The Divorced Dadvocate: Strategic Defense for Fathers - Members Podcast

Jude is joined by Carol Henry, a Leadership and Team Coach specializing in helping leaders step into their power, both personally and professionally. They talk about how childhood adaptive behaviors often no longer serve us in adulthood and how to recognize the saboteur in our brains that is leading us to self-sabotage.

Don't suffer in silence! Get relief from the pain and confusion of your divorce and schedule your FREE, No Obligation Coaching Consultation - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Click on Book A Call.

Join other divorced dads who have experienced or are experiencing divorce in this FREE Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/

Other Resources:

The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com

The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp

The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/

Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/

Carol Henry's website - https://carolhenrycoaching.com/

Positive Intelligence book - https://www.positiveintelligence.com/

Saboteur Assessment - find out your most common ways of self-sabotage - https://www.positiveintelligence.com/assessments/

Music Credit - Akira the Don - Daredevil Theme  

Have you processed the grief you are experiencing from the ending of your marriage? If not, then listen as Jude discusses the symptoms  and signs of grief and tools for you to work through it.

Don't suffer in silence! Get relief from the pain and confusion of your divorce and schedule your FREE, No Obligation Coaching Consultation - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Click on Book A Call.

Join other divorced dads who have experienced or are experiencing divorce in this FREE Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/

Other Resources:

Affirmations:
1. I am ready to acknowledge and grieve the losses I'm experiencing in my life.
2. I am committed to investing more in the relationship with myself so that I can become the person I am capable of becoming.
3. I am strong enough emotionally to allow myself to grieve appropriately.
4. I am open and ready to learn how to love myself more.
5. I am committed to reaching out to others and asking for what I need and want.
6. I am simply feeling my feelings and that's perfectly natural.

Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends book by Dr. Bruce Fisher - https://www.newharbinger.com/rebuilding-fourth-edition

The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com

The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp

The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/

Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ 

Music Credit - Akira the Don - Daredevil Theme 

Clinical psychologist and author of The Tactical Guide To Woman: How Men Can Manage Risk In Dating And Marriage, Dr. Shawn T. Smith joins the show. We discuss the false narrative of "toxic" masculinity and how divorced fathers can learn from the end of their marriage and not make the same mistakes in the future.

Get relief from and heal the pain of your divorce and schedule your FREE, No Obligation Coaching Consultation - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Click on Book A Call.

Join other divorced dads who have experienced or are experiencing divorce in this FREE Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/

Other Resources:

The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com

The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp

The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/

Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/

Shawn's book The Tactical Guide To Woman: How  Men Can Manage Risk In Dating And Marriage -  https://amzn.to/3uXhDU3

Shawn's YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/user/ShawnTSmith

Shawn's website - https://docsmith.co/

Music Credit - Akira the Don - Daredevil Theme

Jude discusses why it is imperative to identify and object to the false narratives around intersexual dynamics and why it is critical to your life as a father.

Get relief from the pain and confusion of your divorce and schedule your FREE, No Obligation 30-Minute Coaching Consultation - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Click on Book A Call.

Join other divorced dads who have experienced or are experiencing divorce in this FREE Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/

Other Resources:

Jude's Medium.com article about Rewriting Intersexual Dynamics Is Killing Marriage  - https://thedivorceddadvocate.medium.com/rewriting-intersexual-dynamics-is-killing-marriage-8ca5c8889dbc?sk=d6b7b5181efcddd07384ca9132d245b3

"The Myth of The Lazy Father" - Robert VerBruggen - https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-myth-of-the-lazy-father

The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com

The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp

The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/

Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ 

Music Credit - Akira the Don - Daredevil Theme 

International Men's Day came and went and you probably didn't hear much about it. In this episode Jude discusses why International Men's Day matters and shares some research and statistics about the impact that men and fathers have on their children and society.

Get relief from the pain and confusion of your divorce and schedule your FREE, No Obligation 30-Minute Coaching Consultation - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Click on Contact/Schedule.

Join other divorced dads who have experienced or are experiencing divorce in this FREE Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/

Other Resources:

Jude's Medium.com article about Why International Men's Day Matters that includes all of the sources of the research and statistics noted during the show - https://thedivorceddadvocate.medium.com/why-international-mens-day-matters-88286e330c6b?sk=e52a8bb7d7609305b1c3b02b223f3627

The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com

The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp

The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/

Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ 

Music Credit - Akira the Don - Daredevil Theme

Jude discusses in detail Narcissistic Personality Disorder and differentiates between mere narcissistic traits and the more abusive clinical disorder specifically the Covert Narcissist. He shares signs to look for in identifying a Covert Narcissist and what to do if you encounter one.

Schedule your FREE, No Obligation 30-Minute Coaching Consultation - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Click on Contact/Schedule.

Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/

Resources:
I'd like to give credit to Jodi Clarke, MA, LPC/MHSP for her article "How to Recognize Someone With Covert Narcissism" from which I referenced heavily in sharing this podcast information. You can view her excellent article here: https://www.verywellmind.com/understanding-the-covert-narcissist-4584587
The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com
The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp
The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/
Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ 

Music Credit - Akira the Don - Daredevil Theme     

Because of the numerous questions I receive from dads just entering into the divorce process, I am starting this periodic series of articles called “Practical Advice.” My goal in sharing this feedback is to give fathers a general idea regarding the process of divorce based upon my experience and the knowledge and information that I have garnered through my work with other fathers. One of the top questions I get is, “When or should I hire a lawyer?” We discuss the answer in this episode.

Schedule your FREE, No Obligation 30-Minute Coaching Consultation - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Click on Contact/Schedule.

Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/

Resources:
Jude's Medium.com article - Practical Advice: When To Lawyer Up https://thedivorceddadvocate.medium.com/practical-advice-when-to-lawyer-up-e3a7df2de16b?sk=9034674887c8e8d7133330c772ec87b8
The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com
The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp
The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/
Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ 

Music Credit - Akira the Don - Daredevil Theme     

Jude discusses the concept of Happiness As A Self-Defeating Solution and why aligning your thoughts and feelings in an attempt to be happy is paradoxically leading to disappointment and sadness. He shares his 4 steps to attaining lasting happiness.

Schedule your FREE, No Obligation 30-Minute Coaching Consultation - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Click on Contact/Schedule.

Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/

Resources:
Jude's Medium.com article - Happiness As A Self-Defeating Solution https://thedivorceddadvocate.medium.com/happiness-as-a-self-defeating-solution-fa83cf358dcc?sk=7ecd4b29334181cf39ea87837686c4f4
The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com
The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp
The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/
Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ 

Music Credit - Akira the Don - Daredevil Theme    

 When working with fathers entering into divorce or who have recently divorced, there is a 5-step process through which I assist them in identifying and implementing an action plan for their lives. Throughout this Dads' Guide to Divorce series, I will be sharing the specific process with detailed ways in which you can utilized it in order to achieve an amazing life for you and your children. This week we discuss Step 5 which is to Master Your Psychology.

Schedule your FREE, No Obligation 30-Minute Coaching Consultation - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Click on Contact/Schedule.

Resources:
Jude's Medium.com article. Dads' Guide to Divorce Step 5: Master Your Psychology
https://thedivorceddadvocate.medium.com/dads-guide-to-divorce-step-5-master-your-psychology-d8625df4c11c?sk=d9fbd7b4be17dbc6f638e0673fcc9d38
The Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle - https://www.eckharttolle.com/power-of-now-excerpt/
Mindfulness Toolkit - http://www.mindfulness.tools/
The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com
The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp
The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/
Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ 

Music Credit - Akira the Don - Daredevil Theme   

When working with fathers entering into divorce or who have recently divorced, there is a 5-step process through which I assist them in identifying and implementing an action plan for their lives. Throughout this Dads' Guide to Divorce series, I will be sharing the specific process with detailed ways in which you can utilized it in order to achieve an amazing life for you and your children. This week we discuss Step 4 which is to Optimize Your Environment. Jude also offers a special, FREE offer and massive discount!

Schedule your FREE, No Obligation 30-Minute Coaching Consultation - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Click on Contact/Schedule.

Resources:
Jude's Medium.com article. Dads' Guide to Divorce Step 4: Optimize Your Environment
https://medium.com/@jts4agape/dads-guide-to-divorce-step-4-optimize-your-environment-275d7ebf61ae
Willpower Doesn't Work - Benjamin Hardy - https://www.amazon.com/Willpower-Doesnt-Work-Discover-Success-ebook/dp/B073P421QC
The Divorced Dadvocate Website - http://www.TheDivorcedDadvocate.com
The Divorced Dadvocate YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSwx-F8KK4&list=PLT4HyN5ishYJznK51205ESxGZ2d19YkBp
The Divorced Dadvocate Podcast - https://thedivorceddadvocate.buzzsprout.com/
Divorced Dads Online Meetup Group - https://www.meetup.com/Divorced-Dads-Meetup-Group/ 

Music Credit - Akira the Don - Daredevil Theme