What happens when women stop apologizing for wanting each other?

In this episode, Skirt Club founder Genevieve LeJeune joins M to explore the psychology, culture, and community behind the world’s largest movement for bisexual and bicurious women.

We discuss:

• The psychology of bisexuality and fluid erotic identity.

• Skirt Club’s role in liberating women from sexual shame.

• How curiosity becomes the first step toward freedom.

• Bisexual invisibility and stigma in queer and kink spaces.

• What Kinsey and modern science reveal about female desire.

Research book: Bi: The Hidden Culture, History & Science of Bisexuality

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We’re closing out the year with a special End-of-Year Erotic Realm Series — two episodes every week, some brand new, some returning favourites.

Together they trace the biggest themes that emerged across 2025: gender, BDSM roles, fantasy, and the psychology of desire.

You’ll hear our first-ever live recordings from the Erotic Realm Confessional at OzKinkFest, reflections from past guests, and a 40th birthday special exploring my own erotic realm — all building toward a New Year’s episode on kinky desires and erotic resolutions for 2026.

This week we explore the most common fetish out there- feet. Welcome to The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins with Feetfixations.

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What is it about feet?

In this episode we explore the psychology, sensuality, and stigma of foot fetishes with 53-year-old fetishist and photographer Larry.

We discuss:

• Early foot memories.
• Where he thinks his fetish comes from.
• The different types of foot fetishists.
• The visual appeal of soles.
• The neuroscience behind foot-based arousal.
• and more!

Research Article: Relative prevalence of different fetishes.

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What do kinksters confess live at a kink festival?

Recorded live at a real kink festival, this second special edition of The Erotic Realm invites you into the world’s first anonymous kink confessional booth—where people step behind the curtain to whisper their erotic truths.

We explore:

• What people confess when given total erotic anonymity.

• How shame, curiosity, and power shape desire in public spaces.

• Real power-exchange relationships as they unfold in real time.

• The raw psychology of kinksters inside a living, breathing event.

In the background you’ll hear music. Laughter. Conversations. People playing, watching, wandering.

In the booth, you’ll hear anonymous confessions of darker desires.

This is the soundscape of a living, breathing kink event. Unfiltered, immersive, alive.

Some listeners will find headphones are a must for this episode, and they will deepen the intimacy—like you’re leaning in to overhear something you were never meant to hear.

Love this project? Support future episodes by becoming a paid subscriber here or at psychologyofdesire.substack.com.

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The Erotic Realm Confessional — Where you confess your desires.

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Emma

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We’re closing out the year with a special End-of-Year Erotic Realm Series — two episodes every week, some brand new, some returning favourites.

Together they trace the biggest themes that emerged across 2025: gender, BDSM roles, fantasy, and the psychology of desire.

You’ll hear our first-ever live recordings from the Erotic Realm Confessional at OzKinkFest, reflections from past guests, and a 40th birthday special exploring my own erotic realm — all building toward a New Year’s episode on kinky desires and erotic resolutions for 2026.

This week we explore one of the most-shared episodes of the year, Shapeshifting Desire: Primal Play, BDSM as Healing, and the Erotic Self.

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What does it mean to be a shapeshifter in kink?

In this episode I explore with Kite, a primal, brat, little, and wolf whose erotic journey has been one of transformation and healing. We explore how BDSM can help rewrite personal narratives, offer deep emotional release, and unlock new levels of self-awareness.

We discuss:

• The psychology of primal play, bratting, and sensation play.
• BDSM as a tool for mental and emotional healing.
• How playing with pain, power, and pleasure can reshape identity.
• The scientific research on BDSM’s positive psychological effects.
• Finding a kinky life partner and sharing intimate moments with the world.

Research Paper: Effects of BDSM Practices and Their Implications for Psychological and Psychotherapeutic Work: A Systematic Literature Review

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Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

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What do kinksters confess live at a kink festival?

Recorded live at a real kink festival, this special edition of The Erotic Realm invites you into the world’s first anonymous kink confessional booth—where people step behind the curtain to whisper their erotic truths.

We explore:

• What people confess when given total erotic anonymity.

• How shame, curiosity, and power shape desire in public spaces.

• Real power-exchange relationships as they unfold in real time.

• The raw psychology of kinksters inside a living, breathing event.

In the background you’ll hear music. Laughter. Conversations. People playing, watching, wandering.

In the booth, you’ll hear anonymous confessions of darker desires.

This is the soundscape of a living, breathing kink event. Unfiltered, immersive, alive.

Some listeners will find headphones are a must for this episode, and they will deepen the intimacy—like you’re leaning in to overhear something you were never meant to hear.

Love this project? Support future episodes by becoming a paid subscriber here or at psychologyofdesire.substack.com.

Want The Erotic Confessional at your local kink event? Reach out here: [email protected]

The Erotic Realm Confessional — Where you confess your desires.

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

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We’re closing out the year with a special End-of-Year Erotic Realm Series — two episodes every week, some brand new, some returning favourites.

Together they trace the biggest themes that emerged across 2025: gender, BDSM roles, fantasy, and the psychology of desire.

You’ll hear our first-ever live recordings from the Erotic Realm Confessional at OzKinkFest, reflections from past guests, and a 40th birthday special exploring my own erotic realm — all building toward a New Year’s episode on kinky desires and erotic resolutions for 2026.

We begin with one of the most-loved episodes of the year, The Psychology of Erotica with Aurore.

Support The Erotic Realm for the price of a coffee a month by becoming a paid subscriber on Substack — and help this independent project keep exploring the science, symbolism, and stories of desire into 2026 and beyond.

Why do we write what we desire?

In this literary deep-dive, Carly — founder of Aurore — joins me to explore erotic storytelling as a path to self-discovery, healing, and expression.

We discuss:

• The transition from dominance to submission
• Reclaiming power after abuse
• Feminism, shame & desire
• The psychology behind erotic writing
• AURORE’s birth as a confessional community

Research Article: Relationship between Sexual Fantasy, Sexual Communication, Personality Traits and Sexual Satisfaction in Married Individuals.

The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Thanks for listening!

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Emma

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Can jealousy become devotion?

In this episode, CuckofanAngel joins M to explore the psychology of cuckolding — a world where jealousy transforms into desire, surrender becomes power, and love deepens through erotic vulnerability.

We discuss:

• The psychology of desire, jealousy, and erotic surrender.

• How cuckolding transforms power into intimacy.

• The emotional alchemy of humiliation, empathy, and arousal.

• What research reveals about the benefits of erotic transparency.

• A message for men seeking freedom through surrender.

Research article: The Psychology of Gay Men’s Cuckolding Fantasies

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What happens when philosophy meets BDSM?

In this episode, writer and Dominant Athos Khan joins M to explore the intimate architecture of power, devotion, and consciousness inside monogamous kink.

We discuss:

• The Jungian concept of “making the darkness conscious” through BDSM.

• Monogamy as a site for transformation, not limitation.

• The flow state of dominance — where eroticism becomes meditation.

• The archetypes that shape desire and relationship roles.

• Emotional vs. sexual free use and what gendered desire reveals about intimacy.

Research Article: ‘You want to be swept up in it all’: illuminating the erotic in BDSM.

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Want to be part of edgy research exploring the qualitative nature of the female orgasm? Anyone can participate! Take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey and contribute to the #02 Psychology of Desire Case File on female orgasm released later this month. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠

Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.

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Can surrender be feminist? 

In this episode of The Erotic Realm, M speaks with Lina Dune — writer, educator, and host of the hit podcast Ask A Sub — about the psychology of submission, feminist desire, and the edges of consensual non-consent.

We discuss:

• How Lina reframes submission as self-discovery, not self-abandonment.

• What makes feminist surrender so psychologically rich.

• The emotional truth behind CNC and exploring dark fantasy safely.

• How CNM can deepen honesty and communication in relationships.

• Why kink can be a mirror for both chaos and self-creation.

• The lessons Lina has learned from Ask A Sub about community and growth.

• A message for anyone learning to trust their desire.

Research discussed: On the Margins: Considering Diversity Among Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships.

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Want to be part of edgy research exploring the qualitative nature of the female orgasm? Anyone can participate! Take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey and contribute to the #02 Psychology of Desire Case File on female orgasm released later this month. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠

Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.

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Can pain become prayer? Can spanking be a spiritual practice?

In this episode of The Erotic Realm, M speaks with Iya (MousyMistress) — a mystic Domme, minister, and self-described sacred spanko — about the healing, transcendent, and psychological dimensions of erotic pain.

We discuss:

• How erotic discipline and spanking became a path to self-knowledge.

• Why Jung’s shadow work applies to kink and erotic healing.

• What research says about pain as emotional release and transcendence.

• Iya’s live guided meditation for entering your Dominant self.

• How kink bridges spirituality, psychology, and power.

• The difference between cruelty and care in sacred sadism.

• A message for anyone seeking to integrate their desire and divinity.

Research article: What Is So Appealing About Being Spanked, Flogged, Dominated, or Restrained?

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Want to be part of edgy research exploring the qualitative nature of the female orgasm? Anyone can participate! Take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey and contribute to the #02 Psychology of Desire Case File on female orgasm released later this month. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠

Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.

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