The meeting focused on strategies for fathers dealing with high-conflict ex-partners, especially those with narcissistic or personality-disordered traits, and the impact on co-parenting and legal processes. Jude led a discussion on why normal communication tools fail with these individuals and reviewed methods like gray rock, BIF, and JADE to reduce conflict and emotional supply. Jim, Ken, Dan, Michael, John, and Joseph shared personal experiences with manipulation, boundary violations, and the challenges of advocating for their children's well-being amid divorce and custody disputes. The group discussed the importance of documentation, using tools like Slay AI and Custody Log, and the necessity of sometimes returning to court to enforce parenting plans and protect children. Financial and emotional costs of prolonged legal battles were highlighted, along with the importance of maintaining boundaries and emotional resilience. The conversation emphasized the critical role fathers play in their children's lives and the need for peer support and practical strategies to navigate these difficult situations.

The meeting focused on navigating high-conflict divorces, with Jude advising Jim and Johnny on legal strategies and the risks of false allegations. Jim discussed his high-conflict situation with his wife, the challenges of living together during the divorce, and the importance of not revealing strategic information prematurely. Jude emphasized the need to prepare for trial with high-conflict personalities and the dangers of trying to settle rationally. Johnny shared his ongoing battles with CPS, false allegations, and the impact of a "founded" report on his ability to parent his son. The group discussed the importance of documentation, the limitations of court-appointed attorneys like RPCs, and the long-term effects of false allegations. They also touched on the emotional and mental health challenges of these legal battles and the importance of maintaining a strong mindset for the sake of their children.

This meeting was a support call for fathers going through divorce and family law issues, where Jim discussed his ongoing divorce case with Jude. Jim explained that his wife's attorney had requested extensive financial documentation dating back to 2008, including tax returns and information about Florida property sales, which Jim felt was unnecessary and potentially fishing for information. Jude advised Jim to hold back on revealing financial discrepancies until the appropriate time in court, explaining that high-conflict personalities like Jim's wife typically don't settle through traditional mediation and require the court to force settlement. Jude emphasized that Jim needs to plan for going to trial while simultaneously offering settlement opportunities, as his wife's pattern of behavior indicates she will continue fighting rather than compromising. The conversation also covered safety concerns for Tim, who is living in the same house as his high-conflict ex-wife, with Jude strongly advising him to be very careful about potential false allegations and to record all interactions. Johnny joined the call to discuss his multiple legal battles including CPS cases, divorce proceedings, and protection orders, where Jude advised him to fight to change a founded report that could follow him forever and recommended finding private legal representation rather than relying on court-appointed attorneys. The conversation ended with general advice about maintaining documentation, setting boundaries, and focusing on parenting rather than "visitation," with all participants agreeing to continue supporting each other through their complex legal situations.

The meeting focused on navigating high-conflict divorce, parental alienation, and family court strategies. Jude explained how protection orders are often used to build a negative narrative and advised on avoiding them. He and John emphasized that attorneys are reactive, and urged building a broader support team including a CDFA, therapist, coach, and men's support group. They discussed self-care, mental health, and the "four pillars" of well-being. Jim shared his struggles with alienation of his daughters and sought advice on custody and parenting time arrangements. Jude and John challenged Jim's mindset, discouraged "step-up" plans, and encouraged him to assert his role as a parent rather than seek the child's approval for schedules. They also discussed the value of third-party evaluations over GALs and the importance of appearing reasonable in court. Tim expressed being overwhelmed but grateful for the guidance and resources shared.

This was a "Navigating for Narcissism" support group call where Jude and John provided guidance to fathers dealing with high-conflict divorce situations involving potentially disordered ex-partners. Michael shared his experience with inconsistent co-parenting behavior from his ex-wife, including emotional outbursts followed by positive gestures, while John Yang described his much more severe situation where his wife obtained protection orders and CPS involvement, resulting in him having no contact with his 9-year-old son for over a year. The group discussed strategies for fighting protection orders, navigating the legal system, finding appropriate attorneys who specialize in both family law and CPS cases, and the importance of being assertive rather than passive in these situations. Jude emphasized that the father's involvement is crucial for the child's mental health and warned against agreeing to anything without proper legal consultation, while John shared his experience using documentation and recordings to support his case.

The meeting was a support group session for fathers navigating high-conflict divorces and custody issues. Jim shared an update on his separation, detailing the challenges with parental alienation and his legal strategy to retain the family home. Naveen discussed an upcoming RFO hearing filed by his ex-wife, seeking advice on how to counter allegations of third-party interference. The group, including Jude, John, Peter, and Michael, provided Naveen with strategic advice on how to approach the court hearing, emphasizing the importance of focusing on patterns of behavior rather than individual incidents. Peter discussed his emotional blocks around finalizing financial aspects of his divorce, and the group explored techniques for managing emotions, such as meditation and journaling, to build confidence. The conversation also touched on the broader themes of emotional regulation, resilience, and the importance of maintaining perspective and self-care during the divorce process.

This meeting focused on discussing parental alienation laws and strategies for documenting and proving parental alienation cases in family court. Jude and Charlie led a discussion about recent legislative developments, including New Hampshire's bill requiring 60-day hearings for alienation allegations and Canada's proposed ban on parental alienation as a pseudoscience. Charlie explained the importance of documenting pre-alienation behaviors and using objective frameworks like Amy Baker's model to demonstrate parental alienation rather than using inflammatory language that courts reject. The group discussed the challenges of proving alienation within tight timeframes, the need for airtight co-parenting plans, and strategies for working with attorneys who may not fully understand these complex cases. Will shared his experience as an alienated father of three daughters who recently gained unsupervised visitation rights after a year of no contact, while Michael described his current situation with temporary custody orders and concerns about his wife's punitive behavior following his divorce request. Charlie emphasized the importance of emotional resilience for parents going through alienation and provided resources for continued support, including his structured coaching approach and various social media platforms where he shares daily content and guidance.

Jude led a discussion about new coercive control laws being implemented in family courts, particularly highlighting Colorado's law going into effect on August 12th. He explained how these laws expand the definition of domestic violence from physical abuse to include subjective categories like financial control, isolation, and emotional abuse, creating new opportunities for false allegations against fathers in custody disputes. The group discussed how these laws, while intended to protect victims of domestic violence, could be easily abused by individuals with personality disorders, particularly narcissistic or borderline personality traits, who are skilled at manipulation and impression management. Ken shared his experience with coercive control allegations being frivolously thrown out in court, while John and Daniel discussed the challenges of navigating these subjective legal standards with untrained judges. The conversation emphasized that these laws make it easier for unqualified professionals like CPS workers to make determinations, and that fathers must now go into "preservation mode" whenever divorce is mentioned to protect themselves from potential false allegations. The group agreed that the key strategies for dealing with these laws are thorough documentation of all interactions, maintaining emotional regulation, and disengaging from reactive communication patterns to avoid providing evidence that could be twisted against them.

This meeting focused on discussing parental alienation and coercive control behaviors with Charlie, a guest expert from Great Britain. Charlie explained how coercive control behaviors manifest in parental alienation cases, including loyalty conflicts, negative narratives about the targeted parent, and grooming techniques that create false choices for children. He discussed how these behaviors often involve mentally ill parents who use control as a coping mechanism due to their own trauma, and how children naturally align with the parent they feel safer with rather than the one providing unconditional love. The group discussed specific examples from participants' experiences, including Jon's situation with his 18-year-old son who was told he was "safe" from the father, and Alex's challenges with different levels of alienation between his 14-year-old daughter and 13-year-old son. Charlie emphasized that alienated parents must focus on self-healing and not take children's rejection personally, while continuing to communicate unconditionally with their children, and stressed that getting on with life independently is crucial for long-term relationship recovery with the children.

This was a support group meeting for men going through or recovering from high-conflict divorces, where participants shared their experiences and challenges. Jude facilitated the meeting and introduced new members, including Andrew from South Carolina who is currently navigating a difficult divorce with a 7-year-old daughter and dealing with allegations of domestic violence. John, Brad, and other experienced members provided advice to Andrew about documentation, setting boundaries, and protecting himself legally. The group discussed strategies for coping with high-conflict ex-spouses, including the importance of not enabling harmful behavior, maintaining documentation of incidents, and focusing on protecting oneself and one's children rather than trying to change the other person. New members Jonathan from the UK and Naveen from California also shared their situations, with Jonathan dealing with child custody issues in the UK and Naveen struggling with depression and hopelessness after 5.5 years of toxic divorce proceedings. The conversation ended with discussions about self-care strategies, including finding purpose through values-based living, seeking professional support, and using exercise as a coping mechanism, with members offering encouragement about the importance of not giving up and continuing to fight for a healthy future.