The Enneagram Edge with Host Tracy O’Malley

Feelings and self-expression are important to Enneagram 4s. Romantics at heart, they appreciate creating meaning for themselves and others. Unafraid of deep emotions, they courageously ask the deep questions and then hold space without judgment for those willing to answer.

Enneagram 4s are motivated by a need to be unique and authentic, often leading them to become purpose-driven creatives sharing their inspiring contributions with the world.

But, when they're not in a great place, they compare themselves to others causing them to get stuck in an unhealthy loop of melancholy and envy.

So, how can Enneagram 4s overcome their fear of being ordinary and finally see their positive and negative qualities in equal measure?

Today, on The Leadership Formula, we're going to dive into what it means to be an Enneagram 4. I'll share some triggers Enneagram 4s face that can spark an unhealthy comparison loop. I'll also take you deep into how the three instinctual variations bring a very different flavor to the typical Enneagram 4 stereotype.

Listen in as I share how Enneagram 4s can use their wings to step out of their emotions, stop cycling in envy, and finally do the work that needs to be done to birth their gifts into the world.

If you're not sure what your Enneagram type is, please go to TracyO'Malley.com for information on how my all-NEW Blueprint can help you accelerate your transformation!

What You Will Learn

Which type is the hardest and least typed on the Enneagram
How the Enneagram 4s courageous ability to 'go deep' can inspire others to be open about their feelings
Why self-preservation 4s might ghost you
Why special are the biggest triggers of Enneagram 4s fear of being ordinary
Why 4s use fantasy and imagination to create a version of the truth that better suits their self-image
Why an Enneagram 4s focus on lack can keep them from finding joy in their journey
Why listening is the way to the romantic Enneagram 4s heart
How an Enneagram 4s intensity of emotion can cause them to travel into 'TMI' territory when communicating with others
The Enneagram 4 subtype that is NOT the typical 4 stereotype
Which Enneagram 4 subtype could be considered 'needy'

Connect with Tracy

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Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582
Email [email protected]

When I entered recovery 10 years ago, I didn't know that the real work would begin once I left the rehab center.

But you can't manifest your best life and be the best version of yourself with all the clutter.

And you can't clear the clutter without investing in your emotional sobriety—it's the biggest hurdle of recovery.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I share my very personal story of how becoming the best version of myself changed my life and my children's lives.

I discuss the most significant investments I've made in my recovery that help me walk in radical honesty and integrity each day.

Listen in as I walk you through why the Enneagram is one of the most critical tools in my sobriety. Plus, I'll share what I am most proud of in my recovery. I can't wait to share this special episode with you today.

We're coming up on the last quarter of the year, which can often be the most abundant, but (with the holidays) can also be the most triggering. If you feel like this is your time for change and you're looking for the right guide, I'd love to work with you. Apply Now!

What You Will Learn

Why the real work of sobriety begins after you take the substance away
Why being able to get to the root of your triggers can help you stay sober
Why it's so hard for others to stand with you in your sobriety
Why it's so difficult for people suffering from addictions to put boundaries in place
How we use people, places, and things to avoid dealing with our inner clutter
Why boundaries are required to reach the best version of yourself
Why recovery is a daily practice of radical honesty
The most crucial aspect of staying sober

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

Apply for 1:1 Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/shop/1-1coaching/
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Email [email protected]

"I say it probably three to four times a week, 'dammit, I wish I was an Enneagram 3,' because they have this beautiful ability to see a goal, set a goal, and then crush the freaking goal, making it look effortless. And once they're done, they don't waste a lot of time before they move on to the next goal and then rinse and repeat."

As The Competitive Achiever, Enneagram 3s make it all look effortless. Their achievements and how they appear in the world drives everything they do.

They are constantly head down, blinders on, 100% laser focused chasing the next thing or a status symbol.

But the dark side is those blinders that are their superpower can also be the thing that takes a 3 out. The internal pressure can lead to exhaustion and relationship burnout.

So, how can Enneagram type 3s avoid succumbing to overextending in one or all areas of their lives?

Today on the show, Seena Ghetmiri joins me to walk us through how his all-or-nothing focus led to an unfulfilling career.

He shares the story of his realization, navigating the pit it led him to, and how his relationship with his wife (Enneagram 7) helped him in his transition to home in on how he could use his gifts for the best and even enjoy what he does.

We'll dig deeper into the Enneagram type 3s physical reaction to stress and how Seena worked with me to drop the mask and let go of some of his hard grip control of his situation.

Listen in to learn more about the biggest misconceptions about Enneagram 3s, their greatest gifts, and how they can lean into their wings to learn more about being true to who they are.

Seena shares his advice for other 3s on the cusp of making big changes in their lives. Plus, how to bring out the best in the Enneagram 3 you live with and love.

What You Will Learn

Why Enneagram 3s feel like they need the status symbols to be the worthy
Why our impression that 3s have it all together is one of the biggest misconceptions about them
Why 3s should lean into their 4 wings to figure out why they want to win for more meaning
How Enneagram 3s can become more strategic instead of just crushing the next challenge
Why 3s need to hear words of affirmation about who they are instead of just what they achieve
How Enneagram 3s can jump off the deep end into vulnerability for more growth in all areas of their lives

Connect with Seena Ghetmiri

Ghet Investing on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/ghet.investing/?hl=en
Seena on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/seena.ghetmiri/?hl=en

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Email [email protected]

Enneagram 3s are resourceful and driven. They make success look so damn easy.

That’s why so many of us have a love-hate relationship with the 3s in our lives: They’re inspiring, energetic and capable. Yet they can also come off as overly assertive and intimidating.

But what you may not realize is there’s a catch to being a Competitive Achiever. Even though you may not see it, their fears run deep. And all that success often leaves them feeling lonely, exhausted and empty.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I give you an overview of the Enneagram 3, explaining why they’re the most prone to burnout and how they can get fixated on vanity or external validation.

I discuss what causes the disconnect between an unhealthy 3’s image and their real self, describing how Achievers are triggered by being set up for failure or not getting credit for their work.

Listen in to understand how a 3 can leverage the Enneagram framework to choose more fulfilling goals, develop an openness to different perspectives, and collaborate well with others.

What You Will Learn

How Enneagram 3s are driven by a need for significance
Why it's challenging to identify when a 3 is struggling
How Enneagram 3s will do things they can be the best at (even if it’s not fulfilling for them)
How an Enneagram 3's relationships suffer when they're in the zone
How a 3 can be received as overly assertive, inauthentic and intimidating
Why 3s are the most prone to workaholism and burnout
The 3's fixations around vanity and external validation
How an unhealthy 3 avoids failure by carefully managing their image
The disconnect between the 3s image and their real self
How 3s are triggered by being set up for failure, not looking good, or not getting credit for their work
How a 3 can use their 2 wing to motivate others and 4 wing to choose fulfilling goals
The growth a 3 experiences when they tap into their 6 and 9 lines
Why a self-preservation 3 doesn’t fit the stereotype

Connect with Tracy

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https://twitter.com/TracyOMall
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Resources

Book a Live Enneagram Typing Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Email [email protected]

Type 2s are the master connectors of the Enneagram.

As The Helper, they are the first ones you want to ask to help you with anything from your marketing newsletter to moving because they will most likely say YES.

Often those many yeses are driven by a deep-seated need to feel loved and appreciated. Problems arise when they end up overextended with calendars full of projects that don't have true meaning to them, their gifts, and what they are here to accomplish in this world.

When I met coaching client Heather Lisle, a branding and marketing master, she was in the middle of a mess. The pandemic had sent her on a roller coaster ride in her BIG job, stealing her sweet spot of being in service to others as an Enneagram 2.

Needless to say, there was a void.

Today on the show, Heather joins me to walk us through the lightbulb moment she had during our Enneagram coaching and how it helped her refine her entrepreneurial focus, which enabled her to hit it out of the park financially.

Listen in as Heather walks us through the discovery that helped her in her relationship with her son and how the Enneagram has helped her make HUGE transformations in her communication with her husband (Type 8).

We'll dig deeper into the Enneagram Type 2s greatest gifts and which aspects of being a two present the biggest challenge for a high-achieving woman such as Heather. Plus, she shares what she wishes more people understood about The Helper.

What You Will Learn

Why Enneagram 2s need to learn to put boundaries in place
How Enneagram 2s can still be connectors without allowing the resentment to get in the way
Why Enneagram 2s need to be careful of the codependency trap in their most precious relationships
How ALL Enneagram Types can learn to deliver the most challenging messages to others who aren’t wired the same way
The challenge 2s face from being seen as a pushover or as ‘too nice’
Which Enneagram is the hardest on an Enneagram Type 2
How Enneagram 2s can keep from learning lessons the hard way by engaging in a pattern of ‘trust but verify’
How other Enneagram Types should approach hard conversations with Twos (so they don’t shut down)

Connect with Tracy

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twitter.com/TracyOMall
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Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

Heather Lisle:
https://www.heatherlisle.com/
Money Making Marketing Show:
https://www.heatherlisle.com/podcasts/money-making-marketing-show
Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582
Email [email protected]

Enneagram 2s are very warm, giving, and caring. Their gift is their intuitive ability to anticipate the needs of others or determine the exact 'right thing' for any situation.

People-centered and relationship-focused, they excel in careers demanding engagement with people and clients.

Known as the Considerate Helper, Enneagram Type 2s are the connectors of the Enneagram.

But, they're often unaware of their subconscious need to over-give to get love and appreciation.

So, how can 2s learn to stop over-giving and set healthy boundaries?

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I will dive into some of the qualities, motives, behaviors, and fears of the Enneagram 2.

I'll walk you through Type 2s stress triggers, their difficulties setting boundaries, and how this can lead to relationship-damaging cycles of over-giving and resentment if left unchecked.

Listen in as I share how the Enneagram 2 can use all the tools available to them through the Enneagram to learn to discern, stop over-fixating on others, end enabling, step out of 'fixer' mode, and establish the healthy boundaries needed for more balanced, healthy relationships.

Plus, how you can encourage YOUR Enneagram 2 to express their needs to you so you can help them discover what lights them up so they can say yes to the things that matter to them.

The Enneagram is the fastest shifting growth tool I have ever used. If you're not sure what your Enneagram type is, please go to TracyO'Malley.com and book an Enneagram Kickstart Session.

What You Will Learn

The ONE key to determining if you are an Enneagram 2 (or another Type)
Why the 'know no strangers' Enneagram 2 is often surrounded by a great friend group
Why Enneagram 2s excel at jobs where they can offer support to people facing difficulties
Why 2s struggle with feeling like they are loved for their works instead of who they are
Why Enneagram 2s inability to share their needs can lead to conflict in their most important relationships
How Enneagram 2s can keep from being co-dependent or enabling in their relationships
Why 2s find a lot of self-worth in their role as everyone's hero
Why being left off the invite list will cause an Enneagram 2 to project their own stuff
How Enneagram 2s can use their 1 and 3 wings to set boundaries for more balanced relationships
How an Enneagram 2 can use their growth number 4 to become more self-aware

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582
Email [email protected]

Enneagram Type 1s are the integrity champions of the Enneagram. They have high standards and make us all strive to be better.

But that rigidity can be a bit off-putting for some of the other Enneagram types.

So, when they can lighten up and move toward the free spirit within, that's when their true gifts can really come to life.

My coaching client, Architect and Enneagram Type 1, Amie Lindsay, has mirrored a lot of areas of my life that I needed to have reflected back to me.

Today on the show, Amy walks us through her Enneagram Type 1 story. While everything in Amie's life looked great on paper and to the outside world, she faced challenges in her business and her most personal relationships.

We'll dig deeper into how Enneagram coaching with me helped transform her relationship with her daughter and how she uses the tools of her 2 and 9 wings as a wife, mother, and even in her business.

Listen in as Amie walks us through the difficulties of working alongside another Enneagram 1 (and how they make it work). Plus, she shares what she wishes more people understood about the Enneagram Type 1 and her best advice for those who live with and love a 1 for a deeper connection.

What You Will Learn

The most pivotal moment for an Enneagram 1
How the Enneagram 1s motivation to be 'good' makes them project onto others when they are lacking confidence in any area of their lives
Why Enneagram 1s high expectations make them feel like everything of theirs, from their car to their cat, reflects on them
How the high standards of Enneagram types like 8s and 1s can create division in their personal relationships
Why Enneagram 1s need a safe space, judgment-free zone to open up about what's really happening in their lives
How Enneagram 1s can look deeper to discover the 'what's in it for them' piece in their most personal relationships
How perfectionist Enneagram 1s can use their 2 and 9 wings to stretch toward more 'free spirited' growth
Amy shares her advice on how softening the strong character of the Enneagram Type 1 gives other people more space to be themselves
Why it's vital for Enneagram Type 1s to drop the armor to learn the most beautiful lessons in life

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582
Email [email protected]

Enneagram type 1s value integrity and lead by example. They walk their talk and do what they say they're going to do.

They are super quality-minded, have a knack for detail, and pay attention to quality and the application of standards.

As you know, I like to call Enneagram 1s the 'sheriff in town' because of their strong sense of right and wrong and their propensity toward black-and-white thinking. They are the first person you should call when you need an accountability partner to stay on track.

But those same qualities can also get them into trouble if they are unable to see how the things that come so easily to them can be so tricky for another Enneagram type.

So, how can 1s learn to communicate their gifts effectively and open themselves up to learning from others?

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I walk you through the complete picture of the Enneagram type 1, from the gifts they bring to the world to the blind spots that sometimes keep them from communicating effectively.

I discuss where 1s go when they are under stress, and how they can lean into their growth number and use mindfulness practices (like yoga) for more spontaneity and a lighter view of the world we're living in.

Listen in as I share how Enneagram1s can use their wings to focus on the needs (and points of view) of the other Enneagram types for more effective communication. Plus, how the 3 subtypes play into individual expression.

If you're not sure what your Enneagram type is, please go to TracyO'Malley.com and book an Enneagram Kickstart Session.


What You Will Learn

Which Enneagram type is the harshest self-critic
Why an Enneagram 1 is the perfect person to help hold you accountable to your goals
How an 1's body language can keep them from conveying their true heart message
Why Enneagram 1s need lots of praise and affirmation
How a 1s rigid views can sometimes cause them to point out the faults of others to get them to conform
Why perfection-seeking ways can cause 1s to be anxious and unable to relax
How their vice can drop 1s into a vicious cycle of self-criticism
How Enneagram 1s can keep from overstepping boundaries with those they love and lead
Why it's vital to include gentle specifics when offering type 1s constructive feedback
How leaning into their growth number (7) can help 1s view the world with a more optimistic point of view
Why self-preservation 1s fall into the trap of perfectionism more than the other two subtypes
Why one-on-one type 1s are frequently mistyped
How Enneagram 1s can use mindfulness practices to tame their inner critic (and be more aware of how their feelings show up)

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

EP270: {Special Series} Getting into the Heart, Mind, and Soul of Each Enneagram Type:
http://tracyomalley.com/ep270-special-series-getting-into-the-heart-mind-and-soul-of-each-enneagram-type/
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582
Email [email protected]

"I have a GPS system that keeps me in check with love, compassion, empathy, grace, and service."

I know you want to have the same thing in your life.

You want more insight to meet yourself with more compassion, honoring who you are and why you are here.

You also want tools that will help you improve your relationships with those in your sphere of influence.

If you've been a listener for a while, you know that's my goal for you, too!

Today on the show, I am making a BIG announcement about something I will be bringing to the show that will help you dig deeper into your Enneagram type.

I'll walk you through what I have planned and how it will help you crack your personal code so you can, in turn, look at those people closest to you through the lens of compassion for more understanding and better communication.

Listen in for all the details of what is coming your way starting next week, so you can be here from the beginning!

Are you ready to end your self-sabotaging ways, stop feeling stuck, and step into who you are with passion, purpose, and pride (while having a lot of fun along the way)? If so, NOW is the time to book an Enneagram Kickstart Session!

What You Will Learn

How can you figure out the people in front of you without ever using the word Enneagram
Why we either keep secrets or wear shame
How can you become more aware of your unique qualities
Why it's vital to your closest relationships to learn what it's like to be another Enneagram type
How to be more compassionate with those closest to you
The impact of being in your zone of genius on your income
How the right tools can help you be of service to other people (and yourself)
How to finally accept the most challenging parts of yourself

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected] n

Resources

Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582
Email [email protected]

Are you where you want to be in one area of your life but feel stuck everywhere else?

Or maybe you've got it all going for you with the no-filter Instagram feed to prove it, but the intention of your heart still isn't getting received the way you want in your most important relationships.

Your deepest desire is to move the needle in your life, but you're still skeptical about the Enneagram.

If that's you, and you're (still) here listening to me, this episode is for you!

Today on the show, I'm walking you through why the Enneagram isn't designed to slap a label on you (or others in your life) or put you in a box.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I share why using the Enneagram to understand why you act the way you do can help you hit more of your targets in life more often and become more self-aware.

I'll walk you through how you can use the tools of the Enneagram to navigate the souls around you and bring more clarity to your communication with those you love and lead—without ever even saying the word Enneagram.

Listen in to discover how to dive deeper into emotional intelligence through the framework of the Enneagram for bigger breakthroughs in less time.

Are you in a place in your life where your deepest desire is to throw off the chains holding you back and begin moving the needle? If so, NOW is the time to book an Enneagram Kickstart Session or apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching.

What You Will Learn

How you can use the centers of intelligence to form true intimacy in your relationships
How you can use the Enneagram (successfully) in your own life without ever saying the word
How to build trust and credibility with those you love and lead (and even those you barely know)
Why you should never try to push the Enneagram on either a Type 5 or a Type 8
How to use the Enneagram to rebuild credibility and trust in your most difficult relationships
How the Enneagram can help you drop the masks for authenticity in every relationship
Why understanding WHY you act the way is the key to hitting a more of your goals more often
How the Enneagram can help you serve EVERYONE you come in contact with at the highest level

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected] n

Resources

EP268: {BTE – Big Tracy Energy} What to Do When the People Who Love You Don’t Support You the Way You Would Like:
https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuc3ByZWFrZXIuY29tL3Nob3cvNDE2ODMzNi9lcGlzb2Rlcy9mZWVk/episode/aHR0cHM6Ly9hcGkuc3ByZWFrZXIuY29tL2VwaXNvZGUvNTA5NDM1MDk?hl=en&ved=2ahUKEwiKivz3p9v5AhVRkIkEHUgOB74QjrkEegQIBBAF&ep=6
Apply for VIP 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582
Email [email protected]