The Enneagram Edge with Host Tracy O’Malley

Self-preservation Enneagram 2s are slightly shy and completely charming. They want to be taken care of but resist being dependent on others. They feel responsible for other’s happiness and tend to withdraw when they fear rejection.

Dorothy Illson is the Founder of Needle’s Eye Media, full-service digital advertising agency that helps businesses leverage paid traffic to achieve sustainable growth. And while her business is thriving, Dorothy often blames herself for anything she perceives as wrong and wastes time worrying that people are mad at her.

So, how might she leverage the Enneagram to stop ruminating on the stories she’s telling herself and start leading and loving from an authentic place?

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, Dorothy explains how she gets worked up when she thinks she’s wronged someone, describing her need to be liked and appreciated as an Enneagram 2.

Dorothy shares her ability to read people’s needs and make them feel supported, even though she worries about burdening others and is slow to ask for help herself.

Listen in for insight on what it looks like when Dorothy is stretching into her growth number 4 and learn how to help a 2 realize that their worth is not based on what they do for others—and make decisions accordingly.

What You Will Learn

How blaming herself for anything she perceives as wrong gets in Dorothy’s way
Dorothy’s ability to read people’s needs and make them feel supported
Why Dorothy gets worked up when she thinks she’s wronged someone
How Dorothy worries about burdening other people with her needs
Dorothy’s motivational need to be liked and appreciated as an Enneagram 2
The challenge 2s face in realizing that their worth doesn’t come from what they do for others
How Enneagram 2s can use their 1 and 3 wings to learn to say no
Why Dorothy moves into a passive-aggressive, unhealthy 8 when she’s stressed
What it looks like when Dorothy is stretching into her growth number 4
How the self-preservation subtype looks different from a typical Enneagram 2

Connect with Dorothy

Needle’s Eye Media:
https://www.needleseyemedia.com/
Dorothy on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/dorothyillson/?hl=en
Dorothy on LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dorothy-illson/

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Apply for My 1:1 Coaching Program:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Register for My Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/

Operating from a place of integrity, Enneagram 1s are out to make the world a better place. But their feedback can be too blunt at times, making people feel intimidated and resistant to receiving it.

Whitney Lee is the Founder of Sociallee, a PR firm that serves travel and experience brands. She also happens to be a good example of a healthy Enneagram 1 who, over time, has learned to stay true to her principles without being perceived as self-righteous.

So, how did Sheriff Whitney learn to deliver the truth in a way that helps people get better—and have fun doing it?

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, Whitney shares her commitment to standing up for what she knows is right and describes the high expectations she puts on herself and others.

Whitney discusses her willingness to tell her friends the truth (even when it hurts) and explains how she is leaning into her wings to improve the way she delivers criticism.

Listen in to understand how Whitney is embracing the visionary spirit of her growth number 7 and learn how a healthy Enneagram 1 can maintain their high standards and be fun-loving at the same time!

What You Will Learn

Why it hurts Whitney’s soul when people have a poor view of PR as an industry
Whitney’s commitment to standing up for what she knows is right
How Whitney has grown more open-minded to other’s views of right and wrong
How Whitney is fun-loving and outgoing when she’s at her best
The impossibly high expectations Whitney has for herself and others when she’s struggling
How Whitney gauges the integrity of a person she’s meeting for the first time
Whitney’s willingness to tell her friends the truth—even when it hurts
How Whitney is embracing the visionary spirit of her growth number 7
How Whitney leans into her wings to make time for feelings and empower others
What makes Whitney a good example of the social subtype of an Enneagram 1

Connect with Whitney

Sociallee:
https://besociallee.com/
Whitney on LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/whitney-lee-sociallee/
Whitney on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/thewhitneylee/?hl=en

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Des Dickerson on Leadership Formula EP183:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep183-live-enneagram-typing-session-from-chaos-to-clarity/id1491541582?i=1000538293411
Apply for My 1:1 Coaching Program:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Register for My Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/

Knowing your partner’s Enneagram type and understanding their core motivation and greatest fear is very powerful in creating a more intimate, connected relationship. But what does that look like in practice?

Kacia Fitzgerald is a free-spirited serial entrepreneur and an Enneagram 7. Her significant other, Seena Ghetmiri, is an Enneagram 3 by nature and a dentist by training.

And while their differences could cause conflict in the relationship, Kacia and Seena are intentionally leaning into each other’s strengths to grow together as a couple.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, Kacia and Seena join me to discuss how he supports her in finding focus, while she encourages him to be more flexible.

Seena describes the challenge he faced as a 3 in walking away from his career to try something new, and Kacia explains what she does to stay committed to a project when the 7 in her wants to move on.

Listen in for Kacia and Seena’s advice on introducing the Enneagram to your partner and learn how to use an understanding of your partner’s type to cultivate a healthy relationship and step into a state of flow together!

What You Will Learn

Kacia’s experience of being an Enneagram 7 who tries a lot of different things
What Kacia does to discern whether she’s out of alignment or just bored
How Seena navigates Kacia’s need for options in a committed relationship
Kacia and Seena’s advice on how to introduce the Enneagram to your partner
The challenge Seena faced as an Enneagram 3 in walking away from his career as a dentist
How Seena and Kacia support each other when they’re in an unhealthy place
How Kacia and Seena think about using the Enneagram when they start a family
How Kacia can use her 6 wing to step fully into the role of CEO
How Seena is leveraging his 4 wing to decide what he’s really called to do
What it looks like for a couple to use the Enneagram to find flow together

Connect with Kacia & Seena

Kacia on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/kacia.fitzgerald/?hl=en
SheGoes on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/shegoes.company/?hl=en
Seena on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/seena.ghetmiri/?hl=en
EmpowerHER Podcast:
https://www.empowerherpodcast.com/

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Apply for My 1:1 Coaching Program:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Register for My Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/

Enneagram 7s like Dr. Valerie Gettings have a gift for coming up with outside-the-box ideas. But if they feel disrespected or dismissed, these Enthusiastic Visionaries will stop sharing their innovative spirit.

They may even cut ties and move on.

So, what is the best way to support a 7 in sharing their vision? And how can 7s leverage an understanding of the Enneagram to take action on their best ideas?

Dr. Valerie had a successful career as a public affairs specialist and journalist for the US Navy Bureau of Medicine and Surgery before becoming a Doctor of Naturopathic Medicine. Today, she is on a mission to help women with hormone imbalances restore their health and stay active through natural methods.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, Dr. Valerie joins me to discuss how the Enneagram 7’s fear of being trapped makes them prone to shiny object syndrome and describe the self-destruction in her life when she was coming from an unhealthy place.

Dr. Valerie shares the two questions she asks to move from vision into execution, leaning on her wings to stay committed when she’s tempted to cut and run.

Listen in to understand how Dr. Valerie is integrating the Enneagram in her business and personal life and learn how to encourage the 7s you love and lead to share their visionary ideas with the world.

What You Will Learn

Why Dr. Valerie was mistyped as a 5 when she’s really an Enneagram 7
How the 7’s fear of being trapped makes them prone to shiny object syndrome
The self-destruction in Dr. Valerie’s life when she was in an unhealthy place
How Dr. Valerie moves into her stress number 1 when people dismiss her visionary ideas
What 2 questions Dr. Valerie asks to move from vision into execution
How Dr. Valerie’s marriage has improved since she started acknowledging her partner’s process
Why Dr. Valerie tended to cut and run when she felt trapped (and how the Enneagram changed that)
How Enneagram work magnifies the personal growth you’ve already done
How Dr. Valerie implemented the Enneagram in the moving process

Connect with Dr. Valerie

Dr. Valerie’s Website:
https://drvaleriegettings.com/
Dr. Valerie on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/drvaleriegettings/

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Stephanie Fogelson:
https://naturopathicstudent.org/team/stephanie-fogelson/
Apply for My 1:1 Coaching Program:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Register for My Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/

The Enneagram 5, also known as the Investigator or Quiet Specialist, is the most introverted of the Enneagram types.

But that doesn’t mean that 5s can’t learn to collaborate or develop healthy interpersonal relationships.

In fact, 5s who understand the anatomy of their Enneagram type can play well with others, leveraging their knowledge and expertise to bring their visionary ideas to life.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I discuss the Enneagram 5’s motivational need to know and understand, describing how their ability to detach emotionally can either be a gift or a wrecking ball.

I explain how the Enneagram 5 runs from pain under extreme stress and why it can be challenging for 5s to take action.

Listen in for insight on what 5s can do to connect with their heart, protect their energy and improve their relationships with other people!

What You Will Learn

How the 5’s ability to detach emotionally can be a gift or wrecking ball
How Enneagram 5s have a motivational need to know and understand
How we experience healthy 5s as visionary and mindful and unhealthy 5s as arrogant and disconnected
The pros and cons of the 5’s ability to be perceptive, curious and self-sufficient
Why the Enneagram 5 moves into an unhealthy 7 when they’re overwhelmed
The challenge for a 5 to stretch into their growth number 8 (the energetic action-taker)
How a 5 can lean into their wings to collaborate and connect with their feelings
Why 5s struggle with interpersonal relationships and commitment
Why the one-on-one subtype presents differently from a typical 5

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstarter Session
https://th400.infusionsoft.app/app/manageCart/showManageOrder
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy
http://tracyomalley.com/shop/1-1coaching/

When I asked Des Dickerson what wasn’t working in her life, she described it as chaotic. And because her life is messy and disorganized, she can’t operate at her best.

So, how can Des leverage an understanding of her Enneagram type to move out of the chaos and into a space of clarity?

For the last four years, Des served as the Cofounder and Expert Publicist behind Creative Label, an advertising agency out of Scottsdale, Arizona. But in the last few months, she has pivoted from the world of marketing and PR to create her own product line.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, Des and I work through a live Enneagram typing session, exploring how she runs toward chaos in an effort to control her environment and why she stays in situations that aren’t working—until God forces her out.

I explain how being a one-to-one Enneagram 6 influences the way Des shows up, challenging her to articulate the reason why she asks questions and step into her power as a master troubleshooter.

Listen in for insight on how the Skeptic Loyalist can avoid getting stuck in the what ifs and learn to see the beauty in uncertainty as they stretch toward their growth number 9.

What You Will Learn

Why Des stays in situations that aren’t working until God forces her out
How Des creates chaos in an effort to control her environment
How it benefits Des to articulate the reason why she’s asking questions
How Des digs her head into the sand when she’s under extreme stress
How being a one-to-one 6 influences the way Des asks questions
How being motivated by a need for certainty makes Des a master troubleshooter
How Des can avoid getting stuck in what ifs by leaning into her 5 and 7 wings
What it looks like for a 6 to stretch into their growth number 9
What makes Enneagram 6s the best collaborators
How a 6 can work to reframe uncertainty and see the beauty in it

Connect with Des

Des on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/itsurdestinee/

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Apply for My 1:1 Coaching Program
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Register for My Enneagram Kickstart Session
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/

The 4 is the most intuitive of all the Enneagram types.

Also known as the Individualist, the Romantic or the Intense Creative, Enneagram 4s are deeply connected to feelings, both their own and the emotional undercurrents in their environment.

At their best, we experience 4s as sensitive yet content. But 4s can also come across as melancholy, overly dramatic or temperamental.

So, how can Enneagram 4s leverage the full anatomy of their Enneagram type to shine their creative gifts onto the world?

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I introduce you to the anatomy of the Enneagram 4, discussing how 4s are motivated by the need to express their uniqueness and be authentic.

I explain what a 4’s deep emotional capacity looks like coming from a healthy versus unhealthy place, describing how they can lean into their 5 wing for strategy and their 3 wing to take action on their goals.

Listen in to understand how a 4 under stress moves into the unhealthy, over-giving 2 and find out how an Individualist can build structure into their life and push toward their growth number, the healthy Enneagram 1.

What You Will Learn

How Enneagram 4s are motivated by a need to express their uniqueness and be authentic
What a 4’s deep emotional capacity looks like coming from a healthy vs. unhealthy place
The Enneagram 4’s ability to love deeply and lean into suffering
Why Enneagram 4s are often mistyped as 7s
The 4’s blind spot around pulling people close and then pushing them away
How focusing on what’s missing makes Enneagram 4s miss the miracles right in front of them
How 4s can leverage their 5 wing for strategy and their 3 wing to take action
What it looks like when a 4 moves into their stress number (the unhealthy, over-giving 2)
The non-negotiables strategy 4s can use to stretch toward their growth number 1
How the self-preservation, one-to-one and social subtypes change the expression of the 4

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Open Book by Jessica Simpson
https://www.amazon.com/Open-Book-Jessica-Simpson/dp/0062899961
Book an Enneagram Kickstarter Session
https://th400.infusionsoft.app/app/manageCart/showManageOrder
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy
http://tracyomalley.com/shop/1-1coaching/

In our hustle culture, Enneagram 3s are put on a pedestal. And they have the kind of external life most of us envy.

But while the Competitive Achiever looks good from the outside, they can be miserable on the inside.

Christina Lecuyer is the Confidence and Mindset Coach behind DecideIt’sYourTurn, a platform committed to empowering people to live fully in their purpose.

12 years ago, Christina had what looked like an amazing life. She was a professional golfer with multiple television contracts.

And yet, she was incredibly unhappy. Christina hated herself and her life, and her insatiable drive to succeed left her chasing ‘attagirls’ and feeling unfulfilled.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, Christina joins me to share her experience of hitting rock bottom and describe how she realized she had more to offer the world than just playing golf.

Christina walks us through the questions she asks herself to avoid taking over other people’s jobs as she moves toward her growth number 6.

Listen in to understand how Christina learned the value in vulnerability and find out how 3s can make sure their drive to achieve is coming from the right place.

What You Will Learn

How Christina’s life looked good on the outside even as she was hitting rock bottom
How getting external validation inspired Christina to chase ‘attagirls’
What Christina did to seek significance while she was growing up
The role Christina’s faith played in helping her realize she had more to give than just playing golf
What differentiates Christina’s internal confidence now from the hollow, external confidence she used to intimidate people in the past
How Christina leans on her 2 and 4 wings to build relationships and say no to what’s not serving her
The questions Christina asks herself to avoid taking over and move into her growth number 6
How Christina hid her vulnerability from the world when she was in her stress number 9 (and why she’s willing to be vulnerable now)
Why 3s need to be mindful of who they’re trying to prove themselves to

Connect with Christina

Christina on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/bechristina/?hl=en
Decide It’s Your Turn: The Podcast
https://christinalecuyer.com/podcast/
Decide It’s Your Turn: The Network
https://christinalecuyer.com/network/
Decide It’s Your Turn Mastermind
https://christinalecuyer.com/mastermind/
Christina’s Coaching Program
https://christinalecuyer.com/coaching/

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Apply for My 1:1 Coaching Program
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Register for My Enneagram Kickstart Session
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/

We all want to be like the Enneagram 3, otherwise known as the Competitive Achiever.

3s raise the bar on setting and hitting goals. But all of that winning sometimes means sacrificing their health and relationships.

The truth is, 3s put a LOT of pressure on themselves. And although the rest of us would never know it, Enneagram 3s often live in torture and feel very much alone.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I introduce you to the anatomy of the Enneagram 3, describing how 3s are driven by significance built on what they achieve or how they appear to the world.

I discuss the 3’s blind spot around making other people feel dismissed, explaining how they can leverage their 2 and 4 wings to slow down, tap into their emotions and stretch into their growth number 6 (the Loyalist).

Listen in to understand why 3s don’t let us see it when they’ve shifted into their unhealthy stress number 9 and learn how to help the Achievers in your life realize that their worth is based on who they are, not what they do.

What You Will Learn

How Enneagram 3s are driven by significance built on achievement and appearance
How others experience Enneagram 3s at their best vs. in an unhealthy place
The danger in the Enneagram 3 basing their self-worth on what they do rather than who they are
The Enneagram 3’s gift for delegating responsibility and adapting to their circumstances
The Enneagram 3’s tendency to make other people feel dismissed (and what to do about it)
How 3s can leverage their 4 wing to decide if the goal they’re pursuing is something they really want
How slowing down and tapping into their emotions helps 3s stretch into their growth number 6
Why 3s don’t let us see when they’ve shifted into their unhealthy stress number 9
Why the self-preservation or ‘lone wolf’ Achiever doesn’t look like a typical 3
What differentiates the competitiveness of the one-to-one 3 from the social subtype

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstarter Session: https://th400.infusionsoft.app/app/manageCart/showManageOrder
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy: http://tracyomalley.com/shop/1-1coaching/

Do you operate from your heart center? Are you motivated by the need to be liked and appreciated? Do you have a gift for anticipating the needs of others?

Then you might be an Enneagram 2, otherwise known as the Considerate Helper.

At their best, 2s are unconditionally supportive, offering the gift of humility to themselves and the world.

But when Enneagram 2s are over-giving from a place of fear, when they’re attached to the outcome, they run the risk of getting burned out and resentful.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I walk you through the anatomy of the Enneagram 2, describing how their characteristic self-sacrifice can either serve as a superpower or their kryptonite.

I explain how 2s can lean into their 1 and 3 wings in the decision-making process, setting healthy boundaries and freeing up their time to stretch into their growth number 4, the Individualist.

Listen in to understand how over-giving pushes the 2 into an unhealthy, reactionary stress number 8 and find out how the Considerate Helper serves others even better when they make time to honor themselves.

What You Will Learn

How Enneagram 2s are motivated by the need to be liked and appreciated
What the Enneagram 2’s self-sacrifice looks like coming from a healthy vs. unhealthy place
The Enneagram 2s gift for anticipating the needs of others
How a 2 can discern when they’re giving from a place of love and compassion vs. giving to get
What it looks like when a 2 loses touch with their own needs and desires
How 2s can leverage their 1 and 3 wings in decision-making to set healthy boundaries
What it looks like when a 2 starts to say no to the people in their life
How freeing up their time allows Enneagram 2s to stretch into their growth number 4 (the Individualist)
Why Enneagram 2s move into an unhealthy 8 when they’re over-giving
How the self-preservation, one-to-one and social subtypes influence the 2

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstarter Session: https://th400.infusionsoft.app/app/manageCart/showManageOrder
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy: http://tracyomalley.com/shop/1-1coaching/