By Julia Rogers
The podcast currently has 29 episodes available.
Why do we find ourselves getting attached to scenarios more quickly than is helpful to us? This can be an incredibly common experience for a lot of people and one that can cause us a lot of stress and of worry. We can also feel like it’s only us that this happens to.
In this episode I explore what might be going on for us when we are getting invested in situations and what we can do about this. We also take a trip to Monte Carlo (if only!) and see what Marilyn Monroe has to say about the subject.
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(1.23) Unmet needs
(2.54) Defence mechanism bingo
(5.12) A constant state of lack
(5.52) Love bombing
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With so much noise in both our virtual and our real worlds how do we know who we should be listening to? Should we block it all out and listen to ourselves, or can we work out where to go to for a sounding board?
In this episode I explore why just listening to ourselves might not be the most helpful thing to do. We return to our defence mechanism bingo cards, whilst saying hello to Marjory the trash heap and Roger Moore. I also seem to be fighting with my brother… What’s not to enjoy?
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(1.42) Wilful blindness
(5.52) Is it lovely to be told what to do?
(7.41) Does everyone have your best interests at heart?
(9.06) Who is on your team?
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I’m excited to be bringing another guest to the show today, Sarah Manley. Sarah is a coach, mentor and an Amazon bestselling author with her book Quiet Catalyst.
Sarah joins me to talk all things related to being an introvert including where we sit on the introversion/ extroversion spectrum, and how we can thrive in our relationships with other people, and at work once we have an idea what our needs are. We also consider what psychodynamic mechanisms might be coming into play and Sarah shares some tips on to how to look after ourselves better.
If you would like to get in touch with Sarah and learn more about her work you can contact her here:
Website: https://linktr.ee/thequietcatalyst
Email: [email protected]
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(9.45) The assumption that people who are quiet in meetings have nothing to say
(15.25) The introversion/ extroversion continuum
(21.45) Managing boundaries around networking
(28.10) Listening skills as an introvert
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I’m excited to be bringing another guest to the show today, Marta Checko. Marta has an inspiring story (or stories!) to tell about how she overcame significant challenges in her life. There’s a lot to learn about resilience, the power of not giving up and how we are stronger than we think.
If you would like to get in touch with Marta and learn more about her work you can contact her here:
E-mail: [email protected]
List of Marta’s creative projects and ways to support others: Linktree
Blog where Marta shares her thoughts and reflections: Substack
LinkedIn/Instagram: @martachecko
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(4.37) Marta’s first challenge
(10.18) Days of fighting with our inner selves
(18.49) Marta’s second challenge
(25.40) Taking a minute to breath
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I’m delighted to welcome Tamzin Hall, neurodiversity champion and founder of The Neurodiversity Academy to the show today. Tamzin is a leading neurodiversity consultant, trainer, and coach. She is a proud dyslexic and a #1 best-selling author. With decades of experience in leadership, learning and development, a Level 7 qualification in Coaching and Mentoring, and PCC certification, Tamzin helps leaders understand and support their neurodivergent staff. She assists businesses in creating inclusive practices that empower neurodivergent employees, ensuring they feel valued and accepted.
Join us as we talk about how to get it right when considering neurodivergence in the workplace, and how psychodynamics can help us understand our part in building strong relationships.
You connect with Tamzin and learn more about her work at:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamzin-hall/
Website: https://www.theneurodiversityacademy.com/
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(6.20) Meeting in the middle
(16.10) Fear of getting it wrong
(19.20) Work for an organisation that is doing this right
(21.48) Having someone to go to who understands
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We all love a summer holiday – or at least that’s what we are led to believe. But what if we don’t? In this episode we explore what might be going on for us if we are feeling a bit anxious whilst we pack the sun cream and our bikinis, ready for our trips to sunnier climes. Are we the only ones who feel this way? (Quick spoiler – fortunately we aren’t!).
There’s also Uncle Jonny fighting for some Christmas potatoes, and we’ll need our defence mechanism bingo cards again.
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(2.14) Travel anxiety
(6.15) Regression
(7.27) Repression
(8.34) Projection
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The yellow brick road is a fabulous analogy of the different journeys in our lives. But how tempting could it be to take a short cut? We all have our own personal witches that we want to avoid, but would we even do this by cutting some corners?
In this episode I explore what might be going on for Dorothy and her friends as she makes her way to the emerald city. I introduce a different defence mechanism and share the motivation behind the name of the podcast. And James Bond seems to be queuing at the Hanger Lane gyratory system?
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(0.36) Motivation for the name of the show
(3.38) Key points for there being no shortcut on the yellow brick road
(6.31) Denial
(7.18) Isolation
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Do we know why we do things? What can our reasons be? We have been told over the last few years that we should have “purpose” or know what our “why” is. Yet sometimes that’s not so easy to do. And how do we feel if we are the ones struggling to find out our “why” in a world that seems to respond best to those of us who seem to know?
Join me as I consider just what might be getting in the way of us finding out. Have your defence mechanism bingo card at the ready!
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(1.25) Getting rid of the zeitgeist
(3.46) Identification
(5.19) Idealisation
(6.30) Displacement and sublimation
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In this episode I am exploring why we might be consciously – or unconsciously – avoiding looking in certain areas of our lives. It won’t surprise you to learn that we will be delving back into the world of defence mechanisms. What you might not be expecting is a nod to Melanie Klein, as well as our usual check in with Freud.
My mother’s home decor gets a mention too! Have a listen and see how this all comes together.
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(1.45) What might be going on for us?
(2.28) Melanie Klein
(4.59) Repetition complusion
(6.50) Diane might be comfortable in her routine
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Following on from a previous episode on sibling rivalry I’m delighted to introduce my next guest to the show, Natasha Rose. As well as being an accomplished and celebrated businesswoman in a traditionally male industry (construction) Natasha is also a talented amateur actress.
Natasha is starring in an upcoming version of the Jane Austen classic, Sense and Sensibility, which highlights the challenges we all face when putting other people’s needs before our own. Austen’s Elinor and Marianne beautifully portray the family dynamics that can play out in these scenarios and the impact that these can have on how we feel. Natasha and I discuss what might be going on here, particularly for her character, Elinor. There’s also some defence mechanism spotting too.
To catch Natasha and the rest of the cast in this fabulous performance you can find out more and buy tickets at https://tolethorpe.co.uk.
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(4.53) Say what you feel
(7.15) “I require so much”
(11.38) Defence mechanisms in overdrive
(12.35) Rationalisation
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The podcast currently has 29 episodes available.