The Enneagram Edge with Host Tracy O’Malley

15 years ago, I thought I was really self-aware. I saw myself clearly and understood how my experiences shaped my behavior.
But in truth, I wasn’t nearly as self-aware as I thought.
And the Enneagram showed me what I was missing. It helped me take my emotional intelligence to the next level.
On this episode of Lead with the Enneagram, I explain how true self-awareness comes from understanding how you respond to triggers and recognizing the impact you have on others.
I explore why blaming, judging and justifying keeps you stuck, challenging you to turn the mirror on yourself when you’re irritated by other people.
Listen in to understand why you can’t have compassion for others when you’re beating yourself up and learn the first steps to developing genuine self-awareness using the Enneagram!
What You Will Learn
Why you may not be nearly as self-aware as you think you are
How true self-awareness involves understanding how you respond to triggers
What makes the Enneagram a powerful tool for recognizing how you impact others
How to leverage self-awareness to communicate more effectively
The value in turning the mirror on yourself when you feel judgement or irritation
Why blaming, judging and justifying keeps you stuck
The danger in letting self-awareness take you down a shame spiral
How we’re triggered when we feel weak in a particular area of our lives
Why I feel judgmental when someone else gets attention (and what I do about it)
Why we can’t have compassion for others when we’re beating ourselves up
How the Enneagram can help you get to who you’re divinely designed to be
The first steps to developing self-awareness using the Enneagram
Connect with Tracy
Tracy’s Website
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Resources
Access Your Enneagram Blueprint
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"You can't have all the great parts of your life without polarity; you have to have some contrast. Sometimes the hard things, the endings of things, or the rejuvenation of partnerships is exactly the thing that needs to happen."
Often, the holiday season brings up many of the cracks in the foundation of the most significant partnerships in your life, whether family, romantic, or even business partnerships.
If you are like me, 2022 was very eye-opening personally and professionally, and I recognized that some of the partnerships I had hooked to my trailer weren't working the way I wanted them to. And I had to make some changes.
Today, I'm sharing how the Enneagram can help you better discern whether your partnerships need some tweaking with better communication and more understanding of each other or maybe it's time for some of those relationships to end.
Listen in as I share how you can start this year off on a solid foundation by doing the hard work of looking at your personal and professional relationships so you can accelerate the transformation you need NOW, in the beginning, to set yourself up for more success in 2023.
I do powerful couple and partner Enneagram sessions. I use my Enneagram Blueprint to help you reach a different level of communication and compassion for the person you have chosen to partner with! We'll look at why you're great together and unlock the power of your partnership. Find out more at Tracy O'Malley.com in the work with me section.
What You Will Learn
How to recognize which relationships in your life are soul-draining energy vampires that need to go How the Enneagram can help you bring out the best in each other in your romantic relationships
Why changing your communication style can help you solve some relationship problems
The 2 things that can happen when you feel like you are outgrowing your romantic life partner
How two visionaries can clash in a business partnership
Why it's vital to do the hard stuff in business partnerships in the beginning
How to use the Enneagram to smooth the rough edges off ALL your partnerships
Connect with Tracy
Tracy’s Website
Tracy on Instagram
Tracy on Facebook
Tracy on Twitter
Tracy on LinkedIn on LinkedIn
Resources
EP303: When You Have A Big Vision For Your Life Without Letting The Crazy Take Over With Astrologist Kasey Hernandez (Enneagram 7)
Purchase Your Enneagram Blueprint
Apply to work with Tracy
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session
Email [email protected]

When I started this podcast 3 years ago, I was almost afraid to plant my flag as the go-to expert on the Enneagram.
But NOT ANYMORE!
Today, we're ushering in the new year, celebrating the show's third anniversary, and launching into all of it with a BRAND NEW name for the podcast—Leading with the Enneagram.
But before we can venture ahead, we're going to take a little trek back.
Today, I'm sharing a look back at my introduction to the Enneagram when my life was imploding—and I'll be 100% with you—I wanted nothing to do with it.
At that time, I didn't have a system to help me stay rooted in my faith, so when things got hairy, I would go back to what I knew, which was dysfunction.
But the Enneagram gave me some framework so that when I got off track, it brought me right back into my Divine Calling and God's plan for my life.
I'll walk you through my original mistyping and how I learned to communicate with my Type 7 and Type 2 children based on their Enneagram type instead of mine.
Listen in as I share the difference communicating with them in a way that makes them feel seen and understood has made in their lives and our relationships. Plus, I'll share the sweet and sentimental gifts they gave me for Christmas this year that brought it all home.
Diving deeper into the Enneagram starts with being correctly typed. My Enneagram Blueprint can help you use the beautiful tool of the Enneagram to learn more about who YOU are at a soul level, so you can create the life you were meant to live!
What You Will Learn
Where true transformation happens in relationships through the Enneagram
How the Enneagram helped me have compassion for the people who did me wrong (including myself.) How the Enneagram helped me provide my children with emotional connection and emotional regulation
How communicating with others in a way that makes them feel seen, valued, and heard changes everything How to break the generational curses in your life
How the Enneagram has helped me transform
ALL of my relationships How I can help you change your life and your relationships
Why transformation begins with having the right tools
Connect with Tracy
Tracy’s Website
Tracy on Instagram
Tracy on Facebook
Tracy on Twitter
Tracy on LinkedIn on LinkedIn
Resources
Purchase Your Enneagram Blueprint
Apply to work with Tracy
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session
Email [email protected]

Recently, we celebrated my daughter’s 26th birthday. We have a tradition where I make her a special cake each year. As an Enneagram 7, she doesn’t go for your everyday average birthday cake. She likes things more unique than that.
So, with hours of watching baking show in my arsenal, I set out to make her a grand, unique cake worthy of her Enneagram 7ness.
But, as I got deep into the assembly, there was a problem with the foundation. And things quickly began to crumble.
Have you ever experienced the same thing only with your life? You’re going along just fine, and you think you’re bulletproof, but then one thing happens: rocking your world, and that seems to slide the whole thing off course.
You may have experienced that in 2022 and now you are looking to the new year as one of rebuilding.
So how can you open yourself up to starting over, this time on a more solid foundation?
On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I will walk you through why the same old band-aids of self-help won’t cut it for you if you want to experience REAL, lasting change that catapults you to the next level of who you were meant to be.
Listen in to hear my personal story of how I rebuilt my own life using the tools of the Enneagram and how I can help you get the tools you need to rebuild yours on a solid foundation, primed for growth and all the good things you deserve.
The greatest gift you can give yourself in the new year is a compassionate new level of self-awareness. My Enneagram Blueprint can help you use the beautiful tool of the Enneagram to learn more about who YOU are at a soul level so you can use your unique gifts to create the life you were meant to live and share.
What You Will Learn
Why we so often focus on the fluff instead of the foundation
Why it’s mostly smoke and mirrors in the personal development coaching world
Why the same old band-aids of ‘self-help’ eventually wear thin for those who want real change
The #1 thing you can do to strengthen your level of self-awareness
How the tools of the Enneagram can help you become bulletproof
Connect with Tracy
Tracy’s Website
Tracy on Instagram
Tracy on Facebook
Tracy on Twitter
Tracy on LinkedIn
Resources
EP303: When You Have A Big Vision For Your Life Without Letting The Crazy Take Over With Astrologist Kasey Hernandez (Enneagram 7‪)
Purchase Your Enneagram Blueprint
Apply to work with Tracy
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session
Email [email protected]

Here we are, about to kick 2022 to the curb. This is the time of year when we get obsessive. We've galloped through the holidays, and now we're looking toward the next thing—a new calendar filled with blank pages just waiting for us to write the story of 2023.
As you're taking stock of all that 2022 was (or wasn't—I can relate), you might be itching to map out your new year or depending on your Enneagram type maybe the thought of making goals gives you hives.
So how can you set yourself up to make the most of 2023 in a way that works for who YOU are?
On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I will walk you through how each Enneagram Type can set some healthy intentions for the new year. I'll share the filtering questions Enneagram 2s and 3s need to ask themselves before saying YES to the next thing and which type will actually benefit from more planning.
Listen in to hear which type needs to embark on an exercise plan, the two types who need to take scheduled breaks from the chaos of life, who needs to hire a coach, and who needs to spend the year shooting from the heart for more powerful connections.
Going into 2023, the greatest gift you can give yourself is a compassionate new level of self-awareness. My Enneagram Blueprint can help you use the beautiful tool of the Enneagram to learn more about who YOU are at a soul level.
What You Will Learn
How Enneagram 1s can embrace their growth number to have more fun and even let things get a little bit messy for more fulfillment in 2023
The #1 question every Enneagram 2 needs to ask themselves before they add another event or to-do to their calendar
The secret trick Enneagram 3s can do with their phones to be sure they unplug from social to connect with those they love for deeper relationships in the new year
The easy 3-to-do personal planner that will help Enneagram 4s tap into their creativity
Why a health and exercise program is the key to helping Enneagram 5s thrive in all areas of life in 2023
The two Enneagram types that need to take time away from the noise and chaos to help them get more centered
How a coach can help Enneagram 9s be more accountable so you can take action on your goals in the new year
Connect with Tracy
Tracy’s Website
Tracy on Instagram
Tracy on Facebook
Tracy on Twitter
Tracy on LinkedIn
Resources
Purchase Your Enneagram Blueprint
Apply to work with Tracy Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session
Email [email protected]

Those inching closer to a big birthday can often struggle as they shoot toward a new decade—especially those in their late 20s reaching for their 30s while questioning where they are in their lives.

My daughter Kasey is no stranger to this feeling, as she's turning 26 TODAY. Happy Birthday!

It's been my tradition since I've been doing the Leadership Formula podcast to invite her onto the show to share insight from her generation around her birthday.

Kasey is an Enneagram 7 and has some deep insight into how it feels, as an Enneagram 7, to be closer to 30 than 25. And the challenges of walking the fine line between living your best, free-spirited life and venturing into hardcore adulting for The Enthusiast.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, Kasey shares her least favorite thing about adulting and some steps she's taking to set herself on the right path for the future in the coming years. Plus, she shares the advice she shared with her brother to help him get re-centered.

Listen in to hear how Kasey is helping other people with their astrological chart, how that's helped put her on the right path for her life, and the one the misconception about astrology she's hoping to clear up.

If you're interested in getting a fresh start in 2023, now is an excellent time to learn the big 3 of your astrological chart. Kasey shares the types of readings she offers and how to find her Instagram.

What You Will Learn

The tool Kasey uses to set her goals so as an Enneagram Type 7, she doesn't get overwhelmed

Why an Enneagram 7 can look like an Enneagram 1 under hyper stress

The most frustrating part of being in a moment of panic and anxiety for her

Kasey shares her biggest triggers and why feeling a lack of support can send her into the shame bubble

How learning astrology has helped Kasey understand who she is in her day-to-day life (and helped her develop more compassion for others)

How teaching astrology has helped her be more compassionate toward people

How learning your astrology big 3 can help you succeed in your business

Connect with Kasey


Kasey on Instagram

Connect with Tracy

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Resources

EP302: How The Enneagram Can Strengthen Your Faith, Not Sway You from it
Apply to work with Tracy
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session
Email [email protected]

There's a lot of controversy around people of faith using a tool like the Enneagram.

But many religious leaders are becoming more open to the teachings of the Enneagram and how this tool (when properly used) can help you stay rooted in your faith. Some pastors are now even teaching the Enneagram.

Fifteen years ago, my life was tough and I felt like everything was unfair, making it hard to trust that God had my back.

But then I found the Enneagram, which helped me clear the wreckage and unpack who I really am so that I can lean into my faith.

So how can the Enneagram come into play in your faith?

Today on The Leadership Formula, I discuss how the Enneagram how has strengthened my intuition and allowed me to stay rooted in my faith.

Listen in as I walk you through how the tools of the Enneagram can help you uncover your coping mechanisms and clear your wreckage, so you can start leaning into your inner knowing for a more fruitful life.

If you have any questions about this episode, please DM me directly on Instagram. I'd love to hear from you. I'm excited to lead you to the next level of your life. If you are ready to discover your TRUE Enneagram type, check out my newly developed Enneagram Type Blueprint.

What You Will Learn

How the Enneagram has helped me be more empathetic and understanding of other people's beliefs

How the Enneagram can help you stay rooted in your faith

Why I believe our body and our intuition are our main compass

How we use the centers of intelligence to problem solve in our lives

How operating in your intuition rather than your coping mechanisms can help you clear the wreckage in your life

Why, when your core Enneagram Type is going rogue, you are most like the Enneagram stereotypes (you know, the ones being shown in those Instagram memes)

How the Enneagram can guide you back to your inner knowing

How the Enneagram can help you kick your coping mechanisms to the curb and lean into your faith

Connect with Tracy


Tracy’s Website
Tracy on Instagram
Tracy on Facebook
Tracy on Twitter
Tracy on LinkedIn

Resources


Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session
Purchase Your Enneagram Type Blueprint
Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts
Email [email protected]

"Codependency is one of the hardest things to break even professionally."

One of the things that comes up a lot when I am coaching is an admission of feeling responsible for other people's feelings. And that can sneak right in no matter which Enneagram Type you are.

But allowing that into any relationship can create an element of inauthenticity and, worse, codependency.

And when you feel it is your responsibility to dictate how other people feel about something, you are creating an energy tourniquet that will block everything else that is good in your relationship.

So how can you be sure you are walking in compassion for somebody who's struggling without swerving into codependency?

Today on The Leadership Formula, I discuss how the Enneagram can help you discover what's at the root of your feelings of responsibility for other people's happiness (even your children.)

Listen in as I explain why it's vital to check your motives in your relationships to make sure you're not settling for temporary harmony that could lead to emotional bankruptcy. Plus, a sneak peek into what's coming from Tracy O'Malley.com in 2023.

My offerings will change in 2023, but there is still time to ensure you have the tools to step into your soul's calling. Here's where you can discover my newly developed Enneagram Type Blueprint to stay on track or book your Enneagram Kickstart Session.

What You Will Learn

How the Enneagram helps you understand what's at the root of your feeling of responsibility for other people's happiness
The fine line that so many of you are operating in that you aren't even aware of
The difference between compassion and codependency
Why feeling responsible for someone else's feelings is a one-way ticket to resentment
Why stepping out of codependency can lead to the ending of a relationship
Why feeling responsible for other's feelings leads to judgment
How to set the right boundaries to avoid falling into a codependent pattern in your relationships

Connect with Tracy

Tracy’s Website:
http://tracyomalley.com/
Tracy on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley/
Tracy on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
Tracy on Twitter:
https://twitter.com/TracyOMall
Tracy on LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Resources

Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Purchase Your Enneagram Type Blueprint:
https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
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EP296: Blindsided by a Romantic Partner - How You Can Turn That Pain into Something Beautiful Even While You are in the Middle of It:
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EP297: Blindsides & Betrayal in Adult Friendship - How to Grow From it and Stay Open for the Right People for You Using the Enneagram:
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Episode 300! Can you believe it?

I couldn't have reached 300 episodes without your belief in what I'm sharing with you and, by extension, your sharing with others.

The fact that you choose to spend time listening to me means a lot to me, and I'm passionate about sharing the tools of the Enneagram with you to help you improve and thrive in ALL five areas of your life.

Today, on The Leadership Formula, I'm sharing information about how the Enneagram has helped me thrive in all areas of my life, and the passion behind what I do.

I discuss why you can't lead from behind in your own life and how you can use the Enneagram as part of your daily practice so you can stay focused and move ahead in your life with what works (and fewer occasions of returning to what doesn't).

Listen in as I share how you can work with me to be sure you are correctly typed so you can use the Enneagram tools to step into your soul's calling and begin living your best life in all areas. Plus, be the first to learn the NEW NAME of the podcast and why I chose it!

I've worked for decades to ensure you have the tools to step into your soul's calling. Here's where you can discover my newly developed Enneagram Type Blueprint to stay on track with all you desire and deserve or try an Enneagram Kickstart Session.


What You Will Learn

Why you can't lead from behind in your own life
Which was my #1 downloaded episode of the podcast
Why we have to keep in a daily practice of what works for us, so we don't return to what doesn't
Why you can't heal your inner child in a 2-hour workshop
Why I am passionate about helping you integrate the Enneagram into your life
What’s ahead for the podcast in the new year
How I helped a recent corporate client assure everyone on their team was typed correctly (hint: they weren’t)

Connect with Tracy

Tracy’s Website:
http://tracyomalley.com/
Tracy on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley/
Tracy on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
Tracy on Twitter:
https://twitter.com/TracyOMall
Tracy on LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Purchase Your Enneagram Type Blueprint:
https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582
Email [email protected]

"We were all designed with a unique, beautiful calling on our life with a unique personality and disposition. But if you're feeling blah, or like, you're not stepping into that version of yourself that you know is inside you, or you're not feeling fulfilled, you're stuck."

2022 is going to be ending soon.

Having just experienced the BEST year of your life, you may be closing the calendar in wonder. Or you'll be tossing the calendar into the garbage can on December 31, determined never to revisit 2022.

Or you're somewhere in between because it's been a mixed bag of highs and lows.

But whatever type of year you've had you can still feel stuck.

So how can you make 2023 the year you finally step into your life's calling so you can journey into your next stage with purpose?

Today, on The Leadership Formula, I'm sharing the top 5 tools I lean into daily to keep myself unstuck.

I discuss how the Enneagram helps me with everything from knowing myself better to sidestepping shame, to being vulnerable with those who support me in every area of my life.

Listen in as I share the behind-the-scenes tools I use, and you can, too, so you can live the life you were made for in 2023.

Are you ready to get unstuck? Now is the time to invest in yourself and prepare for a fabulous 20203. I've worked decades to ensure you have the tools to step into your soul's calling. Here's where you can apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching (I have one spot left) for a 3-month intensive, or try an Enneagram Kickstart Session where we have a 90-minute ZOOM conversation to discuss your unique Enneagram type. Or discover my newly developed Enneagram Type Blueprint to stay on track with all you desire and deserve.

What You Will Learn

Why knowing yourself begins with stepping outside your facade
Why the Enneagram is the roadmap that can help you get unstuck
Which two Enneagram types have the most challenging time accepting support in their lives
The three Enneagram types that have the most difficult time stepping out of their shame
Why you must reverse engineer things to get unstuck
Why redesigning your belief system is the true catalyst for change
The three keys to redesigning your perspective
Why opening your mind to people who think differently than you is the key to learning and evolving
Why vulnerability opens the door to real growth
How to make the switch from storytelling to real vulnerability

Connect with Tracy

Tracy’s Website:
http://tracyomalley.com/
Tracy on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley/
Tracy on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
Tracy on Twitter:
https://twitter.com/TracyOMall
Tracy on LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Purchase Your Enneagram Type Blueprint:
https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582
Email [email protected]