The Evolving Man Podcast

Adam Hart is an International Speaker & best selling author whose mission is to help busy parents transform their quality of life and develop deeply connected relationships with their partners and children.

Focusing on nervous system regulation, energetic attraction and natural holistic wellness practices, Adam leads his clients to living at their best.

Adam created a handout for our listeners called The 6 Step Unleash-Your-Energy Roadmap, available at clearimpact.io.

In this episode we dive into:

• ADHD & ADD diagnoses.
• Prescription medication and self-medicating.
• Nervous system regulation.
• Optimizing human performance in all areas of your life. 
• Conscious parenting.
• Scattered minds in a dopamine-centered world. 
• Occupational burnout.
• Managing energy and stress responses in the moment.
• Fight or flight responses when rock climbing. 
• Recovery becomes an addiction vs. harm reduction. 
• Different foods affect brain chemistry. 
• Intelligent health and developing intuition. 
• The mind-body connection. 
• Becoming “unstuck.”
• Practicing co-regulation and self-regulation.
• Wim Hof breathwork & heart flow breath practice. 
• Committing to practicing simplicity.
• Nurturing the nervous system with compassion and empathy.
• Being in a community to support your healing. 
• Unleash Your Energy Roadmap (on clearimpact.io).

Links

• Clear Impact Coaching
• Adam's YouTube
• The Power of Food - Book
• Ben's Conscious Relationship Council (Next cohort starts April 4th)
• Ben's Freedom From Addiction Circle

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Dr. Shefali specializes in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy and is an expert in family dynamics and personal development. She has written four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family.

She joins me for a brass tacks conversation about the Dos and Don’ts of parenting, and to share about her new book The Parenting Map which comes out on February 28th, 2023.

In this episode, we discuss:

• How to go from chaos, disconnection, and frustration to a place of deep bonding and clarity as a parent.
• The similarities between conscious (romantic) relationship work and conscious parenting.
• How your triggers with your child are a reminder of what you need to work on.
• The belief that our children are a possession, and the dangerous projection that follows.
• The problem with the old belief that “parents know what’s best for their children”.
• How parents tend to project their own fears, insecurities, and triggers onto their children.
• Having a child will bring up your own childhood issues.
• How spanking = hitting = suppression and shame in children.
• Parents as a safe space rather than a police force or judge and punisher.
• The 3 reasons kids misbehave:
• 1. Lack of Skill
• 2. Lack of experience
• 3. Lack of worth
• Fear/Control mentality VS abundance/love mentality.
• The NBC Method: Negotiation, Boundaries, and Consequences.
• The problem with force feeding children and forcing them to do things they don’t want to do.
• Home as a safe space VS a house of rules.
• Natural consequences - allowing life to teach your children.
• How to teach children to know their inner “yes” and “no” so they can trust themselves as adults.
• The value of remembering that children will be adults one day and will remember how you treat them.
• Connection as the crucial ingredient in governing children’s behaviour.
• Why showing a child your feelings is so powerful.

Dr Shefali’s Links:

• Dr Shefali’s Books
• Instagram 
• TikTok 
• YouTube 
• The Conscious Relationship Council

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John Wang is a speaker, writer, and founder of the Big Asian Energy show. He studies the communication and people skills of Asian American leaders and entrepreneurs, and uses evidence-backed studies to help them master performance and communication, so they can be better recognized for their brilliance and hard work. His videos on mindset and communication have over 25 million views on TikTok.

In this episode we dive into:

• Becoming a man of action.
• Wing walking on airplanes.

• The gift of death.
• Collectivist vs. individualist culture.
• The script of being a good son vs. a good man.
• Unwinding parenting patterns in one’s own life.
• Dysfunctional and secure attachment between parents and children. 
• Healing wounds with parents.
• 6 archetypal patterns of unintegrated men.
• Learning to parent yourself. 
• Getting the love we want
• Blaming vs. evolving in relationships.
• The ACE method.
• Self-acceptance and attunement.
• Struggles of Asian-American men & women in the working world.
• “The Bamboo Ceiling”.
• How to cultivate empathy.
• The 4 things that give us all happiness.
• John’s experiment practicing kindness and what he learned.
• The Vagus Nerve.
• The Big Asian Energy course.

Links from this Episode:  

• John’s Website
• John’s Instagram
• John’s TikTok
• John’s Facebook
• John’s YouTube
• Ben's Conscious Relationship Council
• Ben's Freedom from Addiction Circle

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Connor Beaton is a speaker, a coach, and the founder of Man Talks, a company dedicated to the betterment of men. He joins me on this episode to talk about the subject of his new book: Men’s Work - A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self Sabotage, And Find Freedom.

In this episode we discuss what Connor calls The Shadow Of The Father and how it affects every man's life.

We also discuss the effects of absent fathers in the development of young men, and we touch on the effects of porn on men’s lives and their relationships.

Pre-order Connor’s Book here.

You can follow Connor @mantalks on IG, and on his website mantalks.com

As mentioned in the intro, The Conscious Relationship Council for men is open for registration until Jan 12.

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Ryan Pope is a chiropractor, men’s coach, and founder of Powerhouse Mind Body Chiro located on the Gold Coast in Australia. His latest venture Becoming The Mountain is focussed on mentoring men and preparing them physically, mentally, and emotionally for the rite of passage into fatherhood.

Ryan is also co-facilitator at Alchemy, a multi-modality healing and transformational retreat for men and women.

I asked Ryan to share his wisdom with me to help me prepare for my own initiation into fatherhood.

In this episode we discuss:

• Preparation for fatherhood.
• Holistic healing and vitalism.
• Ryan’s journey to help men prepare for the birthing process.
• What kind of man do you want to be throughout the process of fatherhood?
• Normalizing mayhem in our body and mind during big transitions.
• Grief upon entering into parenthood.
• Embracing acceptance vs. embody resistance.
• The importance of having good men supporting you.
• Unplanned pregnancies. 
• Outcome oriented thinking vs. process focused thinking.
• The infinite intelligence of our bodies and The Universe.
• Challenging and navigating the “what if’s.”
• Birthing processes within the healthcare system vs. holistically. 
• Trauma during birth. 
• Creating intentions around a plan. 
• Divine femininity and surrendering. 
• Looking at the patterns that are mirrored from our parents. 
• Safety and trust in partnership during pregnancy. 
• Stepping up for your partner as a practice for fatherhood. 
• Cleaning out what’s taking up space in life to create more room for what you want.
• Navigating the unknowns of fatherhood. 
• The depth of presence and awareness.
• Trusting the inner wisdom of your partner. 
• The masculine structure around the birthing process.
• Toning. 
• Setting boundaries around family and friends.
• The importance of postpartum regeneration practices. 

Links from this episode:

• Ryan’s Instagram 
• Ryan’s Chiropractor Website
• The Business of Being Born 
• The First Forty Days book
• Evolving Man Episode with Jessica Austin
• Evolving Man Episode with John Wineland

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Amir Khalighi is the founder and lead facilitator for The Embodied Masculine, a training ground for men that empowers men to connect to their bodies, their purpose, and to nature. Amir runs immersion retreats and weekly embodiment circles that integrate his 5 pillars to facilitate powerful transformations in his students.

Amir joined me to talk about the impacts of men doing their work to know their inner masculine and feminine energies, and the inner strength and power that comes as a result of nurturing a personal spiritual practice.

In this episode we dive into:

• Amir’s definition of men’s work.
• Exploring the self through embodiment, somatic, and shamanic work. 
• Our wounds as our teachers. 
• Paradigm shifts. 
• Father wounds.
• Stepping into service and giving back to the world. 
• The importance and significance of “present” male figures in a community. 
• Self-regulation for boys
• Integrating shadow aspects of self. 
• Archetypal work and energies. 
• Interconnectedness and living in fulfillment. 
• Nurturing the evolution and empowerment of The Masculine. 
• Shifting a culture through generations.
• The Conscious King.
• How men can practice being with Feminine power. 
• How do men do external and internal work with their own Feminine essence? 
• Feminine embodiment practices in men’s work.
• Ideologies and energetics in mixed martial arts. 
• Structured Masculine practices. 
• The 5 instruments in Amir’s work: attention, breath, sound, movement, visualization. 
• Creating space and emptiness in oneself.  
• Reframing the concept of the unknown.
• The human birthright of divine connection. 
• What work should be done alone vs. with community?
• Recovery and addiction work ideology in men’s work. 
• Plant medicine. 
• Stepping away from AA (12 steps) and listening to the inner call for deeper growth. 
• Amir’s men’s work offerings. 

Links from this episode:

• Amir’s Website
• Amir’s Instagram
• Amir’s Vimeo
• Book - Iron John by Robert Bly
• Book - King, Warrior, Magician, Lover by Douglas Gillette and Robert L. Moore
• Evolving Man Episode with John Wineland - as referenced in this episode
• Evolving Man Episode with Christine Hassler - as referenced in this episode

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Nick Solaczek, an IMAGO relationship coach who teaches couples about the hidden realities of romantic relating. He helps couples understand one another, improve their communication, and thrive in their relationships. 

Nick and I have been sitting in men's circles, going to workshops, and learning about conscious relationship work for a few years now, and we drop in on this episode to share with men about the successes we have found. 

In this episode we discuss:

• The Conscious Relationship Council - a men’s group focussed on learning about romantic relationships.
• How men can make a long-term relationship happen. 
• Relationship as an enlightening experience. 
• The difference between what the current generation wants in relationship, versus the generation that came before us.
• Conflict as a growth opportunity to deepen intimacy in relationships. 
• What does masculine leadership look like?
• Relationship as a mirror for childhood experiences. 
• Familiar energy signatures trigger us into unconscious responses.
• Attachment theory. 
• Normalizing the conscious relationship conversation. 
• The paradoxes of romantic relationships. 
• Navigating feelings of shame. 
• Imago relationship theory and dialogue techniques. 
• The 4 stages of relationship. 
• AFGO: Another Fucking Growth Opportunity. 
• Discovering your personal relationship issue and how it ties back to your childhood.  
• What do recurring conflicts and frustrations in relationship represent? 
• Minimizer vs. maximizer in conflict. 
• Your relationships becoming your nightmare. 
• Showing up authentically with boundaries and consent. 
• Discovering your “relationship wants” and identifying how to lean into them. 
• The value of men’s groups for inner-work and navigating romantic relationships.

Links from this episode:

• The Conscious Relationship Council 
• Nick’s Website
• Nick’s Instagram

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Christine Hassler is a Master coach, facilitator and speaker and the host of top-rated podcast “Over it and On With It” where she coaches people live on the show. She is also a best-selling author of three books, most recently Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself From Your Past, Change your Present and Get What you Really Want.

Christine co-founder of Elementum Coaching Institute, a premier coaching certification program. Preston Smiles and Stef Sifandos (recent guests on this show) are also Master coaches for Elementum. Christine joined me on the show to talk about men’s evolution and leadership, conscious parenting, and romantic relationships.

In this episode we discuss:

• How Christine created her dream life and attracted her dream partner. 
• Trusting divine timing and following your own timeline.
• Embodying personal development work.
• What success can really mean.
• Leveraging disappointment as a point to transform. 
• Effective coaching practices. 
• Understanding our past to move toward the future.
• Time traveling to our childhood triggers.
• Time vs. love healing all wounds.
• Conscious trauma work.
• MDMA Therapy = Love therapy.
• Instant gratification. 
• What does the evolution of conscious men look like?
• The dance of masculine and feminine energy.
• Individual vs. community work.
• Revering the feminine.
• The duality of attachment styles.
• Self-regulation and self-soothing in conflict. 
• Leadership in romantic relationship. 
• 3 stages of consciousness.
• For expecting fathers: sacrifice and devotion during and after pregnancy. 
• The 3 most important traits for a father: presence, consistency, and emotional availability. 

Links from this episode:

• Elementum Coaching Institute
• Christine’s Website
• Christine’s Podcast
• Christine’s Instagram
• Christine’s Facebook
• Christine’s Twitter
• Christine’s YouTube
• Evolving Man Episode with Stef Sifandos

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John Wineland is a leader in men’s embodiment, leadership, and the energetics of romantic relationship. He is the author of the forthcoming book From The Core: A New Masculine Paradigm For Leading With Love, Living Your Truth, & Healing The World.

John joined me to talk about relationships, men’s work, and the transformational power of men’s groups. 

In this episode we discuss:

• The Masculine and Feminine core. 
• Men’s Work and the value of men’s groups.
• What does masculine leadership look like in a time of shared leadership between men and women?
• The importance of men cultivating sensitivity. 
• John’s mission in the world and how he got into men’s work. 
• Consciousness, embodiment, and spiritual intimacy.
• Turning your wound into a gift.
• Father wounds. 
• Integrating David Deida’s work.
• Stillness vs. Energy.
• Staying grounded, aware, and in equanimity. 
• Wim Hof breathwork. 
• Nervous system training.
• How modern men can lead in a relationship with a powerful partner. 
• Understanding your relationship to your breath.
• Infinite practices for increasing sensitivity. 
• Your heart is a sonar device.
• Taking a numbness inventory. 
• Dopamine addictions.
• Understanding feminine and masculine essences in ourselves and in relationship.
• The power of picturing your dream life.
• No More Mr. Nice Guy - Robert Glover. 
• Two kinds of romantic relationship: Power grid vs. Battery. 
• The Depth Council - John’s Men’s Group.

Links

• Order John’s Book
• John’s Website
• John’s Instagram
• John’s YouTube channel
• The Conscious Relationship Council
• The Path To Conscious Love - A Course for Couples 

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Sheleana Aiyana is the founder of Rising Woman, a growing community of more than 3 million readers. She is also my wife and life partner. Sheleana joins me on this episode to talk about the keys to successful romantic relationships and her recently released book Becoming The One: Heal Your Past, Transform Your Relationship Patterns, and Come Home to Yourself.

On this episode we dig into some of the key concepts from the book, and we talk about a few true stories from the book that involve our relationship and give some greater context and perspective on what we both learned.

If you are interested in the keys to attracting or keeping a romantic partner, or if you're a Rising Woman fan wanting an inside look into our relationship, this episode is for you.

In this episode we dive into:

• The deeper meaning within Sheleana’s new book, “Becoming the One.” 
• What “being your own healer” means.
• Spiritual myth busting. 
• Self-abandonment. 
• Seeking external soothing - a conditioned pattern 
• Attracting inauthentic romantic matches. 
• Abandonment wounds and chasing unavailable love. 
• The foundation to healthy relationships: our relationship to self. 
• Finding healing through trusting yourself, your body, and reconnecting to nature. 
• Experiencing pleasure in life while being anchored in our truth. 
• Shifting from a breakdown to a breakthrough.  
• Authentic alignment.
• Questioning how you show up in your relationships?
• Scarcity of love vs. abundance of love as a mindset.
• Soulmates and soul families.
• Wounded inner child archetypes creating codependency. 
• The strength of community and friendship in supporting your relationship. 
• Twin flames vs. free will.
• External blame and taking back your power.
• How to get an unconscious partner to start doing the work with you.
• Parental vs. divine partner perspectives.
• Normalizing the desire for change.
• Patterns of withholding.
• Respecting your partner’s differences as assets.
• Attunement, sensitivity, and nervous system awareness.
• Specific dynamics and patterns in Sheleana and Ben’s relationship. 
• Seeing your partner’s intentions.
• Humility vs. defensiveness.
• Overcoming self-doubt.
• The Father wound.
• The value for men in reading “Becoming the One”.

Links from this episode 

• Rising Woman Website
• The “Becoming the One” course
• Rising Woman Instagram
• Sheleana’s Instagram
• Sheleana’s YouTube
• Creating Conscious Love - A Course For Couples
• Becoming the One Course
• The Conscious Relationship Council - For Men
• The Nespresso Story: Chapter 8 - Understanding Projections in “Becoming the One”

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