The EVRYMAN Podcast

This week’s guest on the EVRYMAN podcast is Dan MacCombie. Dan was one of the first 17 men who showed up to the very first Open Source retreat in December 2016, before EVRYMAN had even left the nest. He showed up and he’s been showing up ever since, and has built much of the infrastructure of our events, and countless other parts of this organization. He sat in a men’s group for YEARS in college, was the co-CEO of Runa—which involved a truly wild run of time in Ecuador, and he has a wicked combination of a big heart and a goofy-big mind. He recently co-lead our last Open Source retreat on the East Coast, and he is an EVRYMAN coach as well.

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“I thought I had my shit together, and didn’t think I needed more.. Then life happened and I decided to dive in fully.”

This week’s episode is a throwback to the beginning of EVRYMAN. Two years ago Founders Dan, Sasha, and Lucas sat down in upstate New York to dream up the future of men's work. EVRYMAN has since grown into a true movement that is helping men slow down, connect and move fully into the lives they want.

In This Episode:

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 'It’s never a good life when your operating out of fear, waiting for the next shoe to drop.”

Our guest this week has lived an enormous amount of life in a short period of time. Gabriel Rao was thrust into fending for himself and his siblings at age twelve. He threw on a mask of survival and convinced those around him that things were fine when they were far from it. Gabriel is an amazing example of resiliency and he has used this gift to slowly open up and move from surviving to thriving.

• Being stunted by survival
• Having to parent out parents
• The upside of adversity
• Owning our story
• Receiving love for our dark sides
• Seeking control through work
• The family we are brought up in and the family we create
• The power of validation
• Post traumatic growth
• The courage of vulnerability

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“What we don’t talk about culturally is how afraid men are of each other.”

This week’s guest is Rocco Kayiatos. Rocco is a writer, performer and organizer. He released his first album under the moniker Katastrophe in 2004, becoming the first openly trans-man to release an LP. He is the founding editor of Original Plumbing magazine. The world’s first trans-male quarterly print magazine. Rocco is also the founder of Camp Lost Boys, the first sleep away summer camp exclusively for adult men of trans experience.

In This Episode:

• Leading with vulnerability
• Being ‘one of the guys’
• Owning one’s true self
• The gifts of adversity
• Celebrating the binary and everything in between
• Bringing intension to maleness
• The Good Man: it’s about love and openness
• Observation vs Control and Domination
• Call outs vs Call ins

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“If you can’t get the emotions out, they just stay in there”

Our guest this week exemplifies what Evryman is all about. Luke Stutzman is a salt of the earth midwestern dude. He’s a father. In the most beautiful way Luke is a regular-ass guy. He works out, he works hard, and he is asking deep questions of himself. Check out Luke’s podcast: Unfamous podcast, https://apple.co/2LpMF3u

In this episode:

• How to be truly strong
• Showing emotion to our children
• Feeling safe enough to break down
• Joining the “everybody’s got their own shit” club
• The weight of repression
• Feeling stuck
• Regretting the past
• Being comfortable with not knowing

“Anything that feels unfamiliar to me, I protect myself from committing by telling myself that I can stay on the outside observing.”

Our guest this week is yoga teacher and Ayurveda practitioner Marc Holzman. Marc recently brought his skills to our Open Source retreat in the Berkshires. Marc’s openness leaps out straight away with the admission that he considered showing up to teach his practice and remain an observer. Luckily for us he dove in instead.

In this episode:

• The importance of living an authentic life
• The vitality and spark in finding your purpose
• “Coming out” as a catalyst for full self-ownership
• The deep need to contribute to something larger
• Want to find your purpose? Try everything
• The beauty of men when they drop the macho role
• Just say the scary thing!
• What your missing when your checked out
• Being vs Doing
• The duty to take care of yourself to be able to fully show up

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“I have all of this to give but don’t know where it goes. I don’t have pipes big enough to flow it through.”

Cherie Healey is back on the podcast. Cherie is a powerhouse and she’s one of Evryman’s most exciting allies. Cherie is a self described “Possibilitarian”.  She works with leaders in tech and entertainment to help them create workplaces that solve the world’s biggest problems. Dan and Cherie sat down following a coed workshop in Tulum Mexico.

In this episode:

• Bringing men and women together
• Over complicating the relationship game
• The power of just listening
• The burden of ungifted love
• Trusting that your love is ok
• The consequences of being unseen
• The truth behind the desire to fix others
• Creating an epidemic of joy

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“When you sign up for something big, your required to get bigger. The smallness gets exercised out of you.”

Our very own Yoda, Owen Marcus is back with us on this episode of the Evryman podcast. Dan and Owen sat down at the foot of the Berkshire mountains in the barn Evryman calls home. This conversation follows a successful Open Source retreat and precedes the launch of Evryman’s first Fundamentals Training program for facilitators. The love and excitement in this conversation is palpable. Owen brings the wisdom every time…

In this episode:

• Relaxing stress held in the body
• Connecting to the body is the missing piece
• Finding a mission and purpose in life
• The edge of emotional expression
• Vulnerability and giving up control
• Love courage and commitment
• Finding true diversity in men’s groups
• Survival and distraction
• Sensitivity without reactivity

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“Fulfillment is working my edge. It doesn’t feel easy, it’s outside my comfort zone, it feels like I’m being asked to grow, to show up.”

This week’s guest is Tim Corcoran. Tim helps people who feel a deep connection to nature and want to really discover their place in the world. Those with a burning desire to live their vision and a willingness to work with resistance and fear. He believes that men can’t settle down until they find their meaning and purpose.

In this episode:

• The perceived narrow options of pursuing a life ‘outdoors’
• The low points as a catalyst to change
• What to do when your current experience of life isn’t working
• The moment you realize people truly see you and they care
• The power of being honoured
• Being present in your body and senses
• Investing in yourself so that you can give what’s truly yours to the world

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“Murder can be an attempt to eradicate pain by acting it out on someone else: “I hurt, so you must hurt too.”

Our guest this week is Susan Olesek. Susan is the founder of the Enneagram Prison Project. Her life’s work is freeing people from the prisons of their own making by helping them understand why they do what they do. As you’ll hear in this episode Susan is fired up by pursuing peoples potential.

In this episode:

• Creating presence to tolerate whats in front of us
• Identifying motives behind behaviour: the why before the what
• How committing murder can be an attempt to gain love
• Why we can’t change what we can’t see
• The critical role of proper attachment to our parents
• Why being present requires safety
• The freedom between stimulus and response

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