The Enneagram Edge with Host Tracy O’Malley

What if you knew THE five words that were precisely what somebody you love needs to hear to feel your love?
You would probably go out of your way to make sure they heard them from you, wouldn't you?
Today is Valentine's Day, and I know we often think of it as a day for romance, but love encompasses all forms of relationships, including romantic, familial, and friendship.
So, today, on "Lead With The Enneagram," I'm sending a little audio love letter out to all of you by sharing the 5 words each Enneagram type needs to hear to know they are loved on Valentine's Day and every day.
I'll walk you through how just a few carefully chosen words can make all the difference in someone's life. I'll discuss how you can reassure the Enneagram 4 they are not 'too much' and what you can say to help the Enneagram 3 know that who they are is enough, plus the 5 words you can say to better support the people you love by saying what they need to hear based on their Enneagram type.
Listen in to learn about the transformative impact of how the RIGHT words will reaffirm for each type that they are being seen, heard, understood, and valued for who they truly are, giving them the reassurance they need to thrive!
The Enneagram can help you get to the heart of who you are so you can find your lifetime people who will love the true expression of who you are. I'd love to help you on that journey. Find out more at TracyO'Malley.com in the work with me section.
What You Will Learn
How to help your Enneagram 1 feel the love even with their imperfections (hey, we all have them) Which Enneagram type will light up if you tell them, "you are loved no matter what"
How to let your Enneagram 3 know they don't need another accolade; you already love them wholeheartedly just because of who they are
The most heartfelt word your Type 4 needs to hear to remind them they aren't 'too much'
The ONE thing the Five in your life might be forgetting and what you can say to lovingly remind them How you can help your Enneagram 6 to get out of the tornado in their head and into the heart of the matter
How to let your Enneagram 7 know you are always up for the next adventure if it's with them
The words you can say to an Enneagram 8 to let reassure them you're not going to hurt them
How you can let the Enneagram 9 know how valuable their presence and who they are is to you
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"You approach sex from your viewpoint based on your Enneagram type. And where things go sideways is most of the time, we expect our partners to share our perspective and our views."
But there are nine basic ways to view sex, and none is wrong!
Understanding this can help you accept not only your approach to sex but can also help you accept the intimate perspectives of the partner you share a life with—and a bed.
So how can we use the Enneagram to gain greater insight into ourselves and our loved ones for more intimacy and to be better lovers?
Today, on "Lead with the Enneagram," we're delving into the intimate (and often unexplored) topic of how your Enneagram type influences your approach to sex.
I'll walk you through how each Enneagram type—from the lusty lover to the control freak—shows up in the bedroom and what that means for you and your partner.
Listen in for expert insight and practical advice on using the Enneagram to gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your lover to revolutionize how you approach your sex life and create healthier, more satisfying relationships in the bedroom and beyond.
Let's be honest, S-E-X is a big part of our lives and romantic partnerships. If you feel like you're struggling or need some guidance, I'd love to work with you and your partner to help make your intimate relationship a beautiful and true expression of who you are. Find out more at TracyO'Malley.com in the work with me section.
What You Will Learn
How Enneagram type 1 (The "Sinning Saint") can embrace their carefree side to up their game for more spontaneity and FUN in the bedroom
How Enneagram type 2 (The "Sexy Seducer") can use their growth number to heat things up and lean into a healthy balance between giving and receiving with no hidden expectations
How Enneagram type 3 (The "Awesomely Orgasmic") can have a more satisfying experience by shifting from focusing on goals to a heart-centered exchange of love
Why the Enneagram 4 is considered the "Romantic Romeo or Juliet" and why a romantic relationship with them can be magical
How Enneagram 5s ("The Lonely Lover") can communicate with their partners for more connection in their romantic relationships
How Enneagram Sixes (The "Loyal Lover") can keep the self-doubt out of the bedroom to fully connect with their partner emotionally and physically
How Enneagram 7s (The "Spontaneous Suitor") can lean into the moment for a more balanced and fulfilling experience in your intimate relationships
Why Enneagram8s (The "Lusty lover") need to find a partner that matches their intensity for a RED-HOT love connection in the bedroom (but remember power is nothing without true love)
How (The "Sensual Sweetheart") Enneagram 9 can use their voice to nurture their needs (and try new things) for long-term intimacy with their sexual partner
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Pillow Talks on Apple Podcasts
Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life
Sex and the Enneagram: A Guide to Passionate Relationships for the 9 Personality Types
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"The Enneagram framework can be a tool that allows you to see through your romantic partner's lens. It's like the love languages on steroids."
Love makes the world go round, and we're in the month of love.
The truth is we're all here to connect, and one of the most profound ways we do that is through our romantic partnerships.
But love can be hard to define because it means different things to different people.
So how can we use the Enneagram to gain greater insight into ourselves and our loved ones and foster healthier romantic relationships?
Today, on “Lead with the Enneagram” I'm walking you through the keys to unlocking a fulfilling romantic partnership.
I'll help you understand why you chose your partner and why what once drew you together may now be driving you crazy. And how looking at your romantic partner through the lens of the Enneagram can help you communicate better for a deeper connection.
Listen in as I discuss how using the framework of the Enneagram and the three centers of intelligence can help you sort through the misunderstandings and emotions in your relationship and provide you with better tools to understand your partner in love. Plus, I'll share the root cause of almost all breakdowns in your love relationships.
I'd love to work with you and your partner to help you make your romantic partnership the relationship of your dreams. Find out more at TracyO'Malley.com in the work with me section.
What You Will Learn
How your instinctual response to life can affect your love language
Why understanding the differences between you and your partner and taking ownership of one's actions is essential for maintaining a healthy relationship
How the Enneagram can help you sort through the emotions in your relationship
How understanding how the centers of intelligence function can lead to a deeper understanding of how your person functions when they are in love
How using all three of the centers of intelligence will give you a more holistic and fulfilling romantic partnership
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You've probably heard the term relationship capital. It's the trust between two people that starts small and grows over time and leads to the types of relationships you've desired, dreamed about, and deserve.
But what's the secret sauce to increasing the relationship capital in ALL areas of your life?
You are!
The truth is the more authentic you are, the more you attract the right people into your life and strengthen your bonds with your children, family, lovers, business associates, and friends.
And the Enneagram is the key to unlocking the pathways to development for a greater understanding of yourself for a life filled with more growth, deeper connections, and fewer regrets.
But you need the right Enneagram information.
So how can you get the Enneagram information you need to leverage your unique gifts to accelerate your transformation? And transform your relationships?
On this episode of Lead with the Enneagram, I'm sharing why you need the Enneagram to help you transform your life right now.
I'll walk you through the key benefits of using my Enneagram assessment and blueprint to fast-track your insight and growth for durability and sustainability for the long haul. That means you'll blow up your life less because the changes you make will finally stick!
Listen in to understand how the Enneagram can help you accelerate your growth without the pitfalls and backsliding for more success in ALL your relationships—because when you understand people (and yourself), it changes everything.
Are you tired of going on the discovery process on your own? Would you like a map to help you reach your next level faster and without so many stumbling blocks? Then you need my assessment and blueprint. It's the most rewarding money you'll ever spend on understanding yourself. Find out more at TracyO'Malley.com in the work with me section.
What You Will Learn
Why so many Enneagram assessments are inaccurate
How you can use every angle (from psychology to spirituality) to get your accurate Enneagram type
How knowing what motivates you helps you process your triggers and escape your fears
How using the Enneagram can help you accelerate your growth without all the pitfalls and backsliding
How to set goals that align with who you really are for more success The key to using the Enneagram to identify patterns that aren't working for you so you can transition into healthier ways of thinking and acting (without reacting)
Why the Enneagram is the #1 tool for making your New Year's resolutions stick past February
The no-fail way to increase your confidence to be more attractive to others in ALL areas of your life
How the Enneagram can help you be more successful in your romantic relationships (Happy Valentine's Day!)
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Have you set a personal growth goal, but you're having difficulty reaching it?
The truth is, if you're trying to hit a target, you must know which target you're aiming for.
We all want to improve our relationships, careers, and personal lives, but we often only make changes when things are seriously wrong, or the benefits are clear.
The Enneagram is a valuable tool for personal growth but knowing your Enneagram type doesn't mean you are using the Enneagram framework to its fullest extent.
Getting the most out of the beautiful tool that is the Enneagram requires three things, yet most of us, no matter which Enneagram type we are, try to sidestep the second one, hurrying on our way to the third, which leaves us with change that's only temporary, and holds us back from the growth we truly desire.
So, how can you use ALL the tools of the Enneagram to maximize your personal growth?
Today, we're delving into the three key elements and the one often-overlooked aspect you need to use the Enneagram to unlock your full growth potential.
Listen in as I discuss why the Enneagram is different from other popular assessments like Myers-Briggs and Human Design and why the Enneagram offers a unique perspective on personal growth.
Tune in to understand how committing to all aspects of using the Enneagram effectively will help you finally find the lasting change you've been aiming for.
I'd love to work with you to help you work through the three things you need to use the Enneagram for a more magical life! Find out more at TracyO'Malley.com in the work with me section.
What You Will Learn
How to achieve more growth by simplifying your Enneagram Journey
The number one thing you need to maximize growth through the Enneagram
The one thing that most of us try to avoid that would help us use the Enneagram more effectively
How committing to doing the work of part two of learning to use the Enneagram more effectively makes the third part a cakewalk
Understanding "acknowledgment" in the context of the Enneagram
The unique aspects of the Enneagram as compared to Myers-Briggs and Human Design
Why growth requires that we understand the steps that it took to get to where we are today
The step we're often eager to take that yields only temporary results without the other two in play
The power of compassionate (and EFFECTIVE action) in your Enneagram journey
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Most of us are wearing many hats.
We're parents and partners, we have our careers and great friendships we want to maintain, and we want growth in all of it while having time to stretch and grow in our own self-awareness.
It. Can. Be. A. Lot.
And things can start to pile up as we strive to balance our multiple roles and responsibilities, especially when we feel like we're all over the place or living our lives on autopilot.
This can negatively affect our personal and professional relationships, energy levels, and even our physical health.
It can also be a recipe for burnout.
So, how can we use the tools of the Enneagram to become a more holistic leader, both personally and professionally?
Today, I'm walking you through how to wear all those different hats in your life gracefully and effectively without changing who you are.
Listen in as I discuss how understanding your Enneagram type can help you make better decisions professionally while forming deeper, lasting relationships and making an impact in all areas of your life.
Tune in to gain valuable insights and strategies on how each Enneagram type can meet themselves with compassion, manage burnout, and lead a more fulfilling life filled with uncompromising self-growth.
I'd love to work with you to help you become a more holistic leader in every aspect of your life. Find out more at Tracy O'Malley.com in the work with me section.
What You Will Learn
How Enneagram 1s can stop getting tangled up in the small details and enjoy their personal and professional lives more.
In order to avoid overcompensating, Enneagram 2s need to pay attention to building this muscle
How Enneagram 3s can drop the unhealthy competition in their personal and professional lives for more equal relationships
The one way type 4s can show up in their relationships true to who they are instead of putting on a show
How Enneagram 5s can connect more fully in their work relationships without feeling drained
The pause 6s should take to avoid pushing people away and experience more growth in their relationships
The reflective practice that can help Enneagram 7s determine if they are rushing others in order to bypass discomfort
Why type 8s should focus on asking better questions rather than just barreling in to save the day
How Enneagram 9s can avoid resentment and feeling overlooked to take better action in all aspects of their lives.
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I resisted putting the word Enneagram in the title of this podcast because I like flying under the radar. But I want to make a bigger impact in 2023, so I changed the name to ‘Lead with the Enneagram.’ And just as I anticipated, the haters showed up on Day One.
As an Enneagram 8, my first instinct was to fight. But because I spent the last decade integrating the Enneagram into my life, I made a different choice.
So, what are YOU gonna do when the haters come out to play?
On this episode of Lead with the Enneagram, I explain why resistance appears when we step into our light and how haters can serve as an indication that we’re on the right path.
I explore why stepping into who you are makes people uncomfortable, challenging you to pause and turn inward before you defend yourself against haters.
Listen in to understand how the Enneagram can help you communicate effectively in hard conversations and learn how to protect your energy, stay rooted in who you are, and THRIVE in the face of haters.
What You Will Learn
Why resistance and haters appear when we step into our light
Why my first instinct is to fight or defend myself against haters
How a hater’s comment helped me get even more rooted in what I do
The question to ask yourself before you respond to haters
Why stepping into who you are makes people uncomfortable
How haters serve as an indication you’re on the right path
What to do when loved ones are uncomfortable with changes you’re making
How the Enneagram helps you communicate effectively in hard conversations
The benefit of declining to put energy into things that don’t serve you
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We all need support. But we may not know exactly what we need or how to ask for help.
Whether you’re hiring support staff for your team or building new friendships, surrounding yourself with the right people is key to growth.
And knowing your Enneagram type can help you choose the right people.
On this episode of Lead with the Enneagram, I explain why certain tasks come easier for certain Enneagram types and how to identify what you actually need in a new hire.
I describe the danger in getting support from people who are wired the same way as you, challenging you to be honest about your strengths and weaknesses and hire to fill the gaps.
Listen in to understand the benefit of hiring someone whose core type is your growth number and learn how to get the support you NEED and LOVE using the Enneagram.
What You Will Learn
Why certain tasks come easier for certain Enneagram types
The value in knowing your strengths and weaknesses and hiring to fill the gaps
The danger in hiring people you like who are triggered the same way
How knowing each other’s strengths helps my son and I get things done
Why it’s crucial to ask the right people for support
How to identify what you actually need from a new hire
The benefit of hiring someone whose Enneagram type is your growth number
How building friendships with other Enneagram types helps you grow
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Most of us believe that we are skilled critical thinkers.
But if we’re being honest, we’re often reacting rather than responding. Leading by default, not by design. Allowing our past trauma or a belief system that no longer serves us to call the shots.
So, how do you know when you’re seeing clearly and when you’re having a breakdown in critical thinking? And how can you use the Enneagram to improve your critical thinking practices?
On this episode of Lead with the Enneagram, I walk you through the centers of intelligence—instinctive, thinking and feeling—and explain how critical thinking requires the use of all three.
I describe how to recognize when your core Enneagram type is triggered and use your Tritype to elevate your critical thinking and respond more effectively.
Listen in for insight on teaching your kids to think critically and learn how to leverage your Enneagram Tritype to accelerate your critical thinking practices and love and lead successfully.
What You Will Learn
How operating from a place of past trauma or a belief system that no longer serves us gets in the way of critical thinking
The 3 Enneagram centers of intelligence—instinctive, thinking and feeling
Why critical thinking requires the use of all 3 centers of intelligence
What happens when leaders operate in their fear and how it blocks critical thinking
How I leverage my Enneagram Tritype 268 to elevate my critical thinking
How to recognize when your core Enneagram type is triggered and use your Tritype to respond more effectively
The value in understanding when your core Enneagram type enables you to see clearly and when it causes a breakdown in critical thinking
Why 2 self-preservation Enneagram 1s might process information very differently
How critical thinking makes it easier to communicate and gives you more energy
What it looks like to use the Enneagram to teach your kids critical thinking
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Triggers in Leadership on Lead with the Enneagram EP309
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"The best way to lead others is to be able to lead yourself effectively. And next level leadership is understanding yourself and the other person at the same time."
We all love the perks of leading a team. But there's a catch.
Each group we’re a part of is comprised of a diverse range of Enneagram types, each with their own instinctual response to life.
And that's great because each Enneagram type brings its unique skills to the table, meshing to create a successful team.
But it's not without its downside. Some polarity exists within every team. Others may not always get what you bring to the table. Depending on your Enneagram Type (and theirs), they may misconstrue your motivation or misinterpret your communication style causing them to miss the heart in what you say.
Plus, we all have our own level of self-awareness, which can lead to misunderstandings and even reckless words that activate our fear response, and cause breakdowns even in the most successful teams.
So how can we learn to recognize how our energy might be received before we ever walk into a room?
Today, I'm walking through how you can minimize (and leverage) the triggers that show up in leadership using the Enneagram for you and each Enneagram type on every team in your life.
I'll discuss why it’s vital to understand not only who is on your team but also their biggest fears and what might set them off based on their Type, and the triad that they filter their experiences through. Listen in as I share how you can use your Enneagram type and your own self-knowledge to catch your reactions (positive and negative) in every moment so you can be a more successful leader.
I'll walk you through a behind-the-scenes story of how I avoided a (type 8) trigger during a recent Enneagram group training session and the outcome for the entire team involved.
Plus, I'll share a self-awareness practice you can use when you feel triggered to respond effectively to turn the situation a win-win for everyone.
Do you lead a team? You DO, even if it's just in your own home. I'd love to work with you to help you become a more effective AND compassionate leader. Find out more at Tracy O'Malley.com in the work with me section.
What You Will Learn
How our fear response or coping mechanisms are activated
The 3 choices you have as a leader when you are triggered
Why effective leadership means going beyond learning the Enneagram types of the members of your team
The biggest triggers for the Gut Triad (Types 8, 9, & 1)
What triggers Enneagram 2s, 3s, and 4s as members of the Feeling Triad
How to avoid triggering the Thinking Triad (Head Center), which Includes Enneagram 5s, 6s, and 7s The self-awareness practice you can use to respond effectively when you are triggered for a win-win for everyone involved
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EP307: Use The Enneagram to Transform Your Partnerships—Personally and Professionally
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