permanent state. It's also important to follow your own desires, find what brings you joy, and to make the decision to put yourself first.

Today, Laura Sprinkle and I discussed the joy in choosing yourself first on this episode of The Divorce Doctor Podcast. My dear friend Laura is an affiliate partnership strategist who specializes in working with digital course creators. She also hosts the Laura Sprinkle Show, which is an amazing podcast helping people thrive through business. She's the co-author of the bestselling anthology and the author of two books, one is about gut health and one being a children's book. She lives in Portland, Maine with her daughter and is happily divorced.

As a gift, Laura would like to offer you her FREE Affiliate Program Starter Kit

I recently had the pleasure of speaking with Caitlin Padgett, author of Drink Less Be More: How to Have a Great Night (and Life!) Without Getting Wasted on the Divorce Doctor Podcast. Caitlin is a transformational life coach for women who struggle with alcohol. Her combined expertise in psychology, nutrition, fitness, harm reduction, and holistic health have helped to craft her unconventional approach, called "Redefining Sobriety."

In our interview, we discussed Caitlin's journey through her divorce, her struggles with alcohol and other substances, and how she learned to love herself through it all.

You can find out more about Caitlin by visiting her website at http://redefiningsobriety.com/.

After getting divorced did you ever struggle to manage your own feelings of overwhelm while also supporting your kids? Do you remember that moment when you were left all by yourself for the very first time?

It's challenging work, navigating these big changes and emotions. We so desperately want to put on a strong front for our kids, but doing so can make taking care of ourselves feel impossible.

As a worldwide speaker, coach and educator, Sue DeCaro, has been featured in Psychology Today, Thrive Global and hosts the podcast, Conscious Parents, Thriving Kids. She teaches us how to truly tap into our hearts and process our emotions.The internal space inside us all is the space we first need to connect with in order to connect to anyone around us, including our kids.

Sue describes her divorce as eye-opening, as it revealed just how emotionally resilient she was. This strength really took shape as she watched herself courageously navigating her divorce with honesty and the help of her community.

If you find yourself overwhelmed, Sue wants you to know, it's not just you. This is hard, but you are equipped to make it through, and you'll be stronger as a result.

Learn more about Sue Decaro by visiting her website at www.suedecaro.com and http://www.decaroparentcoaching.com.

You can also download her Mindfulness e-book at https://bit.ly/Mindfulnessebook

Karen McMahon, my recent guest on The Divorce Doctor Podcast, uses the word "brutal" to describe her divorce. Nevertheless, she would do it all over again.

Karen is a certified relationship and divorce coach and the founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. After recognizing that the agony of her dissolving marriage had led her on a transformational journey into an incredible new life, Karen leads a team of divorce coaches and supports men and women around the world to become calm, clear, and confident as they navigate divorce. Karen is the host of the acclaimed Journey Beyond Divorce podcast. She is the co-author of Stepping Out of Chaos: Turning Pain to Possibility and the creator of Journey Beyond Divorce, an exclusive 12-step divorce recovery program.

I'm so happy to have had Karen on the show.

Divorce can be a messy process. But as we've learned from previous guests on the show, it can also be incredibly empowering. When you go through such a drastic change, it's inevitable that you learn something important about yourself. From the moment you realize something isn't working, all the way through the aftermath, trusting who you are and deciding to do what's best for you can be uncomfortable, but life-altering.

This week on the Divorce Doctor podcast, I got to chat with Wendy Sterling. Wendy is the leading divorce-recovery specialist and founder of the Divorce Rehab. Wendy helps divorced women go from, "I do to," to "I did," to "I'm done," and confidently create a roadmap they designed for what's next. Wendy is a certified professional coactive coach from the Co-active Training Institute certified by the International Coaching Federation. She has her own podcast, The Divorced Woman's Guide, and she is also an advanced data healer and really a champion of all people.

How often do you ignore your intuition? Especially in relationships, we can find ourselves ignoring our gut feelings and trying our best to piece back together a relationship that wasn't meant to be. The way we deal with conflict in our lives is so important. Understanding your reactions to high stress, especially within your relationships is definitely worth taking a deep look into.

In this episode of the Divorce Doctor Podcast, I sat down with LiYana Silvers. LiYana is the author of Feminine Genius, The Provocative Path to Waking Up and Turning on the Wisdom of Being a Woman. She does private transformational coaching, and she has a high touch, low cost online community called the Deep End. Her work has been featured in the likes of Huffington Post, Forbes. Jezebel, Thrive Global, Hustle, Emerging Women, and Yoga Journal.