The Enneagram Edge with Host Tracy O’Malley

Enneagram 9 is the Adaptive Peacemaker. They are easy to get along with and make others feel accepted, heard, and understood in their presence.

When they're at their best, the Enneagram 9 is like the Yoda of the Enneagram, they genuinely see and accept potential in other people—they’re a great hype squad.

Those are their superpowers, but sometimes their agreeable, understanding, patient, and supportive ways can be a thorn in their sides, leaving them feeling like their voice doesn't matter, leading to resentment that keeps them stuck.

So, how can Enneagram 9s learn to reconcile that healthy conflict is the greatest catalyst for change so they can stand in their power, express their own voice, and bring forth their deep insight into the world?

Today, on The Leadership Formula, we're rounding out our special series with everything Enneagram 9. I'll share some triggers Enneagram 9s face that can lead to resentment, passive aggressiveness, and even procrastination.

Listen in as I share how Enneagram 9s can use their 1 and 8 Wings to shift out of park, discover their true purpose, and then take action to share their wisdom and perspective with the rest of us because we need you.

Plus, I'll share which of the three 9 subtypes is the hardest to crack, which is most prone to codependency, and which might be a master at community building.

My ALL-NEW Enneagram Blueprint is 75 pages of Enneagram gold. It's like your soul handbook, a beautiful blueprint to help you step into who you are designed to be so that you can honor the calling that has been on your life all along. Visit TracyO'Malley.com for information TODAY!

What You Will Learn

Why Enneagram 9s are the masters of difficult conversations with those they love
Why 9s make great friends with a listening ear
Why Enneagram 9s sometimes use procrastination to take back their power
Why 9s often start and abandon a lot of projects
How Enneagram 9s can use their 8 Wing to delve deeper into their own uniqueness without fear of what others will think about it
How Enneagram 9s can use their 1 Wing to counterbalance their easygoing laziness with a structured plan to do what they say they are going to do
Why one-on-one 9s need to be careful about codependency in their most significant relationships

Connect with Tracy

Tracy’s Website:
http://tracyomalley.com/
Tracy on Instagram:
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Tracy on Facebook:
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Tracy on Twitter:
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Tracy on LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

My ALL-NEW Enneagram Blueprint:
https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
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Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
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Email [email protected]

Enneagram 8s are legendary for having a powerful energy that sometimes enters the room before they do. They do everything with gusto, including their propensity to measure everything as strong vs. weak—even themselves. So, they avoid being vulnerable at all costs, often choosing to share their stories of frailty only after the fact.

But other Enneagram types can see this take no prisoners, no slowing down charge as lacking in compassion. For the 8, it sometimes lacks connection.

So how can Enneagram 8s stop being so independent and lean into vulnerability and compassion to enjoy deeper relationships and more in-depth experiences?

Today on the show, my client and friend Zoi Jones joins me to walk us through her life as an Enneagram Type 8. She shares how her intense 8 energy helped her hold three jobs while working her way through law school and helps her level up her business as Partner in a personal injury law firm.

She’ll walk us through her favorite thing about being an Enneagram 8 mom to three children under five. Plus, how using the all the tools of the Enneagram (especially her 7 Wing) has helped her lead with more compassion while walking with her husband as he transitions in his career.

Listen in as Zoi shares her biggest challenges as Enneagram 8 and the most significant breakthrough working with me as her coached helped her to achieve in her life.

What You Will Learn

How Enneagram 8s can learn to pause without being worried about getting taken advantage of
How Enneagram 8s can learn to be vulnerable instead of just telling stories
Which Enneagram subtype has the most intense energy of all Enneagram types
How Enneagram 8 entrepreneurs can use their 7 Wing to step into their visionary side to build a more creative and fun business
Why the Enneagram 8s 9 Wing is the key to loving and leading without judgment
How an Enneagram 8 can lean into their 9 Wing energy to help others learn to trust their own intuition

Connect with Zoi Jones

Zoi on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/zoi_a_jones/
Gonzalez & Jones APC on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/gonzalezandjonesapc/

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
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www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

Living a Legacy:
https://www.amazon.com/Living-Legacy-Rebecca-Cafiero/dp/B0BJ4FV829/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1666726346&sr=8-1
Download your FREE Enneagram Guide:
https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
YOUR ENNEAGRAM TYPE BLUEPRINT:
https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
EP286: Being an Enneagram Eight - The Good, Beautiful, Hard, and Ugly of the Challenger:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep286-being-an-enneagram-eight-the-good-beautiful/id1491541582?i=1000583769215
Special Series: Getting to Know Each of the Enneagram Types on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582
Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
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Email [email protected]

Enneagram 8s are motivated by a need to be strong and in control. They are take charge, decisive, aggressive, power-oriented, and magnetic. Self-sufficient autonomy is essential to an 8, and they have their own way of influencing others, including within large and powerful organizations.

Those are their superpowers, but when they are in an unhealthy space or acting in their ego, those same superpowers can be like a wrecking ball on the life of an Enneagram 8.

So, how can Enneagram 8s overcome their fear of being vulnerable to realize the connection and intimacy they so desperately crave in their relationships?

Today, on The Leadership Formula, we're diving into everything Enneagram 8. I'll share some triggers Enneagram 8s face that can cause their self-protection defense mechanism to kick in and the blind spots they have that can leave others feeling unprepared, underappreciated, or unprotected.

Listen in as I share how Enneagram 8s can use their wings to connect with people and experience the nuances of life without judgment or jaded expectations for more playfulness and fun.

Plus, I'll share which type is the least expressive and the most armed of the three Eight subtypes and which is the most intense and charismatic.

Are you looking for a detailed, comprehensive guide to how your specific Enneagram type makes decisions, communicates, cultivates relationships, and is unique to you? Visit TracyO'Malley.com for information on how my in-depth assessment can help you accelerate your transformation! Click here to purchase my ALL-NEW Enneagram Blueprint TODAY!

What You Will Learn

Why you should ask an Enneagram 8 if you are seeking the truth about a situation
The inner knowing that helps Enneagram 8s make quick decisions
Why being loved by an Enneagram 8 makes you bulletproof
Why Enneagram 8s would rather do everything on their own than rely on anyone else for help
Why an Enneagram 8s ability to perceive what needs to be done to protect their people make them a safe harbor in any storm
Why an Enneagram 8s ability to lead and influence can be dangerous if their motives are not on the up and up
Why questioning an 8 can cause them to feel underestimated and like their back is up against the wall causing their claws to come out
Why an 8s tendency to overfill their plates can lead to them insisting they have it all under control even when they don't
How Enneagram 8s can use their 7 Wing to lean into their playful side for more fun
How Enneagram 8s can use their 9 Wing to help them deliver their message in a way that opens others receptiveness

Connect with Tracy

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Email Tracy [email protected]


Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
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Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
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Enneagram 7s are the master innovators of 'anything's possible'—in this lifetime, this world, and our bodies.

They are also known for their gift of being able to change lanes at the drop of a hat—which sometimes causes the other Enneagram types to feel they lack focus.

But knowing when to pivot is all part of their visionary spirit and zone of genius.

So how can you empower the enthusiasm and forward-looking gifts of the 7s in your life?

Today on the show, my friend Dr. Nicole Marcione joins me to walk us through her life as an Enneagram Type 7 and her past struggles with trying to prove her worth. She shares the story of one of the biggest challenges she faced in her career and the difficult but powerful decision she made to step out of the expectations placed on her and follow her heart for more fulfillment.

Listen in to learn how our work together helped her tap into ALL the Enneagram tools to bring forth her vision for her life. We’ll discuss how she’s learned to sidestep her FOMO and instead tune into her body and align with her intuitive powers to make decisions.

Plus, how Nicole is using sensuality to connect with her body and the creative power of female energy to manifest more joy and happiness for a longer and better life for herself and her clients.

What You Will Learn

The biggest clue that an Enneagram 7 is overwhelmed or out of balance
Why the Enneagram 7s ability to pivot and move on is their zone of genius
Why allowing an Enneagram 7 to believe that anything is possible is vital to keeping their trust
Why judgment of others is often just envy in disguise
The critical difference between instinct and intuition in our body
The #1 way to step into your center of intelligence


Connect with Dr. Nicole Marcione

Dr. Nicole Marcione on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/drnicolemarcione/?hl=en


Connect with Tracy

www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582
Email [email protected]

"Enneagram Sevens can develop an addictive cycle of fun-filling, but not fulfilling experiences."

Enneagram 7s are the most optimistic of the Enneagram Types. The Enthusiastic Visionary often acts as the joy meter in their circle of family and friends. They love spontaneity and approach life as an adventure, blazing a trail to an exciting future.

But, when they aren't at their best, their insatiable search for fulfillment and FOMO can sometimes lead them to become impulsive and unfocused, leaving them dissatisfied.

So, how can Enneagram 7s stop chasing the excitement of the next big thing and experience more fulfillment by living fully in the present moment?

Today, on The Leadership Formula, we're going to look at the larger-than-life Enneagram 7. I'll share some triggers that can activate an Enneagram 7s fear of not being taken seriously and how each of the subtypes are expressed and why one is frequently mistyped.

I'll walk you through the Enneagram 7s blind spots and how you can help your Seven focus on finding more joy in the moment and more harmony in life.

Listen in as I walk you through why the wisdom and honesty 7s bring to the table is often overlooked and why the gift of the enthusiastic visionary is something we all need in our lives.

Would you like to be able to use ALL THE tools of the Enneagram to navigate your life? Please go to Tracy O’Malley. com for information on how my all-NEW Blueprint can help you accelerate your transformation to living YOUR life to the fullest.

Do you have follow-up questions about this episode or any in this series? If so, I'd love to hear from you DM me on Instagram.

What You Will Learn

Which Enneagram type suffers the most from FOMO
Why it's best to offer an Enneagram 7 ALL options before requesting their decision
How to lose the trust of an Enneagram 7
Why Enneagram's visionary gift sometimes leaves a trail of unfinished projects in their wake
Why the fear of being forced to face their pain leads in Enneagram 7 to focus on the silver lining in conflict
How 7s can use their 8 Wing for less conflict avoidance and more honest interaction with others
Why the 6 Wing is the key to helping entrepreneurial 7s become more strategic and grounded in the here and now
How you can help your Enneagram 7 focus on finding joy in the moment


Connect with Tracy

www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]


Resources

Review and Share The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Email [email protected]

"I've often said everyone needs an Enneagram Six in their life because they keep our butts out of trouble."

As The Loyalist, Enneagram 6s can troubleshoot and are prepared for the worst-case scenario in any situation.

But all that planning, and preparation can lead to anxiety, insecurity, and a lack of enjoyment in life.

So, how can Enneagram Type 6s learn to stop worrying so much and trust their instincts to enjoy the moment more?

Today on the show, Sara Craig joins me. A podcast listener, her family had their Enneagram types, but they didn't know what to do with the information. I worked with their entire clan teaching them how to use all the tools of the Enneagram to communicate better and 'control the chaos' in their big, blended family.

Sara shares how using the Enneagram has helped her walk the fine line between her need to know and maintaining healthy boundaries with her children, stepchildren, and her Type 9 husband.

Listen in for insight into her favorite (and not so favorite) thing about being a Six and how she uses her wings personally and professionally to solve problems and stay emotionally and energetically prepared for her role in the car industry.

Plus, how you can use the love language of the 6 to make those in your life feel more supported, loved, and understood.

I love working with families to help them communicate more effectively. If you are interested in learning more, reach out to me at Tracy O'Malley.com.

What You Will Learn

How the 5 wing of an Enneagram 6 can sometimes take them down the rabbit hole of fear and anxiety
The one thing in the way of Sixes being the best leaders
Why Enneagram 6s try to micromanage people when they feel anxious and panicked
How Type 6s can use their growth number to release their worry and be more relaxed
Why 6s are happiest playing a supporting role and keeping things running smoothly
Why Enneagram 6s are the master troubleshooter, worst-case scenario thinkers you need in your life

Connect with Sara Craig

Don Ayres Honda:
https://www.donayreshonda.com/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=googlemybusiness
Don Ayres Acura:
https://www.donayresacura.com/

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Email [email protected]

Everyone needs an Enneagram 6 in their lives.

6s are trustworthy and team-team oriented, and their need for certainty means they recognize risk and ask important questions.

But the Loyal Skeptic’s worst-case scenario planning can also be a curse, tipping their healthy doubt into paralyzing fear territory.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I offer an overview of the Enneagram 6, explaining why they value security and belonging, yet struggle to trust others.

I discuss how a 6’s fear of being unprepared can lead to irrational overthinking and describe how they can lean on their wings to gain perspective and see the good in people.

Listen in to understand why projection is a 6’s go-to defense mechanism and learn how a Loyalist can leverage their Enneagram lines to take inspired action and deeply connect with others.

What You Will Learn

How the Loyal Skeptic is team-oriented and motivated by a need for certainty
Why Enneagram 6s ask a lot of questions (and how that is received by other types)
The difference between a loyal, courageous, healthy 6 and an anxious, fearful, unhealthy one
Why Enneagram 6s value security and belonging yet struggle to trust others
The challenge a 6 faces in finding the balance between healthy doubt and paralyzing fear
How a 6’s fear of being unprepared can lead to irrational overthinking
Why 6s see the world as a dangerous place where others act in their own self-interest
What triggers an Enneagram 6 and why projection is their go-to defense mechanism
The role faith plays in helping a 6 surrender to the process and see the good in others
How a 6 can lean on their 5 wing for perspective and borrow optimism from their 7 wing
How a 6 can use their lines to take action and connect deeply with others
How a 6’s instinctual response to life makes them warm, intimidating or dutiful

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint:
http://tracyomalley.com
Book a Live Enneagram Typing Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Email [email protected]

As the most introverted type, Enneagram Type 5s are called the Quiet Specialist and are motivated by a need to know and understand all things to make sense of the world around them.

But their rigidity can be a bit off-putting for some of the other Enneagram types.

So how can you learn to better communicate with the 5s in your life for more understanding and a deeper connection?

Today on the show, my friend Denise Jones joins me to walk us through her life as an Enneagram Type 5. She shares the story of how Enneagram coaching with me helped transform her relationship with her Type 8 business partner husband and what she learned that helped them take their relationship to the next level.

Listen in to learn about the biggest challenges she faces as a self-preservation Enneagram 5. She’ll walk us through how you can improve communication with the Enneagram 5s in your life and offers us her best advice for ALL types.

Plus, how Denise uses her Type 5 mojo and her certification in the Enneagram framework to help businesses discover the missing piece of their message so they can connect with their ideal clients.

What You Will Learn

Why you should listen up when Enneagram 5s are lending their wisdom
Why Enneagram 5s are the go-to for a plan A-C
How Enneagram 5s can soften their approach for deeper relationships
How Enneagram 5s can learn to use their growth number (8) to put their deep knowledge into action
How 5s can use their 4 Wing to stop avoiding and get radically honest about their passions
How you can avoid pressuring Enneagram 5s by offering them the space they need to process their feelings
Why the Enneagram 5s desire to feel useful can sometimes come off as arrogance

Connect with Denise Jones

Denise on LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/denise-rodriguez-jones/

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582
Email [email protected]

At their best, Wise Enneagram 5s are visionaries who approach life in a logical way, sidestepping emotion when needed. Innovative and pioneering, objectivity and knowledge are crucial to 5s.

Their intellectual interests enable them to build expertise in various fields, topics, and theories. Especially their areas of interest.

But, when they're not in a great place, 5s may seem intellectually arrogant and disconnected from emotion as they retreat into their minds to avoid being overwhelmed.

So, how can Enneagram 5s stop hoarding their resources, information, and energy, start sharing their impactful wisdom with the world?

Today, on The Leadership Formula, we're going to dive into what it means to be an Enneagram 5. I'll share some triggers that can activate an Enneagram 5s fear of having a lack of resources or knowledge. We'll walk through their blind spots, and I will share how you can communicate with your Five in a way that will have them leaning in and sharing.

Listen in as I share the how each of the subtypes of the Enneagram 5 operates in the world and reveal the one is the most often mistyped. Plus, how Enneagram 5s can use their wings to learn to engage on a deeper, emotional level.

If you're unsure what your Enneagram type is or want to discover a new awareness of your type and who you are, please go to TracyO'Malley.com for information on how my all-NEW Blueprint can help you accelerate your transformation!

What You Will Learn

Why the book worm introvert in your life might be an Enneagram 5
Why big groups and lots of activity drain an Enneagram 5s energy resources
Why you should skip the small talk when conversing with a 5
Why their aloof appearance is just a cover for what an Enneagram 5 really desires
Why you should NEVER plan a surprise party for an Enneagram 5
How Enneagram 5s can use their 4 Wing for more imagination and emotional connection
How the Enneagram 5s use of their 6 Wing can help them be more collaborative

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582
Email [email protected]

Enneagram 4s are very mysterious. They are the creatives and the intuitives.

Their core motive is being authentic to who they were designed to be.

The most emotional on the Enneagram, they feel every emotion, sometimes in the span of two minutes.

But their biggest fear is not having significance.

So how can 4s step into the healthiest parts of themselves to share the unique gifts that only they can bring to the world?

Holly Burgess is an Enneagram 4—The Romantic/Individualist.

Today on the show, Holly joins me to walk us through her original mistyping and the one question I asked her during our first coaching session that caused everything to click so she could step into her true type, the Enneagram 4.

We'll dig deeper into how her subtype influences how she presents in the world and how she digs into her wings to focus even more on who she is here to be.

Holly discusses how she and her husband used the tools of the Enneagram to confront their communication difficulties and rebirth their marriage.

Listen in as shares how our work together helped her pivot her career and discover her own path, using her true gifts. Learn how she uses ALL the tools of the Enneagram to stay at a healthy level. Plus, the biggest thing I taught her about vulnerability.

What You Will Learn

Why mysterious Enneagram 4s are the least (online) Enneagram typed
Why some intense experience-loving 4s are mistyped as a 3 or an 8
Why social media keeps so many Enneagram 4s from sharing their unique gifts with the world
How stress brings out a 4s unhealthy people-pleasing ways
Why too much structure can cause a type 4 to feel they are being inauthentic, leading them to self-sabotage
Why Enneagram 4s can hold space for you but have a difficult time with their own vulnerability
Why 4s can pick up on what you aren't telling them more than any other Enneagram type

Connect with Holly

Holly Burgess:
https://hollyburgess.com/
Holly on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/iamhollyburgess/

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582
Email [email protected]