The DSTLLD Podcast

Explore fitness mastery with Dr. Eric Helms. We discuss the limitations of generic workouts and the importance of personalized fitness strategies. This episode provides practical advice and unique insights for both newcomers and experienced athletes looking to enhance their health journey.

We challenge the misconceptions around SMART goals and promote a process-oriented approach for sustainable fitness habits. Through our personal and professional experiences, we emphasize the importance of behavior change and aligning exercise habits with personal identity to set achievable and impactful goals.

We examine the importance of social support and enjoying fitness activities for consistent exercise. This episode also covers the mental aspects providing you with strategies to stay focused and optimize performance in your fitness and everyday life.

00:00 - Introduction

01:41 - Who is Quelly?

03:41 - The 2 Most Important Fitness & Nutrition Studies in the Last 2 Decades

10:44 - When Should We Focus on Meta-Analyses Versus Personal Experiments?

18:22 - The Role of Preventative Medicine in Fitness

22:03 - Effective Bodybuilding Techniques for the Average Gym-Goer

24:55 - Balancing Frequency and Intensity in Fitness Routines

28:01 - The Relationship Between Form, Weight, and Time Under Tension

31:17 - Rethinking Progressive Overload

35:43 - Where Could Fitness Coaches Improve Their Training?

38:18 - Does External Accountability Enhance Fitness Outcomes?

40:10 - The Link Between Motivation, Body Dysmorphia, and Progress

44:52 - Process-Oriented Goals in Fitness

50:41 - What Lessons from the Gym Apply Outside It?

52:17 - The Last Question & Where To Find Eric

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Dr. Bo Bennett joins me to discuss the fluid nature of ethics, the importance of critical thinking and the impact of positive humanism. We explore how individuals can achieve well-being and happiness without religious doctrines, using critical analysis to navigate information overload.

Dr. Bennett emphasizes the role of metacognition in understanding morality and ideology. We examine how our moral compass evolves and who influences its direction, while advocating for intellectual honesty in admitting "I don't know." We also discuss the risks of ideologies that can trap even sharp minds and explore how our values interact with new ideas.

We conclude by discussing the ethics of pro-social manipulation its blowback on institutions as well as being wrong for the right reasons.

00:00 - Intro

01:50 - What is Positive Humanism?

05:09 - Is Religion a Middleman?

09:22 - The Evolution of Morality Over Time

15:48 - Understanding the Historian's Fallacy

17:39 - Questioning Our Sense of Right and Wrong

23:27 - Critical Evaluation of New Ideas

27:49 - Ideological Biases and Their Impact on Critical Thinking

34:57 - Social Psychology Topics Ignored by the Media

37:20 - Avoiding the Pitfalls of Pro-Social Manipulation

44:14 - Trust in Institutions and the Challenge of Doing Your Own Research

48:17 - How Do You Know What Matters?

50:54 - The Last Question and Where To Find Bo

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Explore early childhood education and effective parenting strategies with Danielle Lindner. We discuss the critical role of preschool and how to foster empathy and cooperation in children. Danielle shares her expertise on the impact of the early years in shaping a child’s future and the importance of balancing real-world exposure with technological protection.

This episode also addresses the unique aspects of each child's development and the risks of relying too heavily on external advice. We also discuss how to set boundaries, explain the reasons behind disciplinary actions and how parental behavior influences children.

Additionally, we delve into managing the demands of career and parenthood, highlighting stories to inspire parents. We discuss the skills gained from parenting and their relevance to professional growth, and the inclusion of neurodivergent learners in educational settings. Concluding with thoughts on personal growth, this episode invites parents to engage deeply with their children and embrace meaningful parenting approaches.

00:00 - Intro

02:16 - Mr. Rogers’ Surrogate Parenting

06:21 - The Counter-Intuitive Part of Good Parenting

11:23 - How To Expose Your Kids To More Opportunities

16:51 - The Goal Of Preschool

23:58 - How To Be More Present

30:25 - Socializing A Toddler & Not Being A Bad Influence

36:09 - Trust Your Parental Intuition

38:18 - Overcoming Working Mom Syndrome & Getting Rehired

46:16 - Divergent Thinking At A Young Age & Giving Each Child A Chance

51:56 - Why Parents Are Disengaged

58:02 - Danielle's Positive Observation

59:38 - The Last Question & Where To Find Danielle

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My guest this week is Joel David Bond. We explore profound life lessons from Joel’s 30 years of travel. We discuss his diverse experiences, like a tea session with Iraqi guards that evolves into a discussion about national borders and migration.

We also examine the role of mentorship in life, reflecting on the guidance and intentionality that shape our paths. The conversation includes a serendipitous meeting in Iraq that led to a significant publishing partnership, illustrating the power of trust and vulnerability.

Further, we delve into personal stories of grief and humor, including a family quirk that helped us cope with loss. Joel also shares insights into his immediate work life and invites listeners to explore his writings. This episode offers a deep dive into the human condition, where humor coexists with depth and every story contributes to our shared human experience.

00:00 - Intro

01:55 - Having Tea With Iraqi Border Guards

07:17 - The Findings from 7 Years in Iraq

14:55 - Lessons From Deconstructing & Reconstructing Faith

22:18 - The Importance of Gratitude & Thanksgiving

27:30 - The Impact of Writing On Joel

29:57 - Coddiwomple: To travel in a purposeful manner towards a vague destination

33:52 - What Makes A Good Mentor?

39:14 - Joel's Inheritance

42:20 - Why You Should Default To Trust

44:55 - "It'll Be Alright"

52:30 - The Last Question & Where To Find Joel

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Philip Pape, a critical thinker in fitness, joins our podcast to debunk myths in the fitness industry. Explore the truth behind cardio, fat loss, and nutrition myths, and discover why combining weight training with a proper meal plan may be better for body composition. We discuss the psychology of habit formation, introducing the idea of non-zero days to transform small actions into significant achievements.

We delve into macro tracking, highlighting the advantages of the macro factor app in aligning diet tracking with individual metabolism and lifestyle. We also demystify meal delivery services and intermittent fasting, providing clear guidance for making informed nutrition choices.

Concluding, we offer advice on navigating the abundance of fitness information, emphasizing the importance of community, personal connections, and motivation. We debunk common fitness misconceptions, advocating for a practical approach to health. Join us for valuable insights from Philip Pape that could mark a turning point in your fitness and wellness journey.

00:00 - Intro

02:11 - Is Targeted Fat Burn Real?

03:22 - Non-Zero Days and the Psychology of Habit Formation

07:06 - Philip's Recommended Home Gym

10:27 - The Actual Reason To Track Your Macros

17:22 - Building a Board of Directors For Fitness & Nutrition

22:09 - Train Effectively With Just These Two Things

29:00 - Is Bulking & Cutting Necessary?

33:54 - A Protein Hack

37:38 - How To Vet A Personal Trainer

42:10 - The Importance of Community in Fitness

43:30 - The Worst Buckets of Fitness Advice

49:20 - Philip's 10 Exercises For Life

52:10 - The Most Non-Intuitive Fitness Truth

55:42 - The Final Question

56:42 - Where To Find Philip

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In the discussion with Marc Azoulay, the focus is on understanding and improving yourself, especially for men feeling pressured by what society expects of them. The conversation explores the common challenges men face, emphasizing that it's normal to struggle and seek support.

The importance of mentorship and community is highlighted, pointing out how crucial it is for men to have role models and a supportive network. The concept of an honor code is explored as a guide for living with integrity, stressing the value of consistent, honest actions and nurturing meaningful connections.

The discussion notes how shared activities and goals once brought men together, creating a sense of belonging. Nowadays, there's a longing for that connection, which seems harder to find. Ending on a note of personal growth, the conversation acknowledges the strength in vulnerability and taking action. It shares insights into overcoming personal challenges, like addiction, through honesty and courage.

00:00 - Intro

02:05 - How To Dominate Gardening

04:32 - The Pathway To Masculinity

08:23 - What Should Masculinity Look Like?

16:01 - Roles, Hierarchy and Winning In Different Domains

19:05 - Being A Good Guy Is Not Enough Anymore

22:27 - Solving Men's Problems Through Community

30:32 - Do You Have A Mental Health Problem or Does Your Life Just Suck?

35:17 - Marc's Personal Pillars of Masculinity

44:29 - How To Find Your "Purpose"

50:29 - Get Comfortable Being Bad At Things

51:06 - How To Avoid Performative Vulnerability

54:40 - Why telling The Truth Matters

57:42 - The Last Question

59:08 - Where To Find Marc

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With Dr. Sauer-Zavala, a seasoned clinical and research psychologist, we dissect the appeal of personality assessments like the Myers-Briggs and contrast them with the Big Five personality traits, an evidence-based model that offers a more accurate reflection of our identities. We navigate the evolution of personality over time, revealing how traits like neuroticism and conscientiousness can influence well-being and achievement.

We confront the challenges within current diagnosis frameworks and the innovative treatments reshaping patient care. Dr. Sauer-Zavala highlights the effectiveness of cognitive behavior therapy in fostering lasting change in our self-perception and behaviors. We delve into the Unified Protocol and its success in treating a spectrum of disorders by zeroing in on common underlying traits like neuroticism. Rather than isolated symptoms, championing a transdiagnostic approach to revolutionize therapy.

We unravel the complexities of BPD and its wide spectrum of presentations while underscoring effective, tailored treatments.

00:00 - Intro

01:54 - Myers-Briggs, baked potatoes and Pottermore

03:44 - Explaining the Five Factor model

06:09 - Is there an optimal personality?

08:43 - Good traits for career success

10:39 - The importance of identity in personality change

12:28 - Shannon's book on neuroticism

14:51 - What is the Unified Protocol?

15:57 - Why has no one tried to treat neuroticism before?

19:38 - Are there too many diagnoses?

24:17 - Do therapists have bad incentives?

25:56 - Grassroots therapy initiatives

27:46 - Shannon's work with Borderline Personality Disorder

34:46 - Is a therapist a substitute for friends?

38:18 - Personal agency in improving your life

41:39 - How to choose a good therapist

45:16 - Avoid Avoiding

49:47 - Where to find Dr. Sauer-Zavala

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Crystal Harrell is a Yale PhD student with a journey from public housing to academia.

Discover how Crystal's background in behavioral science influences her perspective on identity, learning, and self-discovery. From unexpected travels that redefine her sense of self to her insights into the power of educational diversity and personal evolution, Crystal shares how embracing life's uncertainties can lead to profound personal and professional fulfillment.

Join us for a conversation that weaves through the significance of mentorship, the beauty of synchronicity and the endless possibilities that come from asking the right questions. Whether it's exploring new cultures or uncovering the layers of our identity, this episode is a testament to the transformative power of curiosity and courage.

00:00 - Intro

02:33 - Doing a Yale PhD from Bali

03:37 - Exploring Identity Change Through Travel

13:03 - Changing From An External to Internal Locus of Control

17:35 - Activation Energy and Going to the Dark Place

21:49 - What Can We Learn From Near Death Experiences

27:30 - The Advantage of Big Families

32:47 - The Importance of Philomathy & Polymathy

44:35 - Jung's Theory of Synchronicity

46:30 - Journaling & The End of History Illusion

50:30 - What Does Crystal's Future Hold?

55:05 - What Was The Last Thing You Changed Your Mind About?

56:27 - Where To Find Crystal

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In this episode of the DSTLLD Podcast we explore the world of real estate investing and personal growth with the Lauren Keen Aumond. Before turning 35, Lauren and her husband amassed a net worth of $2.5 million, largely through savvy real estate investments in Southern Florida. Now, she's on a mission to demystify finance and real estate for everyone, proving that adulting, and indeed investing, can be straightforward and accessible to all.

00:00 - Intro

03:09 - Real Estate Investing and Its Appeal

08:39 - The Reality of Being a Landlord

19:30 - Balancing Hidden and Observable Metrics

23:22 - Navigating the Entrepreneurial Off Ramp

31:00 - Decision Making and Sales Lessons

34:37 - Overcoming Fear in Real Estate Investing

47:42 - Investment Decisions and Landlord Relationships

54:03 - Resources for Adulting and Personal Finance

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Ed Latimore, a man whose life story reads like a gripping novel. This episode is a masterclass in navigating life's adversities, unpacking the significance of survivor's bias, the power of luck in our lives and the transformative impact of fatherhood.

Latimore's candid reflections on the unexpected lessons of his life and the essential nature of facing life's hardships head-on offer invaluable insights for anyone striving to lead a more intentional and resilient life. Whether discussing the importance of self-improvement, the pitfalls of the red pill ideology, or the art of coaching, this episode is packed with profound observations and practical advice for optimizing your life.

00:00 - Intro

02:52 - Learnings As A New Dad

8:10 - Why You Can't Save Everyone

15:05 - The Heaviest Weight At The Gym Is The Front Door

24:43 - The Difficulty Of A Task Is Irrelevant If...

31:04 - Why You Should Have A Good Coach

48:56 - Is The Red Pill On The Decline?

55:22 - Where To Find Ed

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