The Enneagram Edge with Host Tracy O’Malley

Enneagram 3s look like they’ve got it all together. They achieve like crazy and make it look effortless. But we don’t see what’s going on inside.

Katie Gibbons was a prisoner to her 3-ness. Driven by appearances and afraid to try new things, she was hesitant to pursue her big dreams.

And despite being a former VP in the banking industry, Katie wasn’t making bold moves as an entrepreneur. So, how did understanding the Enneagram help Katie unlock her soul and set it free?

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, we discuss Katie’s resistance to doing things she might not excel at, and she explains how to work through the fear of vulnerability without letting it deter you.

Katie shares what it looks like when she’s under extreme stress and describes how stretching into her growth number 6 is helping her slow down and be present as a mom.

Listen in for insight on getting into a healthy ZFG Zone as an Enneagram 3 and learn how processing trapped emotions is literally helping Katie get her voice back!

What You Will Learn

How Katie’s resistance to inner work made her want to learn more about the Enneagram
Why doing videos makes Katie feel vulnerable (and how she’s moving through that)
How Katie leans into her 2 wing to nurture her most important relationships
Katie’s goals around cultivating creativity via her 4 wing to evolve as an entrepreneur
How the drive associated with an unhealthy 3 nearly cost Katie her marriage
How stretching into her growth number 6 helps Katie slow down and be present as a mom
What it looks like when Katie's in her stress number 9 and how it impacts her health
How Katie gets in a healthy ZFG Zone by asking, ‘What’s the worst that could happen?’
Katie’s insight on how Enneagram coaching is helping her go after big dreams
How learning to process trapped emotions helped Katie get her physical voice back

Connect with Katie

Katie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katiegibbons.co/

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Tiffany Carter: https://projectmewithtiffany.com/
DiSC Assessment: https://www.discprofile.com/what-is-disc
Hogan Personality Inventory: https://www.hoganassessments.com/assessment/hogan-personality-inventory/
Apply for My 1:1 Coaching Program: http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Register for My Enneagram Kickstart Session: http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/

Do you value principles and integrity? Are you motivated by the need to be good and right? Then you might be an Enneagram 1, also known as the Reformer or what I like to call the Sherriff.

1s have the potential to make us all better, setting an example of high standards, self-control and dignity.

But the Enneagram 1 can’t step into their full potential without understanding how their wings, their stress and growth numbers, and their instinctual subtype(s) influence the expression of their 1-ness.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I discuss the anatomy of the Enneagram 1, describing what their characteristic righteousness looks like coming from a healthy versus unhealthy place.

I explain how 1s can leverage the power of the pause to more effectively influence the people they love and lead, leaning into the heart space of their 2 wing and the big-picture view of their 9 wing as they stretch toward their growth number 7.

Listen in to understand why 1s move into an unhealthy 4 under extreme stress and learn the full range of tools available for the Sherriff’s Enneagram duty belt.

What You Will Learn

How Enneagram 1s are driven by the motivational need to be good and right
What the Enneagram 1’s righteousness looks like coming from a healthy vs. unhealthy place
How the 1’s need to be right creates challenges when it comes to leadership
How 1s can lean into their 2 and 9 wings to more effectively influence the people they love and lead
Why it’s a challenge for Enneagram 1s to stretch into their growth number 7
Why 1s move into an unhealthy 4 when they’re under extreme stress
The Enneagram 1’s blind spots around appearing critical and accepting other’s perspectives
The self-preservation 1’s strong inner critic and heightened sense of responsibility
Why one-to-one Enneagram 1s feel entitled to reform people/society
How social 1s set an example of integrity and demonstrate high standards

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstarter Session: https://th400.infusionsoft.app/app/manageCart/showManageOrder
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy: http://tracyomalley.com/shop/1-1coaching/

Your core Enneagram type never changes. But the way it gets expressed does.

And while working to become the healthiest version of your core type is a good place to start, you can’t fulfill your divine calling until you understand the full anatomy of the Enneagram and integrate ALL its composite parts into your life.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I walk you through the anatomy of an Enneagram type, describing how the wings function as the supporting cast for our main type and why we can’t step into the growth we’re here to without learning to use them both.

I explain why we need help stretching into our growth number and offer a high-level overview of the three subtypes—self-preservation, one-to-one and social.

Listen in for insight on recognizing when you’re in your stress number and find out how the Enneagram can help you become the ultimate leader in your life!

What You Will Learn

What keeps us from stepping fully into the divine calling on our life
Why it’s crucial to be typed correctly (and how often online assessments get it wrong)
Why we can’t step into the growth we’re here to do without using both our wings
How the wings function as the supporting cast for our main type
Why we need help stretching into our growth number
The benefit of recognizing when we’re in our stress number
An overview of the 3 subtypes—one-to-one, social and self-preservation
How integrating the Enneagram helps you become the ultimate leader in your life

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstarter Session: https://th400.infusionsoft.app/app/manageCart/showManageOrder
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy: http://tracyomalley.com/shop/1-1coaching/

As Jim Rohn says, ‘You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.’ And few of us would argue with the benefit of having a bulletproof inner circle we can count on to have our back.

But those of us who are high achievers often get fixated on reaching the next goal and lose those strong, intimate connections along the way.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I explain why a bulletproof inner circle is so important, describing how I realized that true connection was the missing piece in my life.

I get real about the challenge of putting your heart on the line, challenging you to nurture an inner circle made up of several different Enneagram types who see you and accept you fully.

Listen in for advice on starting with one bestie and then building out a small but diverse inner circle—and learn how the Enneagram can help YOU find your people and forge strong bonds with them.

What You Will Learn

How true connection requires a level of vulnerability that’s challenging for many of us
What made me realize a bulletproof inner circle was the missing piece in my life
The problem with building an inner circle based on time invested in the relationships
Why it’s a good idea to have an inner circle made up of several different Enneagram types
What it looks like to put your heart on the line with your inner circle and why it’s so hard
Why both parties are responsible for any breakdown in communication
Why I recommend starting with one bestie and then expanding to a small but diverse inner circle
The danger in putting all the responsibility for supporting you on one person
How nurturing a bulletproof inner circle has brought abundance in all areas of my life
How integrating your Enneagram type can help you build an inner circle of your own

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Project Me with Tiffany: https://projectmewithtiffany.com/
6 Issues Unique to High Achievers and How to Bust Through Them on Leadership Formula EP173: http://tracyomalley.com/ep173-6-issues-unique-to-high-achievers-and-how-to-bust-through-them/
Marco Polo Video Messaging App: https://www.marcopolo.me/
Book an Enneagram Kickstarter Session: https://th400.infusionsoft.app/app/manageCart/showManageOrder
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy: http://tracyomalley.com/shop/1-1coaching/

As parents, we can leverage an understanding of the Enneagram to improve the way we love and lead our children.

But Enneagram coaching can also help our kids develop self-awareness and grow into the best version of themselves.

Kristina is a client of mine who was gifted Enneagram coaching as a graduation present. And she is using the training to support her transition to college at Duke University.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, we discuss Kristina’s attributes as an Enneagram 3, the Competitive Achiever, and she explains how understanding her type has improved her relationships with her mom, dad and stepdad.

Kristina describes how she is using the Enneagram to adjust to being on her own for the first time, leaning into her 2 wing to appreciate the value of collaboration and using her 4 wing to explore what she’s truly passionate about.

Listen in for Kristina’s insight on how her 3-ness is received by other types and learn how delving into the Enneagram with your kids can change your family dynamic for the better!

What You Will Learn

How Kristina’s mom gifted her Enneagram coaching to make the transition to college easier
The importance of being typed properly in moving toward your growth number
What Kristina realized about how her 3-ness is received by her Enneagram 9 stepdad
How integrating the Enneagram freed Kristina to build authentic relationships with her dad and stepdad
How Kristina received her mom’s need for certainty before she started Enneagram coaching
How Kristina is using her wings to adjust to being on her own for the first time
What Kristina is learning about the value of collaboration from leaning into her 2 wing
Kristina’s blind spot around achieving for recognition vs. what's truly fulfilling (and what she’s doing about it)
What it looks like when an Enneagram 3 is struggling and why it’s so hard to spot
How integrating the Enneagram is helping Kristina show up the best she can for other people

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Apply for My 1:1 Coaching Program: http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Register for My Enneagram Kickstart Session: http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Book the Enneagram Experience Bundle: http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/

High achievement is a badge of honor.

But being a high achiever doesn't make us immune to things like depression, relationship tensions, parenting issues, stress or financial problems. It doesn’t mean we’ve got it all figured out.

In fact, there are six common stumbling blocks unique to high achievers. What are they? And what can we do to work through them?

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I walk you through the six issues unique to high achievers, describing how to avoid burnout and overcome imposter syndrome.

I discuss the danger in being driven by pain and explain why high achievers often feel lonely, challenging you to build an inner circle that supports you unconditionally.

Listen in for insight into which of the six issues each Enneagram type is most prone to and learn how a master performance coach can help you bust through the common problems faced by high achievers.

What You Will Learn

The 6 most common issues unique to high achievers
How to leverage intuition to avoid burnout or health crises
What it looks like to overcome imposter syndrome
The danger in being driven to achieve by hurt and pain
How to bust through the fear of losing everything by focusing on your self-worth
Why high achievers feel lonely (and what to do about it)
How to ease the guilt high achievers feel around success by recognizing our potential impact
Why it’s crucial to have an inner circle that supports you unconditionally
Which of the 6 issues each Enneagram type is prone to

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstarter Session: https://th400.infusionsoft.app/app/manageCart/showManageOrder
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy: http://tracyomalley.com/shop/1-1coaching/

The Enneagram 9 has a knack for making people feel safe. Known as the Adaptive Peacemaker, 9s are easygoing and inclusive.

But in an effort to be accommodating and avoid conflict, 9s often struggle with speaking their mind.

So, how can the Enneagram 9 tap into their gifts without denying their own voice?

Toni Marinucci is the Registered Dietician behind Tips with Toni, a nutrition program dedicated to helping people heal their relationship with food, gain self-confidence and find balance in their eating habits.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, Toni and I work through a live typing session, exploring her strengths as an Adaptive Peacemaker and how her childhood role as ‘the quiet sister’ informs the way she shows up as an Enneagram 9.

We discuss how Toni leverages her growth number 3 to set and achieve goals, and I explain how she can lean on her 8 and 1 wings to take decisive action and take a stand for what she believes in.

Listen in to understand why 9s struggle to make their own needs, desires and feelings known and learn what the Adaptive Peacemaker can do to navigate conflict in a way that honors their empathetic heart and empowers the people they love and lead.

What You Will Learn

Why Toni attracts people who struggle with mental health
How Toni’s dysfunction around food began at the age of 9
Toni’s strengths as an Enneagram 9 (the Adaptive Peacemaker)
How Toni’s growth number informs her ability to set and reach goals
Why 9s are notorious for procrastinating when they’re under stress
How Toni can use her 8 and 1 wings to take action and take a stand
What a 9 can do to navigate conflict rather than avoid it
Why 9s struggle with making their own needs and feelings known
How Toni toggles between the self-preservation and 1:1 instinct
The theme of Toni’s forthcoming book Once Upon a Diet

Connect with Toni

Tips with Toni: https://tipswithtoni.com/
Toni on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tips_with_toni/

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Resources

Toni’s Which Disney Princess Do You Eat Like Quiz: https://tipswithtoni.com/
Toni’s TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pJreg5-oOuw
The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile: https://www.amazon.com/Road-Back-You-Enneagram-Self-Discovery/dp/0830846190

If you’re listening to this podcast, you’re committed to growth. But do your actions match that intention?

If not, then it’s time to look back and connect the dots. To identify the beliefs that are holding you back and where they came from. To break the cycle of self-sabotage that’s keeping you from the life you want.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I share my journal exercises for exploring the thoughts, feelings and memories of your inner child, giving them a platform to speak freely and unpack the timeline around when your beliefs developed—and why.

I explain how the beliefs we build in childhood influence the way we show up in business, in relationships and as parents, describing how those beliefs manifest in the form of patterns that keep us stuck.

Listen in for insight on how childhood coping mechanisms inform the way you express your Enneagram type and learn to treat your inner child with the compassion, empathy and love it takes to break the cycle and become the ultimate leader in your life.

What You Will Learn

The belief systems we build around our childhood experiences that hold us back as adults
How to explore the thoughts and feelings of the 3 main childhood versions of you
How looking back at our childhood memories to connect the dots helps us make sense of how we got here
How the beliefs we built in childhood impact the way we show up in business and relationships
My journal exercise for unpacking the timeline around when your beliefs developed
How giving your inner child a platform to speak freely helps us break the habits that keep us stuck
How nature, nurture and our childhood coping mechanisms inform the way we express our Enneagram type
How we attract people, places and things that fit with the story we tell ourselves
The benefit of writing letters back and forth with Little You
How treating your inner child with compassion and love makes you a better leader

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstarter Session: https://th400.infusionsoft.app/app/manageCart/showManageOrder
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy: http://tracyomalley.com/shop/1-1coaching/

If you’re not where you want to be in your life, but you can’t figure out why you keep procrastinating or playing small or sabotaging yourself, then it’s time to ask what Little You would do.

You see, there’s a child inside each and every one of us. A child who’s still feeling a lot of pain from the traumas they endured.

And until you can learn to identify what Little You needs when you’re triggered, you’ll continue to fall back on the coping mechanisms that kept you safe as a kid—but are holding you back now.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I share why I was triggered by multiple days of rain and what I did to honor ten-year-old Tracy in that situation.

I explain how the failure to process childhood traumas impacts our personal and professional life, describing the consistent compassion and empathy for Little You that it takes to heal.

Listen in to understand why freeing the scared kid inside should be part of your business strategy and learn to listen to your body, honor what Little You needs and start living your dreams.

What You Will Learn

How your body never forgets the trauma you endured as a kid
Why I was triggered by multiple days of rain and what I did to honor ten-year-old Tracy in that situation
What to do if you can’t access your childhood memories
How the failure to process childhood traumas impacts your personal and professional life
How the coping mechanisms we learned to keep us safe as kids don’t serve us as adults
The consistent compassion, empathy and grace for Little You that it takes to heal
What it looks like to listen to your body and ask Little You what it needs
Why the most important child you will ever raise is the one inside of you
Why freeing Little You should be part of your business strategy
The role the Enneagram can play in honoring Little You

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstarter Session: https://th400.infusionsoft.app/app/manageCart/showManageOrder
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy: http://tracyomalley.com/shop/1-1coaching/

Do you want more love and abundance in your life?

Then you’ve got to make space for it. And that means letting go of the things that aren’t working.

But how do you know when it’s time to move on? And how do you make the transition without blowing up your life?

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I share 10 signs that it’s time to turn the page on a job or relationship, explaining why you shouldn’t stay in a bad situation simply because it’s familiar.

I challenge you to recognize the part you play in allowing people to treat you with disrespect and describe how to gauge whether a given relationship demonstrates an even energy exchange.

Listen in for insight on letting go of circumstances that erode your self-esteem and learn to walk away from a situation where you’re asked to be something you’re not—and do so in an elegant way.

What You Will Learn

10 signs that it may be time to turn the page on a job or relationship
Why we have to let go of some things to make space for abundance and love
What to do when your trust has been broken time and again
How to walk away from a situation that makes you feel badly about yourself
What it looks like to own your part in a bad situation (without letting others off the hook)
How to gauge whether a relationship is an even energy exchange
How to identify why you don’t feel like you can openly express your opinion
The part we play in allowing people to break promises to us or say one thing but do another
How to exit a relationship where you’re asked to compromise your values
How to let go of a codependent relationship in an elegant way

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Resources

Resources

Bob Seger’s ‘Turn the Page’: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=evnZfSEtr5k
Strategy vs. Soul Work on Leadership Formula EP165: https://www.spreaker.com/user/becomingbulletproof/the-leadership-formula-ep165
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie: https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025
Book an Enneagram Kickstarter Session: https://th400.infusionsoft.app/app/manageCart/showManageOrder
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy: http://tracyomalley.com/shop/1-1coaching/