The Eloquent in the Room

FEMINISM SQUARED!

Continuing on from my interview with popular male feminist ally, 'The Alchemystic' on TikTok, I'm speaking to my sister from another mister: “Randi” - aka “FeelingRandi78”. Randi has gained a reputation as one gloriously sassy dame. She’s funny, smart, informative and hella sexy. Women love her and men feel super threatened by her. Go Figure.

It's a jungle out there, with all these MISOGYNIST podcasting, dating coach dude-bros continually trying to tell independent, confident, sexually-empowered women that their stocks as a life partner are comparable with a beaten up old used car.

Yes. It's that bad. Randi and I have fun dissecting the insecure subtext and trying our best to convince women NOT TO LISTEN TO THESE GUYS - listen to US instead!

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

My Patreon

My Linktree - Includes my music clips on youtube, NSFW interviews I've done on other people’s podcasts and various ways to support my output.  

It's a dirty job, but someone has to support me :)

And one more FABULOUS creator you MUST follow: Drew Afualo

So, this part of the interview is where Ryan's redemption arc becomes clear. He reveals just how much he truly believed in the religious ideology that perceived women as the 'other'; not quite people, but as mere objects to be used and controlled.

THANK GOD HE SNAPPED OUT OF IT or women wouldn't have such a fabulous feminist ally in our corner. There are so many quotable quotes in this half of the episode, I was wanting to put all his gems on bumper stickers.

Links: Follow Ryan @ the Alchemystic on Tiktok

Find my socials and support apps here

SEE THE CLIP FOR 'SMT' HERE

'WHAT MAKES YOU TIKTOK' - RYAN BAYRON, PART 1/2

It's been a while between episodes! There are a few reasons for this, one being, I have had my back wheels bogged in the TIKTOK swamp. So - I figured why not lean in to that 'problem' by grabbing a popular Tiktokkers and interviewing them on my podcast? And, guess what - my first victim is a MAN! And he's a FEMINIST! (femanist?)

Ryan goes by the handle "The Alchemystic" - he's a smooth talker, and by that I mean, he just has such a velvety way of talking and storytelling that he creates a comfort level in very uncomfortable conversations. He literally became an overnight success on tiktok but if you check out his WEBSITE you'll see that his trajectory has been leading him to where he is now. He's here to HELP! 

Mentioned in this ep: DesireeBStephens  Other Recommended Tiktokkers: RANDI (feminist) Evann (male feminist and anti-racist) and previously mentioned Sunn Mcheaux  - linguist and anti-racism activist and Dragonflies and Whiskey    (lgbt Feminist). To name a few. And definitely follow  #nativetiktok to support creators from YOUR country. 

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interview

Debbie Ballangarry is a proud Indigenous Australian woman, whom is currently studying LINGUISTICS. We bumped into each other across a crowded TikTok recently (where she posts loads of educational information and supports Indigenous Artists, performers, activists and Creators). You could say we hit it off.

You can hear her smiling when she speaks. Our chat covers a lot including the bad old days of segregation and The White Australia Policy. We also discuss was like for her to grow up Indigenous in the 70s & 80s and yet, still share our commonalities as 'Aussies'. As an older woman and a feminist I was particularly interested in talking about being an Elder. In her culture, Elders are respected and revered. In so called Civilised 'western' culture, Elders are often pushed aside and mistreated. 

Aunty Deb, is a tenacious and witty human being - we had a grand chinwag. Oh and added bonus: I learned a couple of Aboriginal words!

LINKS: My Patreon

Obituary of David Gulpilil 

Deb's TikTok 

Deb's Insta

Charlie's Country

SunnM'cheaux Harvard Language professor & activist

Music: This episode's Background Music is my original release. See the clip here. 

HELLO MY LOVES,

No new podcast this week, but PLEASE have a listen to this quick little bite-sized preview, I have a few little tidbits of EXCITING NEWS to share. NO SPOILERS. However, there are, as always - LINKS:

Sex Toys for the Holidays? (use the code word 'eloquent' for a discount!)

WATCH my previous interviewee, Phoebe ("I grew up in a Cult") Dorin interview me. It was recorded back in June of last year but was just released this week!

*voting for the Australian Podcast Awards has closed.

STOP PRESS: Update: January 13. Guess who's got Covid? Yep. Pod will remain in hiatus till Feb. 

ADULTING CONSENT...AGAIN. 

Meet Mia Shachter - AKA "THE CONSENT WIZARD"  They are, among other things, a consent and boundaries coach. Visit the SHARE THE LOAD website for more information as well as a fabulous list of courses you can partake in to help you navigate your personal boundaries and expand your ideas around consent. 

I particularly wanted to talk boundaries in this ep. As someone living with childhood trauma anxiety and abandonment issues, I definitely over burden myself in many ways. And that's where we started. Where we ended up is a beautiful free fall into the concepts of fate, destiny, linear time, object reality and that magical feeling when you find yourself smack dab in the middle of a moment that you felt you'd been preparing for your whole life. 

LINKS: Mentioned in this podcast "Betty and Sarah" also known as fab consent experts whom I have interviewed previously: Betty, the author of The Wheel of Consent and Sarah the creator of the Comprehensive Consent resource for parents and educators. 

OTHER LINKS

NIKKI DARLING - click this special link for 5% discount on a vast array of genderless sex toys. Mention the name "Eloquent" at the check out.

My Instagram

My Patreon

The Madonna/Whore Diaries - a series of interviews.

We pick up where we left off, tallking about how women's body image changes as we get older and delve into the deeper truths about our search for sexual adventure. Obviously the topic of how much porn has influenced the way younger men behave in bead, rears it's ugly head. One thing's for sure, the older you get, the more valuable it is to retain a sense of humour! There were so many interesting rabbit holes to go down with this fun chat and we definitely went there.  Visit Patsy's HELLA COUGAR various websites here: WEBSITE, TIKTOK and INSTAGRAM. She'll make you smile!

Visit NIKKI DARLING For a vast array of genderless Sexual Pleasure Items - USE THE CODE: "ELOQUENT" at the check out for a special 5% discount.

My Patreon

My Instagram

The MADONNA WHORE DIARIES INTERVIEW SERIES #3

Why does heteronormativity dictate that the male partner should be the older person? Why does society barely even notice when Hollywood leading men, play opposite women 20 years their junior?

Why do we call the younger male partners of older female celebs, "Toy Boys".

And what about same sex relationships? 

When it comes to casual liaisons between intelligent, consenting adults - how much does age really matter,  and how much does it play into old fashioned patriarchal and 'ageist' stereotypes?

Let's face it, society not only paints older people as 'ugly', it also underestimates the self-awareness, discernment and agency of younger folx who really want to date them. 

SO MUCH TO UNPACK and Patsy Menuti aka "HELLA COUGAR" helps me get through some of it! Patsy, 50, is a yoga teacher and life coach, who exhuberantly shares her "spiritual journey as a COUGAR" via her WEBSITE, TIKTOK and INSTAGRAM. She's warm, extremely down to earth and hella funny.

MORE LINKS MENTIONED: 

Cindy Gallop Ted Talk about bedding younger men the affect porn has had on their sex education.

NIKKI DARLING Genderless Pleasure Toys - don't forget to use the code "ELOQUENT" at the check out for a special 5% discount.

My Patreon

My Instagram

The Madonna Whore Diaries Continues...

Phoebe Dorin and I pick up where we left off last time...where was that? Oh yeah, we were just about to talk about ...breast orgasms.

There's much discussion about the objectification and 'ownership' aspect of breasts. Cos let's face it, they do get co-opted A LOT! The thing that seems to cause all the trouble and confusion regarding sexual enjoyment during pregnancy and after, has literally everything to do with women taking back ownership of their bodies.

Look, it's a very breast-heavy ep. Speaker to speaker BOOBS. If anyone is playing drinking games while listenting: DO NOT NOMINATE THE WORD 'NIPPLE' AS YOUR DRINKING PROMPT! You'll get hammered!

Suggested reading: Fresh Milk - The Secret Life of Breasts by Fiona Giles (2003) 

And don't forget, as mentioned in the podcast I have started a partnership with NIKKI DARLING (Sexual Health and Pleasure retailer, so if you click on the link above, and use the code word ELOQUENT you receive 5% off). Check out my rapturous review of a fabulous stimulation devise - that has literally become this girl's best friend.  Please consider joining my PATREON! 

THE MADONNA WHORE DIARIES - Conversation No. 2

This week we welcome back Phoebe ("I was raised in a cult") Dorin for a very different chat. We have a deep and intimate and very candid discussion about how pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding affected/enhanced our sexuality and sense of ourselves. Because of how society views mothers as either sex objects (MILFS), or angels walking the earth (nuturing and pure) - it's a fine line to tread, to reclaim your sense of (sexy) self, while adjusting to the very real and serious responsibilities of motherhood. And speaking of Breast Orgasms...As mentioned in the podcast I have started a partnership with NIKKI DARLING (Sexual Health and Pleasure retailer, so if you click on the link above, and use the code word ELOQUENT you receive 5% off. Check out my rapturous review of a fabulous stimulation devise - that has literally become this girl's best friend.  

MUSIC: 'A Mother's Confession' - Amanda Palmer (c) 2019