The Enneagram Edge with Host Tracy O’Malley

Whether you're cooking up a romantic weekend with your partner or an activity to honor yourself, the Enneagram is a useful tool for making Valentine’s Day plans.

So, what does it look like to plan a date night around your sweetheart’s Enneagram type?

Or how might you leverage an understanding of your own type to make plans for an ideal solo adventure or get-together with friends?

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I explain why Enneagram 1s, 6s and 8s need to know your date night itinerary, while Enneagram 7s prefer a spontaneous night out.

I describe how to help the Enneagram 2s and 9s you love lean into being the center of attention and discuss how it serves an Enneagram 3 to spend time off the grid.

Listen in for insight on planning a day of deep conversation with an Enneagram 4 and learn how to appeal to a 5’s curious sensibilities this Valentine’s Day!

What You Will Learn

How to plan a date night based on your partner’s Enneagram type
How to plan a self-honoring Valentine’s Day activity around your type
Why Enneagram 1s are most comfortable when they have an itinerary
How to use Valentine’s Day as an excuse to spoil your Enneagram 2
How it serves an Enneagram 3 to unplug and spend time off the grid
What it looks like to plan a day of deep conversation with an Enneagram 4
How to appeal to a 5’s curious sensibilities on Valentine’s Day
Why a 6 is more relaxed when they know the plan ahead of time
How to prepare for a spontaneous night out with an Enneagram 7
Why it’s important to ask an 8 for their opinion of your date night plans
How to encourage a 9 to express what they want on Valentine’s Day

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Love and the Enneagram on Leadership Formula EP217:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep217-love-and-the-enneagram-navigating-your/id1491541582?i=1000550398455
Email Tracy to Request a Couple’s Typing Session at [email protected]

February is the month of love.

But romantic partnerships are not easy. And often, the ways we try to protect ourselves from our greatest fears cause conflict in intimate relationships.

So, how can we leverage the Enneagram as a tool to better understand ourselves and the people we love? How can the Enneagram help us nurture healthy romantic relationships?

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I discuss the benefit of knowing your romantic partner’s Enneagram type, describing why people don’t always feel love as strongly as we think we’re showing it.

I weigh in on what caused the breakdown in my two previous relationships and offer insight into my current partnership with an Enneagram 4, explaining why it’s challenging for me to be vulnerable and communicate what I need.

Listen in to understand how any healthy, growing Enneagram type can be compatible with any other and learn how to use the Enneagram as a tool for navigating your romantic partnership!

What You Will Learn

The benefit of knowing your romantic partner's Enneagram type
Why people don’t always feel love as strongly as we think we’re showing it
What caused the breakdown in my marriage to an Enneagram 7
My explosive romantic relationship with an Enneagram 6
Why I took an intentional 7-year break from dating to dig into who I am
How I met the man I love today and learned he is a self-preservation 4
How any healthy, growing Enneagram type can be compatible with any other type
The biggest conflict in a relationship between an Enneagram 4 and 8
Why it's challenging for me to ask for what I need (without taking over)
The best way to introduce your partner to the Enneagram

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

5 Love Languages:
https://www.5lovelanguages.com/
Email [email protected]

Yes, the Enneagram memes are fun. And there’s nothing wrong with posts that guess your coffee order or your perfect vacation based on your Enneagram type.

But if you only see the Enneagram as a party game, you’re missing out on the power and beauty of this personality test as a tool for growth.

So, what can we do to harness the full power of the Enneagram in our lives?

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I explain what differentiates the Enneagram from other personality tests, describing how it provides a roadmap for the acceleration of your transformation.

I weigh in on why you might have invested a lot of time and money in personal development and still be struggling, challenging you to look beyond your core type and leverage the full framework of the Enneagram in your life.

Listen in for insight on how to get an accurate assessment of your type and learn how to use the Enneagram framework to live out the divine calling on your life!

What You Will Learn

What differentiates the Enneagram from Myers-Briggs or the DiSC assessment
How the Enneagram provides a roadmap for accelerating your transformation
The problem with focusing solely on your core Enneagram type
Why one-size-fits-all personal development strategies don’t work for everyone
The 2 best ways to get an accurate assessment of your Enneagram type
Why you might have invested a lot of time and money in personal development and still be struggling
How I think about the Enneagram as a complement to my faith
The benefits of integrating the Enneagram framework in your life
How to use the Enneagram to uncover your soul’s calling and live your purpose

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Book an Enneagram Typing Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Enneagram Workshops for Teams:
http://tracyomalley.com/workshops/
Email [email protected]

Most of us struggle to set and honor boundaries in at least one area of our lives. And we worry about how others might react if we set limits around their behavior.

But what if boundaries aren’t just for the person who sets them? What if honoring our boundaries actually benefits the people we love and lead?

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I explain why boundaries are a loving act, describing what happens when we don’t set them and how to deliver our boundaries with compassion.

I explore how understanding your Enneagram type can help discern why you struggle to set intellectual, emotional, physical, social or spiritual boundaries.

Listen in to understand what a lack of boundaries is costing you and learn my top four strategies for honoring boundaries in your personal and professional life!

What You Will Learn

What happens when we don’t set boundaries in our personal or professional life
Why boundaries are a loving act and how to deliver them with compassion
How boundaries are defined as the limits we set around what behavior is acceptable (and what isn’t)
What it means to set intellectual, emotional, physical, social and spiritual boundaries
How understanding your Enneagram type helps discern why you struggle to set boundaries
Why other people’s reception to your boundaries is not your responsibility
What having a lack of boundaries is costing you
My top 4 strategies for honoring boundaries in your personal and professional life

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Book an Enneagram Typing Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Apply for 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Email [email protected]

Enneagram 3s want to be the best at what they do. And they will often stick with something for too long just because they are the best—even if their soul is dying.

So, what can a 3 do to embrace the discomfort of not being #1 as she grows to the next level? What does it look like when a Competitive Achiever learns to honor her soul’s calling?

Natalia Benson is a women’s empowerment coach and money mentor on a mission to help women create revenue streams that contribute to the whole of humanity. She leverages a deep understanding of astrology as a self-awareness tool to support clients through their money healing journey.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, Natalia discusses how her search for connection led to a struggle with drug abuse and describes the role astrology played in helping her wake up to her potential.

We explore the courage it takes for an Enneagram 3 to step into the messiness and uncertainty of trying something new, and Natalia explains how her own challenges with money inspired her evolution from astrologist to conscious business coach.

Listen in for Natalia’s insight on weaving together the metaphysical with the practical and find out how she can support your journey to financial empowerment.

What You Will Learn

Natalia’s experience of understanding that she’s not just a mind and a body
How Natalia’s search for healing and connection led to a struggle with faulty relationships and drug abuse
What inspired Natalia’s interest in astrology
How astrology and the Enneagram can be used as tools to understand ourselves and grow in a healthy way
Natalia’s unique ability to hold space for and speak life into people
Natalia’s shift from astrologist to women’s empowerment and business coach
How Natalia overcame her personal challenges with money management
Why Enneagram 3s have a hard time stepping into something new (even if their soul is dying)
What Natalia offers through her Magical Women & Money Membership
The value in weaving together the metaphysical with the practical in money healing

Connect with Natalia

Natalia’s Website:
https://www.nataliabenson.com/
Natalia Benson the Podcast:
https://www.nataliabenson.com/podcast
Natalia on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/natalia_benson/
Natalia’s Magical Women & Money Membership:
https://www.magicalwomenandmoney.com/

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Christopher Witecki:
https://www.siriusjoy.tv/
Tracy on Natalia Benson the Podcast:
https://www.nataliabenson.com/blogvlog/enneagram-astrology-the-soul-roadmap-w/-tracy-omalley
Who What Wear:
https://www.whowhatwear.com/
Millionaire Mind Intensive:
https://www.millionairemindintensiveworld.com/home
Jen Sincero:
https://jensincero.com/
T. Harv Eker:
https://www.harveker.com/
Book an Enneagram Typing Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/

Has the newness of the new year started to wear off for you?

As we move to the end of January, it’s easy to get weary and lose momentum. And it happens to the best of us.

So, how do you get out of the funk you’re in and step into what you’re called to do?

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I share the top three ways to un-funk yourself, explaining how movement helps you shift your energy and get grounded in your body.

I discuss the idea of taking contrary action and describe how that looks different for each of the nine Enneagram types.

Listen in for insight on leaning into another human being in vulnerability and learn how to shift out of your funk fast and bravely step into your light.

What You Will Learn

The top 3 ways to un-funk yourself and step into your purpose
Why it’s important to shift out of a funk quickly and without shame
How to shift your energy and ground yourself in your body
Why I recommend yoga for everyone (regardless of Enneagram type)
What it looks like to take contrary action based on your Enneagram type
Why it’s crucial to lean into another human being in vulnerability
How you rob people of your gifts when you’re stuck in the funk
The level of vulnerability that comes from stepping into your light

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Book an Enneagram Assessment:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Apply for 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Email [email protected]

Sometimes you have to slow down in order to speed up. But for a feisty Enneagram 3, ‘too fast’ is a foreign concept.

Can slowing down really get you to the goal line faster and with less effort? And how can we leverage the framework of the Enneagram to make sure we’re in the right race?

Steph Purdy is the Performance Coach behind 1 Good Push, a program designed to help determined men get what they really want out of life. As a driven Enneagram 3, Steph owns multiple businesses and serves as the Canadian Liaison for DECK Leadership.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, Steph shares the challenge she faced in learning how to slow down to speed up, describing how busy led to burnout each time she fell into her stress number 9.

We explore Steph’s struggle with jealousy and judgement, and she discusses how integrating the Enneagram has helped her level up as a wife, mother, friend and business owner.

Listen in to understand what moving too fast has cost Steph and get her advice on what to do when old patterns start to derail your good intentions for the new year.

What You Will Learn

How being able to communicate with her son inspired Steph’s interest in the Enneagram
What made Steph want to go deeper and invest in 1:1 coaching to reach the next level of success in her business
The challenge Steph faced as an Enneagram 3 in learning how to slow down to speed up
How wearing busy as a badge of honor impacted Steph’s health
What happens when Steph moves into her stress number 9
What differentiates being able to tell an emotional story from true vulnerability
Steph’s struggle with jealousy and judgement (and how she realized that someone else’s success doesn’t make her less than)
Steph’s blind spots around listening to answer and sacrificing what matters for the sake of performance
What going too fast has cost Steph in terms of her health and missed opportunities
Steph’s advice on what to do when old patterns derail your intentions for the new year

Connect with Steph

Steph on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/1goodpush/?hl=en
Red & Ko:
https://www.instagram.com/redandko.ptedward/?hl=en

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Apply for 1:1 Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Book an Enneagram Typing Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Book the Enneagram Experience Bundle:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Tracy O’Malley on Work Hard Play Hard EP073:
https://workhardplayhardpodcast.com/073-tracy-omalley-queen-of-tough-love-transformation/

Teamwork really does make the dream work. But collaborating with people who aren’t wired like you can be a challenge.

And while the Enneagram is a useful tool for understanding yourself and your team members, knowledge isn’t enough.

So, how can you apply the framework of the Enneagram to change your organization for the better?

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I share the top five reasons why your business needs to integrate the Enneagram and describe the benefit of using the framework to make sense of conflict within a team.

I explain how the Enneagram improves working relationships, team productivity and communication, exploring how an understanding of what motivates your team helps you bring out the best in them.

Listen in for insight on using the Enneagram to build organizational integrity, develop talent in your organization and initiate positive culture change.

What You Will Learn

Why your business needs to integrate the framework of the Enneagram
The top 3 reasons people stay with an organization
The benefit of using the Enneagram to make sense of conflict/challenges within a team
How the Enneagram improves working relationships, team productivity and communication
How understanding what motivates your team helps you bring out the best in them
How the Enneagram helps build organizational integrity
How leaders can use the Enneagram framework to develop talent in an organization
The role integrating the Enneagram plays in positive culture change

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Tony Robbins:
https://www.tonyrobbins.com/
Billions:
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt4270492/
Learn More About Enneagram Team Workshops:
http://tracyomalley.com/workshops/
Email [email protected]

We can’t control what’s happening around us, but we can use the Enneagram to control the energy we show up with.

If we understand the framework fully, the Enneagram gives us a roadmap to recognize when we’re spun out or stuck. And it offers guidance on how to shift our energy for the better.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I discuss how to use your stress number as a wakeup call that your energy is off and describe how to lean into your growth number to show up at your best— regardless of the circumstances.

I challenge Enneagram 1s to use play to shift their energy and explain why it’s useful for 2s to do something by themselves, while connecting with friends is better for a 3.

I share what to do when a 4 gets stuck in compulsive doing for others, a 5 engages in avoidance behaviors and a 6 gets hyper-focused on doing.

Listen in to understand what Enneagram 7s can do to shift out of black-and-white thinking, what 8s can do to emerge from unhealthy isolation, and what 9s can do to move away from self-doubt and take decisive action in the world.

What You Will Learn

How to use your stress number as warning lights to shift your energy for the better
How an Enneagram 1 can use play to shift their energy out of an unhealthy 4
Why I suggest Enneagram 2s do something by themselves when they need an energy shift
How leaning into friendships can help a 3 shift out of their stress number 9
How structure helps a 4 shift their energy away from compulsive doing for others
The way a 5 can lean into their growth number 8 to shift out of avoidance behaviors
What it looks like when a 6 in stress pushes toward their growth number 9
How 7s can leverage solitude to shift out of judgmental, black-and-white thinking
What an Enneagram 8 under stress can do to emerge from their unhealthy 5 cave
How 9s can shift away from worry and self-doubt to take decisive action in the world

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

How Your Inner Child Has an Impact on Your Business on Leadership Formula EP208:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep208-how-your-inner-child-has-an-impact-on-your/id1491541582?i=1000547067455
Book an Enneagram Typing Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Email [email protected]

What is that thing you do that drives you crazy? The thing you know doesn’t serve you, but you just can’t help yourself?

For me, it’s flying under the radar. I am slow to put myself out there because it feels vulnerable. But to serve more people and grow professionally, I know I need to lean into that vulnerability.

And it’s no surprise to me, as an Enneagram 8, that my behavior is tied to the Challenger’s fear of being betrayed or violated.

So, how can we use the framework of the Enneagram to understand why we keep doing things that don’t serve us and make a change for the better?

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I explain how the behaviors that hold us back are rooted in the fears associated with our Enneagram type, describing how the 1’s fear of being wrong, the 2’s fear of being unloved and the 3’s fear of being worthless impact their relationships.

I discuss what’s behind the Enneagram 4’s inclination for upward comparison, the Enneagram 5’s tendency to hoard energy and the Enneagram 6’s habit of spinning worst-case scenarios.

Listen in for insight on how 7s can navigate their fear of missing out, how 8s can navigate their fear of being controlled and how 9s can navigate their fear of conflict to promote the greater good in the long term!

What You Will Learn

How behaviors that don’t serve us are rooted in the fears associated with our Enneagram type
Where a 1’s righteousness comes from and how it disconnects them from the people they love and lead
Why Enneagram 2s are slow to name their own needs and sometimes look to others to define them
The question an Enneagram 3 can ask themselves to avoid hyper-busyness and burnout
How the 4’s fear of being abandoned and misunderstood leads to comparison and over-giving
Why an Enneagram 5’s fear of being helpless or out of control makes them withdraw from others
What happens when an Enneagram 6 gets caught up in considering worst-case scenarios
How 7s can navigate their fear of missing out and choose one thing to do right now
Why Enneagram 8s believe that ‘only the strong survive’ and how that robs them of intimacy
How Enneagram 9s self-forget when they shift into peacekeeping as opposed to peacemaking

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

How Your Inner Child Has an Impact on Your Business on Leadership Formula EP208:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep208-how-your-inner-child-has-an-impact-on-your/id1491541582?i=1000547067455
Book an Enneagram Typing Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Book an Enneagram Experience:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Email [email protected]